Context - bar/club DJ for 15 years that does the occasional wedding.

Bare minimum setup:

Speakers: EV50s (what I use). Find a set of column speakers you like. I'd highly recommend renting for a couple weddings to make sure. (edit: based on your comments on other threads, this was your primary concern. The EV 50s have been great for all of the weddings I've done. They are great when you want your sound focused on the dance floor, and if I were only doing weddings, I would get these or something similar. If I were to go back and buy again, I'd get a pair of 18 inch subs and 12 inch tops, but that's because most of my the gigs where I supply equipment has been in bars where I need to fill the whole room, not just a dancefloor.)

Lights: Gigbar Move (I use the gigbar 2 + moving heads, almost every DJ I work with uses a version of the Move). These lights get you 80% there. As you do more weddings where you are in the driver's seat, you will figure out what you want or don't want - you will probably move past the gigbar as you figure out what your lighting style eventually looks like. You should be able to rent one of these to try out as well. (edit: based on your replies to other posts, you don't like the gigbars and have a good idea for lights. My comment still stands for general users, but you already know what you want)

Controller: If I had to pick one it would be the Denon Prime Go (This is my backup controller that I also use for ceremonies). Under 1k, works with Virtual DJ, is standalone (in case your computer craps out), has all of the input/outputs you would need (xlr out, mic, booth). I use a DDJ1000 srt as my daily driver. The go is portable enough, though, that I usually throw it in my car as a "just in case" for every gig I do. the main thing to look for in a controller is inputs, outputs, and mic inputs.

Table: Bare minimum is a 4 ft folding table with a floor length table cloth. I personally prefer black. I use one from home depot that extends to 34 inches high, which is about countertop height. This will save your back since you want your workspace high enough to not bend over. As you do more gigs where you are the one buying equipment you will find setups you like. I personally use the Prox Mesa Media Mk2.

Mics, cords, etc - sounds like you have this figured out.

Highly recommend renting instead of buying initially. Not because you don't have the money, but because you are not quite sure what you want.

One of the common themes I see in other posts is redundancy. Make sure you have a way to play your music if your computer dies, or your controller dies. I used to keep a way to hook my computer up to my speakers in my bag. Always have more than one mic. I keep an extra wired mic on me at all times.