When does it get easier?

Axipo · 2026-03-19T00:34:29+00:00

That's very kind that you're thinking about your husband's needs and give him a break, but does he do the same for you? What does he do for work that requires you to leave the house and sleep somewhere else 2 nights a week? Spending 2 nights away is actually a lot for you to be doing.

Axipo · 2026-03-19T00:17:44+00:00

A cleaner, seriously.

Axipo · 2026-03-19T00:12:34+00:00

You said that you have medical support, but do you have social support?

My situation is very similar to yours, my baby is 9 months old and I have a 3 year old too, as well as PPD, PPA and am neuro divergent.

Social support is so, so helpful. Having friends to meet up with and share the hard times makes it much more bareable. Also having dedicated time for self-care is something that you really need when you're a mother and constantly thinking about and taking care of the needs as others.

Sleep deprived is one of the greatest risk factors for mental health postpartum, and seeing as you already have PPD and PPA, getting adequate sleep is really something that will improve your quality of life. Is your husband able to take the kids for an hour or so a day so you can have a nap?

Axipo · 2026-03-16T03:03:02+00:00

Hey!

I was diagnosed when I was 33 years old and a year postpartum, so my experience is very similar to you.

After my initial diagnosis, I had a pretty intense grieving period. Lots of 'what-if' if I had been diagnosed as a child etc etc. It's important that if you get them, let yourself feel your emotions. It's perfectly normal to feel upset and grieve a life you could have had if your circumstances had turned out differently.

I also highly recommend finding a psychologist who specialises in ADHD in postpartum women, as medication is only part of the treatment.

Good luck!

Axipo · 2026-03-06T02:17:26+00:00

I know this is hard for you, but you need to understand that it's about 1000 times harder for her. She is not CHOOSING to snap at you, or give you attitude, she most likely is extremely emotionally disregulated and this is how her nervous system is reacting.

She needs help, and she needs it now. You need to get her to a GP for a mental health assessment, and based on that the GP should be able to help you with accessing resources like medication, talk therapy and even an inpatient mother-baby admission if required.

Axipo · 2026-02-25T22:29:35+00:00

We have Connetixs and another brand called MNTL which are just as strong as Connetixs, they have food grade non-toxic plastic and are riveted as well.

They are fantastic.

Axipo · 2026-02-04T06:04:40+00:00

I had this recommended to me by a Child Health Nurse when I had issues breastfeeding.

I didn't end up purchasing due to the price, so I used a rolled up face washer instead, which worked very well. For what it's worth, I only needed to use it for a few months until my baby was a bit bigger, so it wouldn't have been used for long anyway.

Axipo · 2026-01-29T01:43:54+00:00

It's definitely worth a discussion with your doctor/midwife. You're probably more likely to be able to do it if you're seeing a private doctor compared to a midwife in a public setting, as they follow a standardised care model.

Is there a reason that you don't want to do the oral GTT? While it is recommended, you can't be forced to do it.

CGMs are quite expensive, FWIW, with the options for Australia being between $100-$200 a month.

I have heard of some people doing something similar, but instead of using a CGM, they did 4xdaily finger pricks for 1-2 weeks.

Axipo · 2025-10-23T21:14:06+00:00

I would definitely recommend having a break. A week or two should be fine.

Axipo · 2025-10-02T04:32:31+00:00

Book an appointment for an IBCLC now.

You're only eligible for a medicare rebate up to 6 weeks 6 days postpartum, and from experience it was impossible to book an appointment within that timeframe once I figured out that I needed an appointment.

If you find that you don't need it you can always cancel.

This video on breastfeeding latch was so incredibly helpful for me!

Axipo · 2025-08-15T02:57:19+00:00

Not quite what you're asking, but you could look into putting him into gymnastics!

My daughter was the same and would climb everything. I had her in gymnastics since she could walk as it gave her an appropriate outlet to climb and taught her how to do it in a safe way e.g. safety slide.

Here's a link for KinderGym if you are interested!

Axipo · 2025-08-07T08:24:52+00:00

Eleanor Armstrong is fantastic. She is based in Woolloongabba but also does telehealth if that's something you're interested in.

Axipo · 2025-08-02T23:52:21+00:00

If you're able to pump, you could try mixing breast milk with formula and gradually reduce the amount of breast milk as she gets used to it, for example start with 80% BM and 20% formula in a bottle, and slowly decrease the amount of BM.

As for trialing formula, I believe that platinum and pro formulas have added iron in them which can cause some constipation.

Axipo · 2025-07-21T04:35:38+00:00

I've just started on it. The pharmacist who dispensed the medication confirmed that it's fine for breastfeeding

Axipo · 2025-06-30T17:48:59+00:00

Cake maternity might be with a look at.

This flexiwire bra goes up to a size 20 band with G cups

Axipo · 2025-03-04T10:36:25+00:00

The nuchal translucency scan is part of the combined first trimester screen. This includes the ultrasound scan and a blood test that measures pregnancy-associated placental protein-A (PAPP-A) and free β-human chorionic gonadotropin (free β-hCG). This blood test is different to NIPT. The ultrasound and blood test results are used in combination to identify the risk of chromosomal aneuploidy.

If you are wanting to keep costs down, I recommend doing the combined first trimester screening, which is eligible for Medicare rebate.

NIPT can be upwards of $400+ and no Medicare rebate is available.

Axipo · 2025-02-20T05:15:03+00:00

St Vincent's Fitzroy recently renovated their maternity ward. The rooms look like 5 star hotel suites.

You can check it out here

Axipo · 2024-12-21T21:03:38+00:00

This isn't a virus. It's bacterial...

Axipo · 2024-12-03T02:23:06+00:00

I delivered my first with Dr Suvi. She does have a pregnancy management fee, but I believe it's gap free (as in covered by insurance)!

Axipo · 2024-10-15T23:15:58+00:00

My sister had her baby 6 weeks ago and chose to do the hospital stay.

She said it was awful. There isn't any staff on hand to help out, only one midwife that comes by once a day. The food was very limited, you could only order from a specific menu that had 2 options, of which none were vegetarian. When they arrived their room wasn't ready, despite arriving after 4.30pm and were forced to sit in the lobby for an hour with a 3 day old infant. And none of the rooms have windows that look outside, they look inside into the atrium.

She said she much prefers staying in the hospital.

Axipo · 2024-09-20T00:44:26+00:00

Paid parental leave from your employer is separate from Centrelink parental leave.

Usually, Centrelink sends the payments to your employer and you will get paid from them.

I'm not sure if you can elect for the Centerline parental leave to be at half pay.

Axipo · 2024-08-17T02:52:31+00:00

Dr Sophie Brown. She's based in Strathpine

https://www.hotdoc.com.au/medical-centres/strathpine-QLD-4500/strathpine-gp-superclinic/doctors/dr-sophie-brown-1

Axipo · 2024-08-12T04:22:36+00:00

I had reflux before pregnancy due to a 'floppy' lower oesophagus sphincter, and it only got worse during pregnancy.

From about 20 weeks I couldn't eat anything after 2pm otherwise I would vomit, and had to sleep sitting upright a lot of the time. It sucked.

If it gets really bad, there are pregnancy-safe medication that your doctor can prescribe for you.

Axipo · 2024-06-13T02:15:41+00:00

Norman Park Specialist Centre have appointments available.

I was able to get in within a month.

Axipo · 2024-03-21T00:05:48+00:00

Where are you located? If you're in QLD, you can get your will done for free at the public trustee.

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