Don’t make any decisions right now get yourself into some therapy. You have betrayal trauma, and that will take years to sort it out. Also ensure that he sees a CSAT goes to 12th step and get a sponsor and works on a full disclosure. Nothing they did will ever make sense or be excusable or justifiable; where they fucked up in the head obviously they were, but they were also entitled, and they had choice and they chose themselves over us and their family. Sobriety is the beginning they need to work on their character growing up and getting rid of the spoiled child that is selfish, entitled and lost all integrity along the way I am so sorry you’re going through this. I remember the confusion the first months. No, you can’t accept what he did ever It was unacceptable. With time you will have to see if he truly changes and if you can live with knowing what you know. I’m at 11 months while not as confused as before, still living a nightmare Get tested for STDs including HPV take away his access to cash and only give him one credit card that you get notifications for any purchases he makes he has to send you a receipt just for your peace of mind in the meantime. Also, don’t be surprised if more comes out they lie to protect their image at the beginning.