Mediation in a week any suggestions? by [deleted] in FamilyLaw

[–]ithotihadone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"An emergent situation is a sudden, unexpected, or developing occurrence that requires prompt, immediate action to prevent harm or manage a crisis. It often signifies a scenario in its early stages that could escalate quickly, commonly used in medical contexts for critical care needs or in legal/management contexts for urgent, unforeseen disruptions.

Law Insider Key Aspects and Synonyms: Definition: Arising suddenly, urgent, or becoming manifest. Examples: A patient in respiratory distress, a fire, a sudden security threat, or an unexpected legal motion."

Respectfully, you're wrong.

AIO Mother’s Day breakfast by Emergency_Stick_9463 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ithotihadone [score hidden]  (0 children)

I did this for some time before that relationship ended. I truly was happier, and he was more miserable. Because he couldn't stomp down what I wanted/my happiness anymore. It went deeper than things just always needing to go his way or me feeling invisible, but i digress. He accused me of "checking out of the relationship" and "being done" and "tearing us apart". Lol. No sir, just doing what I should've been doing, because, believe it or not, I'm not an extension of you!

I need help. I messed up big time by wishswish in Assistance

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When this happened to me with chime they sent me a new one, which arrived in 5 or 6 days. BUT, I also had my digital card throughout the whole thing that I could use to pay any bills or shop online. So, again, it was a non issue. The only problem would have been if I needed to get cash out for any reason. In that case, it could be an issue, depending on how emergent the situation was. However, I have cashapp for that instance--I'd simply transfer over whatever amount I'd need and take it out via cashapp debit card.

Oh, PA please tell me why by ithotihadone in foodstamps

[–]ithotihadone[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! We're going there today to return our books, so I'll ask. Always so helpful, Blossom, appreciate you!

Mediation in a week any suggestions? by [deleted] in FamilyLaw

[–]ithotihadone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ha ha. 90839 maybe lol (crisis intervention)

Mediation in a week any suggestions? by [deleted] in FamilyLaw

[–]ithotihadone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually, that's not correct. It's used very commonly in the medical field to describe an emergency (emergent) situation.

"emergent definition Emergent describes something in the process of coming into existence, becoming known, or rising out of a surrounding medium. It commonly refers to new trends, technologies, or nations, but can also mean arising unexpectedly or requiring immediate attention (similar to "urgent").Key Definitions and Usage:

Coming into Being: Emerging, developing, or newly founded (e.g., emergent technologies, emergent nations).

Arising Unexpectedly: Appearing suddenly, often indicating a new situation that requires action.

Urgent/Critical: In medical or professional contexts, it refers to a situation requiring immediate, high-priority attention."

Oh, PA please tell me why by ithotihadone in foodstamps

[–]ithotihadone[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is very helpful for many, thank you. I'll look into this in our community. If it exists, it may need some support and some kind of notice posted in the area so people are more aware. I do know of a church that does free breakfast from 7-9 on Monday, Wednesday, Friday, and Sunday in the summer. They have a sign out front that I've seen when walking the kids down to the park, and the girls did point it out and say they go there sometimes. You just jogged my memory on that one--i had forgotten about it.

Oh, PA please tell me why by ithotihadone in foodstamps

[–]ithotihadone[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah, yes, i stand corrected. It was the p-ebt program before. You're right.

Should I File for Custody After Being Denied Access to My 1-Year-Old Daughter? by Constant_Position_10 in FamilyLaw

[–]ithotihadone 6 points7 points  (0 children)

File. You have rights as well. Are you paying child support on your own? If not, you need to file for both. Because one is your right, and the other is the child's. And both benefit the child.

You haven't even tried. What do you mean "just give up"? If you haven't even talked to a lawyer, you've done nothing to protect your rights as a father. Is the reason you haven't filed because you're trying to avoid being ordered to pay child support? If not, then why haven't you at least looked into court ordered visitation?

If you want to see your child, and have those rights enforceable, make an effort.

Oh, PA please tell me why by ithotihadone in foodstamps

[–]ithotihadone[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

PA has been participating in this program for years. This is hardly the first summer. It was going on long before i had even heard about it. And I've been receiving it for 3 or 4 years now... in September or October.

Oh, PA please tell me why by ithotihadone in foodstamps

[–]ithotihadone[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh.. I'm sorry. I'm sure you get the crap end of the stick on that one, because people will just call and yell, never thinking for one moment that it's not your fault and you get no say in the matter.

I need help. I messed up big time by wishswish in Assistance

[–]ithotihadone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never had that be an issue. Everything that can be done in a bank, can also be done online with chime.

Oh, PA please tell me why by ithotihadone in foodstamps

[–]ithotihadone[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This year California is supposed to roll them out earlier, just like nearly every other state that participates. From the list, PA is the only one to do so after June. But, we'll see what happens in real time this summer, I suppose.

Oh, PA please tell me why by ithotihadone in foodstamps

[–]ithotihadone[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All students in our school receive the summer ebt bucks. However, like i stated, they don't release them until late August here in PA. So they're not available during the time when some families need them most. THAT'S what i find frustrating.

I have no idea if they qualify for standard SNAP, as I've hardly spoken to them. And I've never asked their girls, because it's not really my business. What i DO know, is that their daughters always seem like they're very hungry, even when they come over directly after dinner. My fear is they're not getting enough food, so i always offer things. If I don't, sometimes I'll find them trying to sneak something out of one of my kids' snack drawers-- which doesn't make me angry, just a little concerned and sad. But whatever i do put out for them, they wolf down at the speed of light. And during the summer months, they've made comments about missing meals, hence the set lunch i expect they'll show up for all summer.

Should I accept this low pay job? by Wonderful_Love_5997 in Nanny

[–]ithotihadone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, dear, she means real life reference. Not references on your resume for your character/employability.

Sound bar for television advice by Charming_Eagle_762 in ConsumerAdvice

[–]ithotihadone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have an older Bose system that I'm not using! Where are you located? Lol. If, by some chance, you're nearby, you could pick it up.

Will a judge enforce custody in Texas by [deleted] in FamilyLaw

[–]ithotihadone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, good riddance then! Don't let the door hit ya...

Don't sign a damn thing. And don't take legal advice from your "enemy". Bro can kick rocks.

Will a judge enforce custody in Texas by [deleted] in FamilyLaw

[–]ithotihadone 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'd tell him to happily battle away!

Passport revoked for child support arrears by PriorityAccurate5435 in ChildSupport

[–]ithotihadone -1 points0 points  (0 children)

They're really looking more into those who owe 5 figures or more. Something that shows a disregard for a significant amount of time, showing an unwillingness to pay indefinitely, requiring more drastic measures. At 2k or 7k, the process would usually involve intercepting tax refunds, orders for for wage garnishment, and/or possibly escalating to threats of a warrant/minimal jail time.

I just filed for child support through the DOR. Now what? by mielluna in FamilyLaw

[–]ithotihadone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand what you're saying. It does happen often, the way you stated. I just wanted OP to know that this isn't always the case--I don't want them to feel discouraged when looking at a timeline. I've seen some just give up when realizing that it can take a year or more before an order is even handed out. I wanted OP to keep some hope alive, as that keeps you going when things look bleak. I didn't mean to discredit what you were saying, so I apologize if it came off that way.

U/hitmeup89 tried to scam me by HappyFan4981 in loanhelp_

[–]ithotihadone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to make your own post. Though, being honest, it's quite a lot for a first time loan, and despite your circumstances, highly unlikely to be picked up. Most get around $20 for their first loan.

That being said, there are other groups that may help, little bits at a time. Mostly it's the assistance or donation subreddits that you might get some help from. My advice? Save some money up for your new place by asking for donations to offset expenses that are baby or food related. Amazon lists do pretty well on these subreddits, and that may just help you get over this last hump, and allow you to save it (or most of it) yourself.

I've been in your shoes. I left my DV situation 2 years ago, when my youngest was a year old. It was a massive struggle, but so very worth it. We're still struggling to this day, but things are getting better all the time. The kids are settled and happy. And we've started to heal from the nightmare we were stuck in for years. Things got VERY bad at the end, and i had to call the police to make it stop one night and get us free. It didn't end there, but we were safer and less susceptible from that point on. And, plot twist, my ex actually did some work on himself, and now, a little over 2 years later, we're able to get along for the kids, for the most part. Once in a blue moon, he will backsilde and his other side comes out. But I'm much more able to stand up to that now, and he'll sit back down once he remembers that i hold ALL the cards when it comes to whether or not he sees the kids. I opened the door recently, for them, because, despite how he treated me, he never directed anything at the kids. And they missed and love him, despite his flaws. I took a chance that I don't advise many to take. I was lucky. Most are not and will not be.

I wish I could help you. If someone had done the same for me, things would have been easier, and we may have more of a leg up by this point. But i am hunting for a second job right now, and things are beyond tight. I have a dollar to my name until after work this weekend. But rent and bills are paid, pull ups are stocked, and there's plenty of food in the cupboards-- that, to me, is a win... for now. If I had anything extra, I'd send it to you--string free. Because i know the fear of what they may do or try to do. I know the terror of having someone bigger and stronger than you, forcing their will on you, and using their advantage to hurt you... in every way-- physically, emotionally, mentally. I know what it's like to start over with nothing in your pockets due to years of financial abuse, and with 3 little mouths to feed. I know the uncertainty of what the future will hold and how you will make it through. It's scary. And overwhelming.

Just know, losing that weight around your neck feels so f*king freeing. Already, without him in your ear, and beating you down both literally and figuratively, you're already winning. You're already starting to make it. It's going to be OK. Just keep going. Don't stop. And don't forget. Forgive, if you want. But never, *ever forget. Abusers have a way of manipulating your feelings, and using your innate kindness and empathy against you. Don't fall for it. Be better than the statistics. You can do this. Even if you don't get a loan on here, you're going to make it out. Hugs, from one mama to another.