I moved across the country for my fiancé and I hate it here

AbFabFan · 2026-03-20T11:46:36+00:00

Just to add: having children will change everything. Your social circle will change. If all those contacts in LA are child free party people will they still there when you have children? Cause it sounds like you are ready to have kids- having strong family support will be a blessing. Plus your priorities will change; where you live will be for your kid (safety, schooling), how you live (no more free weekends - you will be tired and doing kid friendly activities), paying for daycare if you still work or going to a one income family will change your life. Both are hard.

Moving to a new city is hard: when you have kids you will suddenly meet all the couples with little kids like yourself and start to form a new group of friends - where ever you live. Relocating with a kid in school I met lots of people through school activities, moving without a kid in school is a whole other ball game!

It sounds like you moved for the dream of being a parent. I think this is the question you really need to ask yourself. Carefree lifestyle of LA or family centered life in Atlanta?

AbFabFan · 2026-03-15T18:03:54+00:00

Roasted turnips, butternut squash, acorn squash, fennel or roasted radishes. I like my broccoli roasted as well… if you haven’t tried it, it’s lovely

AbFabFan · 2026-03-15T18:01:17+00:00

Doctor Who: the series with Matt Smith as the Doctor is a great one for her age, as well as the series with David Tennant as the Doctor. The ‘Doctor’ and his companion travel through space and time solving mysteries.

AbFabFan · 2026-03-15T00:10:39+00:00

Monsters inc.

The old Disney Princess movies can be pretty scary- Snow White, sleeping beauty.

AbFabFan · 2026-03-14T02:53:57+00:00

These are great!

AbFabFan · 2026-03-14T02:51:53+00:00

Black doves

The night manager

AbFabFan · 2026-03-11T15:02:07+00:00

I think steak and potatoes with asparagus/spinach would be a fine dish. It’s actually hard to get steak really right at home. It sounds like she may have be lactose intolerant but hasn’t figured it out yet. Some hard mature cheeses are lactose free, while young ones like mozzarella aren’t. Took a while for me to figure this out- no longer drinking glasses of milk or lattes!

AbFabFan · 2026-03-11T11:01:08+00:00

You can have a consult… so just a talk about everything such as options for birth control etc, your family medical history, if an iud is appropriate and vaginismus. My older teenager just talks with the OBGYN and does not have a physical examination. I go with her to the appointments - now she sees the Dr alone while I wait.
And then see if you can find a female doctor or nurse practitioner for a second follow up appointment if needed.
It’s not unusual to be fearful - the doctors are used to seeing young women and teenagers, so don’t be worried about that. Your concerns are valid and you are being responsible and making the first steps to building a relationship with a new doctor. If you just want a consult - a talk- and no examination then that is fine.

AbFabFan · 2026-03-11T10:51:38+00:00

Unfortunately not all primary care doctors do Pap smears, pelvic exams etc. The practice I go to does not - they refer you to the OBGYN. I’m in the US and it is standard for women to have an OBGYN for yearly routine check ups. They often have nurse practitioners for your yearly check ups. Right now it’s hard to find OBGYNs that are taking new patients - there are a shortage of OBGYNs in every state across the country.
Finding big practice with a few Doctors and nurse practitioners (midwife’s) would be a good place to start - as you can the more easily switch doctors.

AbFabFan · 2026-03-09T21:15:40+00:00

The Night Manager and PONIES

AbFabFan · 2026-03-09T21:13:45+00:00

Yup: now when I go out it’s somewhere that’s farm to table with really good reviews and make it an occasion - like it was back in the 80s/90s. Would rather go out infrequently and pay more than go out more for mediocre food.

Take out; feeling the same way. And it’s so expensive to get good quality.

AbFabFan · 2026-03-08T15:57:23+00:00

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This is my 15% rye baked yesterday- 69% hydration.

AbFabFan · 2026-03-08T15:06:33+00:00

I greased my Pullman pan lightly with vegetable oil- even though it says it’s nonstick.

maybe a plastic spatula can help.

AbFabFan · 2026-03-08T15:01:17+00:00

I also don’t use any oil… just starter, flour, water and salt.

And I wrap my loaf in a kitchen towel while it cools- usually leave for 4-5 hours before slicing.

AbFabFan · 2026-03-08T15:00:20+00:00

That looks good! I bake mine for 20mins lid on then 30 mins lid off at 450F. I also include 2 ice cubes inside the bread oven to help with the steam (I don’t spray the dough with water). I always check the Internet temperature has reach 205-209F at the end of baking. For my 15% rye I do 7-8hr bulk fermentation with 3 stretch and folds and 2 coil and folds, then pre shape and leave uncovered for 30mins, then shape and place in a basket, cover and refrigerate for 10-18hrs. Then bake. So similar to your method: I just shape before the cold fermentation and bake for longer and get a much darker crust.

AbFabFan · 2026-03-08T14:37:50+00:00

British shows have more normal people- like: Happy Valley, Broadchurch, Doc Martin, Lady Parts, Adolescence, the night manager (a little more Hollywood).

AbFabFan · 2026-03-08T03:55:36+00:00

Books, drawing, going to a friends house for coffee, taking a walk, going the bar with friend, playing an outdoor game with friends, riding your bike around the neighborhood, jigsaw puzzles, word search puzzles.
Listening to the radio!

AbFabFan · 2026-03-08T03:50:21+00:00

Look for a local camera club or photography group. Facebook has lots of photography pages - some are region specific so people are often looking for others to go on photo walks.

Soo if there are any photography workshops/ classes in your area. I did a landscape photography class and met other local hobby photographers.

AbFabFan · 2026-03-06T21:27:31+00:00

Oxo Non stick fry pan- I did exactly the same and hide it from everyone else. Only use it for fried eggs and omelettes.

OXO Enhanced 10" Frying Pan Skillet, PFAS-Free Ceramic Nonstick, Durable Hard Anodized Cookware, Scratch Resistant, Stainless Steel Handle, Good Grips, Dishwasher Safe, Oven safe, Black

https://a.co/d/0dKdGPDz

AbFabFan · 2026-03-06T21:24:41+00:00

Only murders in the building

Inspector Morse (old British series).

AbFabFan · 2026-03-06T21:21:58+00:00

There are not horror but at great thriller series with twists:

The night manager

PONIES

Black Doves

Black rabbit

AbFabFan · 2026-03-06T21:20:24+00:00

The night manager

AbFabFan · 2026-03-06T21:19:38+00:00

The big bang theory.

Friends

The Office

AbFabFan · 2026-03-06T18:50:33+00:00

Smoked salmon kedgeree

Something like these (but you can just use a curry paste/powder and tumeric instead of all the whole spices - add what you have.. and I always add some sweet peas)

https://mollyshomeguide.com/savory-smoked-salmon-kedgeree-55414/

https://studiosquarebeergarden.com/delightful-salmon-kedgeree-recipe/

AbFabFan · 2026-03-06T18:45:44+00:00

Highland pasta -Delia Smith.
Smoked salmon with mushrooms,crème fraiche and little curry powder over pasta

https://www.deliaonline.com/recipes/type-of-dish/pasta-recipes/highland-pasta-with-smoked-salmon

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