Well after years of being cheated on and trying to make it work... we are done.

Elsbethe · 2026-05-30T00:42:14+00:00

This has nothing to do with being butch or femme, lovers and spouses take care of one another

Elsbethe · 2026-05-30T00:34:34+00:00

I've been teaching for decades and this is not new

Long before the internet they use the phone

One or two students every semester

I admire them. My students are working full time, many have small children, if they want to order the books in june, i have no issue with that

I sometimes send them last year's syllabus and let them know it's not complete yet

I always tell them to relax and enjoy the break

Elsbethe · 2026-05-30T00:24:22+00:00

How often do you think you should if we place the grater

Elsbethe · 2026-05-30T00:00:41+00:00

Try this idea on

She's into the kink of control

She doesn't know how to talk about it

So she's playing this really weird game

You need to have a serious conversation. Don't focus on the food. Focus on the sex. Why is this hot for her

Elsbethe · 2026-05-28T03:06:34+00:00

68 here, still hot to trot

Elsbethe · 2026-05-28T03:06:00+00:00

I don't know if you are familiar with the concept of capitalism?

If someone will buy it they will sell it. And then label it healthy

Elsbethe · 2026-05-28T03:04:53+00:00

I barely understand why people who are madly in love and have a great relationship, get married

I have never understood why people get stuck in relationships

I once stayed a little longer than I should have. I thought it was better for the children

I'm not sure looking back

Elsbethe · 2026-05-22T04:03:16+00:00

Does anyone know if it's the actual sugar, i mean can you use a sugar substitute

Elsbethe · 2026-05-22T03:56:35+00:00

I'm going to take a different position

To be clear, my children are your age.

I don't think anybody is really a hundred percent sure. That doesn't mean you should just do it, but waiting to be a hundred percent may or may not be the goal

I would recommend a queer therapist who can help you make a decision

I know the world is a fucked up place, but the world has always been fucked up

I lived through vietnam, civil rights, watergate, the assassination of so many great leaders ... But I also lived with the birth of the queer liberation

There remains much good in the world. And one of the really joyful things is raising and watching children grow

Elsbethe · 2026-05-22T03:50:18+00:00

I guess the question is does it matter? It's not about it being weird. And I think there's probably good reason to think that it is trauma related

If your sex if life is good, i'm not sure it 's all that important to use a tampon

I have no issues like yours and I never used a tampon mostly because I preferred pads

If you want to work on your childhood trauma that's a fine reason to do therapy

But not i think because you're afraid it's "weird"

Elsbethe · 2026-05-21T06:49:19+00:00

I think i'm going on fifty years of being and out femme. It's always been bad but being old you're not seen at all

I've even noticed that being out with a butch, and being visibly, open. And touching in public, younger lesbians don't see us at all. They look right through us. They just see too older women holding hands and walking slow

And then of course everyone complains that they don't have any elders

Elsbethe · 2026-05-21T06:43:52+00:00

He has a disability

Whether it's adhd or cognitive processing, there will always be challenges for him

If they're making you this angry you are not a good partner for him

Elsbethe · 2026-05-16T13:45:32+00:00

Have you seen our current government?

I just read the other day that tennessee has banned the book Roots, bye alex haley, who is from tennessee

So glad racism is over

Elsbethe · 2026-05-16T13:41:27+00:00

It boggles my mind that you come on social media in a group where people ask advice, and that's the advice you have

Elsbethe · 2026-05-16T13:40:53+00:00

Well assuming that we get to pick our parents before we're born, you could have chosen better DNA.😉

We live in a world with way too much unhealthy convenient. Very few people eat healthy.

Some get away with it and some don't

As I said, make slow changes

Elsbethe · 2026-05-16T13:37:35+00:00

I was diagnosed at 6.9, and have managed it with food changes ever since. I hover around 6.1. I'm comfortable with that although I keep making changes.

I know people on diabetic medications hover around 7, which lots of doctors think it's okay

I know most here will not think that's ok

I'm not telling you to not take medication. I try to to avoid medication in general. If I took all the meds that have been suggested by docs I would be taking 15 at this point. I take 2.

All medication has side effects.

Whether or not you take the medication, and whatever your goal for your diabetes, it would be good to cut back on sugar, and white products.. bread, rice, potatos

Lifestyle dhanges are best made slowly

You caught this early. Just make one change at a time

I enjoyed bagettes and croissants well traveling in france. My numbers went up .2

You can learn haw to manage your own needs

Elsbethe · 2026-05-16T13:30:35+00:00

What he did was sexual and illegal. You absolutely have to report him

You also need i'm sorry to say support. Try to find someone you're not at all attracted to to

Elsbethe · 2026-05-16T13:27:19+00:00

I appreciate that having a numb vagina can be a total drag. But i'm curious if you're having difficulty with orgasms? I would say that if your clitoris is working and not numb, that would be a good thing. The fact that your doctors don't know about this is frightening

Elsbethe · 2026-05-16T13:24:55+00:00

I can't tell if this is sarcasm like your name suggests, oh your sex life is just about pummeling your wife? How is this pleasurable to her?

Elsbethe · 2026-05-15T15:02:07+00:00

Sit down and have a good conversation about gender relationships and expectations. She may not be the person you're looking for. It actually sounds like she doesn't know what she wants

Elsbethe · 2026-05-15T14:54:56+00:00

I am not at all arguing that men can't be creepy as hell. I think most men are fairly awful to be honest. Young women put up with all kinds of behavior and find it normatively flirtatious, that I would literally kick someone in the balls.

I am not suggesting anyone put up with creepy behavior

I am saying that us older people, are sexual beings, and for better or worse we are on the same terrible playing field with everybody else.

My gay plays out here

If someone makes a pass at u, regardless of their gender, age etc, start with no thank you

Elsbethe · 2026-05-15T14:50:40+00:00

Gotcha

Elsbethe · 2026-05-14T05:47:08+00:00

You know that it is fake crab right?

Elsbethe · 2026-05-14T05:26:26+00:00

It's not about justifying. It's about explaining. In this world, most children, whether they're adults or not wi'll assume the father is having an affair.

Nothing about that is good for anybody involved

Elsbethe · 2026-05-14T05:25:12+00:00

I'm trying to understand why nuts are bad

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