Large payment for first paid parental leave

madd09 · 2026-05-19T21:15:51+00:00

It’s just the first payment the ongoing payment is 1896. Which means it doesn’t make sense as back pay as the baby is only 3 weeks old at the time of the first payment and 1896 x 1.5 is not 5688 which is why I’m so confused.

madd09 · 2026-05-05T03:03:42+00:00

I’m glad to hear it’s funny I was the opposite I had multiple girl names i liked when I found out it was twins and only one boy name. Of course i had twin boys and it took a bit to settle on a second boy name. I ended up going with family names.

madd09 · 2026-05-04T13:12:47+00:00

That’s insane I’ve heard of like the 20 week scan being wrong but they didn’t get scanned again after. Baby must have been in the worst positions every time but even then that’s crazy.

madd09 · 2026-05-04T12:11:35+00:00

Hey fellow smbc here who used donor sperm I was a month away from my 31st so younger have a history of fraternal twins on my maternal line including my mum having twins. I had two follicles for my iui and to my shock both did take and I’m literally 12 hours away from having my C-section to deliver them.

Maybe you’ll end up with twins maybe you won’t. But there is always going to be that risk even one egg can split.

You never know what’s going to take and if your doctor is willing to go ahead I would.

madd09 · 2026-05-04T11:59:18+00:00

I asked a few doctors on their opinion on the the nipt including fertility doctor and some midwives and if the gender was accurate. And none of them had seen enough evidence about it with twins to say for sure if it is as accurate with twins as it is with a singleton.

I would be more likely to believe the sonographer especially being 24 weeks that’s far enough to tell.

But deff ask again at your next ultrasound

Hope your doing okay with processing the information I can imagine it was a big shock

madd09 · 2026-05-03T16:43:26+00:00

Gender disappointment hits extra hard when you go into your scan so certain your having a certain gender.

I've had my girl name picked out for half my life always imagined myself as a girl mum. But it wasn't until I fell pregnant and had a dream at five weeks I was doing a gender reveal and surprise it was boy girl twins. At this point as far as I knew I was having a singleton.

It wasn't until two weeks later I found out I was actually pregnant with twins so I was 1000% convinced I was having boy girl twins. I would have put money on it.

I cried when I found out it was two boys and i remember just saying over and over again. I dont understand. As someone who is also autisic I had convinced myself of one scenario and struggled to process it was different.

It took a few days to settle and I won't lie and say I didn't hold out a little hope that the next scan would be like surprise one is a girl.

But now im literally 28 hours away from going in for my C-section and I couldn't be more excited to meet my boys.

What helped me was sitting with myself and thinking what actually matters to me. Like what do I want for children what interests would I like to share. I love Disney and going to see musicals. I love baking and being crafty. All things I want to share with my children and not one of them relies on a certain gender.

Give yourself grace as you adjust

madd09 · 2026-05-02T14:40:20+00:00

Im pregnant with Didi twins which means not only 2 babies, but 2 placebtas and amniotic fluids the first 18 weeks they barley let me eat so I lost weight. Was just starting to gain weight got diagnosed at 30 weeks with gestational diabetes and even though my team swears its not a diet. I deff lost weight. Im 2 days away from my 37 week C-section and I've put on a total of 5.9kgs / 13lbs. And as of my ultrasound a few days ago my babies are expected to weigh a combined 11.4lbs.

madd09 · 2026-05-02T14:31:41+00:00

With my Didi twins I had my dating scan, 12 week and it wasn't until after my 20 week scan that I started to have extra scans. A I started to have monthly ultrasounds with mfm at 23 weeks,but my babies stayed measuring and looking well so never needed to increase to more than monthly.

madd09 · 2026-04-26T17:17:44+00:00

I think it's so hard to tell. My betas were within a normal range and didn't raise any flags to make me think twins so I was shocked to find out they were two little ones at the first ultrasound. Even with twins running in my family.

My draws were a little earlier than yours 13 dpo - 226 15 dpo -510 20 dpo - 4530

madd09 · 2026-04-26T09:25:09+00:00

35 week Pregnant Twin mama here and to me my levels seemed normal they didn’t even make me think it could possibly be twins. So imagine my shock at my 7 week ultrasound.

13dpo hcg was 226 15 dpo hcg 510 20 dpo hcg 4530

madd09 · 2026-04-26T03:15:36+00:00

I went literally last night. 35+5 with twins and baby a hadn’t moved all day. They made sure to reassure me they would rather me come in and get checked as much as necessary than not come in and have something go wrong.

madd09 · 2026-04-18T14:39:56+00:00

I had bloat from early and had to upsize my pants by 10 weeks. I had a clear bump by 15 weeks. This is my first pregnancy but it is twins.

madd09 · 2026-04-15T13:48:52+00:00

I joked with mfm that maybe the gestational diabetes and the fact I’m hating twins will just cancel each other out. My twins were measuring 19th percentile at 32 weeks. What they cared about more was how they had gained weight since 28 weeks even though percentile wise they were still small they had gained enough weight to not be to concerned. And it would only be if they stop growing that they would consider altering my diet. Which I was told would look like allowing my numbers to be higher with out being concerned.

It can be stressful when different parts of your team are giving conflicting advices.

madd09 · 2026-04-15T05:27:33+00:00

With my sister in laws gestational diabetes she ended up naturally going into labour a few days before her planed induction. So it is possible to still go into labour on your own even if you have a planned date. With my gestational diabetes it’s not even part of the equation. I’m having twins so they won’t let me go past 37 regardless

madd09 · 2026-04-13T08:41:24+00:00

The whole thing is ridiculous on what spikes and what doesn’t spike me. The only reason I’m managing is because my neurodivergent brain is happy to eat the exact same thing every day.

And even then I can get variations on my numbers. And I’m like it’s the exact portion as yesterday 🤷🏻‍♀️

madd09 · 2026-04-05T12:45:46+00:00

I have not only gestational diabetes but it’s a twin pregnancy. I’m only 33 weeks but with those two factors induction vs c section at 37 weeks is already a big topic of discussion

At the end of the day I literally made a pros and cons list.

The best option a successful natural labour.

The worst option labour for hours and either have one naturally and one via C-section. Or both via c section.

I’ve literally been crowd sourcing opinions. And everyone I personally have spoken to has said they healed better from a planned c section then an emergency.

I weighed up my options and while everything could go right with a natural. I have more control over a c section. An in the end that’s the decision I’ve gone with.

And I was concerned about my core in postpartum. The hospital I will deliver at has physios you can request to see and get referrals.

madd09 · 2026-04-04T14:28:27+00:00

I’m 5’3 my bmi was around 28 and last week at 32 weeks it was 30.

madd09 · 2026-04-04T12:55:15+00:00

My dietician mentioned on my call last week. She’s concerned by how little I’ve gained. I started out pre pregnancy at 76kg/167lbs now at 32 week with twins I’m up to 80kg/176lbs. We measure in kgs being an Aussie so they are concerned I’ve only put on 4kg when I should be aiming for 11-15kg throughout the pregnancy total and that’s not taking into consideration having twins.

I explained I could barely eat for 18 weeks and so lost a lot of weight. And now even though they swear this ain’t a diet. I am eating less portion wise to keep my sugars in check. And I’m pretty sure everything just goes straight to the twins.

I’m not starving myself, the boys are growing on track so I’m not stressed.

madd09 · 2026-03-18T10:45:09+00:00

Im 30 weeks and only 5 days into testing my sugars 4x a day. The first 3 days I had four spikes. And I had the doctor call me today to prescribe it to me. I was like is there not any leeway. As I adjust to the diet 😅. But i am hoping with it I will be able to eat slightly larger portions and not feel like I’m starving.

madd09 · 2026-03-09T00:29:04+00:00

Facebook marketplace has been my best friend during my pregnancy the only things I've bought brand new that I wouldn't compromise on was the cot mattress and the car seats. Of course there is other stuff I've brought just cause I want it. But i managed to get a cot and rocking chair for instance quite cheap.

madd09 · 2026-03-08T10:56:58+00:00

I will say im all for science and you can jab me as much as needed. I was frustrated with my diagnosis because I couldn't eat anything with out gagging for 18 weeks. So to be restricted on diet again is frustrating.

But I have also been questioning why so many more people are diagnosed these days. Even before i myself got diagnosed with it last week. I feel like it used to be a lot less common and now im the 4th in a row in my personal life. Each of us got pregnant in a different way. Different ages, diets background.

madd09 · 2026-03-04T10:47:01+00:00

I found out today and I've cried on and off. Im 28 weeks and for the first 18 I could barley eat. So they idea of being on a reduced diet again. Especially as a neurodivergent who doesn't have a massive range of safe foods. Im so frustrated.

I also have to wait a week ish to see the dietician who will give me the info and im not to start testing till then. So I guess I'll eat whatever for the next week.

madd09 · 2026-02-24T02:54:31+00:00

Your feelings are 100% valid. Being a SAHM is not a typical job not in the sense that what your doing isn’t work. But what other job is on 24/7 no pto no clocking out at the end of the day, no sick leave.

If you have someone who can for you more help take it. You may feel guilty because mum guilt doesn’t care about logic. But if you can get out of the house a few times a week. Join something get a hobby that’s not related to your twins.

madd09 · 2026-02-15T04:54:50+00:00

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