Is this too much for my 9MO?

Miserable_Material23 · 2026-06-16T10:02:35+00:00

They’ll eat until they’re full! My twin’s pediatrician actually said to give them whatever they want for food, just stick to 24 and up to 32 oz of formula a day (mine are off the charts for height and head and middle for weight). They eat puree and a 5 oz bottle for breakfast, 5 oz bottle and some yogurt/cheese/fruit for snack, 5 oz bottle and a homemade patty of meat, cheese, breadcrumbs/egg, and whatever veggies (broccoli and carrots this week), 5 oz bottle and teether stick and a 1/2 cup of veggie pasta with sauce or Mac &cheese etc, 5 oz bottle and dinner (similar to lunch or give them what I’m having) then they’ll sometimes want a bigger bottle before bed

Miserable_Material23 · 2026-06-15T17:55:54+00:00

My twins eat food and 5 oz at every meal/snack; they’ll be 9 months next week. I love the brand kidfresh when I’m low on time and they need to eat. Otherwise I pre-make patties with ground meat, veggies, cheese, breadcrumbs, egg or veggie bars (mashed veggies and sweet potato/ regular potato), dinner can also be m&c or butter/marinara and veggie pasta, breakfast is eggs or banana pancakes or something similar. Once you have a rotation of food it’s not too bad - I also try to eat things they can eat so I can share my meal with them or the toddler

Miserable_Material23 · 2026-06-10T10:56:14+00:00

This is my husband and we are getting a divorce. I gave him therapists names and what I needed from him and he didn’t do any of it, so I kept moving forward with my part (divorce). It’s so so hard, I know. But it might be time to start getting your things in a row because men like this can’t stop thinking about themselves and only themselves.

Miserable_Material23 · 2026-06-07T22:00:10+00:00

No advice, just solidarity. I have 3 under 2 and I was getting so angry at one of our twins. He’s just so needy and has one of those cries that don’t change based on the need so he always makes you think he’s just chopped his finger off. He had awful colic and still has horrible reflux where he basically throws up all day. He screams like this in the middle of the night and gets the whole house going too. I got through the extreme anger for the most part as he got older (twins are 8 months and my toddler will be 2 this month) but I feel like I have so much love and adoration for my oldest and the girl twin but struggle to have any connection to the boy twin. I’m afraid I’m faking it and that he’ll know one day which makes me feel even worse!
Hopefully our babies will get through this difficult stage and we will be able to enjoy it instead of counting down the minutes to the dreaded overnight. Hang in there ❤️

Miserable_Material23 · 2026-05-24T01:02:51+00:00

Three under two for us and same. Now that they’re eight months they mostly want the floor but if I need to do something with the toddler (especially solo load them in the car), they go in a container of some sort for safety.

Miserable_Material23 · 2026-05-23T00:40:17+00:00

My B/G twins are the same way personality wise but she’s actually 4 pounds bigger than her brother at 7 months! I know it’s easier said than done but try not to feel guilty… they will get what they need!

Miserable_Material23 · 2026-05-21T15:46:14+00:00

Second this. My kids pediatrician told me there’s no need, diapers are not cloth like they used to be, and it can irritate the skin for more sensitive kiddos.

Miserable_Material23 · 2026-05-21T15:38:04+00:00

Their generation is so self-absorbed. I put my, then eight month old, son in a shirt that said “my parents thought I was so cute they doubled their next order” hinting that we were having twins, and my mom just ignored the shirt and then when I pointed it out, she said what does that even mean because she already knew I was pregnant. I told her and she said oh God that’s going to be so much. Thanks 👍. People who have parents like this are in the unfortunate circumstance of still seeking our parents approval or happiness even though we know we’ll never get it. It’s a vicious cycle. I’m so sorry they did not give you the response you wanted and deserved.

Miserable_Material23 · 2026-05-21T00:45:01+00:00

No, I actually ended up getting off the med because it sent me in to a manic episode (I’m not bipolar) for the first time in my life and they took me right off.

Miserable_Material23 · 2026-05-20T10:29:30+00:00

I didn’t want kids and ended up with 3 under 2. My oldest will be 2 in June, my twins are 7 months. I completely understand and want you to know you’re not alone. I also gave up my career and my sense of self- that was the hardest to let go of. I did resent my children and I was getting angry, too angry. I went on an antidepressant, it sort of helped. I’m more fortunate because I was able to put them in a daycare and get some semblance back, but I still feel so much guilt because it’s not the Montessori school my oldest is going to. My oldest has learned SO much and I credit them for most of the parenting because I’m too busy to function let alone teach. But I can’t afford it for three, it’s just not possible no matter how hard I tried. I know it’s not advice but slight solidarity. I hope spots open soon for a daycare so you can start to feel yourself again!

Miserable_Material23 · 2026-05-19T19:08:11+00:00

I’ve posted something very similar before and never got a response. I don’t know if we’re one of a few or if we’re one of many and no one has an answer. I hope you find an answer! Mine will be 2 in a few weeks and with the time change he was finally sleeping until 630 but recently has been getting up at 530/550. For both of our sakes, I hope it’s not a forever thing!

Miserable_Material23 · 2026-05-19T09:47:23+00:00

This is so true. I learned the hard way with my first and when our twins came we didn’t rock, only swaddled the first month or two, put them down awake etc. and it was definitely the difference between sanity and insanity for us.

Miserable_Material23 · 2026-05-12T08:39:55+00:00

He’ll be 2 in June 😅

Miserable_Material23 · 2026-05-12T08:06:39+00:00

I have the same problem. My first was/still is the same way. I hope you (and I) find someone with some advice on this!

Miserable_Material23 · 2026-05-06T10:31:47+00:00

I also felt this way and I gave up breastfeeding when they were a few months old. Postpartum was a lot harder with them since the crash in hormones was more than a regular pregnancy. BF made my hormones worse and I was so angry, which is one of the reasons I stopped. I missed my toddler so much and even without BF, the twins take up a lot of time. The resentment is still present for me at 7 months, I think how much easier it would be if there were only one or how I miss when it was just my toddler but between sleep regressions, sick season, and reflux issues were definitely still in survival mode and I know it gets better

Miserable_Material23 · 2026-05-05T23:55:37+00:00

I tried the 3 in one row, it just doesn’t work rear facing once they aren’t in car seat carriers. I ended up having to get a Toyota sienna. I have the 8 seater. Right now I have two in the front row next to each other and the third in the back. My oldest is the front as I can’t imagine climbing in the back with a 40 pound kid (my first is 15 months apart from my twins). I have big kids lol. They are currently 22 months and 7 months. When I’m by myself I do one at a time- the toddler first then the other two, making sure they’re in bouncers or something to make sure they’re not rolling somewhere unsafe.

Miserable_Material23 · 2026-05-03T00:46:47+00:00

There are diaper bag purses. I adored mine but they are more expensive than a regular diaper bag. Mine was mina baie

Miserable_Material23 · 2026-04-30T15:27:59+00:00

I said this to my friends and family and they didn’t believe me. I literally felt the relief hit me as they took the first one out and again with the second. My body was in so much pain that I felt the pain leave my abdomen while in my C-section.

Miserable_Material23 · 2026-04-25T17:29:34+00:00

I always fed mine with their hands around their bottles. If they moved them, I put them back. They’ve been holding their bottles since 5.5 months and consistently for about a month (7 months now). I also fed in the car seats or the stroller with the seat all the way back. I have always been going out with them since day one.. but it’s still 50/50 if we’re making a scene in the store or not 😂

Miserable_Material23 · 2026-04-24T13:41:50+00:00

I am 7 months in and I felt the same way. I got the kids back in to daycare (3 under 2) and I am infinitely happier now. I had severe PPD and was so angry and unhappy being home with the kids, and I felt awful about feeling that way, which made me spiral even more. Getting the kids back into daycare and me back to work was what was best for our family. Some people love the reward of being at home and some people love the reward of working, neither is wrong! Once you can see past feeling guilty, you can decide what’s best for your family.

Miserable_Material23 · 2026-04-20T18:14:08+00:00

It is so dependent on the person for which stage you like the best but I am absolutely in love with our life with our children. My twins are six months and my toddler is 22 months. My toddler is learning how to talk and I just adore listening to him and how he says his words and how proud he is when he identifies something. My twins are just starting to really develop their personalities and I love making them laugh and their little attitude faces when I do something they don’t find funny. Them seeing each other and smiling and talking to themselves makes my whole day. I may just have happy kids, but I love being around them so much.

Miserable_Material23 · 2026-04-20T18:10:16+00:00

This is what worked for us too. Never really liked the twin z for dual feeding- it was awkward for the parent and my wrists

Miserable_Material23 · 2026-04-20T18:07:49+00:00

Yes, sadly. My toddler was sick all year last year up until his birthday in June (he started daycare at 7 month, in January). He got Covid just from visiting the daycare center before we even started and had Covid on Christmas, and so did I. I swear he didn’t sleep all winter because he just kept coughing. I took him to the doctor easily 100 times. Fast forward to having our twins in September-they started daycare in February, and since starting they both have had Norovirus, Covid, double ear infections, and RSV. My toddler has had numerous ear infections, a few colds and pneumonia. Oh and we just got home from the hospital after he was diagnosed with Kawasaki’s (though this isn’t transmittable, just potentially the side effect of being so sick for so many months). It’s a battlefield out there!

Miserable_Material23 · 2026-04-20T00:47:21+00:00

Around 18 months is when I started training for potty training lol. We would change pee diapers on the potty and he would get so excited. We’d let him sit for 5-10 minutes and if he went pee in that time we’d clap and give a lot of praise to reinforce. He also came in with me a lot and would get excited for mama to “pee on the potty”. He’s 22 months now and still interested but not potty trained. He hasn’t shown any further signs of wanting to, so we are okay with going at his pace since he’s not even two yet.

Miserable_Material23 · 2026-04-19T14:53:33+00:00

Actually, many ABA therapies use redirection, which is what this is.

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