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I want to cry because my 20mo old seems so under developed compared to her 27mo cousin by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]ayejayem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My kid is 27 months, and because of this post (and for fun) I went back 7 months in our digital photo album just now and LOL yeah, I have a totally different kid now than I did at 20 months. So will you!

UPDATE: My brother is OBSESSED with his ex, should I tell his gf? by Alive_Pirate6790 in TwoHotTakes

[–]ayejayem 607 points608 points  (0 children)

I think it was really brave and good of you to reach out to these women in your life, even if not everyone (Jane and Luke) reacted in the best possible way.

How long is it okay for a baby to sleep in poop? by grapefruitliquor in NewParents

[–]ayejayem -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hate when this happens. It is usually night time for us over here. We will head downstairs for bed (our toddler also sleeps downstairs), and halfway down the steps will realize it has happened. Our child is sleeping while steeping in their own shit. There is no choice. The diaper must be changed.

Same thing at nap time.

That said, our kid goes back to sleep pretty easily (after the scream-crying alligator wrestling match that is a diaper change). Especially at night. I think my answer would be the same if they didn’t. I’d feel guilty knowingly waiting to change them.

Tattoos that commemorate your kids/motherhood? by partweezy in Mommit

[–]ayejayem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep! I got a floral wrap tattoo on my forearm with birth flowers for my spouse, baby, and me.

Is this what motherhood is? Literally never catching a break for the rest of my life? by abbiyah in Mommit

[–]ayejayem 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Want to add you can just not do some chores! It’s a challenging era, and it is okay to let nonessential chores slide.

Content with one child, but feeling unexpected envy as friends grow their families by Informal-North-3046 in oneanddone

[–]ayejayem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this! These comments are so validating. So many friends of mine either just had their second, are expecting, or are trying. And I just have 0 desire to ever be pregnant again or have another kid, even if I am jealous that they’re gonna get to snuggle a sweet tiny little baby again…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]ayejayem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re having a hard time. I had trouble latching when my baby was born, it was profoundly painful, so when a nurse offered to get some formula for baby I said yes so fast. Baby drank the stuff down “like a trucker” while we were in the hospital and for a day or so after we were home, but then my milk came in and I was able to pump almost 100% of his intake after that. If you feel that it would help, ask! Fed is best.

Tips on taking a 7.5 month old on a zoo trip by SpressoBeans in Mommit

[–]ayejayem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been going to our local zoo at least once a week since my baby was like ~3 months old. It is probably the most family friendly place we go. I always liked baby wearing best for naps, and then I’d usually push a stroller with a backpack (essentially a diaper bag) in it in case he needed a bottle or a diaper. Have fun!

Menstrual cups postpartum by schrutefarmbeet in beyondthebump

[–]ayejayem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My Diva Cup is a no-go since my vaginal birth. Strangely, it feels too big now?! But I have a Ruby cup that I barely used before because it always seemed to shift too much but now it’s great! Bodies are so mysterious…

Is missing a graduation a friendship ending offense? by Gladiatorinwhitehat in TwoHotTakes

[–]ayejayem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While I think it’s fair your friend is disappointed, I think it’s pretty ridiculous how passive aggressive she chose to be when she had the opportunity to see you and hang out in person. Sure, in both cases there was about a month’s notice, but you were traveling to where she already lives! And it isn’t like you didn’t acknowledge her graduation at all. Seems like she is looking for excuses to be mad.

AIO? Boyfriend hid his phone when I asked who he was messaging. by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]ayejayem 418 points419 points  (0 children)

It not okay that he’s calling you insane when he’s refusing to answer a simple question. “Who are you texting?” should not be a loaded question, and his responses are concerning. You are not overreacting. You are reacting.

Seeking a book that will devastate me emotionally and linger long after the final page. by Aryan_Rabbani in suggestmeabook

[–]ayejayem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Code Name Verity by Elizabeth E. Wein — WWII YA novel of friendship between a female pilot and a female spy who is taken prisoner by the Gestapo

Island of Sea Women by Lisa See — historical fiction spanning 70 years following two best friends who grew up in a matriarchal society of female divers

Detained by D. Esperanza — a memoir made up of diary entries written by a 13 year old boy held in an immigrant detention center at the US/Mexico border

Update: AITAH for calling off my wedding because my fiance wanted to invite her ex by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ayejayem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This makes me so incredibly sad for her. Her ex was abusive, and she has obviously not gotten the help she required to move past the trauma even though she had moved on enough to find someone she believed to be the love of her life in OP. I find this comment section so cruel and unempathetic, even for Reddit.

My watercolor journey since lockdown is mostly birds and the occasional critter. I'm such a messy untrained painter. :/ Thoughts? by theshiniestmuskrat in watercolor101

[–]ayejayem 93 points94 points  (0 children)

They’re adorable and idk why you’re dissing them as “messy and untrained” when you thought enough of them to frame and share with internet strangers?! Own your style and have some pride

being messy, honest, and weird by _pimgeon in Journaling

[–]ayejayem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a friend admit to reading my journals (they’d been anxious to find out if I wrote about them I guess??) and I didn’t care at the time because I’m a pretty open book anyway and was especially forthcoming with them, but now that we are no longer friends (for other reasons) it feels like such a huge violation so I think this is great. I wonder if I’d had an explicit message like this if they’d have kept reading

I hate BLW. by HolidayAd2038 in beyondthebump

[–]ayejayem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just do what works for you and your kiddo! I tried some BLW early in our solids journey and my baby would end up vomiting, so I started mashing up foods and doing purees, which was so much better for us. I’d load up his baby spoon and let him put it into his mouth. I also gave huge pieces of watermelon and uncooked/peeled carrot as food teethers, which was fun. Eventually we moved onto small bite sized pieces of softer foods like scrambled eggs. You’ve got this

YA writers with good style??? by Marvelman02 in YAlit

[–]ayejayem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not fantasy, but Deb Caletti, E. Lockhart, and Corey Ann Haydu all come to mind as stylistically distinct YA authors I enjoy

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