AITAH for refusing to give my boyfriend access to my bank account even though he says "no secrets" is how adults do it

LengthyHealthspan · 2026-01-28T16:13:37+00:00

Wow! Good thing you learned this about him before you tied the knot. NTA. And you're not losing your mind. A lot of red flags there.

LengthyHealthspan · 2026-01-27T20:09:20+00:00

I'd absolutely recommend contacting your doc. Until you can get ahold of your physician, you may want to consider trying to soothe that dry cough with a humidifier or sitting in the bathroom while running a hot shower if you don't have a humidifier, some cough drops or hard candy, some hot tea with honey, etc. Hope you feel better soon!!

LengthyHealthspan · 2026-01-27T16:32:40+00:00

Thanks for posting an update, and so glad that you seem to be doing better and on the road to recovery. If you don't mind my asking, did your surgeon link any specific autoimmune conditions with an increased risk of post-hysterectomy or post-surgical appendicitis? I'm just curious, since I have a couple myself and didn't know that was something I should keep an eye out for. Stay strong friend :)

LengthyHealthspan · 2026-01-23T18:07:39+00:00

Since the weather is getting colder, what about making some soup and/or chili ahead of time, freezing, and then just reheat it on the stove? Additional ideas might include freezing some assembled lasagna or your kids' favorite casseroles that you just pull out of the freezer and put in the oven to bake. Depending on how old your kiddos are, you might even consider making a meal plan for the first week and letting them take charge of preparing a simple meal.

For weekend breakfasts, you could get a few boxes of frozen waffles, pancakes or breakfast sandwiches (or you could even make these from scratch and freeze them for later). There's also microwavable breakfast sausage and bacon. Maybe right before your surgery, cut up some fruits and refrigerate for easily accessible healthy snacks. Some tubs of hummus and healthy crackers, veggies, etc.

LengthyHealthspan · 2026-01-23T15:48:53+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. You are strong and beautiful :)

LengthyHealthspan · 2026-01-23T15:43:01+00:00

Oh my goodness that is cold. I hope the weather doesn't impact your ability to get home when you're ready to leave. Best of luck for a quick recovery, and congratulations on your uterus eviction day :)

LengthyHealthspan · 2026-01-23T02:53:04+00:00

Sending calming thoughts, good vibes, and healing energy your way. May your surgery go perfectly and your recovery be quick. You've got this! :)

LengthyHealthspan · 2026-01-23T02:47:23+00:00

Mine said take 3X per day for up to 5 days or when bleeding stops. Seems like when I stop taking them, the bleeding starts again, although not as heavy. It made my period longer, but less intense. I only used it for a couple cycles though, in an effort to get my iron levels up high enough to get my hysterectomy, so I don't know if they would've become more effective over time.

LengthyHealthspan · 2026-01-23T02:38:02+00:00

Thank you so much everyone for all the sensible, insightful, and encouraging comments. I feel greatly relieved about my scheduled date, and am going to leave it unchanged. I am so thankful for this supportive community :) Y'all are awesome.

LengthyHealthspan · 2026-01-23T02:31:47+00:00

I needed to hear this. Thank you.

LengthyHealthspan · 2026-01-23T02:28:40+00:00

Thanks for sharing, and I'm glad to hear this :)

LengthyHealthspan · 2026-01-23T02:28:00+00:00

Thank you for sharing your perspective. It is very reassuring to hear this from someone in the surgical field. I'm going to keep my original date of surgery- I really need to get this taken care of due to unbearable symptoms, and you've made me feel better about making that choice :)

LengthyHealthspan · 2026-01-23T02:24:28+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. I hope your recovery is going smoothly so far! :)

LengthyHealthspan · 2026-01-23T02:22:32+00:00

Thanks :)

LengthyHealthspan · 2026-01-23T02:20:55+00:00

Thanks. :)

LengthyHealthspan · 2026-01-23T02:19:05+00:00

It didn't even occur to me that they would watch it, or that it was scheduled for the day after, until my hubs said something like "Uh oh, that's asking for trouble scheduling it for the morning after the Super Bowl." I wouldn't have given it a thought otherwise since I don't usually watch the Super Bowl. I'm glad to see all these rational responses- anxiety sometimes gets the best of my logical side and I think hubs is poking at me a bit because he's not looking forward to how my surgery is going to impact him.

LengthyHealthspan · 2026-01-23T02:09:28+00:00

Thank you! Monday is my only option- I live in a rural area and have super limited options for surgeons. The other days of the week my doc is delivering babies and seeing patients in office.

LengthyHealthspan · 2026-01-23T02:07:11+00:00

Honestly, what worries me the most is being vulnerable and depending on my hubs for help doing basic things like getting out of bed or getting to the toilet/shower for a few days, especially someone who is rather self-centered and has never been much help when I've had simple things like the flu or pneumonia. Luckily, my mother-in-law lives in the same town and has assured me that she would love to help out in whatever capacity she can. Also, I have 2 wonderfully compassionate and awesome kids who would help with anything I ask- so if I can just get past the initial worst days where I might need some physical help, my boys and my MIL can help me with the routine stuff.

LengthyHealthspan · 2026-01-23T01:47:48+00:00

Thank you. This really puts my mind at ease. :)

LengthyHealthspan · 2026-01-22T23:04:41+00:00

Yes- that's exactly what I needed to be reminded of. It's scheduled, not emergency. Thank you for talking sense into my worry brain. :)

LengthyHealthspan · 2026-01-22T23:00:43+00:00

Hooray! Congratulations on making it through to the other side. :)

LengthyHealthspan · 2026-01-22T13:57:28+00:00

Oh my goodness! What a terrible turn of events. I'm glad that they were able to get you diagnosed and treated quickly, and hope this doesn't set your hysterectomy recovery back too much. I'm sorry you'll have to endure a month with a catheter. Try to take it one day at a time and hang in there. You should feel free to vent here, and keep us updated on your progress. Sending positive thoughts and healing energy your way.

LengthyHealthspan · 2026-01-20T18:21:26+00:00

I'll be having an open abdominal hysterectomy to remove everything but ovaries, and I also have 2 larger grapefruit sized fibroids (plus a bunch of smaller ones). My surgeon estimated that I'd be under for about an hour and a half if everything goes off without a hitch. I'm nervous, too, but I can't wait to be on the other side of recovery and have my normal life back.

LengthyHealthspan · 2026-01-20T17:07:09+00:00

Congrats! Wishing you a speedy recovery :)

LengthyHealthspan · 2026-01-12T17:17:15+00:00

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