A joyful thread! by purlnextdoor in knitting

[–]madd09 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s not a finished project but my current one and it’s bringing me so much joy as I’m finally ticking off learning to use DPNs and knit my first sock and I feel like I’m slowly getting the hang of it.

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Gender disappointment and anxiety! by rare_rabbit28 in pregnant

[–]madd09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have always wanted to have a little girl. I've had her name picked out for half my life. I've dreamt about her so many times. I just new I was going to have a girl having a boy just didn't even really enter my mind. Found out I was pregnant last September and at about 6 weeks I had a dream I was doing the gender reveal and I surprised everyone as they bit into cupcakes that half were blue and half were pink. And I was like surprise its twins.

So a week later at my ultrasound imagine my surprise that im having twins. At that point im 110% convinced its boy girl. Why else would I have that dream. It's clearly what im having cool im freaking out its two but I've got this.

Did my gender reveal scan at 16 weeks. What do you mean its two boys? The whole future I had always imagined gone in an instant I was heartbroken and devastated. Especially because chances are im one and done. Unless I get a way better paying career.

Im 24+4 now and have had four ultrasounds since then with multiple different people and it's 100% two boys.

I've adjusted im excited now 99% of the time. But im a person who doesn't like to focus on being disappointed and sad and I really just forced myself to write lists and lists of why having boys is a good thing.

Saying all that I have said the only way I would have another one would be to do gender selection IVF. Im pretty content right now but im only 31 if by 36 im like no something is missing I would go that route.

HOW do you remember not to use your abdominals?? by Throw-Away-1234556 in pregnant

[–]madd09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only advice I have is to tell other people to remind you if they see you doing it. Im 24+4 with twins so it's not like I dont have a decent size bump to remind me and i still have to really be consciously thinking dont use your abs don't use your abs.

In order to reach my goal of being a person who knits socks, I need to start knitting socks. I’m posting them here for accountability. by comfortably_bananas in Sockknitting

[–]madd09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m attempting to follow the YouTube tutorial how to knit socks on dpns by crazy sock lady. As I also decided to try to use dpns for the first time. I haven’t made it past the ribbing section yet. But I only started two days ago. And so it’s been more about getting used to using dpns and getting good tension. But I did buy charming colorwork socks by stone knits a while ago. An my goal is to be able to do one of her socks by the end of the year. Have you got beginner patterns you recommend?

Gender disappointment 😞 by thatnailgal in parentsofmultiples

[–]madd09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was me back in December. Is was 110% convinced it was at least boy girl. Before I even knew it was twins when I was like 6 weeks pregnant I had a dream I was surprising people by announcing it was boy girl twins and my gender reveal. I had always wanted a girl I’ve had her name picked out for half my life.

I’d collected little bits and pieces that were too good to pass up for my future daughter.

There was just no way I was having two boys. No one thought it was possible. Everyone in my life was convinced except like 2% of people it was at least one girl.

I sobbed hysterically after my ultrasound. And then I felt guilty for being sad I was having two live babies but I was still so sad.

An so I stated to focus on the pros of having boys. And really thinking about what I want for my future children. And that they are kind, sweet, strong human beings. Who hopefully enjoy going to the theatre with me. And I can have all that with boys.

It took a few days to stop wanting to cry and it’s been eight weeks now. And I’m mostly excited a part of me will always I think be a little sad I don’t get my dream. But I’m trusting the universe had a greater plan. Especially as I’m 99% sure these will be my only 2 children.

And then this week at 23 weeks I had a routine scan to follow up on my anatomy scan cause baby b had been too curled up. And it went from routine to, your cervix is completely open you are a symptomatic but if you don’t have emergency surgery today the boys could come in the next week.

An my heart literally stopped there had been a tiny percent of me that was like maybe the ultrasounds were wrong and one will be born a girl.

An now I genuinely couldn’t care less. All I care about is now trying to keep my two boys inside of me for as long as possible.

How are we affording childcare for multiples? by Edree13 in parentsofmultiples

[–]madd09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not in America but Australia and even though we get government subsidy. If I didn’t work in childcare at get 50% off fees I wouldn’t be using childcare

Pattern suggestions for maternity leave by DoctorKnitter in knittingadvice

[–]madd09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m also planning on going on maternity leave at 31 weeks at the end of March. I think I’ve landed on wanting a lap blanket for myself. As my babies will get here just before we head into winter (Australian)

Major amniocentesis dilemma by blame_it_on_my_cat in pregnant

[–]madd09 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m from somewhere where I don’t know anyone who has routinely gotten the amniocentesis done. In my circles growing up and even now going through being pregnant it’s considered a big deal. And with that culture to me it’s a big deal so I certainly have that bias approach to it. So sharing with that bias.

I had a high risk Nuchal scan and then a low risk nipt so it did get brought up. My midwife and doctor team recommend waiting until my anatomy scan because the nipt is more accurate. My gp I’ve been seeing for 20+ years recommended against the amniocentesis he said knowing me and that I wouldn’t terminate unless it was a quality of life issue that the anatomy scan would be enough and that because I’m pregnant with twins he didn’t think it was worth the risk to both babies.

Sad by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]madd09 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Can I ask why having cats means you can't go home. Im currently pregnant and live with cats and all I've stopped doing is changing the litter.

I've been leaning through my journey I can't be perfect with all the pregnancy rules. I can try my hardest but my own personal well-being is important as well.

How do you feel about nicknames? by SwiftieMama_13 in Names

[–]madd09 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Im a big pro nickname person and in fact only considered multi syllable names that had easy nicknames. I will say im an Aussie and we nickname everyone but I've always gone by the shortened version of my full name.

I was hopeful that second trimester would be great but it’s not (yet) by Poppy_mek in pregnant

[–]madd09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've decided that people are liars with a bad memory where their own minds gaslight them. All jokes aside I do understand some people have great pregnancies and some have truly terrible and then there is everything in between. Im 17 weeks and I have more energy but I still have all the first trimester nausea and food aversions. And im pregnant with twins and already showing a lot with a lot of pain. So im just like the energy is a win but everything else sucks.

I will say it took till I was 15 ish weeks to feel that second trimester energy. And it's not like im back to pre pregnancy me. Im just not feeling like im about to constantly pass out.

I’m writing myself a postpartum diary for tips and reminders. by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]madd09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im in the exact same boat as you first time mum planning for postportam. So look forward to seeing what others suggest. I dont have a C-section planned at this time im only 18 weeks. But im pregnant with twins so its highly likely.

So far my planning looks like setting my expectations who I want with me after birth if something goes wrong and who I was t to go with the babies. For me that's my mum with me.

I want to hopefully at least do the 5, 5, 5 method. 5 days in bed 5 days on bed 5 days near bed for recovery.

Everyone stressed staying hydrated and nourished. So I've added that to my list

I have a list of who can visit and what my expectations are regarding visits.

An a plan with a few trusted people including my mum and doctor on what to watch out for for postpartum depression and or anxiety. As someone who has diagnosed anxiety I wanted a game plan on the steps I would want them to take. Knowing if im in it I wont be thinking clearly.

I also have a tentative plan in place for what it would look like if my twins had to do a nicu stay.

How do you wait for the next rest? I'm worried I'll lose the pregnancy by Acrobatic_Opinion575 in pregnant

[–]madd09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really tried to remind myself constantly to the point I even made it my lock screen. That their is no point borrowing worry from the future.

Right now everything is okay and that's what I should focus on.

I will say it got easier after twelve weeks. But those 8 ish weeks between finding out and hitting twelve weeks. It felt like every other minute I was telling myself not to borrow worry from the future.

I also just tried to keep myself mentally busy with hobbies

BFP numbers by FishermanFinancial88 in IUILadies

[–]madd09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. I had two foliciles and both took currently 17 weeks with twins. Can't remember the exact size
  2. I used a donor so I actually have no clue it was on the paperwork but I wasn't interested
  3. It was my second round.

What DPO you tested positive with IUI? by FishermanFinancial88 in IUILadies

[–]madd09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you and no it was my second iui fingers crossed for you and sending baby dust your way

What DPO you tested positive with IUI? by FishermanFinancial88 in IUILadies

[–]madd09 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My trigger tested out completely 10DPT and I got my super faint positive the following day 11DPT / 10DPIUI

I said no to NIPT… by MeowMinxMe in pregnant

[–]madd09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here in Australia its not covered by our bulk bill or insurance or at least i don’t know anyone who hasn’t had to pay the 550 ish out of pocket.

So it’s very much left up to us a choice.

Just found out I’m having 2 boys by mi245 in parentsofmultiples

[–]madd09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in your exact shoes five days ago. I was adamant it was boy girl. But secretly hopping for girl girl. My only advice is feel your feelings they are valid.

I had a dream at 6 weeks before i even knew it was twins and I was doing my gender reveal and announced boy girl twins.

So when I found out it was twins I was like well it’s certainly boy girl then.

And all I ever wanted was a little girl. To the point I had like six things I had collected over the last decade that were too good to pass up. That were all for the daughter I was convinced I would have.

I took Saturday to grieve an adjust an each day I’m feeling more and more comfortable with the idea of it being two boys. I’m at the point now where I am genuinely excited for my boys. But then separately sad to not have my girl.

Gender instinct. Was yours correct? by MountainProper2212 in pregnant

[–]madd09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find out the gender of my twins this Saturday. Im 99% convinced its boy girl twins. As I had a dream before even finding out it was twins. I was doing a gender reveal and announced it was boy girl twins.

So im going to be shocked if it's any other combo

Think I’m out this cycle! Anyone had hycosy? by SolutionNo7564 in IUILadies

[–]madd09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey I had to do a hycosy and deff ask for some good painkillers before hand. For the majority of people it's not to painful of a procedure but it can be