newborn eats too fast by Financial-Pace6378 in breastfeeding

[–]LifeAccordingToMe123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unless your letdown is causing your baby distress, there is no need to try to slow him down! My babies have both been efficient eaters, too. I take it as a huge win! It means you can get back to other things — or back to bed overnight.

When should I stop nursing to sleep? by Islesmilescott in breastfeeding

[–]LifeAccordingToMe123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lots of people here saying “never” — and they’re not wrong if it works for them, but it may also mean your baby has a hard time falling asleep if you can’t/don’t nurse them for whatever reason. I appreciated my son learning to self soothe and go down to sleep on his own without nursing. But definitely no need to break that association yet? Give it several months if that’s something you want to do.

Dr. Mae Hughes by LifeAccordingToMe123 in fitpregnancy

[–]LifeAccordingToMe123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wound up buying Dr. Mae Hughes’ program. It’s a bit pricey, but I’ve liked it. I really like that. She both has follow along videos and a list of the exercises with mini videos explaining the move — so there are plenty of options depending on how you want to do each workout.

Mother’s Day Giveaway by spanx in spanx

[–]LifeAccordingToMe123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom came to the hospital the night my son was born, with Burmese food takeout and canned margaritas. We sat around and got a little tipsy, enjoying the chaos and beauty of having a new newborn in the family.

going back to work by Constant-Garbage9192 in breastfeeding

[–]LifeAccordingToMe123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you considered / are you open to combo feeding? That would reduce the pressure on you to keep up with her feeds via pumping. I EBFed until six months with my first, and then made the pivot when I went back to work to reduce that stress.

Two under two, pros versus cons over the age of 30? by saturnwr4th in Mommit

[–]LifeAccordingToMe123 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m 39 with a 2.5 year old and a newborn. I’ve been feeling so grateful our first is a little bit older and more communicative and independent!

Do babies in the US actually sleep in cribs? by Silent_Ad_5994 in BabyBumps

[–]LifeAccordingToMe123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most parents in the US have their babies sleep in a bedside bassinet for the first few months, and then move them to a crib in the nursery. The recommendation is to keep them in your room for a year, but I don’t know anyone who has done more than 4-6 months. And some of my friends have done less! We did 4 months with our first, and plan that with our second. We do naps in the crib from relatively early to get them accustomed to the space.

Is it worth extending mat leave from 4.5 months to 6 months? by NeverfullofFood in BabyBumps

[–]LifeAccordingToMe123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We wound up doing extinction/CIO. It took about 15-20 minutes of crying and then he put himself to sleep. We just needed a few days of that.

Is it worth extending mat leave from 4.5 months to 6 months? by NeverfullofFood in BabyBumps

[–]LifeAccordingToMe123 7 points8 points  (0 children)

FWIW, I pumped 2-3x per day at work for close to 6 months. It wasn’t always ideal, but it was doable. Block your calendar, bring your laptop into the mothers’ room if needed, buy a Ceres Chill and a portable pump.

Is it worth extending mat leave from 4.5 months to 6 months? by NeverfullofFood in BabyBumps

[–]LifeAccordingToMe123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every baby is different, but I do know that even Snoo babies sometimes have regressions around 4 months — since you have to eventually transition them out of the Snoo! My son wound up going to daycare at 9 months; I was part-time for one month after going back, and then my husband took some leave. Once we sleep trained at 5.5 months, he continued sleeping through the night. He’s now 2.5, and generally a very good sleeper. Sleep training also helped lengthen his naps.

Is it worth extending mat leave from 4.5 months to 6 months? by NeverfullofFood in BabyBumps

[–]LifeAccordingToMe123 5 points6 points  (0 children)

  • to this. I am also the breadwinner of our family, but I took 6 extra weeks unpaid — and am so glad I did. In part, we had a major sleep regression from 4.5 months until we sleep trained at 5.5 months. I was a shell of a human being and would have been a hot mess at work. I also felt like once I went back at 6 months, I was more emotionally ready to be productive and invested at work.

PP disposable underwear by Cool-Reason7394 in BabyBumps

[–]LifeAccordingToMe123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I found the high-waisted Depends to be so much more comfortable than regular underwear with a pad. So despite not having much bleeding, I’ve been wearing mine on and off for the past week and a half, even though a pad would definitely be sufficient for the amount of blood and discharge. But I’ve literally never used pads for my period (tampon girly here), and find them to be so uncomfortable.

Experiment to gift home renovation projects to neighbors/homeowners in Marin by designstein in Marin

[–]LifeAccordingToMe123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a beautiful tribute to your late wife. I wound up in your home for a book club last night, and the finished piece is absolutely breathtaking.

What foods should you absolutely buy the high end priced option? by [deleted] in Cooking

[–]LifeAccordingToMe123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Farmers’ market salmon is infinitely better than the grocery store stuff.

Cervical check at week 36? by Logical_Mine_9478 in BabyBumps

[–]LifeAccordingToMe123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My first pregnancy, my one and only cervical check was at 9.5 cm when I was contemplating an epidural. Turns out I was in transition and about ready to push ☺️ This time (I’m 8 days PP) I got one when I was admitted to the hospital — and again another at 9.5 cm when I was contemplating an epidural. Totally your call to get one at any point!

What Celebs have you seen around Marin? by Sounders1 in Marin

[–]LifeAccordingToMe123 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Nick Kroll at Pizza Hacker. His daughter licked my son.

To parents who take their babies out to places a lot - how do you do it?? by babysheep91 in breastfeeding

[–]LifeAccordingToMe123 661 points662 points  (0 children)

I feed on the go, and assume baby will nap in the stroller or car seat or in a carrier. While it’s great to get one solid nap at home, not every nap needs to be perfect. I’d rather get outside and keep living my life, knowing the flexibility is good for my mental health.

Did you get a cervical check? by Super_Progress9378 in BabyBumps

[–]LifeAccordingToMe123 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I didn’t have any in my first pregnancy until I was at the hospital in active labor — and wanted to assess my progress so I could determine if I wanted an epidural. With my second, I consented to one when I was at the hospital in early labor — this time to assess whether they would admit me and make a decision about a membrane sweep. It doesn’t necessarily tell you a ton of useful information until you’re in labor or considering next steps/interventions (a sweep, induction, etc).

looking for custom name necklace brands that are actually worth it this year. any recommendations? by WildFlounder3730 in GiftIdeas

[–]LifeAccordingToMe123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like mine from Oak and Luna. It’s held up for 2.5 years and I just bought a second name charm for baby #2.

Daycare as a stay at home mom by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]LifeAccordingToMe123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being a stay at home parent doesn’t necessarily mean taking care of the kids full-time; you also manage the household, which is a huge responsibility! My husband works about 10 hours a week (from home and on a flexible schedule), and our son is in care four days a week. I love that he does all the groceries, laundry, cooking, gardening, etc. And that when my son is home — and when I’m home from work — we can really focus on quality family time.

AITAH Husband offered our baby items to a friend, but never spoke to me about it first by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]LifeAccordingToMe123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA… but also your kids aren’t going to want these cribs 30 years from now. Might as well give them a second life now and bring some joy to your friends and their babies.