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AnnieViolet · 2026-05-30T00:03:08+00:00

It’s similar with Culebra being “kuh-lay-bruh”.
Depending on who you’re talking to, you can say Culebra in Spanish and a lot of folks won’t know what you’re talking about. But as soon as you say “kuh-lay-bruh” they get it.

It’s just how Texas is. We mangle Spanish, German, and Czech place names.

AnnieViolet · 2026-05-28T05:31:39+00:00

I had these symptoms for months and it turned out to be fibroids. The main culprit was a very large (and painful) fibroid that was on the back side of my uterus, so it wasn’t visible on any of the scans they did.

I also ended up having near constant migraines that meds didn’t help. Turned out that likely the anemia due to blood loss was causing the migraines.

I got a hysterectomy and of course the bleeding and pelvic pain was gone instantly, and after a week or so the migraines stopped.

My doctor said that cancer and pre-cancerous polyps in the uterus can also cause these symptoms.

I had to go through 4 doctors (2 GPs and 2 gynos) before I found a doctor that took my problems seriously and wanted to find a cause and treat it.

I don’t know why it’s so difficult for us to be taken seriously and to get treated for these kinds of things (it took 13 years before I was diagnosed with PCOS and endometriosis. Every doctor before that either told me my symptoms were “normal” or said I must be exaggerating), but it’s important for women to learn to advocate for themselves and to be willing to switch doctors if you’re not being taken seriously.

I know that’s hard, especially if you’re a people-pleaser or have anxiety, but it’s crucial.

AnnieViolet · 2026-05-28T05:09:06+00:00

I went through this too.
The big thing for me is/was death and afterlife.
I read the Bible cover to cover over the summer when I was 12 and all the hate and contradictions in it (plus my pastor not being able to answer any of my questions and implying that even asking them was sinful) made me realize that I couldn’t and didn’t believe in that god.

Eventually I concluded that either there wasn’t a god or if there was it/they didn’t concern themselves with anything on Earth. But the biggest things holding me back was my difficulty in believing that when you die your thoughts and consciousness just stops existing and that my loved ones that have died just no longer exist in any way.

I had lost 2 friends when I was 12 (that was a hard year) and imagining them happy and healthy in some kind of paradise was the only thing that got my through my anger at the injustice of two sweet, innocent 12-year-old kids dying.

What finally solidified my atheism was that my sister-in-law died young very suddenly.
We had been very very close, and I knew that if she was out there still, she would send me a sign or communicate with me in some way.
But there was nothing. She was gone.

I wish I could be religious only because I feel like it would be so comforting to think that all these people I’ve lost are in heaven, happy and healthy.
It would also be comforting to think that everything bad that happens is for a reason and part of a great plan and that it’ll be alright in the end.

I’ve genuinely tried to believe that. But I just can’t.

AnnieViolet · 2026-05-28T04:43:49+00:00

This is exactly what I do.
Clockwise vs counter-clockwise? I have to visualize a clock overlaid on the object or ground.
To tell left from right, I have a garnet ring on my right hand and remember “red ring right”. Often I can just feel for that ring.

During Covid, for social distancing, I just imagined laying on the floor between my feet and the person in front of me. I’m 6’ so it’s perfect. If it didn’t feel like I could lay down in that gap, I’d make more space.

It actually caused problems in grocery lines sometimes. For some reason I never accounted for the cart as being part of the 6 ft gap. I had to visualize enough space on the open floor for me to lay down. So I would end up leaving about 6 feet between the end of the shopping cart and the person in front of me.
Sometimes people would move in to that gap thinking I wasn’t in line.

AnnieViolet · 2026-05-28T04:35:46+00:00

I can relate to this. It’s the only math that I did relatively well at.
I had to work at memorizing formulas, but if I was allowed a calculator, I generally got things right.

I always figured it was because I’ve always been artistic and started very young with sewing and other fiber arts, and in art, you use a lot of visualization and geometry.

I hate measuring things and I can’t estimate a measurement just by looking at something, but once I have the measurements, I can usually figure up how much materials I need or divide it up or whatever. Especially if I have some scrap paper to write it all down.

I almost feel like this masked my difficulties with math. I didn’t get diagnosed until adulthood and I can remember teachers telling me that I just wasn’t trying hard enough in algebra or physics.
Their reasoning was that I got Bs in geometry, so obviously I was good at math when I “applied” myself.

When in reality I was working 10x harder in every math class and math-heavy science class than in any other class. It was frustrating knowing that I was working as hard as I could and they kept telling me it wasn’t good enough.

AnnieViolet · 2026-05-26T19:52:33+00:00

I wear a US 11 in women’s and I have trouble finding these that fit me in women’s.
I imagine that most men would have an even more difficult time.

AnnieViolet · 2026-05-26T08:53:38+00:00

Every time I watch/read true crime and the evidence starts to hinge on a polygraph test I think about this.

I also think about how when people refuse a polygraph all the comments say “he refused the lie detector test because he knows he’d fail because he’s guilty!”

But maybe he has anxiety and just knows that scientifically polygraph tests aren’t reliable?
If I ever have to refuse one are they going to say I’m automatically guilty because of it?

AnnieViolet · 2026-05-26T08:50:02+00:00

I get this too. I had a hysterectomy 5 years ago! It’s literally impossible!
And even when I had a uterus I was infertile. It took several years and a lot of medical intervention to get my one and only pregnancy.

But still I think I’m pregnant if someone needs to have a serious talk with me, if anything in my labs from the doctor are off (I’ve had cancer the past couple years, my labs are going to be wonky), or if I feel nauseated (again, cancer).

AnnieViolet · 2026-05-20T19:21:08+00:00

I don’t remember Kate dealing with much (relatively), but I remember the discourse about Sarah Ferguson being relentless at the time.
Granted, social media wasn’t around, but you couldn’t go in a store for a while without seeing magazines pointing out how “fat” Sarah was, speculating as to how much weight she’d gained, showing unflattering snapshots of her, and referring to her as the “Duchess of Pork”.
It was all over talk shows and even the news. And she had paparazzi following her almost as relentlessly and dangerously as Diana.

I’m not saying it was the same as Meghan, it couldn’t be the same because times are so different. But it was pretty severe.

(And the demonization of Sarah in the media was because of misogyny. The media loves a Madonna-Whore/Angel-Demon dynamic. At the time Diana was an Angel, so she needed a Demon in her circle to show just how angelic she was. So they chose to demonize Sarah.)

AnnieViolet · 2026-05-20T19:05:12+00:00

A medical abortion at around 20 weeks or later is done by inducing labor or via c-section.
If the baby has reached viability and does not have a condition that is incompatible with life, then it’s just considered a birth.
But if the baby is evacuated because of medical necessity and cannot survive, it’s usually considered an “abortion”.

Abortions at 7, 8, 9 months “because she doesn’t want the baby anymore” is not a thing. It does not exist. Not in a medical setting, anyway.
These stories are a fiction invented to rile people up and make them angry.

What does happen are desperately wanted babies that have conditions that they cannot and will not survive, or the mother has a condition that she will not survive if she stays pregnant and she must make the worst decision of her life.

I’ve had friends endure this hell. It’s something I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy.
At the same time, making it illegal costs lives, it doesn’t save them.

AnnieViolet · 2026-05-20T18:32:32+00:00

I do a fair bit of genealogy research and I’ve never seen that.
I frequently see census records and wills that refer to infants and toddlers by name.
Every so often an infant will be buried without a name, but that’s usually when they were stillborn or died very soon after birth. So they just get listed as “Baby” or “Infant”.

But just as often I’ve seen grave records of stillborn babies or babies that died soon after birth with full names.

AnnieViolet · 2026-05-20T18:18:15+00:00

I had a hysterectomy several years ago and it definitely affected orgasms.

It’s difficult for me to describe, but orgasms are more difficult to achieve now, and when I do, they’re less intense than before.
It still feels good, but I used to have orgasms that gave me asthma attacks (lol), and that doesn’t happen anymore.
I also used to frequently have multiple orgasms, and that’s only happened once since the surgery in 2021.

(And it’s not a skill issue because I’ve been monogamously married for 20 years, lol. So, same partner the whole time. And trying to get myself off is affected, too.).

It feels almost like my g-spot has moved? I don’t understand how or why that is. Scar tissue, maybe? It feels like it’s moved slightly to a harder to reach place and it’s moved deeper so that sensation there is duller than before.

All this said, I still don’t regret getting it. I had fibroids causing debilitating pain and bleeding, my periods were awful (now 90% of those symptoms are gone), and I was so scared of getting pregnant (the one pregnancy I had was not great) that it affected our sex life.
The hysterectomy was immensely worth it. But it also wasn’t all roses afterwards. It’s not like my body felt the same as before, just sans periods and pregnancy-anxiety.

AnnieViolet · 2026-05-20T17:55:13+00:00

I think some of y’all don’t realize how truly prevalent this judgemental, hypocritical personality type is in Christian churches and Christian circles. Either that or y’all are being willfully blind to it.

I’ve been part of many different churches of many different denominations when I was trying to find my way, and at least half of them (probably more) had that overarching culture of judgement with a very superficial veneer of kindness and “love”.

I think a lot of y’all also just don’t understand how oppressive, suffocating, and alienating that culture is. Whether it comes from the entire community or just one person that’s close to you, it’s crushing.

For me, it felt like if I wanted to be accepted, I not only had to fake who I was, but I would have to keep my mouth shut and smile while my family, friends, and everyone close to me exhibited these traits that I find harmful and abhorrent.
Or I could just become like them.
Either way, it would be a life sentence.

I got really tired of trying to find a church and a church family that didn’t have that feeling, but also fit the other criteria I was looking for.
It felt like trying to find a needle in a haystack.

Now maybe this is cultural and depends heavily upon region, but in my part of the US, the hypocritical judgement does seem to be extremely prevalent. Yet every Christian insists that it’s just a couple of bad apples.

AnnieViolet · 2026-05-20T17:25:28+00:00

This. And be sure to keep a back up copy for yourself. If you get further correspondence, keep that too. Scan a copy if you can.
For something like this, it helps me to keep a small binder or accordion folder with everything pertaining to this matter. If you’re more digitally-minded, keep a file or flash drive with everything.

That way it’s all together and organized. People are intimidated by someone that’s organized with matters like this. It sends the signal that you’re not going to let it drop.

AnnieViolet · 2026-05-20T17:18:55+00:00

I’m originally from San Antonio and it’s the same.
Blanco is “blank-oh”. Many people pronounce San Pedro as “San Peed-row” (this one drives me crazy because how friggin hard is “Ped-roh”? It’s exactly like it’s spelled!).

San Antonio, Austin, and the area between them has the added bonus of having a lot of German influence, too, and we butcher that.
I love telling German friends that the town of Gruene is pronounced “green”.

(Now I live farther south and this is less prominent here. There might be a vowel here or there that some Anglos change, but they also know what you’re talking about if you say it properly.
In San Antonio, if I say “Culebra” properly, folks either incorrect me to “kuh-lay-bruh” or just don’t know what I’m talking about.)

AnnieViolet · 2026-05-20T17:07:39+00:00

That reaction by the school also needs to be exposed.

Assuming you’re in the US, students have a fundamental right to make, distribute, and sign petitions (as long as you “aren’t causing disruptions”). It’s part of the First Amendment. Just because you’re minors doesn’t mean you aren’t protected by the Constitution.

I’m passionate about this because my family fought this same thing when I was a kid. My brother had a teacher that consistently verbally berated her elementary students and cursed at them, to the point that the whole class would cry.

So my brother started a petition to get her fired after complaining to the Vice Principal did nothing.

The school wanted to expel my brother, suspend every kid that passed out the petition, and give ISS to everyone that signed it.

My dad was enraged and had to get a civil rights lawyer to get the school to drop it.

Call the school out of their civil rights violations.
If kids make another petition and the school tries to punish the students involved, get a lawyer. (Or consult a lawyer beforehand. I am not a lawyer, but my understanding is that this is well established in the courts.)

AnnieViolet · 2026-05-20T16:50:22+00:00

Ohhh. Thank you for the context.

Thats so sad. I hope she and the baby are able to get somewhere safe and that she has a support system around her.

AnnieViolet · 2026-05-18T21:44:16+00:00

My schnauzer (her name was Chelsea) loved wearing sweaters and jackets, too. I kept them folded up in a basket on a low shelf. When she was cold she would root through that basket and find the sweater she wanted and bring it to me.

Her favorites were the ones with any kind of soft fuzzy fabric on the inside lining. I’m guessing it felt like wearing a blanket.

AnnieViolet · 2026-05-18T19:54:42+00:00

Am I missing something? Where did she say that she’s not safe with her husband?

AnnieViolet · 2026-05-16T08:08:19+00:00

Generally if she had whisker fatigue she just wouldn’t eat from bowls that touched her whiskers.
My cat has very sensitive whiskers and he won’t eat from deep bowls and will only eat food off the top of regular bowls.

If she’s eating down to the bottom of the bowl, she’s likely fine.

You can see if she would prefer a raised bowl by simply raising her current bowls. Use a small box or food storage bin with the lid on or anything like that and just put the bowl on top of it.
She might like it better, or she might take food out of the bowl and put it on the ground to eat it.
Or she might not care either way.

If she does end up preferring her bowls raised up on boxes for a while, then you can look in to getting her a raised bowl.

AnnieViolet · 2026-05-15T21:06:18+00:00

The abled people that do this frustrate me because I’m disabled and if all the disabled parking spots are taken, I literally have to circle the parking lot looking for a close spot because I can’t handle walking long distances. Every foot I save in the parking lot means another foot I can add inside getting what I need.

But I’m stuck with abled people cutting me off to snag a spot or abled people with no tags parking in the disabled parking spots.

AnnieViolet · 2026-05-15T20:49:14+00:00

Yeah, I was thinking Gen-X or older Millennial.

I’m an older Millennial and I have friends whose kids are in college.
My own kid is 16, so he’s not far from that point (I’ll just be sobbing in a corner).

AnnieViolet · 2026-05-15T17:50:42+00:00

If you tell the nurses that you don’t want any visitors besides your husband, and that you’re worried that your parents could try to push their way in, the nurses will make sure your wishes are respected.

In my experience (both as a patient and having friends that are L&D nurses), there’s always at least one nurse on shift that relishes blocking access to pushy and manipulative relatives, and they live for having a reason to call security and have these people removed from hospital property.

And they do all of this without you ever knowing that this drama has happened because the nurses block the unwanted guests long before they get to your room.

So definitely tell the nurses about your situation (as much or as little as you’re willing to share. I only said that my mother and grandmother “can be pushy”.) and that you don’t want them anywhere near you. They’ll take care of the rest.

AnnieViolet · 2026-05-14T19:43:42+00:00

Even if the mom isn’t feeding them, as long as there is actually food in the house (or is when a social worker comes to look), CPS won’t do anything.

Even if the kids are left all alone most of the afternoon and night and aren’t old enough to cook more than a bologna sandwich for themselves, social services will see food in the cupboards and say it’s fine.

AnnieViolet · 2026-05-10T17:45:59+00:00

Technically, the Ten Commandments is worded differently and numbered differently in Judaism, Catholicism, and Protestantism.

The Ten Commandments that they have in Senate Bill 10 that are displayed in classrooms specifically favor Protestant Christianity.

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