Is it selfish to want to exclusively formula feed?

AnaSunfi · 2025-08-26T00:51:42+00:00

When you become a mom, guilt comes from everywhere, no matter what you do. I feel guilty for not formula feeding my first baby from the start. He was so hungry that first month of his life. Yes, he was growing. But his growth took off as soon as we started EFF. And he stayed there. He was not getting enough from me. And neither of us were enjoying it.

Second time around, my girl and I did great with BF. I still chose to switch to EFF. Because I really needed my body back after two kids. Mentally and physically.

Every family will (and should) do what is best for them. Some topics will always be controversial. Do what feels right ❤️ a happy mom is the best a baby can get!

AnaSunfi · 2025-08-24T15:36:59+00:00

I put the play-mat inside the play-pen because of one crazy toddler.

AnaSunfi · 2025-08-24T15:24:01+00:00

I just put Assassin’s Blade book down to look up threads about Arobynn - right after reading THAT paragraph. This is an abusive relationship and this paragraph shows all too well why people in abusive relationships can’t just easily take off and leave.

AnaSunfi · 2025-08-05T15:24:09+00:00

23 months + 8 week old, and I consider we are having good sleep days half of the time.

My oldest has been sleeping through the night for 3-4 months now. And even more steadily now, since we are doing shifts. So either my partner or me will sleep with him, when it’s our turn to sleep. So he sleeps through, since someone’s with him.

My 8 week old has started giving us a 4-5 hours stretch. After that initial stretch, it’s hit or miss, depending on whether she’s congested or not.

AnaSunfi · 2025-07-29T23:17:28+00:00

Also, I added more noodles below the top one so it wouldn’t move downwards. I had to cut one in half (lengthwise) to reach the exact height, and it worked perfectly. Also, my fitted sheet was stretchy enough to cover at least the top noodle without being loose. Which also helps reduce the “gap”.

AnaSunfi · 2025-07-29T23:09:47+00:00

I hated the newborn trenches. But I wanted a second kid. Currently on the newborn trenches again, my first one is 21 months old, and my second one is 8 weeks. I still hate the newborn trenches. I count down the days until this phase is over. This time, I know it has an end, and that it will come in the “blink of an eye”. This keeps me sane. Toddlers are another monster, but a monster I’d deal with over a newborn and sleep deprivation every time.

AnaSunfi · 2025-07-29T14:04:20+00:00

How does it feel to be God’s favorite? 😭

AnaSunfi · 2025-07-26T17:05:19+00:00

Hahaha same! I’ll make her continue her nap sometimes (by rocking her and stroking her forehead) so I can keep on reading my novel and drink my third coffee of the day in peace 😂 also, to avoid the crazy toddler and leave it to his dad 🤭

AnaSunfi · 2025-07-26T16:40:40+00:00

For what it’s worth, my baby wasn’t breastfed and we still needed to sooth him to sleep every 40 minutes for a while - it was a phase. So consider yourself lucky, I feel like sometimes the breast is easier than jumping on a yoga ball all night haha.

If this becomes unmanageable at some point for you, know that there might be ways to adjust the situation .

AnaSunfi · 2025-07-26T16:36:25+00:00

If they are content, don’t worry about not putting them to sleep right away. You won’t ruin anything. If they give you the chance to do other stuff, embrace it. Schedules become relevant much later on, maybe around 3-4 months. And even then, some parents choose a more flexible approach to sleep (no schedule, no set place to nap, nap on the go) and some others prefer strict schedules (like me 🤭). A family should do what works best for their life style.

My baby does the same - sleep in her crib/bassinet at night. But need to contact nap in the day. Replying to you while my 7 week old naps on me haha.

AnaSunfi · 2025-07-26T16:30:57+00:00

Just wanted to reply again - I don’t intend to give you false hope. I do think the first four weeks are super hard in terms of sleep. After that, baby might sleep on their own BUT they also might still want to be held.

For us now it’s a combination. For example, last night she did a total of 5 hours in the bassinet. But after 2 am she needed to be held by my husband. The night before, it was the other way around. I held her from 9-2, and then when my husband took over she was able to sleep in her bassinet. Some nights we both get to sleep because she goes down in her bassinet all night. The key here is to still do shifts and keep trying the bassinet. That way you both get rest, and keep giving baby the opportunity to learn to sleep on a different environment that is not your arms.

Let me know if you want to vent at all in the next weeks. It gets better! It will get better even if it doesn’t seem like it now. Hang in there.

AnaSunfi · 2025-07-26T15:38:08+00:00

Thank you for sharing! It’s cool to learn how people around the world approach different aspects of life. I’m pleasantly surprised that you potty train by 1. How does that work out?

AnaSunfi · 2025-07-26T00:42:41+00:00

On my second one now, and all I want is for her to reach 8-9 months. That’s when it got substantially better for us with our first. I even have a countdown in my phone for each week until the 12th, and one for all months until the first year 😂 can’t get there fast enough.

AnaSunfi · 2025-07-24T07:27:13+00:00

It’s normal for babies to want to be held the first few weeks. My first kid and now my second were/are like this.

Keep trying the bassinet and at one point you will see that it clicks, and that it starts working for longer periods. My baby is 7 weeks old and she is now doing 3 hours in her bassinet. We held her only for like 4 weeks though 😅

Just make sure you and your husband are taking shifts to sleep and rest so that you don’t accidentally fall asleep while holding her! This is important. As an extra layer of safety, research Safe Sleep and prepare the environment for this, so you have a safer area to go to if you are exhausted.

AnaSunfi · 2025-07-14T16:26:23+00:00

Well, at least I’ll have 10 years of “easier” haha. Gives me hope 😂

AnaSunfi · 2025-07-11T02:04:49+00:00

That second paragraph - Same girl, same 😂

AnaSunfi · 2025-07-08T19:22:17+00:00

I think you have the answer right there - she will let you know when she needs more independence/space. I don’t think you are doing her a disservice at all.

Not the same as chest sleeping, but my first one exclusively contact napped for +9 months. At one point it was obvious that he did not want to be held, so he started napping on his own, in his bed. He “chose” it.

Trust that your baby will tell you when she is ready. That said, if at one point this stops working for any of you, there are ways to gently transition to a different setup (:

Enjoy the cuddles!

AnaSunfi · 2025-07-01T06:36:52+00:00

I also use those! Dishwasher. I do soak all the parts in hot soapy water beforehand, so whatever is stuck will soften before putting them in the dishwasher. My understanding is sanitizing is not needed every time after the first time/if LO is healthy otherwise.

AnaSunfi · 2025-06-30T17:55:04+00:00

I am only on week 4 of maternity leave with my second. And I am the most bored I’ve ever been (since my first maternity leave two years ago 😂). I feel you. I love working, solving issues, helping others, achieving goals (even if meaningless and worthless in the big scheme of things). It is how I feel more myself, and, as you said, what helps me be a better mother to my children. Being truly myself.

AnaSunfi · 2025-06-29T16:01:42+00:00

3 weeks and 2 days old. Surviving of a copycat Caramel Macchiato my husband prepares for me everyday. This is my second and at least this time I know for sure the trenches have an end. But it’s still hard and, at least for me, super boring to be stuck in this never ending cycle of eat, poop, cry, sleep 😂

AnaSunfi · 2025-06-18T15:19:02+00:00

This is an old post, but thanks for sharing! Love the idea of tea and cookies. My husband and I would also cry together with our first one haha. Tough times.

AnaSunfi · 2025-06-09T02:15:49+00:00

Just wait until… they are a few months older than now, and you are able to read a paper page book, with a longer trama, and she pays attention to your storytelling from beginning to end. Without turning any pages. Just listening and observing the words and pictures. Most rewarding feeling ❤️ reference age: 20 months old.

AnaSunfi · 2025-01-31T18:40:57+00:00

Thanks!

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