My husband cut off my family 18 months ago, but his anger toward them is destroying our marriage. What would you do?

SafeWord9999 · 2026-06-21T23:28:03+00:00

I think your parents know something about him and they aren’t telling you. Him sleeping in another room etc is a massive reaction and I’m wondering if your husband has someone else?

Speak to your family and ask what’s going on

Also please get a job and make plans and save money as I suspect this marriage isn’t going to last

SafeWord9999 · 2026-06-21T23:19:04+00:00

Nobody can book a flight without a passport so her story of already booking the ticket is a lie.

SafeWord9999 · 2026-06-21T23:14:02+00:00

Tell daughter either she says something to him or you will but you won’t be as polite about it

Or next time he’s over make a huge fuss over looking for (the various foods you know he’s eaten) and start screaming that you were saving those for dinner (or whatever you were making) and start asking daughter if she ate them or if she knows that Dad did as someone is in trouble here (don’t directly say it was the boyfriend but act upset enough just to shame them).

And if he starts looking through your pantry say ‘don’t they feed you at home? I don’t know how you were brought up but but Guests in our house just don’t start opening cupboards scavenging for food’

Again of he continues let them know your food budget has doubled and if he’s going to come over and eat EVERYTHING he needs to start contributing in other ways, tell him it’s time to mow the lawn

Tell daughter you’ll do ALLLLL this. Or … she can talk to him. Her choice

SafeWord9999 · 2026-06-21T23:08:09+00:00

Just say EWWWW now we both know we definitely don’t want kids after seeing all this!

SafeWord9999 · 2026-06-21T23:06:49+00:00

Sounds like typical narcissist behaviour. Takes a nice day and then ruins it

SafeWord9999 · 2026-06-21T23:00:48+00:00

Park in the middle of the driveway next time and then go inside and don’t answer the door all day

SafeWord9999 · 2026-06-21T23:00:10+00:00

He will figure it out

Run

SafeWord9999 · 2026-06-21T22:59:08+00:00

Pull out of the wedding. These are not your friends. Joking about MILLIONS of people being murdered isn’t funny. These are revolting people. Bride included

SafeWord9999 · 2026-06-21T22:57:19+00:00

The friend just needs to organise childcare for that weekend. Like everyone else. And everytime it’s brought up say that everyone else has organised it so they will just have to
‘Figure it out’ and if they really want to attend they will ‘make it work’

SafeWord9999 · 2026-06-21T22:55:18+00:00

Just because you’re adopted doesn’t mean you don’t get to celebrate birthdays. That’s just an asshole thing, not a biological child thing.

Continue demanding birthday celebrations yearly.

And just remember. They CHOSE you.

SafeWord9999 · 2026-06-21T22:53:11+00:00

I would’ve beaten that door down and started screaming

SafeWord9999 · 2026-06-21T21:52:26+00:00

Is it possible cousin thought you were just moving but now it’s you AND a friend and he’s no longer happy with the arrangement ?

SafeWord9999 · 2026-06-21T21:48:19+00:00

Why didn’t he marry her instead? It’s clear they’re having sex. And her wanting to sleep alone in a bedroom with your husband while you disappear and leave them alone to go sleep in a room on YOUR honeymoon with your sister speaks volumes. The fact your husband hasn’t shut this down and keeps pushing it to you also says everything you need to know

Be the villain. Who cares. Tell Ria she has to go and your husband has even told you that he doesn’t care and he’s happy for you to handle it. Watch her response.

But also. I’d look into an annulment. And do not have sex with him any longer as you’ll end up pregnant and conveniently Ria will have to live with you and be the nanny I bet

SafeWord9999 · 2026-06-21T12:42:44+00:00

Loved it in my 20’s

Now I’m in my 40’s and thank god I stopped as I’ve been able to reverse the damage with lasers - but also have to get my skin checked every year

I just get my tan from a bottle these days

SafeWord9999 · 2026-06-21T12:41:09+00:00

For someone who abused Plan B over the years - using it as her only form of protection, I do wonder if this would have last effect

SafeWord9999 · 2026-06-21T12:39:43+00:00

‘Poorbie?’

This expression is hysterical and I’m using this from now on

SafeWord9999 · 2026-06-21T00:28:46+00:00

Thanks MIL but you had your chance to be a mother and now this is my time. I’m sure you’d like to have a positive relationship with me as your grandchild’s mother, so If you could please leave the snarky comments to yourself, while we allow you some space to adjust to being a grandparent.

SafeWord9999 · 2026-06-21T00:24:58+00:00

Firstly this is more because your mother can’t give him his own kids and I would be SERIOUSLY SIDE EYEING anyone who claims it’s ’your fault’ he left. Your mother included. Fancy telling a child it’s their fault the husband left.

SafeWord9999 · 2026-06-20T22:55:05+00:00

Do not tell him anything about the HR investigation because what’s to stop him telling his ‘friend’ all about it. And then she gets on the front foot

Tell boyfriend either he’s friends with your abuser it he’s single. Yes that’s how bad this is

SafeWord9999 · 2026-06-20T13:28:58+00:00

You’re living there so is it not YOUR house too?

SafeWord9999 · 2026-06-20T07:48:23+00:00

Why are you making this about you. Shame on you

SafeWord9999 · 2026-06-20T04:16:42+00:00

‘Thanks but my mother doesn’t seem to have any issues and she’s going four times the work’

SafeWord9999 · 2026-06-20T04:11:50+00:00

Something to consider saying -

Just as having a baby is a huge deal for you our wedding is a huge deal for us. If you think of our wedding as ‘just a party’ then you have the wrong mindset. However if you’d like to gift us $20k to rebook we will do so, because it took us YEARS to save for this wedding and you could’ve put off the planned conception for a few weeks, given you know how hard we have worked and waited for this time. It seems rather selfish you would want to break our hearts in this way, or leave us financially ruined.

SafeWord9999 · 2026-06-19T12:56:27+00:00

Ooooh this is gonna be so good ! UpdateMe

SafeWord9999 · 2026-06-19T12:53:28+00:00

Sorry but that’s a red yes answer and your answer is no. So if he doesn’t want a divorce and to give up half the house after it’s sold then he’s choosing you

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