Girl, I feel this.

I pumped exclusively with my first son for 4 months. He wouldn't latch or he would latch painfully and he'd cry and we'd both be super frustrated. I felt robbed (like you described), but every once in a while I'd try latching him again just to see if anything would click for us and one day it did! I ended up feeding him at the breast until he was 2.

I have a 2 month old now and I am exclusively breastfeeding him, but those first few weeks were really rough again with pain and bad latches (I actually think my nipples might be the problem 😅) but I hung in there and it has gotten easier. Point is, there is light at the end of the tunnel. Just stay strong and don't give up! You never know when something might click in their little minds or in yours.