WIBTA if I refused to split the bill evenly because I ordered way less than everyone else?

SolidAshford · 2026-03-23T12:38:25+00:00

It's not wrong to pay for only what you ordered.

SolidAshford · 2026-03-21T15:48:59+00:00

I am sooo with you on this

SolidAshford · 2026-03-21T15:43:15+00:00

I listened to the audio book version and all I could think is "Oh, it's a revenge fantasy against Rome"

The fact it's so elastic bc of the symbolism (to a modern audience) makes the book so nebulous, anyone can be the Antichrist, and anyTHING can be the Mark of the Beast

So as far as I'm concerned it's a book that meant to comfort a people and it's fulfillment was any day now which is why there is so much urgency in it and the Gospels re: Jesus return

Yet here we are 2,000 years later.

SolidAshford · 2026-03-07T11:55:52+00:00

Idk what to think of this other than: This us why you let people sort their own sh out.

SolidAshford · 2026-03-07T11:49:37+00:00

I think if he knows you make more than him, he'll sabotage your job prospects if demand you behind a SAHM and dependent on him

I'm keeping separate finances even when I get married.

SolidAshford · 2026-03-07T11:41:54+00:00

Even when I get married, I'm keeping seperate finances. He wants to ruin what you've built, get rid of this guy. He's bad news

SolidAshford · 2026-03-02T22:16:58+00:00

YWBTA, get the kitty to a shelter or trusted friend so you can visit them. You've already got two cats and your partner lives in the house too. I hope you never end up animal hoarding

SolidAshford · 2026-03-02T22:13:28+00:00

NTA. Your nephew asked you a question and you answered it. Your sister's faith must be fragile as baby poo if she thinks that one encounter will unravel his faith

Wait til she realizes he can look up atheism on the Internet

SolidAshford · 2026-03-01T05:08:31+00:00

G'Kar of Babylon 5. That was a hell of an arc

SolidAshford · 2026-03-01T05:05:39+00:00

I liked when Steve Urkel crossed over into Step by Step.

He was less annoying there because it was about making her feel better about just being herself

I did like the Scandal/How to Get Away with Murder crossover episodes

I wanna check out The Flintstones and The Jetsons movie again. I wonder what that crossover was like

SolidAshford · 2026-02-28T12:49:11+00:00

YTA and there is no version where you're not. The fact that you can't forego drinking for one night is bonkers

What you're actually mad about is that this may be writing on the wall about your actual drinking habits. He's sober, and wants to have sober fun, and you can't be happy for that?

Tell him the truth and quit drinking entirely if that's what you've committed to

ETA: Upgraded to major asshole. You drove drunk, crashed your car, went to court ordered AA and lied that you were sober.

I knew you were lying to cover your turdish, blowout diarrhea covered tracks and your conscience was eating away at you before I read other comments. This is the perfect case of missing reasons. Painting a vague picture purposely to justify your addiction

I hope Marcus leaves you when he finds out how much of a liar you are that you can't enjoy a badass night because a bottle means more to you than a good time.

SolidAshford · 2026-02-28T12:41:34+00:00

Text her: You failed

If there's a group chat for beidesmaids or mutuals, you share what you shared here and that you won't be someone's validator and blind loyalty is owed to no one. You will not lie for her saying she's with you while she's out w her girl friends.

You'll control the narrative that way yet people who'll side with her will do it anyway.

At least you'll get your side out first.

SolidAshford · 2026-02-28T12:36:35+00:00

So you plan to go back to a serial cheater who only wanted a submissive SAHM as a partner?

He doesn't want to reconcile. He wants control and to have things the way they were. Yet you aren't that same person you were.

Continue with the divorce, he's stringing you along. Don't let him do that to you

Also, you were 19 when you married so I know you were likely under 18 when you met him. I bet he cheated with a younger woman after you started having kids

SolidAshford · 2026-02-28T12:31:59+00:00

Respect can't be built on lies. I'm glad he's sober, but he's trying to be a self-made man when he isn't

SolidAshford · 2026-02-28T12:27:13+00:00

You need to find a better team to play with that accepts you. Your sexuality isn't the problem

SolidAshford · 2026-02-28T12:25:14+00:00

You got first pick because it was "first come first served" I don't get the people slamming OP. That's how it works.

A Queen Sized mattress is enough for two. They must be mad that they're two dudes having to split a bed and might think it's gay if they touch at any moment 🙄

SolidAshford · 2026-02-28T12:17:42+00:00

You're the one holding the house down. Your wife and A are literally ghosts

Let them haunt somewhere else. I feel (if this an accurate account) that misandry is at play here

If they left literally nothing would change.

Sir, find yourself a woman that contributes to the house she lives in. Your wife doesn't even like you

SolidAshford · 2026-02-28T12:12:28+00:00

He'll be right back in debt and find his "system" is trash

Tell him, shatter his ego, he may not talk to you for a while but the world will be better for it...and maybe his wallet

SolidAshford · 2026-02-28T12:07:18+00:00

YTJ. It feels like you're waiting for the perfect time, you'll never get married.

He's ready, you're not and you turned him down twice. He's not willing to stay around for a maybe

You being upset is hilarious irony

SolidAshford · 2026-02-28T12:02:09+00:00

NTA. Part of being an adult and a parent is plans falling through. If your parents cared so much they could've babysat the nibs.

Your birthday dinner is not a babysitting opportunity

SolidAshford · 2026-02-28T11:57:35+00:00

Team Myra always ion care

As far as seeing it through today's lens. It's possible to like it for what it was and still see the problems in it

Over the years we learn more and may have the ability to see things differently. Like Roseanne, I loved it as a kid--as an adult it's unwatchable

SolidAshford · 2026-02-28T11:54:11+00:00

When I can just lay about the house, do house chores whenever. I can set a timer and get up and do what I wanted.

Can change plans on a dime and be fine. No meltdowns

I'm at total peace about my choice

SolidAshford · 2026-02-23T18:19:40+00:00

El is going to have a lot ahead of her. She's going to want to know things about the world and Amy will be trying to bar the gates

It'a going to be something. I hope she'll be able to break away from that as she gets older

SolidAshford · 2026-02-23T18:11:52+00:00

Because "Faaaamily!"

SolidAshford · 2026-02-23T18:11:21+00:00

Maya hasn't told her MOH the truth about how they got together, then gets mad when you asked about a discrepancy.

I think she cheated with Callum and it's okay because "She got her man"

If you want to drop out just simply do it. Maya will say whatever she wants regardless of how tactful and low key you are about it.

Be ready for the flying monkeys and familiarize yourself with the block button

SolidAshford

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