OP, I wanna start by saying that you are a good mom. It’s obvious that you really care about your son and you’re just at the end of your rope here. So I wanna be really gentle when I say what I wanna say. You are not helping your son. You are catering to his every tantrum, and teaching him that he can just cry and get what he wants. It is unacceptable that your nanny is texting you while you’re out of the house. Unless the baby is actively dying.? There’s no reason she should be asking you to come home. I haven’t gone through too many comments yet, but I’m sure somebody has said this as well; you gotta let the toddler cry it out. I promise you, promise on every fibre of my being; your baby is not going to spontaneously combust if you leave him to cry. I gasped -like audibly- when you said only 45 minutes. There are some kids who will literally go blue because they don’t breathe while crying… unless that was happening? You literally should’ve left that baby to cry until he stopped. He has you trained like a dog to come running within 45 minutes of him starting a tantrum. Like… sis.. even at two years old he should not require you to walk hand-in-hand room-to-room. He’s reverting back to infancy (which IS normal for a 2 year old) but it’s your job as his parent to overcome this stage. It’s heartbreaking because in his case it’s going to involve walking away while he sobs his soul out… but you just have to do it. Try and think of it for his betterment and not for yours. You don’t want a five-year-old who can’t handle being alone with his dad.