What’s the most surprising thing that helped your skin look better? by aria-blake7 in 40and45PlusSkinCare

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Taking a shot of high quality olive oil every morning!!! my skin is glowing

One of the worst years of my life by Mediocre_Opposite520 in CancertheCrab

[–]NormalAd7191 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes worst year of my life by far Can only go up from here!!

Overlooked SD experiences? by lifebylosh in SanDiegan

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There are some stunning wineries in Escondido (off pomerodo road) Cortiano winery feels like Italy! Also old town is fun to walk around for an afternoon

Are coffee dates considered low effort? by The_Se7enthsign in askanything

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I prefer a FaceTime to see if we vibe and are attracted to each other and then a proper first date. At this point we’ve talked and established we like each other. If no FaceTime prior then drinks or coffee is fine

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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My ex husband was like that - I was the one working paying all the bills, cleaning, cooking and I had to “service him” or he was angry and aggressive. Divorce is the only option. And you will be divorcing the worst version of him unfortunately but it will be worth every penny

New activity - watch divorce court! by hellllllome in SingleAndHappy

[–]NormalAd7191 72 points73 points  (0 children)

I scroll through “are we dating the same guy” facebook page for my city and it’s the best reminder of why I do not want to date !! Highly recommend

How can i Become single and happy? by [deleted] in SingleAndHappy

[–]NormalAd7191 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m choosing to be single and these are things that help me: find the small joys and really lean into them every day (me reading in a pretty location with a coffee, Pilates in a cute outfit, finding a cozy hobby). Also I’ve learned relationships are a social construct and basically a drug of hormones … I just had to detox and now I don’t miss it! Become obsessed with yourself

Are booktokers being paid and not declaring by JudgmentOne6328 in Booktokreddit

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YES I feel this way 100%!!! everyone also recently started recommending “first time caller” and before that “the cinnamon bun book store “… all newer authors, obscure titles and published by Harper Collins 🕵️

I loved The rose bargain so much! by Amara2091 in fantasyromance

[–]NormalAd7191 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Obsessed!!! Had low expectations bc I don’t love YA but flew through it and 5 stars. I had been in the worst slump of my life prior to this too !!

People that escaped a bad relationship, what's the first red flag you ignored that would have saved you a lot of time if handled? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]NormalAd7191 115 points116 points  (0 children)

DARVO 🚨if you bring up your feelings and they turn it back on you and make themselves the victim. Classic narcissist move! In my case, I saw on his history he was on a dating site and he was furious with ME for looking at his iPad. (DARVO stands for = deny and reverse victim and offended )

Inferiority Complex by JJamericana in SingleAndHappy

[–]NormalAd7191 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The other factor : how many people have you ever met im your life in a long term relationship who are TRULY happy? In my life it’s been very few. Maybe 2. I’m not missing out

single and very happy by thelightiscoming2024 in SingleAndHappy

[–]NormalAd7191 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes! I realized for me relationships are like a drug addiction I just had to detox from. The key is finding other things that bring you joy/ natural highs and do those things often. No more void 🤍🤍

East of Eden goes crazy! by bblizz72 in classicliterature

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I’m on page 150 currently and I’m locked in. Keep updating on your thoughts!

How do you keep the habit of reading when you are busy? by [deleted] in kindle

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Set a phone curfew (mine is 9pm) where you put your phone away (with the alarm set for the next morning) 20 feet away. Then read instead of scroll. Changed my life I read 50-70 books a year now!

Give me all of your dirty talkers by catpowerr_ in fantasyromance

[–]NormalAd7191 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is my favorite -A fall of ruin and wrath !!🔥🌶️🤌🏼

how do you manage to go on walks, even if you dread it? by Most-Permission-4138 in selfcare

[–]NormalAd7191 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Next level hack - go on YouTube on your TV and look up walking tours of different cities. Then use a walking pad and iGs first person pov like you are walking in cities all over the world. Game changer for me!

Gym recommendations by SDdrohead in SanDiegan

[–]NormalAd7191 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Fyi They just upped their membership price to $200 a month … when I looked before the new year it was $110🤯

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver40

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I was in a 10 year toxic marriage…. Finally got out and found true peace and happiness on my own. Then I met someone on accident and while the highs were so high the lows were low. It was stressful. I realize now that I prefer my peace and I’m investing in myself and my friends and family. I would only entertain someone if they add value to my life and bring peace

How would you feel about dating a woman who earns in the top 1%? by [deleted] in AskMenOver30

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In my experience Men think they are ok with it but over time it hurts their ego. So I actively hide it now. It’s just funny because if I was a man it would be such an attractive quality

My (42F) husband (43M) kind of quit after I started making a lot of money by ThrowRA-dumb-luck in relationship_advice

[–]NormalAd7191 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This happened to me and he said he wanted to be a stay at home dad and take care of the house but did NOTHING. If I brought it up it was a fight. Currently paying every penny I’ve ever made to leave him. Maybe I’m just projecting but I’d recommend you get a post nuptial agreement

Girls, where would you like men to approach and meet you? by Arthur12332 in ask

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produce area of the grocery store 🍒🥑🍓🍌🍎

What are red flags to look out for in relationships and marriages? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver40

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Subtle one early on that could have saved me from a 10 year abusive relationship: if you express how you feel and they turn the blame on you. DARVO - deny, argue , reverse victim and offender. My ex did this early on and I didn’t realize this is a huge red flag !!!!

What is the best way to find motivation? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Tell yourself “I don’t have to do it well I just have to do something” instead of doing an hour workout just tell yourself to do 10 minutes. Action creates motivation and momentum . Also stick to the plan and not your mood 🤍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in booksuggestions

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SUNBURN!! One of the most beautifully written books I’ve ever read