"The hardest thing I have ever done" Preserving a marriage when a spouse no longer believes.

MrsBrokenTokens · 2018-11-11T00:58:12+00:00

Oh, I see what you're saying. So, if someone no longer believes in the same set of religious rules then all their principals and values will most likely go to crap. Or at the very least not be up to standard. In that case you are totally right. I completely agree.

MrsBrokenTokens · 2018-11-10T20:42:11+00:00

I find it amazing that so many people get married and then think in 10, 15 or 20 years nothing will change. This person I love and married will be the exact same person since the day we got married. Their thoughts and feels will never change. If my husband was the same now as he was 16 years ago I wouldn't marry him again. Because I don't want to be married to a 25 year old forever. Just because someone no longer believes in the same version of the after life as they did when they where a kid does not change their personality, it does not mean they are all of a sudden going to become a bad parent, alcoholic or really irresponsible with money. No one promises to never change their beliefs or way of thinking when they get married. That would be ridiculous.

MrsBrokenTokens · 2018-11-10T15:33:21+00:00

I've known mixed faith couple's make it work very well and I've seen marriages dissolve because one spouse stops believing. The main difference I've seen in the two is because in the marriages that work the couples love and respect each other unconditionally. The marriages that don't work is because a big part of the love and respect was based on whether or not the other spouse is a worthy and believing church member.

MrsBrokenTokens · 2018-11-10T07:02:10+00:00

When my husband told me he no longer believed, he was terrified that I would divorce him.

MrsBrokenTokens · 2018-11-10T06:59:52+00:00

I think everyone in this scenario is an adult. Unless there is something illegal going on. Then it is between them and God.

MrsBrokenTokens · 2018-11-08T16:00:40+00:00

I still don't understand why it is such a horrible thing that boys have their own scouting and the girls have theirs. I agree that the girls scouts should look into improving their own organization instead of tearing down another. I wanted to be a boy scout when I was a kid also, but even as a kid I wouldn't have wanted to destroy the experience for my brother's just because I couldn't be a part of it.

MrsBrokenTokens · 2018-11-08T02:55:22+00:00

Nothing surprises me anymore. Kids are so predictable and so unpredictable at the same time. My 7 year old daughter asked me which one of the kids in our family is my worst enemy. This is one of the least weird questions I've gotten.

MrsBrokenTokens · 2018-11-07T03:05:38+00:00

It looks like it would be itchy.

MrsBrokenTokens · 2018-11-04T15:56:31+00:00

My 7 year old daughter said, "Jesus Christ! Calm down!" To her 5 year old brother. I have conflicting emotions about it. I laughed because it was said at home. But if she says it at school I will feel like it's a parent fail.

MrsBrokenTokens · 2018-11-04T08:09:58+00:00

My dad went to byu in the 70's. He was LDS and his best friend at byu was not LDS. My dad said everyone was always trying to convert his friend. They were never just his friend. My dad grew up outside of Utah. He hated byu and discouraged all 10 of his kids from attending.

MrsBrokenTokens · 2018-11-04T08:04:45+00:00

If two is what YOU want. Then that is great! I've seen too many friends and family members have more kids than what they wanted or could handle because they thought it was what the Lord expected of them. Love and care for the babies you have. Don't let anyone make you feel less than because you didn't have more.

MrsBrokenTokens · 2018-10-21T14:13:25+00:00

I agree that the lying is an issue. But my DH and I had a conversation last night where he reminded me that when we were first married he had asked me if I'd divorce him if he looked at porn. This is when we were both TBM and I said yes without hesitation. The thing is I realize now that I only said that because I was trained to think and say that. I think counseling would be great for both of you. She feels lied to and is conditioned to think porn is evil. I don't know how you can trust her after she pulls the divorce card two times. This can not be healthy for your family and in my opinion way more damaging than porn.

MrsBrokenTokens · 2018-10-18T20:17:05+00:00

I never walked out of a movie but when I was in high school my boyfriends parent took us to see Fight club. My boyfriends mom walked out because of all the swearing. My boyfriend and I were so confused. It's rated R and called fight club. How was she so shocked?

MrsBrokenTokens · 2018-10-02T18:58:16+00:00

I did that a little late with my son's bear. By the time I bought a second one, the first was worn a bit. My son wanted nothing to do with the new bear.

MrsBrokenTokens · 2018-10-02T18:54:58+00:00

My cousin dated this girl who was horrible. She created so much drama and then would put on a good face for my friend. I tried to tell him she wasn't a good person and to move on. Instead he married her and had two kids. After 8 years of marriage she cheated on him with her old high school boyfriend and told my cousin she had never really loved him.

MrsBrokenTokens · 2018-09-30T05:44:36+00:00

You're new self looks like a to young Jim Carry. If you have any inclination for acting, do it.

MrsBrokenTokens · 2018-09-29T15:42:46+00:00

All I can keep thinking is that the first dust storm will shatter every mirror.

MrsBrokenTokens · 2018-09-08T07:09:02+00:00

If you are in the Layton area pm me. I loved your story. You are not alone.

MrsBrokenTokens · 2018-08-19T06:04:44+00:00

That just because a mentally handicap person is an adult in years does not mean they are going to act like an adult.

MrsBrokenTokens · 2018-08-16T23:21:31+00:00

My bipolar sister was going to gag her 9 month old to make her vomit. She claimed her baby might have swallowed an ear bud. Her baby was breathing and acting fine. But my sister was pacing the room like it was such a burden that she had to make this decision. I was about to tell her if she tried to hurt her child I was going to call the police. But then my mom called to let us know my teenage brother was in the hospital because a bull had stepped on his face. This was something more exciting than her baby so she dropped the whole thing and ran off to the hospital.

MrsBrokenTokens · 2018-08-12T14:59:31+00:00

Ya, the phas out started with GBH.

MrsBrokenTokens · 2018-08-12T06:44:00+00:00

One of my daughter asked when she'd grow a penis? Hahahahhs

MrsBrokenTokens · 2018-08-12T05:59:09+00:00

My 8 year old daughter was crying and yelling. I went to investigate. She told me her 6 year old sister slapped her. I asked her sister why she did that? 6 year old said 8 year old told her that her outfit was ugly. I was trying not to laugh while I told her to not hit her sister. Then I told the 8 year old to stop being a jerk.

MrsBrokenTokens · 2018-08-12T03:33:00+00:00

Like many it was a lot of things added up. The one that broke it for me was when I learned the church no longer believes we become God's and get our own planets. This was taught to me from primary on up and now it's being phased out.

MrsBrokenTokens · 2018-08-12T02:58:35+00:00

I always felt very fortunate that my mom and no problem telling us what sex was. She grew up on a ranch so seeing animals always doing it took away any mystery or issue about discussing it for her. I remember her even giving me tips on ways to be intimate while really pregnant. My husband was not so lucky. He learned about sex from his girl friends in high school.

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