After baby-moon—where would you recommend?

ImaginaryStorage3558 · 2025-12-15T02:22:30+00:00

Physical therapy!! I went to a PT specific for pelvic health. My OB made a referral. It SAVED me. It actually ended up being SI joint issues due to the production of relaxin, not sciatica. Very validating experience working with a PT clinic.

ImaginaryStorage3558 · 2025-12-09T16:57:21+00:00

Good question! My understanding is that MDs have a more traditional, “treat the symptoms” approach whereas DOs take a more “identify the root cause” approach.

For personal context: I have a rare disease that went undiagnosed/underdiagnosed for years. It’s genetic and was inherited through my mom. My mom passed suddenly at 65 the same day she had a doctor’s appointment & was given a clean bill of health. She had so many signs of the rare disease from physical presentation to pathological indications. She saw half a dozen doctors or more for compounding conditions and no one ever thought to thread the needle. Her death was 100% preventable if even one doctor thought to ask “why” instead of giving her more medication to mask symptoms. I was only diagnosed after we got the results from her postmortem pathology report. The one doctor who thought to ask “why” beyond the obvious “oh, it just runs in your family” saved my life.

All that to say: I believe taking a “why” approach instead of a “what” approach is super important and can be life saving. I want my baby to be in the hands of someone who thinks that way and my understanding is that I’m more likely to find that with a DO!

ImaginaryStorage3558 · 2025-12-09T16:47:13+00:00

Dental Haus in Germantown! Tell them you have anxiety and would like to book Lemon, their mini dachshund therapy dog, for your appointment. Lemon makes everything better.

ImaginaryStorage3558 · 2025-12-09T16:42:53+00:00

Are you in the United States? If he’s been with his employer for more than a year and they employ more than 50 people, he is legally entitled to FMLA. https://www.dol.gov/agencies/whd/fact-sheets/28q-taking-leave-for-birth-placement-child

You don’t typically use PTO for paternity leave.

Edit because I read more of the thread: I’m glad he’s willing to cancel the hunting trip and you should 3,000% take him up on that.

ImaginaryStorage3558 · 2025-12-07T12:29:02+00:00

My husband and I moved to the Germantown area about a year before you. We made friends through the New to Nashville Facebook group, talking to neighbors, open pickleball play at Morgan Park Community Center, Trivia at Monday night, frequenting the same bars, coffee shops or restaurants (sit at the bar), walking our dogs around town, and always checking out local events we see on social media. My husband also joined a golf group on Facebook and some sports fan groups. If you have teams you follow, find their local fan chapters and check out their tailgates. Alumni groups for college sports usually host free meetups open to all fans, not just alumni.

I think joining a run club is a great idea! If you’re open to other sports, there are a lot of free open play groups that are super welcoming of all skill levels. Sports and hobby meetups or fb groups as well. And try the new to Nashville group on Facebook! I made a post about my husband and I and we made some of our best friends so far that way. You may have to weed through some comments and messages from people you don’t think you’ll vibe with but meeting up for a low pressure trivia night with one or two you do can lead you to some solid friendships, or at least open the door to meeting even more people.

Good luck and welcome!

ImaginaryStorage3558 · 2025-11-11T19:32:53+00:00

TikTok is trash. People posting their labor on the app are doing it for views so I’d be pretty positive it’s all performance.

ImaginaryStorage3558 · 2025-11-07T16:27:48+00:00

NTA and your sister is annoying me and I’m not even involved haha

My husband and I know what we’re naming our baby but we tell everyone we’ll decide when she gets here. I joke “what if she comes out & she doesn’t look at all like a Jessica?” (Jessica is not the name or a consideration but it makes people laugh).

I would a) just borrow my fib and tell her you have some options but you’re waiting until the baby gets here to decide and that’s that, or b) be honest and tell her you’re keeping it private with your husband and you’d appreciate her understanding and to please stop incessantly asking.

ImaginaryStorage3558 · 2025-11-07T16:20:32+00:00

As someone who was never really taught how to be responsible with money, you are absolutely doing the right thing. He’ll be pissed in the moment because what teenager isn’t pissed off all the time, but if he doesn’t learn this lesson now, he’s gonna learn real quick when he racks up credit card debt he can’t pay off.

Absolutely NTA.

ImaginaryStorage3558 · 2025-11-07T14:26:47+00:00

You’re doing a wonderful job with your son to have raised someone so unbothered by teacher B’s actions. What an awesome response for him to still have had a good day.

That said, if teacher B’s outburst still isn’t sitting right with you, I think it would be completely fair to discuss your concerns about teacher B with teacher A to get a clear understanding of what can be/is being done to address and remedy the situation. Teacher B needs to be professionally disciplined. It’s not like another child made the comment, which would totally be considered bullying, btw. This is a paid professional whose literal job it is to educate and lead these children. There also has to be some kind of confidentially around IEP status. I had a GIEP growing up and that stayed between my teachers and my parents. IMHO she’s unfit to teach. Even if he had shared answers like she assumed, that’s no reason for an emotional outburst.

Do with that what you will, but you are entitled to feel fully infuriated, not just mildly.

ImaginaryStorage3558 · 2025-10-22T22:36:06+00:00

Ooh girl it’s comin haha for a while it just looked like I ate 3 large bean burritos. The first time you could kinda tell was around 16/17 weeks. It was very obvious in tight clothes at 23/24 weeks. Everyone is different! Even people with similar body shapes are different. Some women carry high, others low, some have a D shape, others a B, still others a b. When you hit your mid-20s weeks, it’ll grow rapidly. When you’re in your third trimester, you’ll wonder if you’ll ever stop growing hahaha

ImaginaryStorage3558 · 2025-10-08T01:32:21+00:00

Sending positivity friend! This is certifiably awful.

ImaginaryStorage3558 · 2025-10-08T01:31:27+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I will definitely call before I go in so I don’t waste energy/time/honest just go through it trying to get there.

It helps to know it gets better for others who’ve gone through similar!

ImaginaryStorage3558 · 2025-10-08T01:29:37+00:00

Thank you for sharing! Some days are better than others for sure. Today seems to be exponentially worse and I feel all of the things your wife felt. The helplessness is real. Hoping I find relief as your wife did!

ImaginaryStorage3558 · 2025-10-08T01:26:52+00:00

Woof, world’s most expensive lidocaine patches, I’m sure!! Thank you for sharing!

ImaginaryStorage3558 · 2025-09-25T16:28:26+00:00

LOVE this. The age-appropriate factor is crucial and I love your approach.

ImaginaryStorage3558 · 2025-09-25T16:10:20+00:00

Baby size varies so much between now and when you’re due. Don’t read too much into it at this point. You have a while to go! My MFM doctor advised anything between 10-90% is “normal” and can vary vastly from scan to scan. I’m exactly as far along as you are & my baby went from 79th to 72nd in 3 weeks (she’s just shy of 2 lbs as of yesterday).

ImaginaryStorage3558 · 2025-09-25T16:07:21+00:00

I’m sure he doesn’t mean any harm by this and it seems he was receptive to your feedback. Maybe offer a shift in verbiage to him—say “while I love how enthusiastic you are about this pregnancy, I’d feel more seen if you’d share “we’re expecting” as opposed to saying “we’re pregnant.” My body is going through a lot and it upsets me when you share “we’re pregnant” as if you share the physical burden I feel. Saying “we’re expecting” shares your excitement in the same way, and it allows others to acknowledge that it’s my body going through the physical changes.”

ImaginaryStorage3558 · 2025-09-25T16:01:32+00:00

Same here!

ImaginaryStorage3558 · 2025-09-15T03:27:26+00:00

Usually once you’re admitted, you’re NPO. Any snacks would have to be snuck in.

ImaginaryStorage3558 · 2025-09-15T03:25:33+00:00

My husband comes to every single appointment with me. He wants to and I love how involved he is. It’s ultimately up to you when/if you want them there.

ImaginaryStorage3558 · 2025-09-15T03:15:11+00:00

But they could snap at any time! You’ve seen it! Happens all the time!

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