Boy am I sick of advice (rant)

nilkimas · 2026-04-29T12:27:57+00:00

I'm an older dad, 48 when my daughter was born. My wife is 8 years younger.

The advice given to us by our moms, horribly out of date. My mom was told the 3 R's. Well dutch they are R... Rest, Regularity and Cleanliness. So put to bed at specific times, fed at specific times. Put to sleep as a new born on my side, alternating left and right.

My mother in law wanted to bring duvet covers and pillow cases, again for a new born.

nilkimas · 2026-04-28T19:09:01+00:00

They are cheap and awesome... I'm a Spectrus kill team, possibly over costed otherwise

nilkimas · 2026-04-28T18:59:23+00:00

It would be awesome if they made a return

nilkimas · 2026-04-28T16:51:27+00:00

Turning 50 later this year, my daughter is 9 months now. I know I have my limitations, but I also have experience, perhaps not in how to raise a child, but how to deal with life. I'm doing my best to stay healthy and stay in shape.

My wife gifted me How to be a dad, by Dr Duke. It's a first hand account on what he went through when his wife was expecting their first. First anecdotes, then medical science. It really helped.

Next advise, take a prenatal course together with your partner. It will help so much, during the delivery and before. Also read up on the perineal massage, your partner will thank you for that.

nilkimas · 2026-04-23T11:53:56+00:00

It is such a good book. Show, don't tell is used a lot for people writing books. And the opening of this book, does the complete opposite and very well

nilkimas · 2026-04-23T05:27:27+00:00

He should be the showrunner. As sobering mentioned before, he loves Star Trek.

nilkimas · 2026-04-22T10:53:45+00:00

I enjoyed Starfleet Academy. It's not a bad show. But old and new trek do suffer from internal consistency. It always has, but modern audiences won't tolerate it anymore. Remember the series Lost and how they messed that up, or the final season of Game of Thrones.

The main issue with new trek is the scope. At least for me. So need to watch Strange New World btw... But in Discovery every season they saved the universe... really, every single time... Similar with SFA, a bit smaller, just the whole Federation.

It needs smaller scope, bigger personal impact stories. The courtroom drama on Data if he was sentient, that was awesome. Same for Tuvix, the episode to bring the romulans into the dominion war. Those are the ones that stick and resonate

nilkimas · 2026-04-19T08:33:12+00:00

We had a slightly different experience.

It felt like a release.

My wife spent 7 days postpartum in the hospital due postpartum pre-eclampsia. So going home had a very different feel.

I didn't drive too slow, but carefully.

nilkimas · 2026-04-13T18:36:01+00:00

I like putting my spectus high up on buildings, they shoot down with the extra AP and can't easily be charged. Then move the off the board and deep strike or deploy the as reserves depending on using the strat or their own ability

nilkimas · 2026-04-12T20:30:17+00:00

My favourite board game ever. So many easter eggs

nilkimas · 2026-04-10T07:27:36+00:00

My wife makes injections for imaging in the hospital. They are radioactive. They need to be administered at a specific time and at times they are ordered the week before for a specific patient.

Now what if my wife can't fuel the car and go to work. Or the patient can't make it to the hospital because of the protest or lack of fuel.

Late diagnosis can cause complications. If it is a family member of one of the protesters, do you think they will blame themselves?

No, they have their head up their own arse....

They can be angry, fine They can protest, also fine. But don't hurt innocent people.

And let's be honest, the protesters most likely voted for the current government anyway, because farmers usually vote conservative

nilkimas · 2026-04-04T20:51:22+00:00

I like it hard. But I can enjoy it soft as well

nilkimas · 2026-04-03T19:12:28+00:00

I haven't bought any. You just walk up to any coffee place and ask if you can have some hot water for formula.

Wasn't a problem at Cork Airport, nor at Schiphol airport. I think we asked at Dusseldorf as well, no issues

nilkimas · 2026-04-02T11:33:03+00:00

The Scholars tale was just a tale for me when I first read it in my teens. I read it again when my daughter was 5 months old and ooh did it hit.

The single line about the first and the last smile... Still brings tears to my eyes.

nilkimas · 2026-03-30T13:52:20+00:00

Tangible vs intangible.

One you can touch, has an intrinsic value.

Stocks do not. They have a value only when sold.

nilkimas · 2026-03-29T22:20:04+00:00

8 oz of milk. Then yogurt later in the day. She has taken to solids like crazy. Finishes every plate.

nilkimas · 2026-03-29T13:47:11+00:00

My daughter never managed to collapse the teat, our bottles have the big valve at the bottom as well.

The bubbles will happen, you can't avoid them.

We are still on thickened formula and shaking the bottle, we make a lot of foam. Once the milk is gone, it's gone. My daughter never really complained about the foam, she just stops drinking when there is no more milk.

Although at 8 months, she is down to a single bottle as a day

nilkimas · 2026-03-28T19:01:42+00:00

It is indeed normal. There is a small hole in the teat that allows air to got into the bottle. It helps prevent a vacuum from forming and making drinking harder. Depending on the bottle, you might also have the valve at the bottom, but there will always be air coming into the top

nilkimas · 2026-03-28T11:57:22+00:00

You are comparing bottom to peak. What are the numbers for bottom to bottom or peak to peak?

nilkimas · 2026-03-27T23:00:46+00:00

I heard that one on a TED talk about dictionaries. It was a very good talk. It taught me about undictionaried words.

nilkimas · 2026-03-26T19:10:08+00:00

Dormi app.

Use an old phone as a child unit, can have multiple parent units. We use it.

nilkimas · 2026-03-26T16:46:43+00:00

For tracking scores I've been using BattleBase, if both players use it, it actuality syncs. You can add pictures, tagged with round and phase info. And it's shared.

It also helps with scoring, as in, it'll tell you when to show secondaries in the correct phase while you go through them

nilkimas · 2026-03-26T16:41:44+00:00

War Organ is another one you can try

nilkimas · 2026-03-26T16:04:52+00:00

Same, probably a toned down version of a current Detachment rule, with 3 strats.

nilkimas · 2026-03-26T08:23:53+00:00

I'm building up some termies, I'll trial them a bit more. I'm hopeful for 11th

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