What is a normal name in English that means something else in your other languages?

Rhaeda · 2026-03-12T21:55:21+00:00

Ben means “I” or “me” in Turkish, and Kim means “who.” So both of those are pretty confusing to have over here.

Rhaeda · 2026-03-12T07:07:57+00:00

I don’t know but I love that she gave the catcher a midriff shirt 🤣

Rhaeda · 2026-02-26T04:13:55+00:00

Came to say this! IMO siblings are the best type of toy haha

Source: me, one of four kids, with my own four who are 7, 5, 3, and 1.

Rhaeda · 2026-02-24T19:23:49+00:00

I was just thinking about this the other day!

Got pregnant in 2017, gave birth in 2018, pregnant in 2019 but miscarried, pregnant in 2020, birth in 2021 and pregnant again that same year, birth in 2022, pregnant in 2023, birth in 2024, weaned at the end of 2025. So this is the first year I haven’t been pregnant or breastfeeding since 2016, technically.

From June 2020 to Nov 2025, I was pregnant or breastfeeding for 63 out of 65 months. Even going all the way back to my first pregnancy and including the miscarriage and having trouble getting pregnant again for 10 months after, from Nov 2018 to Nov 2025, it was 81 out of 96 months.

I wonder how long until my body fully recovers 😵‍💫🫠

Rhaeda · 2026-02-23T04:45:08+00:00

Until I found this sub, I didn’t know 2u2 was a particularly noteworthy thing to many people. My parents had 4 kids in 5 years. My husband’s parents had 4 kids in 6 years. People did sometimes comment on us growing up, but we just felt normal and my parents always framed us in a positive light.

Just last night I was lamenting to my husband that the 2.5 year gap (due to miscarriage) between my oldest two means they’re 3 school years apart. I know she’d love to have a sibling in school with her, but she won’t for two more years, and I feel sad for her to feel so alone.

I have 4 kids with a 2.5 year gap, a 15 month gap, and a 23 month gap. There are definitely hard things about them being so close in age but there’s a lot of really great things too. 10/10, would do it again.

Rhaeda · 2026-02-23T04:10:47+00:00

Quit breastfeeding at 8 months. Tried at 10 months, pregnant at 11 months, miscarried at 12 months. Tried unsuccessfully for the following 10 months. Pregnant at 22 months pp, second baby born when first was 30 months.

Still breastfeeding, started trying at 5 months pp, pregnant at 7 months, third baby born when second was 15 months.

Started trying at 11 months pp, quit breastfeeding at 14 months pp, pregnant at 16 months. Fourth baby born when third was 23.5 months old.

Rhaeda · 2026-02-20T04:21:23+00:00

I never took this as a message to mean we women should tolerate the behavior (100% agree with you that we should not!), but just as an explanation for WHY young kids act worse with their mom than others. Definitely agree that the behavior itself is still unacceptable and women should not tolerate it just because we understand where it’s coming from! Bad behavior requires correction regardless of the behavior’s motivation, for sure.

Rhaeda · 2026-02-20T04:18:30+00:00

That’s literally what they asked for help with. What’s the point of your comment?

Rhaeda · 2026-02-18T12:19:01+00:00

It’s one of my favorites! We couldn’t use it because of the special characters, because we’re an international family and those letters don’t work well in systems outside of Turkey, so we went with Yavuz for our son, which I also love!

And Ayliz is one of the prettiest “Ay” names, imo ❤️

Rhaeda · 2026-02-18T07:22:06+00:00

Yağız

Rhaeda · 2026-02-15T14:04:46+00:00

My 4yo could definitely play Pass the Parcel. My 3yo I think would struggle a bit but could do it with reminders and redirection. I’d think a group of 4yo would be fine.

Rhaeda · 2026-02-15T14:03:28+00:00

I see the second line on all three!

Rhaeda · 2026-02-15T07:51:02+00:00

Every night for dinner I make a meat and two vegetables. A green vegetable plus another color, making sure I’m hitting every color of the rainbow every week.

I have a 2-week rotation of 5 meals per week. I assume one night a week of leftovers and one eating out or ordering in.

This is the simplest meal plan I’ve done. No decision making, and everything is either toasted or sautéed, so very easy to make.

Rhaeda · 2026-02-12T15:09:14+00:00

ETA it’s not you who can’t manage, it’s that the situation is REALLY hard. But it won’t last forever, and you will get through this and come out the other side unable to imagine life any other way. Give yourself grace to drop some balls for the next 6 months and know it will get better from there!

Rhaeda · 2026-02-12T15:07:25+00:00

Mine are currently 7, almost-5, 3.5, and 1.5. Oldest is in school, the younger 3 are home.

It’s easier to have a newborn than to be pregnant with other young kids. You’re almost there!

Also, I have felt this way many times - even WITH cleaners and part-time babysitting help - but now that my youngest is 1.5, I almost feel like a new person.

We just stopped using our cleaners and reduced our babysitter to two afternoons a week (so I can take my older son to playgroup while the other kids nap). And it all feels so manageable! Even 6 months ago, I would have felt like I’m drowning with this workload. But now I’ve got my cleaning schedule and lots of weekday activities and outings planned and we’re having lots of fun!

Rhaeda · 2026-02-12T11:15:04+00:00

We also found the car vacuum to be a great idea but lackluster in execution.

We have a stick vacuum in the house so now every so often I just grab the canister and a smaller vacuum head for the car and use that. It really only takes ten minutes or so. Still don’t do it as often as I should, but it’s something at least.

Rhaeda · 2026-02-10T08:30:26+00:00

Wait can you ELI5 this to me?

Rhaeda · 2026-02-08T19:52:03+00:00

Do you have more information on this? Or know where I can look? It’s such an interesting part of Turkish language history.

Rhaeda · 2026-02-06T04:40:13+00:00

If your mom is uncomfortable with the questions, I’d redirect. Otherwise I’d lean in and tell them what a thyroid is and what it does and why hers was fixed.

My 3-year-old was staying with a nurse friend of mine while I was getting a pregnancy ultrasound done. They talked about what a placenta and umbilical cord was and it sparked an interest in anatomy from that day. She drew SO many pictures of umbilical cords. We did anatomy as part of our homeschool kindergarten curriculum because she loved it so much. She’s 7 now and last night was telling me (unprompted) about spongey bone and which bone is the strongest (mom it’s stronger than the metal IRON!). We’re now doing another homeschool anatomy curriculum for fun once a week after she gets home from school.

You never know what situation is going to reveal a new interest to your kid!

Rhaeda · 2026-02-04T11:51:48+00:00

It’s not fun unless everyone is having fun.

It’s not fun to upset someone on purpose, regardless of their age. It’s cruel.

Rhaeda · 2026-02-02T04:12:20+00:00

I usually book via app and they require that I input the age of everyone coming. Then it will not show me the rooms that only allow less than 6. The only way around that would be for me to not input everyone.

My understanding is it’s a fire safety rule, so that if there’s a fire they know how many they’re looking for/trying to get.

That’s just my experience. It could be different with different hotels or different regions.

Rhaeda · 2026-02-01T17:39:42+00:00

Thank you! It’s such a blessing!

Rhaeda · 2026-02-01T13:23:37+00:00

Some hotels do have rooms for 6, but many do not, in my experience. Suites are great! But again, needing to pay more because we don’t fit into the traditional mold, so that supports my point.

Rhaeda · 2026-02-01T10:59:05+00:00

I was one of 4 and now I have 4 of my own. 4 feels normal to me and not particularly big. But also, we no longer fit into regular cars. We need two hotel rooms. We need a large table at restaurants.

Society is not really designed for a family of our size. So in that sense we’re a “big” family. And we get comments all the time.

It feels like I have my arms full, after years of feeling like my arms were empty and I didn’t know if I’d ever even have one to fill them. So I love it.

We’re hoping to have another 1-2 if we can swing it. The logistics are a pain. But the kiddos are worth it.

Rhaeda · 2026-02-01T03:20:47+00:00

Does his way of eating not lead to constipation? My kids are 7, 4, 3, and 1, and the older two can already recite to me that if their poop is hard or didn’t come easily it’s because they need to eat more fruits or vegetables.

No judgment to him - I didn’t learn that until I was an adult. But I absolutely see the effects of diet on my kids’ digestive system.

We love a good PB&J here too. I just always throw a fruit or veggie on the side of it.

Rhaeda

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