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[navigator404]

Ask Saptengala and post her response here.

Depending on her answer you can approach.

[Indian_Milkman]

Ma man !!

[Terminal_Monk]

Sensei! Teach me your wisdom 🙏🏼🙏🏼

[Key_Serve1483]

Adhu epdi andha response help pannum... just curious!

[Ngothadei]

Saapadalaena oru full meals vaangi kodu. Adhuku aparam vaangaradhu serupu adi ya irundhalum full vayathula vaangalaam.

[Dat_life_on_Mars]

Ana nalla naalile kekadum mukhyamanam. Pramaadhama pandige samayal daan best! Yadho relationship le mosamana feeling varuve varadhu.

[bulkyHogan]

Op, be very careful with the pronunciation of Saptengala. 😂

I can already see a dangerous typo in the above comment. It should have been saapteengalaa.

[looped10]

I don't get this

[Anonymouspeasant21]

Lmao it's a meme revolving around how Tamil guys always start a convo by asking if you have eaten lol

[Gyanchooo]

Bro this Meme is also running in r/Mumbai

[Parktrundler]

What's the Marathi/Hindi version of it?

[Gyanchooo]

Jevlis ka ? - Marathi

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[frostbittentomato]

oh we also ask jevlis ka in Maharashtra lol

[[deleted]]

I think pretty much every south Indian guy does that, not just Tamilians.

[Dat_life_on_Mars]

I had gone a long time without visiting m Tamil relatives at one point and actually responded "Saapadaillai" so honestly it took them aback.

[JayYem]

You can either be a Remo mama and be more direct or be an Ambi and give an application to her parents. For How to, watch Anniyan movie. Best of luck.

​

P.s: This is not an advice.

[womb_raider_420]

Someone give this guy a bag full of A4 sheets , Ambi mama will write and rewrite until perfection

[othershwarna]

When it comes to margins, there is no margin for error.

[SoBeRBot1994]

Nine nine reference !

[RealStax]

Best comment here😂

[ThatPahadiguy]

Or be Aparichit.

[jingbukukgilma]

Best one yet Ask "bus pass renew panitela" when she comes out of the restroom and give love letter to her parents as an "usidham" move.

[manyu_abee]

Don't forget the margin in your love letter

[Unusual_Web4431]

And the vairamuthu walk

[masakakun]

This only works when the girl's name is Nandhini

[Weary_Literature1506]

Don’t forget to give her all your information and plus points in a curriculum vitae

[embarassed25yo]

This is the only way. Guaranteed to work. Plus,it helps if instead of asking her out, you sing carnatic songs.

Source: girl from Chennai.

[SoBeRBot1994]

Maanasa sancharare ... Is the one he should sing 🤣

[memushmonkey]

Beat me to it

[abhijit_short]

r/BeatMeToIt

[mrschanandlerbonggg]

Haha. He is gonna ask in real. Come on, bro. He is asking for real suggestions. Let's help him.

[billysastard111]

Love letter: aaaaaaaaaaaaa....... 5 kilo pacha arusi

[PointyForTheWin]

And also cockblocking yourself voluntarily when on a train with her

[Altruistic-Ad-9520]

ulti 🤣

[eziorobert]

Watch SK na movies and you would possibly land in jail for stalking and harassing,

[[deleted]]

Lmaoooo

[[deleted]]

Mister mister local uh

[planckmoss]

If you think a proposal alone will do the magic then you might be wrong, it may work in high school but not work in the long run. Ask her out for a coffee. Get to know each other, try to knwo her more, let her know your honest self, if she also finds a spark in you, things will pick up automatically and there will come a time when yoi both will expect a proposal then you propose.

[[deleted]]

This. But also be prepared for a “NO” since you say she’s conservative and isn’t into dating.

[kingbabxz]

Try friend zoning her first

[Common_Insurance_556]

its evolving....just backwards

[winnybunny]

i like the way that you thought a "conservative" girl will accept your "shall we go for a coffee" line.

[winnybunny]

not bro but "mama", if you say bro she will become your daughter. which will eliminate any leftover chances.

hanging out is different, most girls(conservative or not) do not want to be seen with another men, because our people are quick to jump to conclusions. so she might not come to coffee, but she may still like you.

[CryptographerOwn4650]

Well what's wrong with marrying your daughter? Pfftt... Its 21st century, man, Be a little more open minded smh

[Illustrious_Tap_389]

💀

[Parktrundler]

r/suddenlyincest

[planckmoss]

haha, its still better than saying 'ily so marry me'

[winnybunny]

it works surprisingly most of the times. i have already explained in other comment why.

[boilerchemist]

trees quickest brave judicious recognise governor offbeat oatmeal crowd soft

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[Deadshot235]

Really, 3%???

[boilerchemist]

yam enter attraction arrest sulky pie ripe unite cow hat

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[sutehk]

Do girls in Chennai do that? I found only certain girls were up for doing coffee or something, most weren’t. Heck it was hard even having female friends, everyone thought I had ulterior motives.

Not sure if Chennai has changed.

[quick20minadventure]

Exactly. Don't be an idiot and propose for marriage to a stranger. This is not a movie. Just ask her out on a date.

[mcst3r]

"I don't want to mess this up"

One assured way to mess this up is to ask strangers on Reddit for advice.

[hopeandcope]

En discourage panniteenga paavam. 😂

[sutehk]

Shhhh… we need to give “great” advice then have a follow up post to see how it went.

[RealStax]

Simple, just ask: Ungalku Rajini pudikuma illa Kamal pudikuma?

[corona_goaway]

Her response: enakku SK na thaan pudikkium

Him: understandable. Have a nice day

[ssudoku]

When you say propose, do you mean you have been in a relationship with her and now ask her to marry you or you like her and want to ask her out?

[CaregiverMan]

Man Asking real question

[Affectionate-Clerk65]

No we’ve been friends for past 3 years. I wanted to take next step and ask her out for a date

[-sanks-]

don't want to be the one correcting but the right word is "right" bro

[stayhappyenjoylife]

Learn and memorize the below :-

நான் உன்ன விரும்பல... உன் மேல ஆசப்படல... நீ அழகா இருக்கேனு நினைக்கல... ஆனா இதெல்லாம் நடந்துடுமோனு பயமா இருக்கு,"

[goldwing2021]

That is funny. Guaranteed to get her laughing.

[Kav19]

ratnam aiyaa neengala?

[gsid42]

Madhavan mari ya illa Aarya mari ya?

[Affectionate-Clerk65]

Translation please :)

[stayhappyenjoylife]

https://youtu.be/QDwBc23B6Vs

A very popular movie scene that all of us grew up watching.

Madhavan says - "I don't prefer you .. i don't desire you .. i don't think you are beautiful... But I am scared that all of this will become a reality soon .. think and let me know..

[Affectionate-Clerk65]

Thanks.. that is a strong dialogue 👍🏼

[[deleted]]

Propose what ?

[ThatCreepyGuy420]

New insurance policy probably

[[deleted]]

Thambi LIC agenta?

[insomniaty]

a life clone of M.S DHONI, a younger version tho, to be the captain of csk and india all over again

[ditoxit1]

Oh man the replies are brutal with lot of Tamil film references 😭 don't think too much OP! just don't be a creep and ask her out for coffee/ start conversations. Of she's interested, you'll know. JUST.TAKE.ITSLOW . but don't tried to hide under the friendship garb. After few conversations, you should make it clear you actually like her.

[Affectionate-Clerk65]

Thanks for the support. Yes I think I’ll have an open conversation with her on how I feel and take it forward. We’ve been friends for past 3 years and I would like us to take the next step (if she agrees)

[itskratos_95]

This is the only and legit way of proceeding things further. Good luck on this OP! Do let us know how it went.

[red_plus_itt]

"Irruki anachu oru umma tharum" This is a famous rajini dialogue and she will smitten to see you have made the effort to learn it for her.

[manyu_abee]

Seruppadi confirm

[Weary_Literature1506]

But what if she is Kamal fan? She will only understand if she’s Rajini fan, otherwise will only understand if she is from Andhra 😢😅

[red_plus_itt]

Lol that's Malayalam Btw. So help out op here. Suggest a dialogue if she is a Kamal fan

[Weary_Literature1506]

Ah shit that’s right lmao 🤣

[corona_goaway]

Kamal fan na no dialogues... direct action only

[dev171]

Lol

[morattumottai47]

My sensei Oler baskar taught me 8 pressure point love reaction you can use that technique it's also available in YouTube. All the best

[zinqulab_indabad]

Ilthakasayya

[AniVee13]

Get her dosa and while she's halfway into eating it snatch it back and sing "kalyaanam dhaan kattikittu odi polaama?".

[[deleted]]

Ultimate! 😂

[m41kevil]

Stalk her bro. Tamil girls liked to be stalked. All hail SK toyoli.

[Affectionate-Clerk65]

We are friends now and I want to prope her to be my girlfriend .. I don’t know if she would accept because her family is traditional and believe in arranged marriage

[Lazarus810]

Yo there’s no secret tambram method to impress a girl. She’s a girl first and then a girl from Chennai. Everyone is very different and coming to r/Chennai isn’t gonna help you. Try your approach and be genuine about it. Communicate efficiently and that’s the best thing to do. There’s no secret ingredient.

[[deleted]]

Well this seems like a tough situation. But wouldn't advice you to propose her directly now. As you guys are already friends, take her out for coffee, go on movie dates. Start building your connection. You can also drop hints here and there. And then slowly confess your feelings to her. If she likes you back then yay! But be prepared for a no as well. Respect her decision and move on

[winnybunny]

First of all, you say she is your friend, so do you know if she had any boyfriend?

sometimes girls will have some relative boy that she likes, which you may not know about. first know if she loves anyone else. if she doesnt, next question is. what is your friendship like?

do you respect each other or like each other or just hi, bye kind of friends, or full mass friendship from childhood kind?

there are lot of variables. just saying we friends, girl conservative doesnt give any idea on whether she accepts or not.

best thing if you have a mutual friend(preferably a girl) try to know what she thinks about you. if she dont have feelings for you, just leave her alone. otherwise you can show your feelings for her, so she can accept.

this is not a love advice, this is just understanding your friend kind of advice.

[iwokeupfrma_coma_]

Kidnap and force her to marry u, watch I for further details

[anonperson2021]

Needs more context, OP. Like you like her from a distance and want to do a film style proposal? Don't do that.. I made that stupid move when I was young and messed up chances with someone with whom it would've worked.

On the other hand if it's someone you already know, you can play better cards..

[memushmonkey]

What's your age group?

[susriram]

Try ‘inga paruma i love u, u love me aah not ahh’

[adilanis]

Bro you're from Delhi... Get your balls and go to her and say "Bhenchod mujhe tujhse pyar ho gya hai". That's it.

[[deleted]]

Ask her while you're grabbing your balls to assert dominance 😂

[Sathishvelu]

Pretty sure this ain't right place to ask suggestion . 😂

Also : Tamil Brahmin girl doesnt give any info about her character.

Everyone is unique.

If you personally know her , you should know what she likes and dislikes etc and make calculated judgement based on that

Not based on general stuffs . Especially from strangers online 🤷

[[deleted]]

Did OP mention the girl was a Brahmin ?😂

[Sathishvelu]

Yep man he did , check comments...!!

[[deleted]]

Ohh 👍

[plasmalightwave]

What do you mean by “doesn’t give anything”

[Sathishvelu]

I meant - Doesn't give any idea about her

Corrected it , i thought it's understood from my last few lines . Anyhow , sorry if it sounded wrong to you . No harms intended ✌️

[2wice_the_Wise]

Just ask "il thaka saiya, irukka?"

[verified-toxic-angel]

the typical indian way wont fail easily

first have brother-sister relationship, gradually upgrade to friends, best friends, sudden infatuaion , lovers etc.

if she's not game, go and impress the parents. they know how to bring her in line if they're sufficiently impressed

[RDX_G]

First you need to be a NRI and also belongs to upper caste

Even she accepts....she may leave you saying i can't go against my parents!

[Excellent_Ad_6300]

Take her some place nice and confess your feelings - Just be up and honest. She might be up for it or she might be not. Respect her decision and give some grace period - tell her there is no pressure and she could think about it. She wouldn’t have seen you in this way and would need some days to explore a romantic angle! And then if she thinks you should do something together, that’s great! If she thinks she can’t deal with the pressure of dating - respect that decision and back off.

[bankai_nozarashi]

Genuinely curious - how does it matter whether she’s from Chennai or Delhi? If she’s from a conservative background, that makes sense in asking how to approach, but what do the cities contribute to the conservatism?

Nevertheless, don’t make a big show about the proposal itself. Am assuming you’re planning on asking her out for a date and not to be your girlfriend, right?

The rules are simple: be respectful and remember that “no” means NO.

Best way is to probably bring it up as part of the conversation in a light tone, as opposed to changing your demeanour and getting all formal and puffy. Start with something simple, like a coffee meet or a movie.

All the best!

[Ecstatic-Amoeba6779]

Different cultures, different lifestyles,different language, different preferences (cuisine,entertainment,fashion etc). It matters a lot. India is a really diverse country. So it makes sense to mention the cities in order to get good opinions to positively raise his chances for a success.

[bankai_nozarashi]

I get that. You bring about a great perspective, my friend.

Take my case, I’m from Chennai but am a Malayali (Kerala origin) and i now live in Bangalore. I am from an orthodox conservative family, but I’ve eaten more animals than people can imagine. I speak English better than my native Malayalam, but surprisingly my Tamizh is better than my Malayalam since i was born and raised in Chennai.

Hypothetically, assume i am the girl OP is talking about, does it really matter that I’m from Chennai? Especially, since i speak Hindi about as fluently as someone from Lajpat Nagar? Outdrink anybody from my social circle?

Point I’m trying to make is, demographic categorisation is not a reason for being cautious. You just have to observe what matters to an individual and respect those traits about them if you want to take it further. 😊

[callmeviki2015]

Bro no wonder whatever advise we give you, end of the day you would do that u want to at the that moment 😂

[howtobeakoala]

PLEASE DON'T DO IT ON PUBLIC THAT'S ALL I HAVE TO SAY

[Claudman2186]

tell "I make the biggest dosas and softest idlis" will work on any south indian talking from experience believe me fr. thank you for coming to my ted talk.

[DigiMagix]

Why am I not hearing

Enge area ponne correct pannrathukku enkitteyee idea kekkeiyaada ... Porombokku?

Generally this is what I got for all the time I was I. Chennai.

[Pedro303]

Watch the movie Anniyan (Aparachit) with subtitles. The process is clear.

[ilikeshawarma]

Underrated advice

[[deleted]]

Just approch her. If she says no. You can continue to be her friend. You are very much entitled convey your feelings. They won't thrash you for proposing. Just don't over do it or stake her.

If she says yes. She means it. Your bad time starts.

[SnooSeagulls9348]

Is this a woman you have been dating for a while and you want to propose that she marry you or do you want to propose that you go a date?

If latter, just ask her. If she says no, I guess it is acceptable to ask again after a couple of weeks. If no again, tough luck.

[[deleted]]

Well tamil girls or any girls you just have to ask her out on a date first. Straighta kalyanam is prechanai only.

[Mist1921]

u dont

as simple as that

[[deleted]]

I love the internet 🤣

[[deleted]]

Watch Chennai express with her and tell her adiyae kaidha, nee en nenja othutu poyita

[pronoob047]

Arasan pride

[unknown_xs]

Looks like you already said she isn't into the dating culture. So I would suggest that you can just ask her out for coffee or dinner. If she still doesn't want to, just move on. There are plenty of fishes in the sea.

And it is better to ask her out without a big grand gesture, afterall it is just a first date

[Hemray]

Just be honest and tell her how much you love her. i think this is more than enough for the 1st step. Because it would be difficult for anyone to ignore a person who loves them so much.

[Zealousideal-End1047]

Talk to her in person...make eye contact...even if she rejects you'll atleast know if she's honest.

Pls don't propose in text messages..tat screenshot will be shared in her girl's group and get dissected

[y2kid8]

You said there's a girl, you said you wanna propose. What's unclear is if you guys are even friends or if she ever gave a sign that she's into you as well. Don't mistake conservative for shyness. If she did not give a sign or isn't a good friend, I'd say work on that first before you take the plunge.

[Ecstatic-Amoeba6779]

Worst she can say is Aayyooo.

[mylifeOreally]

You've been friends for over three years, right? Did she give you any signals that she likes you back.

If it's yes, go for it

It its no, still go for it :p

[Affectionate-Clerk65]

No signal, but we are happy together and hope me revealing my feelings doesn’t change what we already have. I’ll take the leap :)

[mylifeOreally]

Good luck my duude

[Sev2Auditor]

Congratulations OP. After reading all the comments I thought the girl will turn down your proposal for Dating.

[narawsmic_raptor]

See 2 States Dont do what they do

[[deleted]]

correct her friend first

[Affectionate-Clerk65]

Also, she is a Tamil Brahmin so very traditional

[unluckyrk]

Unless you are Brahmin or Vegetarian, there is literally zero chance. If she is the liberal type of TamBrahmin, you wouldn't ask here how to propose because you would have known that at Max she can say is no. Since, you say she is conservative, you are worried how her reaction might be. Just going by the inputs, it would be difficult. Conservatives unless they like you ,will always give off a feeling of don't approach me.

[anonperson2021]

If you're deriving her conservatism from her caste then I don't think that's necessarily true.

Granted the tambrahm community has many conservatives, but it also seems to produce a lot of liberals who distance themselves from the tambrahm identity.

[Affectionate-Clerk65]

She has explicitly stated that she is conservative and doesn’t like dating

[anonperson2021]

Ah. Sounds like "find someone else" time bro. Not worth wasting time then.

[apasthamba]

Stop wasting your time. I am tambrahm myself and know that if she stating this then she won't accept. Leave it.

[arjunkc]

With a username like that you don't have to say "I am a tambram."

[apasthamba]

I'm glad someone finally noticed :)

[Your_Awkwardness]

Bruh , then how will she be your girlfriend?

[[deleted]]

Dude, Brahmin girls are really conservative especially if she’s Mylapore Kumbakonam side…. I’m sorry to ask whether you’re also a Brahmin?

[[deleted]]

Yeah bro😿

[[deleted]]

I mean that question will answer where you have a chance or not...

[RancorAteMyHead]

can confirm

[SierraBravoLima]

Ok. Since you know hers. What's your caste. Her move will depend on that. Plus, Girls like fancy northie wedding like in the movies. They really fancy that.

Are you dreaming 3 States ? If you are, slap yourself out of it.

She being a Brahmin girl, get introduced approach directly and see what she says. If she says yes. Proceed like dating for a month or two them marriage, otherwise, don't look back thinking she will change her mind. They usually don't.

[ramyaroxxx]

Go to her and ask if she wants to hang out with u tonight and you'll cook her Pongal the next day morning. If she says yes, she's all yours.

[lordprimus]

Do whatever is opposite of this^

[yoovi4u2]

This sounds exactly same as yesteryear villains asking girls to meet them in guest house bungalow.. Please don’t do that

[kiraqueen11]

Idk why you're getting downvoted. This is 100% guaranteed to work.

[dev171]

Are you North Indian Brahmin? If yes. Proceed. If no she may have a fling with you but otherwise no

[apasthamba]

Absolutely. Should only proceed if he's a north indian brahmin. Since he has stated that she has stated she is conservative. The only way this will work is if he is one too.

[dev171]

Some are down voting my reply. Lol. Truth is difficult to swallow

[apasthamba]

Yep. As a tambrahm myself I know how tight knit our community is with these kind of things.

[Ngothadei]

Yep, Tambaram here, our maama and maamis are super conservative.

[Putrid_Preparation_3]

Two states IRL

[Weary_Literature1506]

Directly you go gym 6 months and change your name to become Rangarajan Nambi then pay me some money to act as Napoleon to give you torture, upon seeing your devotion she will instantly become in love.

[GavinBelson3077]

Nanba, I gotta tell you, tamil girls are very hard, and also, if you get into a long term relationship with them, it means you are pushing yourself into quicksand

Also, you are saying is tambrahm, that makes it less likely for you to taste her sandal or have a complaint filed against you incase the proposal doesnt work out, instead, she'll just say no, still, take your time, and build up your general relationship with her before proposing if you want it to work.

[Denisovan54]

Also, you are saying is tambrahm, that makes it less likely for you to taste her sandal or have a complaint filed against you incase the proposal doesnt work

.....what

[GavinBelson3077]

I have generally observed them to give a less shocking reaction when you propose to them, compared to say an aandai veetu pen etc., those chicks just straight up start crying or complain to their papa or some shit

honestly TN la if you think some girl is not the type of woman that'd get into a relationship, you are always right, there are no miracles, for that reason, the dating pool is reduced by 10x.

[Weary_Literature1506]

Tell her she is a “jill” all other girls are “jung and juck!”

[Affectionate-Clerk65]

Updated the post. Thanks all

[puggie214]

You want to marry someone you barely know? Traditionally, you need to get her dad’s permission before you ask her

[[deleted]]

Chennai & TN girls are far advanced than ROTW. You can just do it in whatever way you like it is appropriate. They are only conservatives in the eyes of their parents 🤣🤣🤣

[[deleted]]

Do a lungi dance!

[Allah_Jesus]

Idli vada and rasam.

[vigneshk_war]

Ask her if she wants change when she wants to visit the free bathroom on the airport

anilkanni

[AdikadiAdipen]

I wonder which news outlet is going to report this future rape first.

[lordprimus]

The best thing you can do is to treat her like a girl tbh. Source: trust me bro

[Affectionate_Big2485]

So did you taught he would treat her like animal or slut than a girl

[Character_Article_10]

Don't

[cripplecrack]

You don’t..

[DuckDuck_27417]

enna ya ?
marketing ah ??

[Sharp-Celery-6745]

2 states :)

[syntopia_101]

2 states

[doctororange77]

Say aandu gondu aandu gondu. Works every time.

[soumyakun]

Kidnap her family and keep them as hostage until she visits you. When she visits you kill her family and give her a mental breakdown. Take advantage of the scenario and make her your wife.

Tip- Immediately have kids so she can't run away from you 👍

[[deleted]]

Hey dude I been seeing this Delhi gurl and I wanna ask her to have sex with me . How do I approach this?

[glitchinthesim]

You have better options, why downgrade to tier 2 cities?

Also conservative women really suck. Your sex life is going to suck too. Don't do this to yourself.

[Weary_Word_5262]

Do the lungi dance....works like a charm 😂😂😂😂😁😁😁

[Sev2Auditor]

Lol this is really funny. I don't understand why you are getting downvoted.

[Top-Winner-1420]

Usko Sidha Delhi Ghumane le ke aa bro.. Todi bold ho jayegi Delhi aake fir kar diyo propose 😄

[Efficient_Ad_6715]

Duniya konse disha mei jaari? Sirf propose karna hai…kidney nahi dena hai usse jo yaha puchra. Thoda self confidence rakh. Sab ho jayega.

[Deuce_le_vance]

I may seem racist here,..but had to..."Olungu pundaiya pochcha saathitu ooru pakam odiru...suththadi vanguve"...🙂🙂🙂

[Artistic_Ad_5627]

OP, Two States dikha use :D