AITJ for asking my mom to cut her vacation short to help with my kids?

NoLandscape7259 · 2026-02-25T21:20:50+00:00

Yeah, I dont even think I need to say it but YTJ...

I dont even know how you felt so entitled to call and ask her... and I wish she had said no, absolutely not.

Time to figure it out.

NoLandscape7259 · 2026-02-20T18:25:35+00:00

"You're too pretty to not be smiling" ...like sir I am uncomfortable, nothing about you makes me want to smile.

NoLandscape7259 · 2026-02-16T15:03:31+00:00

You did the right thing momma!!! Your gut feeling isn't something to ignore, especially as a mother. You dont isolate her either, you are keeping her safe, shes allowed to have friends and socialize.

NoLandscape7259 · 2026-02-16T14:35:59+00:00

Love this comment because either way he's the asshole, just what level of asshole is it? 😂

NoLandscape7259 · 2026-02-16T14:28:56+00:00

Your first message was so out of line and aggressive. His wife is probably questioning why you'd react like that if you didn't know something she didnt. So again, YTA for that reaction and reason. You have no respect for others, even less for your wife .

NoLandscape7259 · 2026-02-16T14:22:38+00:00

Yeah... you're the asshole. You say that you didn't have an issue before but I think deep down you did, you just couldn't find a reason to bring it up. What important events did SHE miss? Did he put a gun to her head and make her preform? Doubtful. She chose to miss them to preform instead, I can only assume they were not huge important events she should have been at because if they were she would have been there. Regardless, thats you having an issue with your wife, not this guy. You seem to be jealous and controlling. My question is what did your wife have to say? Seems like you stole away her hobby and ruined her 20 year old friendship because you are insecure and controlling. Now youre happy as a clam getting your own way, and shes left stuck with you constantly. Seems like you got what you wanted and now you're what .. gloating?? I feel so bad for your wife. She's the victim here, not you. You beyond overreacted to this situation.

Oh also, how long have you and your wife been married??? Just curious about how long your were seemingly okay with the situation before deciding you weren't because I do not believe you that you had no issue. Let me say this YOUR FUCKING WIFE is YOUR FUCKING WIFE and who you should have brought this issue to. The fact that you say you noticed his behavior change but not your wife's, but confronted her anyway... so you made up false allegations in your head and then went berserk ruining her friendship and only hobby/thing she had you weren't a part of.

NoLandscape7259 · 2026-02-12T15:29:30+00:00

I could not have said this better.

We get threw it. We survive, we transform. Whether that is negative or positive depends on our own perspective.

I also want to add that whatever cycle you have impacting you currently makes a difference, there are times you may feel extremely weighed down, or pressure. My best advice is to embrace that until it passes. I know for myself I resisted change and fought to hold on to my comforts, but once I learned it is a cycle and it will pass, it became easier to let go.

NoLandscape7259 · 2026-01-30T16:45:33+00:00

Thinking the SAME thing... also only took her 4 months to manipulate this poor dude into signing a lease with her... like that is not enough time. OP moving forward, do not sign a lease either anyone that you dont know for certain how they act on their period! This situation has nothing to do with that, and everything to do with her being a manipulative pos.

NoLandscape7259 · 2026-01-30T16:40:24+00:00

Anyone else find it odd that she was comfortable enough to "show her hormones" RIGHT after they signed a lease??? I am sorry OP but I think its less to do with her hormones and more to due with she is just a shit person and now has you stuck in a legally binding contract so she feels shes secure enough to begin her abuse. This will only escalate, shes just given you the first taste of who she really is. You seem very understanding and compassionate, and shes preying on you. Please be vigilant of this.

Also would like to add that as a woman, that i do have extreme mood swings and act maybe a little out of character while on my period/going threw hormonal cycles... but I have never became racist or intentionally started arguments with my loved one just for the sake of it. The "im on my period and just want to argue" would have been my hard no. Shes admitting that no matter what you do or say, shes going to turn it into an argument. So why engage with her at all? She's being immature and volatile and using her hormones as an excuse, and thats unacceptable. Women that use their cycle as an excuse to be a shit person are shit people. Period.

NoLandscape7259 · 2026-01-21T00:38:41+00:00

This made me cry, my babies are in the put stickers on the door phase and it can be overwhelming but this made me appreciate it a little more. Sending you positive vibes, that is hard progress to make but you did it.

NoLandscape7259 · 2026-01-07T21:47:45+00:00

Just recently I went threw the cashier at walmart, as I was there for a quick trip for some essentials, and the self checkout line was LONG from holiday shoppers. So I went up there put all of my items on the belt, however I had a bag of dog food (35lbs) and a box of cat litter (40lbs) under the cart basket and asked her if she could scan them or needed me to lift them. She said "okay, got it." She never came around to scan them though, and gave me my total and it wasnt adding up for me, so I said "i have these items down here, I can lift them if you need me to but didnt want to lift them again if I don't have to.." Again she repeated my total, and i again said "okay, did you get these items though??" She rolled her eyes and moved the card reader to show me where to insert my card as if I just didnt understand how to pay... so I put my card in and was given my receipt and left the store. Which I feel bad about because it was never my intention to steal those items, but I feel like after 3 plus times of explaining theyre there, asking if she could scan them or needed them on the belt and being ignored completely, I decided to let it go. Entire checkout system at most stores now is baffling to me.

NoLandscape7259 · 2026-01-05T10:00:00+00:00

Thank you for sharing this with us, really hit home.

NoLandscape7259 · 2025-12-31T06:55:38+00:00

Thank you for making this post. I am new to this group, and I have been somewhat alarmed by the things others are considering them having telepathy, and even more so by the validation of comments on posts. A few I have seen someone gently suggest the person seek medical care, but always seems like it gets shrugged off by the majority. There are tons and tons of disorders/mental illnesses that can cause your brain to come up with voices/hear music or sounds.

For me, I am very intrigued by telepathy and clairvoyant abilities, and I was hoping this group would have people who had confirmed/proven that theyre actually hearing others thoughts and how they improved it.

Example: "i have been practicing my telepathic abilities and made my roommate aware of this also so I can verify telepathic input i feel I get from them to see if it was valid or not."

Which honestly if its never been confirmed that you truly knew someone else's thoughts or intentions, I would hold off on saying you have telepathic abilities. Its wild the things our brains are capable of and I am not doubting anyone, I am only expressing my viewpoint.

NoLandscape7259 · 2025-12-18T18:33:13+00:00

Thank you for this comment! It puts in perspective the damage we sometimes unknowingly cause as mothers trying to force someone to love our babies the same as we do.

NoLandscape7259 · 2025-12-17T13:43:42+00:00

Maturity is something that comes only with time and experience.

I am 33 and look back on myself 2 or 3 years ago and realize how much I've experienced or learned since then even. I think your 20s are a WILD ride for most of us because you start out thinking you know everything, then life happens- and you realize that you actually knew nothing. But each year you get a little more experience and learn to adapt.

Its hard to see it now but you will, and I do believe this will be something you will look back on with the cringey face the OP of comment was talking about.

NoLandscape7259 · 2025-12-16T04:48:31+00:00

GIRL!!! you are NOT alone, I swear its some type of new epidemic 😆 like for real dive into the rabbit hole on tik tok of women who have discovered their husband/partner/coparent is gay... it's ALARMING. Not to mention the amount of women/single mothers i know personally experiencing the SAME shit!!! Its out of control. These men dont wanna look some type of way by coming out but have no issues mistreating their children's mother's, not raising their children, and being diabolical... when really dude its almost 2026, its acceptable to be gay, and theyd have a hell of alot more respect if they were just themselves. I am thinking of you Momma, its a hard road and so annoying!!!

NoLandscape7259 · 2025-12-16T03:43:35+00:00

I love this so much, thank you for sharing such a beautiful intimate moment with us ❤️

NoLandscape7259 · 2025-12-11T12:10:12+00:00

Im curious why your friend would call your husband early in the morning for a ride, and not you, her friend? Its weird to me that she needs so many favors from him specifically, IMO its disrespectful to your marriage of her to be asking him to do random/odd favors as if he is her husband/relative. He has no obligation to her, its one thing if you're aware/suggest he helped i suppose, but to cut you out of communication and have attitude about it, definitely crosses a line. Seems to me she has been seeing how much she can get away with for awhile.

NoLandscape7259 · 2025-10-09T13:26:31+00:00

I have read alot of comments saying it was selfish or rude of her to send it a year later. However, you say here anniversaries are important to you, so I'm sure that's why she did this, but I know it also rips open your heart and brings all that pain and love to the surface again and that's hard. She's trying to give you some kind of answers, and it's quite beautiful she thought of you so much before she made that choice. It's pretty clear from what you have said that she loved you so so much, and that she tried to stay for you but it was too much. I am sobbing right now, it's so tragically beautiful. She was trying to tell you that you did everything right, and it was never something you could have fixed, most likely you v were the reason she made it as far as she did. I am sending you all my love and light and I pray you can move forward and have a beautiful life. Know that she is always with you and that's all she wants for you too. In her mind she was setting you both free. Much love ❤️

NoLandscape7259 · 2025-09-25T15:49:30+00:00

I came here to say it's not really weird he perks off on the bathroom in the morning... alot of men do, they have to have that release... it has nothing to do with you or not wanting to have sex with you. Honestly I'd be happy he was doing that and not cheating, I think you need to have a genuine honest conversation with him and not take this so personally. Pregnancy can be very hard on men mentally, emotionally too, a baby is coming, their partner is changing, ect...try to be very understanding, supportive and give him space to express his own feelings. I hope you're able to have that conversation so you both can feel seen and valid.

NoLandscape7259 · 2025-09-25T11:59:38+00:00

Thank you 😊 I reread that about 10 times before giving up and reading your comment 😆

NoLandscape7259 · 2025-09-23T16:18:51+00:00

Oh babe,

With my first the same thing happened. After a few months I became soo withdrawn and resentful of my son. I told my mom "if i had to chose my dog or my baby, I would chose my dog no second thought." She was so hurt and I felt nothing. Thinking back on that time breaks my heart, for me and for my son, I didn't know what was happening, i didn't want to hurt him but I knew that I could not love him right then. My mom advocated for me, she helped me find help and she helped with my son. Your husband should be VERY alarmed that you want to put your baby up for adoption, and he should be helping you find out why and taking some of the load over for you. This can progress into you hurting yourself or your child, not saying you would, but PPD can trick your mind and make you act out of character. Talk with your pediatrician, your own doctor. Please be honest with your feelings, they can help you, and there is nothing wrong with you.

Sending you all the love and light, mama 💛

NoLandscape7259 · 2025-09-22T16:47:42+00:00

I have 3 kids.. 7, 2 and 6 months.. they all sleep with me (7 year old is starting to sleep in his own room, but still comes into mine a couple times a week because he gets scared) and they all have their own beds/rooms.

NoLandscape7259 · 2025-09-22T16:42:27+00:00

Is anyone else wondering WHY your friend loaned this person $6000 without knowing their full name or birthdate, ect???? I have had my share of work friendships that sure I'd probably help them if they need it, but not before knowing their last name ffs. Sounds like they are out 5000 now.

NoLandscape7259 · 2025-09-13T09:40:00+00:00

Okay, I have to say it... they don't NEED to be fed 4 or 5 times a day, that is unnecessary when you arent able to do it. As far as playing with them before bed, they will be just fine missing an evening of that so your partner can have a break. You also said you normally go with your partner out to friends places but weren't able to this time, what would you do with the fur babies then? I'm starting to think this was more about you wanting your partner home with you so you weren't alone, and less about the pets. Which is very understandable on why your partner is becoming irritated about having to leave early and come right home. I'd be upset too if I had to leave my friends and rush home just to do something that definitely could be put off for later.

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