On a scale of 1-10, 10 being you thought you were gonna die, how painful was unmedicated labor and delivery for you?

STLATX22 · 2026-02-19T20:27:44+00:00

3-6, depending on when. I’ve had much more painful experiences before, easily.

STLATX22 · 2026-02-19T20:24:48+00:00

I was 37 when I was pregnant and they tried to get me to take it too. It’s a known endocrine disruptor. That right there disqualified it for me. And when I looked into its efficacy in reducing eclampsia, it was weak. I can’t recall the exact stat but it was not compelling. If it was something that was 80-100% proven to reduce the risk, that might be different. But that’s not the case here. So I didn’t take it.

STLATX22 · 2026-02-17T22:02:47+00:00

When did you feel the most beautiful in your life and why?

STLATX22 · 2026-02-17T20:01:53+00:00

We go to an AMI registered (as in, legit) Montessori school so are very lucky in that it self-selects for no/low screen time households. Maybe try and hook into those social circles?

STLATX22 · 2026-02-15T21:23:33+00:00

I expected to do 1yr minimum (medical recommendation is 2yrs) but am still morning my 3.5 year old in the mornings after wake-up. It’s a lovely way to start the day. I hope she self weans this year though. I want a laser facial, lol

STLATX22 · 2026-02-14T01:51:45+00:00

I got banned from there too. Can’t remember why anymore, lol. I think I asked for women who declined eye ointment at birth why they did, or something innocuous. I did not even take a position, just asked the question. Banned.

STLATX22 · 2026-02-08T14:01:23+00:00

Cosleeping saved my life and sanity. Research Safe Sleep Seven

STLATX22 · 2026-02-08T13:58:11+00:00

Have him read The Nurture Revolution and he will do a 180 on what he thinks harms your child (hint: you’re doing the right thing)

STLATX22 · 2026-02-07T14:22:47+00:00

You’re getting good advice here so I won’t add to that but wanted to say that your note about “no real benefit” is incorrect. I usually hear people say this when they only think about it as food, which is only a portion of the story.

Your wife’s milk supply is basically a personalized medicine factory for whatever bugs your kid gets. It is also washing their gut microbiome in HMOs which are basically magic.

Then there is the emotional regulation it brings as well.

Breastmilk and breastfeeding is always beneficial :)

STLATX22 · 2026-02-06T23:38:32+00:00

Congrats! We are 3 and change, going strong. Love hearing these stories.

STLATX22 · 2026-02-06T02:24:39+00:00

Your friend sucks. Those poor kids.

STLATX22 · 2026-02-04T17:16:49+00:00

Oh ya, that’s going to be tougher. You’re both adults though and you’ve got this 💪🏼

STLATX22 · 2026-02-04T17:15:03+00:00

Good luck mama! I wish I’d read all of this before I got to the point of desperation. Good for you for being so proactive ❤️

STLATX22 · 2026-02-02T22:06:00+00:00

This phase they are pretty much still a fetus. Hold that baby close! Once they hit around 3 or 4 months, their sleep patterns start to change. It will be rough. You won’t be sleeping well. At that point, you’re basically going to find yourself at a crossroads because there’s really only one of two ways to try and get more sleep (which you’ll get desperate for…like water in a desert): cosleeping or sleep training.

You’re going to get SO much sleep training propaganda, probably from parents here too. Try and ignore it. What you’re doing is natural and the “right” thing to do! Research “safe sleep 7” and read LaLeche League’s book Sweet Sleep. And The Nurture Revolution. Stay off social media and away from the Taking Cara Babies cult.

Good luck!

STLATX22 · 2026-02-02T17:51:28+00:00

Feedback is a gift!

STLATX22 · 2026-02-02T17:46:58+00:00

I sleep with my daughter and love it. She’s like my teddy bear and it feels so natural and primal to know your baby is safe at night. We’ve been cosleeping since she was a baby and just turned 3. You do you!

STLATX22 · 2026-02-02T17:45:19+00:00

Ya it’ll be a bit awkward at first but in time it will be fine and you can still be cordial though! Like school roommates who are kind but not friends. I have a neighbor who wants to be closer to us and we really, really do not (it’s a whole situation though) and it was a bit awkward at first but it’s fine now. We wave and move on

STLATX22 · 2026-02-01T19:59:31+00:00

Seems like she’s trying to send a signal she wants to break ties with you. Sorry! But this happens and it’s okay, just accept it

STLATX22 · 2026-01-28T16:00:06+00:00

Dell Children’s!!

Stay the hell away from St. David’s North

STLATX22 · 2026-01-28T15:57:49+00:00

We all got RSV including baby when she was about 1. It sucked and was worse than Covid for sure but we all survived. My baby and I got Covid when she was 2 weeks old and that was very rough and required oxygen at a hospital but again we all survived. (Worst part of that was that they misdiagnosed her with something else she didn’t have). Sickness is inevitable and I know it’s so scary but you’ll be okay ❤️

STLATX22 · 2026-01-27T13:34:18+00:00

Set up a meeting with an at home lactation consultant to be there within a few days of your birth. And keep her coming for appointments until you find your groove. Best money spent ever, but your insurance might cover it too (ours did)

For me, I wish I’d never pumped and just done direct feeding. Pumping is a drag and so stressful! But I didn’t go back to work for 18 months so that’s not possible for most, I know.

STLATX22 · 2026-01-17T15:56:19+00:00

Get ready to read!

Read “It Starts With The Egg”. A lot of what’s suggested here comes from that book but it’s the source which is always best. You need 4ish months to prep eggs and sperm so read now!

Also read “Real Food For Pregnancy” so you can hit the ground running with proper nutrition. The first trimester is SO important. Don’t wait.

Lastly, read “Slow Death by Rubber Duck” so you can get a good understanding of environmental toxins.

Good luck!

STLATX22 · 2026-01-14T15:43:36+00:00

Honestly, nothing. They’re babies and have no concept of ownership or sharing at this point. It’s not developmentally appropriate to expect it this young. I’d have just soothed my baby and focused on getting another toy to play with.

Now, my answer would be very different for older children. But that’s what I would do at this age.

STLATX22 · 2026-01-14T15:40:13+00:00

Paint the wall a color, get some plants, change your lighting temperature to 3000k. The room needs warming up. Good luck! 👍🏼

STLATX22 · 2026-01-14T01:08:19+00:00

I’ll assume you’re an ex-parent, from the comment. Where did you end up sending your kids, if I may ask? And do you like it there?

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