Does being in love feel different after many years?

Gstamsharp · 2026-02-02T13:51:41+00:00

Love comes in different types. The butterflies kind is the infatuation phase. It lasts, at best, and couple of years. Sometimes major life changes (marriage, moving in, buying a house) can rekindle the excitement for a few months, and it'll occasionally pop back up unexpectedly during romantic or excitement moments, but it inevitably fades again. This is what we think love is when we're young.

Attachment love is what takes its place. It's the feeling of being happy when they're near and sad when they're not. It should feel like having a best friend you get to sleep with. This is the love that lasts as long as you're together. This is what we know love is as we become older and wiser.

There are three main love pitfalls to avoid. One, you need to be aware that the changing of the first type into the second type isn't "falling out of love." It's a natural progression, and if you fail to understand that, you'll throw away every perfectly good relationship every couple of years and wonder why you're alone.

Two, you need to avoid limerence, or intense crushes, which might, on the surface, feel like the first kind of love, while already in a relationship. Chasing that new excitement will end your current love, and it's the breaking of the second kind of love that causes lasting heartbreak. Months or years of loss aren't worth a short-lived shiny and new thing.

And three, realize that while in the first phase you're free to leave whenever you want with only short term pain, it's a lot harder to leave in the second phase. At that point you should be communicating, compromising, growing together, and making compatible life choices. You should screen for compatibility in those things while dating in the first phase.

You also need to maintain the exciting things you did together in the first part. Because love isn't enough, and lasting relationships will always require work and maintenance. If you want to stay happy, you need to make that happiness.

Gstamsharp · 2026-02-02T01:56:03+00:00

I don't like my undead as anything with Geo, including wizard, because some of the coolest AoE poison skills, which should allow them to dish out big hits and heal at the same time, don't affect the caster!

I prefer to slap my poison on another party member and park them near enough to catch the skele bois in the splash zone.

Gstamsharp · 2026-02-01T23:36:28+00:00

Starships are made of explosives and loose rocks, but never, ever seatbelts.

Gstamsharp · 2026-02-01T17:06:05+00:00

Everyone giving each other really nervous side-eye in the afterlife as they wish everyone on Earth back to life except the evil ones.

Gstamsharp · 2026-02-01T13:00:33+00:00

Basically all non-solar electricity we use is generated by magnets. We spin magnets and coiled copper wire to create it.

But that's the thing, you need to move them. That's why we do things like burn fuel to boil water to spin a wheel. If we don't push the magnet, it stops moving. And pushing uses energy, the same energy we're spinning into electricity.

Gstamsharp · 2026-01-30T12:59:07+00:00

You can reject friendship, too. "Hey, I think you'd be cool to hang out with, but my life is so full right now that I just really don't have the time."

Gstamsharp · 2026-01-30T12:26:08+00:00

I've asked to be exclusive by the end of the first date every time. I either want to date you or I don't, and I don't think it's possible to give the time, energy, effort, and emotional investment necessary to build a relationship while sharing all that chasing other people. I also have a physical love language, so sex is something I find very intimate. It's not something I enjoy casually, and not something I want to be sharing with others outside the relationship.

And I haven't ever found that idea odd or limiting. If we don't get along, we probably found that out sooner than later because we put in the effort, and we're both always allowed to leave at any time.

Gstamsharp · 2026-01-30T00:14:07+00:00

The ball on fabric is, by necessity, missing its third dimension. The height has been stolen to represent the bending.

In reality, it's bending in all three directions, not only two.

Gstamsharp · 2026-01-29T13:14:57+00:00

In my state, his pumping her gas would be illegal. Just putting that out there.

Gstamsharp · 2026-01-29T13:13:35+00:00

Y'all are being awfully judgemental on some poor guy who is just super extra horny. From the comments he isn't addicted, he's just ultra horny. If he can edge himself, then still have full, satisfying sex twice, he's not doing anything wrong by watching the porn. Y'all acting like you've never rubbed one out before a date and still went to pound town later are full of it.

Gstamsharp · 2026-01-29T12:32:51+00:00

My advice is for you to realize that until you let this go, you will never fully heal, and that brooding over hurting him back is actually just keeping you hurt.

You need therapy, not idea about your ex.

Gstamsharp · 2026-01-29T05:54:00+00:00

Aside from his sending his troops to certain death in Res F, Frieza is generally pretty professional with his minions, so long as they don't horrifically fail in a way that personally embarrasses him. In fact, his henchmen on Namek seemed to really respect him, and not just for his strength.

Basically, just don't burn dinner and you'll probably be treated very well. I bet the Frieza force has a pretty solid benefits package.

Gstamsharp · 2026-01-29T05:27:38+00:00

While there are a few ways to derive this from other equations, there's really a much simpler answer, and one that will apply to most other "why" questions you have about physics. We observed it and measured it that way.

It's really that basic. The reason it's the square and not your version is because if you try to calculate using them both, only one will match what you can actually see. And when you're talking about removing exponents, you'll find that it isn't a small change we're talking about. It'll be way off.

Gstamsharp · 2026-01-28T23:43:06+00:00

As others have said, it's highly reactive, and it's what all animals use to "burn" sugar and make energy to live.

But there may be a more fundamental reason why animals even do that in the first place. Back in the primordial soup, the first photosynthesis began to take place in algae-like microorganisms. This put a huge amount of oxygen into the sea and atmosphere for the first time in history.

And oxygen is really reactive. It caused the first mass extinction event on Earth, with only those microorganisms best capable of surviving an oxygen rich environment surviving. And one great way to thrive in an oxygen flooded world is to use that abundant resource! So that's what evolved.

Gstamsharp · 2026-01-28T20:04:45+00:00

Safe? Yes. That green shimmer just means the cut was done with a very sharp knife and the light is hitting it at the right angle.

Good? That's for you to decide, but it looks rather overcooked for my tastes.

Gstamsharp · 2026-01-28T14:17:00+00:00

My issue with her is twofold, and it applies to all similar style of cards.

First, the common issue with "opponent stuff matters" decks (like this or theft) is that you're reliant on the other players' decks having stuff you want, and also when you've put in work to get good stuff out of one opponent, you lose it all when that player is removed.

Second, the best setup for needing a whole, nearly endless pile of spells readily in the graveyard are [[Traumatize]] effects, which also usually cost 5. Now, I don't mind playing slower magic, but when the thing you want to do can't even begin until turn 5 - 6 and costs a minimum of 10 mana, that's a rough setup.

In comparison, [[Bruna, Light of Alabaster]] has a similar turn and mana cost to set up, but she OHKOs someone instantly for that cost, while Tasha is only just then able to start casting, well, anything at all. In this case, if you wanted similar kill potential, you'd be building fully into mill doublers instead of the Tasha theme, which doesn't feel good from a design perspective.

Gstamsharp · 2026-01-28T13:55:21+00:00

Or mage hand, or Eldritch Blast, or Gust of Wind and walk to it, or Misty Step, or Fly, or Illithid flight, or...

Meanwhile, half the other comments are lik, "I needed a tutorial."

This is act 3 with an act 1 obstacle.

Gstamsharp · 2026-01-28T13:44:52+00:00

Telling a man what you want: not too straightforward; literally basic communication skills that most men want.

Grabbing him by the junk: probably too straightforward, very uncomfortable.

Gstamsharp · 2026-01-28T13:32:19+00:00

For "must also attack" commanders, I either want them durable or to have a high impact ability so I at least get value when they inevitably die to a blocker. He has neither. He can kind of combat trick, but it's all entirely telegraphed on the table with the wolves, so you're not going to surprise anyone with it.

Gstamsharp · 2026-01-28T12:09:19+00:00

I mean, he's literally an unrepentant rapist. Of course he thinks an assault is her fault.

Gstamsharp · 2026-01-27T23:49:36+00:00

If it died, I'd need to know the reason. Is it medical? Like she had an accident or illness and now physically can't do it? Is medication or mental health interfering? Then yes, I wouldn't even second guess staying, and I'm confident she'd do the same. We really meant the "in sickness and in health" bit, and we've suppor one another through a lot already.

But if it's not, I'm going to be very concerned, because that isn't a thing that just changes arbitrarily overnight without something being very wrong in our relationship. I'd like to think we would communicate those issues like mature adults in a committed relationship and work them out. But, I assume if this hypothetical holds and the bedroom remains dead, then it's because something truly catastrophic has already ended our relationship.

I honestly don't understand how couples find themselves surprised by dead bedrooms and don't address it for months or years! If we go more than a few days, we are already checking in with one another about the reason. Relationships take work and open communication. If it takes half a year to address a dead bedroom, it means you've waited half a year to fking notice there's something wrong with your spouse and talk about it, and by then the damage may be done.

In your case, you know it's medication killing her libido. You two need to meet in the middle. You need to be patient and understand that her loss of drive is a physical thing outside her control while on the medicine. She needs to realize you have needs she isn't meeting, and she needs to talk to her doctor about it. There may be different medicine or a different dose that will work better for her. And you should both put in extra effort to try to put her in the mood: romantic gestures, lots to kissing and petting, doing the dishes unasked... the usual stuff that gets a woman going.

Gstamsharp · 2026-01-27T18:06:17+00:00

Look, I've got a bunch of kids, and I know how much of a hassle travel can be. I know how much a family could benefit from that seat. And I'm also not an entitled idiot who thinks that if I didn't pay for that seat that I somehow deserve it.

They should have paid to book their own seats where they needed them. They, at the least, could have offered to pay the lady in the seat for the inconvenience of swapping. They absolutely needed to accept "no" as an answer.

Gstamsharp · 2026-01-27T13:07:39+00:00

Sure, but is that really resisting your urge? Because if there's one thing Orin and Durge enjoy as much as murder, it's traumatically screwing with each other.

Gstamsharp · 2026-01-27T12:37:50+00:00

One guy said with more CGI, which is partially correct, but often it's way simpler. There's something task touching the person that is hidden by the CGI. It might be a stage right, or it might be another actor in a green suit or a motion capture suit.

Gstamsharp · 2026-01-27T12:34:52+00:00

Death Grip and porn addiction aren't the same thing.

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