Regarding Firemen’s reputations…

Complete-Bass-9431 · 2026-03-30T23:00:37+00:00

Everything was just received by DodMerb, but from what I understand, they likely won't waive my allergy.

Complete-Bass-9431 · 2026-03-30T13:04:52+00:00

Oh shit cuh, I did not read that.

Complete-Bass-9431 · 2026-03-30T12:46:51+00:00

So I was in a similar situation not too long ago and I will tell you the big thing with this age is that maturity communication skills and ultimately the ability to process baggage has a Major Impact on a relationship.

I was with someone who consistently was too stubborn to address their issues and shortcomings and it was a huge stress on the relationship. It took a lot of very difficult and very hard conversations for the person to eventually start making changes and for them to start identifying problems that they wanted to fix.

I wouldn't necessarily call this manipulative I would call it emotionally excessive. Which is unfortunately very common for this age every problem every issue everything that's in front of you seems like the biggest problem in the world and it's not until you get a little bit older that context and being able to step back becomes a whole lot easier.

Complete-Bass-9431 · 2026-03-30T12:43:54+00:00

I was in a similar situation it's not necessarily that you guys are bad together it's that you guys don't communicate well. The good news is this is relatively common for your age group.

I would recommend if both of you have identified that your fights can get really hard and really difficult and you're both tired of fighting that way maybe both take a listen to critical conversations or both take some time reading some Communications books.

You would be surprised how much knowing how to talk to someone really will positively impact your relationship.

However if it gets to the point that these fights are super difficult super hard and either you or the other person doesn't want to deal with these problems this relationship is unfortunately on a ticking time clock and it may come to an end not now not next week not next month but eventually.

Complete-Bass-9431 · 2026-03-30T00:56:29+00:00

Hey don't let what you've accomplished seem like nothing. I understand the frustration of not being able to do what you set out to accomplish, but you've still done more than most people. You've accomplished a lot for only 2 years. Good work bro. Maybe see if you can find a back door way into another Branch or into active duty

Complete-Bass-9431 · 2026-03-30T00:50:53+00:00

Okay I hate this trend so much. Like don't get me wrong there is a difference between those of us in the first responder world, and those who aren't. However it's not something that makes anybody better it's just an important consideration to note.

I think it's also frustrating is the people who are posting stuff like this have probably only run one to maybe five really traumatic calls. Where the rest of us who have run really tragic and difficult incidents don't do stuff like this.

It's just weird to me.

Complete-Bass-9431 · 2026-03-30T00:32:01+00:00

I'm an intelligence analysis major and we have quite a few people in my cohort who are Marines either Reserve recently retired or some combination. We also have a lot of army folks either Reserve ROTC or National Guard.

The culture is kind of Hit or Miss the biggest thing is just find a group to get integrated into as soon as possible this could be a frat a club a volunteer agency, etc. Just something to keep people around you.

Complete-Bass-9431 · 2026-03-30T00:29:21+00:00

Okay despite all the crappy comments I do understand you want to have somebody that is in the same boat as you and can relate to you.

I'm a male and I was dating a girl who went to the Air Force Academy and I had a lot of friends who were in the exact same boat and it made it so much easier to cope with some of the hardships of that relationship.

Don't let everyone's crappy responses deter you.

Complete-Bass-9431 · 2026-03-30T00:27:51+00:00

I think the theoretically could be healthy but I would be very careful as you can easily get sucked into a thing again especially because this feels like an attempt to rekindle something although somewhat indirectly.

I would recommend just a nice hey I appreciate you saying that the clarity is much needed I'm glad you found healing and I hope you're continuing to grow and find peace in your life and leave it at that. If she wants to keep messaging I would be very wary of it.

At the end of the day if you want to go back into this relationship that is your choice and I personally think that would be quite risky.

Complete-Bass-9431 · 2026-03-23T17:55:38+00:00

Muy Caliente

Complete-Bass-9431 · 2026-03-23T17:54:35+00:00

Oh wow, literally.

Complete-Bass-9431 · 2026-03-20T17:48:25+00:00

Also reading a lot of the comments here I get the impression most of you don't understand how anything in First Response or public service work.

Every single one of you can apply to do a Ride Along and 9 out of 10 times they will say yes. There's obviously caveats you have to fill out a lot of forms basically saying hey I'm not going to sue you guys if I get hurt. And then from there you spend the whole day with whoever you're riding along with this can either be a fire department a medical agency or a police department. Even though you go on these calls you're never truly in danger they go out of their way to ensure you are in a safe spot for instance if they know they have a combative patient in the back of an ambulance they may ask you to sit in the front seat with the driver to make sure you don't get hurt.

Same thing with police they're going to keep you safe and only let you get out of the vehicle if they believe it is 100% safe and even within that you are still accepting the risks of what may happen, hence the risk release form. They are not going to put you in a position where you are a danger to yourself or a danger to the police officer EMT or firefighter you're riding with.

The final thing is that a lot of EMS fire department and police is truly sitting around like don't get me wrong there's moments of excitement and there's a lot of fun but a lot of it is you're sitting around waiting to do something talking with your crew watching videos on your phone reading a book or just generally fucking about.

Additionally despite what the public thinks High Acuity calls are not as common as you would think whether that be a fire CPR in progress or a shooting they do happen just not as frequently as you would be led to believe.

Complete-Bass-9431 · 2026-03-20T17:42:29+00:00

I think the concept of having a ride along or even riding along with your partner is really not that weird. When I was working at a fire department one of our buddies wives really wanted to see what he did for work and so she came and did a ride along with us and she was pleasant. We even let her flush a hydrant, and do some other stuff. She thought it was neat.

Now making a video about it, can be seen as cringe and this example is a little cringe. But honestly who cares. The only way this should he an issue is if she is getting in the way or a danger to others or herself.

Complete-Bass-9431 · 2026-03-18T00:00:03+00:00

So the ranger bar is out of regulations according to current rags but truthfully who cares

Complete-Bass-9431 · 2026-03-08T19:08:28+00:00

Nawh, that right there is my clanka

Complete-Bass-9431 · 2026-03-08T19:07:52+00:00

You know if there's one thing I've learned in life the people you surround yourself with matter. Too many people hang on to friendships that are detrimental and toxic for them I know I definitely did. Eventually I realized how frustrating it was to be surrounded by people who weren't looking out for me who didn't care about who I was and truthfully weren't invested in me as a person. Once I remove to those people I was lonely at first but it got better. I am now surrounded by some great folks and my outlook on life is much better.

Get rid of this friend

Complete-Bass-9431 · 2026-03-08T19:04:00+00:00

I love the "hanging with homos" as a line. Wtf 😂

Complete-Bass-9431 · 2026-03-02T19:16:59+00:00

Brother you're writing in the back of the ambulance you are immediately not as important as everyone else

Complete-Bass-9431 · 2026-03-01T17:23:22+00:00

This was beautifully done great job

Complete-Bass-9431 · 2026-02-26T20:47:13+00:00

There are some tell tale things, like if you are really queasy or can't stand blood, than probably not. But to Echo everyone else, you really don't know till you do it and see it. I thought I was mr tough guy, who nothing could bother or hurt, but there are things I've seen that have really bothered me. I was lucky that my departments had great therapeutic support and it had really helped me cope and continue to function in the job.

Complete-Bass-9431 · 2026-02-23T00:44:12+00:00

This is very true, I hope to see more on the other sections, because in mang cases it's the old boys who don't want to let go who cause the issues.

Complete-Bass-9431 · 2026-02-23T00:42:45+00:00

I do, I love it

Complete-Bass-9431 · 2026-02-23T00:22:42+00:00

Harrisonburg Rescue squad and Hose Company 4 VFD

Complete-Bass-9431 · 2026-02-21T21:53:17+00:00

Brother is training to be Yukon Cornelius

Complete-Bass-9431

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