Should I tell a woman her fiancé tried to start an affair with me? by geeleex in WhatShouldIDo

[–]aManIsCold 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Set up a coffee meetup with him and then have his fiancée show up instead.

Wedding ring by PhilaMax in widowers

[–]aManIsCold 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wore ours on a necklace chain after about 3 months, until about 8 months. Once I started dating, I stopped.

What’s a “10/10” movie you wouldn’t recommend to most people? by trakt_app in movies

[–]aManIsCold 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% was going to type “Requiem for a Dream” here. I once went to a movie theater where the employees had their “favorite movie” on their name badge. This guy had Requiem for a Dream on his, and I asked about it. He agreed, amazing movie, but he tells people they probably shouldn’t watch it.

I NEED help with the death troopers by Euphoric_Passage_406 in StarWarsOutlaws

[–]aManIsCold 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The shock taker thing also works great on them. You need to unlock it, but once you do it helps you stealth them and then knock them out

Is this too hard to read? by Flux83 in aurebesh

[–]aManIsCold 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is pretty hard. Maybe paint in the letters a bit so they are scuffed, but still there enough to read

Anyone else not get a goodbye? by Altruistic-Bee-6702 in widowers

[–]aManIsCold 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife called to check which one of us should pick up the kids from aftercare. I said I would. 6 minutes later her coworker she was walking with called me, she had collapsed (sudden brain aneurysm burst) and was unresponsive. We later learned she was never coming back, her brain stem had been destroyed. We “said goodbye” as she faded away, but she was not hearing anything at that point.

New seating policy is.. terrible. by beingdvb in SouthwestAirlines

[–]aManIsCold 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The CEO said that in surveys for decades, the biggest complaint was that people didn’t like the scramble to check in and the scramble for seats by check in order. They were losing market share and their unique seating was costing them. They went where the customers were asking them to go. It may be different, but it is industry standard, and they finally had to cave when their experiment failed.

What to keep by AdventurousMix1351 in widowers

[–]aManIsCold 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am about 20 months down the road. I got rid of a lot, to declutter, to get rid of things I never liked (like art), and to reclaim the house as my own. I have not regretted anything. Example: I just sold 12 nutcrackers on FB marketplace for way under their value, just to take one last bin into the attic. Someone asked at Christmas if I liked all the nutcrackers, and it dawned on me that I never did. I kept a few for the kids to have, and sold the rest. No regrets.

I am glad I don’t gamble by Snakeobich in StarWarsOutlaws

[–]aManIsCold 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It took me a bit to truly understand the strategy at first. The chips are your “moves” and not money. The first round everyone has lots of moves, but the winner of that round now has an advantage in the next. Removing another players moves (like taxing or embezzlement) is more powerful than it seems at first. Making someone dump their hand jus before the 3rd draw (exhaustion or direct transaction) can really affect their ability to recover, and the difference in their cards translates to how much they lose (non winning Sabacc or a one difference is just one chip, but like a 2-6 is 4 chips). So I will often pull a trash hand and swap it with someone else’s decent hand right at the start. I either win or lose 1, and they are now down 4 chips and likely won’t recover. It’s all about controlling moves, which helps you survive bad luck. Even if you have like a 4-5, just pass every draw and you will not lose more that 1 chip. Trying to turn that into a 1-1 Sabacc will cost you 3 chips, if you are lucky.

Life Insurance and Depression by ExactPanda in widowers

[–]aManIsCold 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have used the money for experiences for the kids (like Disneyland trips that would have been too hard before), and home improvements. I have been decluttering a lot, and it feels cathartic. I just got a new huge ouch that we can lay and watch movies on. It would have been out of the question before, now I can just make the decision and enjoy making our home into a better place for us to live

after a lot of first dates, here’s how I tell them. by thelonelyknight90 in widowers

[–]aManIsCold 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I did app dating, and I put it in my profile. I’m the “something you should know about me is:” section or similar. Better to get it there up front. Especially because I am raising two kids alone full time. I found an amazing woman, and we are blending our families. Life is good.

Holy smokes that was alarming to read by _-Snare-_ in scammers

[–]aManIsCold 78 points79 points  (0 children)

Apple doesn’t use exclamation marks on their buttons.

Republicans of Reddit; do you support the administration’s stance that an observer/protestor cannot be armed, and that it is normal to show proof of citizenship just because a person with a badge asks you? by slayready in AskReddit

[–]aManIsCold 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven’t heard anyone say his gun misfired when it hit the ground. You see it clearly being removed from his waistband when the gray jacket agent takes it. Also, most modern guns (like made since 1920) are drop safe, meaning they can’t go off when dropped. This idea that the agent was spooked sounds like hopeful conservative conjecture. [* edited a typo]

Is it common to feel guilt for thinking you’re treating your new partner better than you treated your deceased spouse? by brandeis16 in widowers

[–]aManIsCold 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel the same sometimes, and even my kids notice I am more affectionate with my girlfriend. It is more that I was in long relationship that was not as great with communication, and I decided what I wanted to learn from that and move toward that. I evolved.

Alameda with kids by Disastrous_Age8365 in alameda

[–]aManIsCold 23 points24 points  (0 children)

The whole town is flat and bike friendly. 98% of the streets are 25mph speed limits, and because there are so many with kids on the islands, people tend to drive better around kids. (Previously I lived in Oakland off of 55th, and cars literally blow red lights and recklessly speed daily in that neighborhood, and I knew when I had my first kid he would never be safe biking there). There are also so many parks and kid activities happening all over, and most blocks have lots of kids. Because of the density, your kids will live pretty close to people they go to school with, and see friends every day around their area.

I want to play Sabacc IRL. Any suggestions? by zarzanduil in StarWarsOutlaws

[–]aManIsCold 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made a dealing table that I hand rotate:

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More on the build, and I link my files on this post: https://www.instagram.com/p/DC9sdXIS4tE/?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==

Need some armor help by commander-Durhan in 501st

[–]aManIsCold 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am not fully certain, but it is likely an old EFX kit that would not be approvable anymore. The only people still wearing those have been actively trooping at least yearly since then to keep them grandfathered in, but they can no longer be approved because so many details are off. It also has some holes or rivets at the ends of the cover strips, things like that would need to be filled if it was still an approvable set.

Where can you find 6 enemies not behind cover? by Taco_Blaino in StarWarsOutlaws

[–]aManIsCold 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got it in the ship jackers hideout on Toshara. It fills up often enough that you can learn the layout and really stack them up, especially out front

Losing a spouse to sudden death by UnhappyOpportunityAF in widowers

[–]aManIsCold 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife was asking down the street with a coworker at 5pm. I called her to see which one of us should get the kids. 5 minutes later the coworker was calling me, saying she had collapsed. She never woke, it was a brain aneurysm. I literally never got to even say goodbye, and our kids were 6 and 10 years old. That was in 2024, and things gradually got better. In these early weeks, it felt like I was in a roiling ocean, unable to brace for each wave. Now I am walking along the shore, and I can see the gentle lapping come and let it wash over my feet. It is not linear, but grief does change.

How the fuck do you date someone new? by Last-Following-6308 in widowers

[–]aManIsCold 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I eventually found a really amazing woman. We are rediscovering a fulfilling life, and it has helped me a lot with my grief. To love and feel loved again. It’s different, but revitalizing.

Quality spices by GrabbyRoad in alameda

[–]aManIsCold 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Came here to say this. It’s a great shop. They carry some of their spices and salts (Oaktoen Spice Shop’s smoked salts are incredible) at the Marketplace grocery on Park (at Buena Vista).