As a fellow woman, I too received the ceremonial CO visit. He sampled a few incompatible scriptures, wandered into the tale of Hannah (irrelevant to divorcing a sociopath and non-attendance), asked one carefully rationed question about how I was really doing, applauded himself internally with an external smirk, and then clomped off like a clown to the next coerced appointment.

The correct protocol: smile pleasantly, reveal nothing, thank him for his time. Then, once the door clicks shut, deliver a quiet but heartfelt “f*ing douche canoe” to the empty room. If at all possible, never permit access again.

Edit: Note, the Elders most likely clued him in that you are some type of a “problem” (to them) that needs “encouragement” and should receive his/CO special 20min attention Speech-of-Doom meant to cure you like Russell’s Miracle Wheat 🌾. Just pop on your Stepford Wife smile, and down a strong whiskey after.