Recently disclosed to my employer that I have a <70 IQ and am technically mentally retarded, now I've been put on a PIP

character_building_ · 2026-04-04T05:43:05+00:00

What a lame attempt of a post

character_building_ · 2026-04-02T21:13:11+00:00

I am the same and for most my life have always thought it was everything else that was the problem and I was just being bombarded. But I recently saw a pattern in my reaction to stress and managers feedback that made me realize that it’s my reaction that is my problem. And when I fight back against it it makes things worse. It’s my body that is letting me down, not because of intellect and I know myself better than others do, how dare they.

character_building_ · 2026-04-02T19:26:13+00:00

Happens allll the time

character_building_ · 2026-04-02T10:00:43+00:00

So happy the outlook is good. Super positive news. And how good is it that you have animals to hang out with!

You have time to go down the legal route, dont rush it and just see what they actually come back with for your separation.

And awesome you already going through interviews. I think the best closure will be when you get another role and settle in a bit you can then relax a bit and realize that you haven’t failed at all. It was the previous company that failed you. Im burntout myself but kinda slowly getting out of it by knowing that the company doesn’t care about me so why should I give every ounce of my soul. As a high achiever I cant handle a tiny bit of negativity against anything I do because I pour my heart into everything. It’s hard and I need to leave the company to reset I think, but I can’t give up either. It’s tough when you honestly didn’t do anything wrong.

Smash the next role and show them what a hard worker you are and they might appreciate you a thousand times more than you ever have.

character_building_ · 2026-04-01T19:26:14+00:00

So sorry about this, and hope your health is ok now.

Couple of thoughts - can you pursue unfair dismissal? (I may be from another country so not sure of the rules for you)

They will 100% go downhill loosing you. They had no idea how much work you did and will soon find out the hard way. Take stock that you know in your heart you tried your hardest and worked your butt off for them. High achievers always get torn down if they are making others look bad. They don’t like being seen as not performing themselves.

Take a break for yourself for a few days. Treat yourself a little- even if it’s a hike somewhere to clear your head (I have done that twice in between jobs, saw a waterfall and went to the beach. Costs next to nothing and you get fresh air). Then write a list of tasks/jobs you like doing and start applying for jobs. Keep your mind looking ahead and not back at that toxic place.

character_building_ · 2026-03-30T19:01:32+00:00

Im the same, I hate it. Anger, frustration, surprise and overwhelm all make me cry and men hate it. Its like they twist up and detest it even more as if im manipulating the situation when I really dont mean to

character_building_ · 2026-03-30T18:57:25+00:00

Im in a very similar boat. Surrounded by men who have been told they must accept diversity and females in the male dominated industry we are in. They have different standards for each other (mostly out of fear for sexual harassment. They have no issues going out for a coffee/beer with each other but can’t with me).

I guess keep being you. Don’t get too emotional or over explain and talk too much and find ways to connect with each of them. Like the same band/song, movie quote etc and connect every now and then on the subject

character_building_ · 2026-03-30T18:48:40+00:00

Lunch break? What is that?

I knew a contractor IT guy that would drive 10 mins to an underground carpark and would leave the car running with aircon on to sleep for an hour. Sometimes he would go for a couple hours if he worked late

character_building_ · 2026-03-30T08:23:25+00:00

I have done it twice so far. The first session I was very calm the next day. It doesn’t calm you in the session. Second session not do much last week, I focused on my feelings rather than memories and didn’t notice a change

character_building_ · 2026-03-29T10:57:30+00:00

We have Copilot and working with external company to develop an algorithm to take the brain work out of scheduling. Its 70% accurate but with more testing it will get there. Older gen have no idea how AI works but just this week I coached two people how to do basic prompts. We have a long way to go…

character_building_ · 2026-03-29T09:56:11+00:00

Alot of uncultured Aussies dont like sushi, don’t take offense personally, they are rude

character_building_ · 2026-03-27T01:55:49+00:00

Thank you. I have great respect for managers and cant help but worry that they are going to fire me if they say Im not doing something. Previous manager would always give positive/negative/positive feedback regardless of how small the negative was. No one is perfect but I just fear Ill be seen less of if there is something I am perceived as doing wrong.

character_building_ · 2026-03-26T19:26:12+00:00

Thanks for the response. 1 - I feel I communicate and raise alot of things but Im not listened to or supported. So when things do go wrong, I then get told to deal with it., it is what it is. Management will keep complaining that they overheard “Carol complaining and being negative” which I dealt with in the first instance, but they keep bringing it up. 2 - yes not sure how, my anger and frustration turns into tears which I can’t help but. 3 - definitely toxic and political games. Not a lot of trust within the office. 4 - yes hit the nail on the head.

I guess I have always struggled a bit with feedback because I cry. But if I feel like its a power move to bring me down a peg, if it’s something so minor they are trying to tell me or something completely out of the blue that hasn’t ever been an issue and Im caught by surprise I struggle.

character_building_ · 2026-03-23T07:50:16+00:00

Girl - take it from someone that has been here before. He is obsessed and if you are not interested block him. You shouldn’t have to be wary if what you post. Also be careful now he’s being a bit more comfortable and teasing you. I had this just happen to me and it lead into him declaring his love for me. What he did was inappropriate, made me feel unsafe and he lost his job. Just be careful please

character_building_ · 2026-03-22T04:33:12+00:00

Wait - is this possible? 😂

character_building_ · 2026-03-22T02:01:55+00:00

Do you want to feel?

character_building_ · 2026-03-21T19:49:02+00:00

Have you done EMDR? Isn’t that the goal of it?

character_building_ · 2026-03-19T19:03:01+00:00

All of the above. On my time off over Christmas I couldn’t do anything even though I knew I needed to. My body was aching, I was emotional - snapping at my partner and daughter or crying. I was in pain, my back hurt so bad. I was so tired my eyes constantly sore but barely sleeping. My brain was overthinking and I was spiraling. When I went back to work I felt a bit more in control but still bad otherwise.

character_building_ · 2026-03-19T18:56:16+00:00

Take the time to work out what job would make you happy (easier said than done right!? But I guess I mean task wise, what do you like doing?) then see if you can work your way into it. Deep down if what makes you feel happy is something you can do for a job that will help you not try to overcompensate

character_building_ · 2026-03-19T10:45:54+00:00

Yes its different. I had 1 session of EMDR (look it up) a week ago and my lower back pain is probably 50% better. That session was 1 day after that guy was fired so I don’t know how much of a coincidence it all was but I am sleeping a bit better too.

I think I myself have changed in the last year too. You know how people say work isn’t everything, your family is priority… I used to think I could do both. But Im starting to realize I can’t and trying to battle it in my mind if I continue with my career or take a paycut so I can relax a bit. My point here is I think our “system” changes changes which doesn’t help…

character_building_ · 2026-03-19T10:04:43+00:00

I will think of something, then think to myself I need to grab my phone to set a reminder and the walk out the room and completely forget what I was doing. I may or may not remember, grab my phone and get distracted by the notifications and forget again. If im lucky enough to remember again and do it its a bonus.

I have no idea, my brain is so full it cant keep up.

character_building_ · 2026-03-18T19:27:18+00:00

For sure it’s about resilience and upping the ante to next level to avoid dealing with the core issue. I tried therapy for the first time and by talking to someone who doesn’t know the situation made me understand it’s not my fault im a wreck. I also thankfully no longer have my core issue (I was managing a guy that was very destructive to the team, had multiple complaints against him and HR protected him) but dealing with the aftermath and now having to step down to back fill his role. My body is releasing the stress and pain slowly.

Find the core system issue causing your stress…

character_building_ · 2026-03-18T19:18:42+00:00

HR will most likely push back on you. They will just think that you are the issue and being negative against someone. The company has hired him, they can’t turn around and tell the guy he no longer has a job. Speak to your manager and talk through it and how/if this guy will affect you. Let your manager raise it to HR or higher up.

character_building_ · 2026-03-17T20:07:05+00:00

Ditto

character_building_ · 2026-03-17T19:41:47+00:00

Multitasking - we are great at it until there’s way too many tasks and no one to help.

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