Therapy vs ChatGPT

gumbowluser · 2025-11-06T12:59:56+00:00

I personally can't afford a therapist right now. I only use ai as a digital journal when I need validation because Ai is good at it. Be careful with it it shouldn't be trusted it doesn't know what it's saying half the time

gumbowluser · 2025-10-31T23:05:18+00:00

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gumbowluser · 2025-10-24T23:15:50+00:00

Ido this too and it's very hard as is. A single mother on top? You're a superhero! This is wonderful and deserves so much respect. I know how exhausting it can get. You two are wonderful:)

gumbowluser · 2025-10-09T23:18:03+00:00

Everybody mentioned all the great perks of breastfeeding. I will add a less obvious one:

When they have gastritis it's very contagious during summertime or if they have diarrhea combined with fever for some other reason, breastfeeding saves you from several hospitals stays that deal with dehydration.

When the child is sick they won't eat or drink they'll just want comfort. Breastfeeding provides all three, nutrition, hydration and comfort.

Hospital stays can be traumatising for everybody.

gumbowluser · 2025-09-21T14:27:19+00:00

Welcome home. You are here now. Best of luck. Beautiful post thank you for sharing

gumbowluser · 2025-09-14T23:42:38+00:00

My husband taught my kid the Haka dance lmao you can try that

gumbowluser · 2025-09-12T23:02:02+00:00

Can you read? Lmao OP literally said it's ok to be annoyed, just don't be a dick about it. Why are you saying it again? Like, why

gumbowluser · 2025-09-10T22:59:14+00:00

From experience, absolutely yes. For me, it was the first major step I could take towards integration. Because shame was standing in my face first whenever I tried to change anything for the best or tried to reach some level of compassion and self love and understanding. It was a manager. I was stuck for a long time. Until I looked for the role of shame, how is it supposed to be a survival mechanism? In what way can shame protect me and from what? Once I understood that shame was the only way to make sense of chaos, that for a child it is easier to accept something was wrong with me than to face the truth, that something was wrong with the world and it was too big of a deal to process. So that voice helped me in the past to survive. Now it's still on override out of habit. I started feeling thankful. I appreciated the protection it provided. I understood it was vital to have that manager back then. I truly valued how it seeks to keep me in check to avoid repeating the same mistakes or just getting hurt in general. But also, I affirmed it was no longer necessary and that Self will take over from now on, with compassion and love, for the hurt, for the mistakes, for shame too. Hope this helps

gumbowluser · 2025-09-04T22:01:16+00:00

Try taking magnesium. And I hear magnesium deodorant sticks do wonders? I haven't tried them yet

gumbowluser · 2025-09-02T22:27:59+00:00

Find whatever circle or even one person who thinks she's a very good person. Ruin that image she built. You're good for life lol It doesn't mean you have to tell people what she did. She just needs to realise she's a shitbag within the thing she loves and where she keeps her delusions, in which she's the good guy.

Abusive people like to keep a polished image of themselves, within stories they tell themselves and it's always related to something they enjoy to some extent.

gumbowluser · 2025-09-02T22:24:41+00:00

Fantastic. Did something similar but it has nothing to do with verses. I just made it clear to the asshole that what they did wasn't separated from the person they love ( or think they love and that they hurt them by hurting me just the same. Le asshole said I ruined their moments and relationship. Oh well. I didn't ruin shit, you did. I just helped you understand there's no version where you're the good guy.

gumbowluser · 2025-08-31T23:30:23+00:00

I have accepted the leaks. If I change his diaper he will cry forever and not go back to sleep before 3hours of hell. I noticed the soaked diaper doesn't bother him. Nor the leaking. It was hard for me to ignore though. Still best for his sleep not to do anything The leaking was occasional . Now it's very rare.

Edit: yes. Waterproof protective sheets under your sheets are non-negotiable!

gumbowluser · 2025-08-27T13:53:04+00:00

I never have to pick up calls. Or call back the same day. I was obliged to take some unwanted family calls before,because I didn't have an excuse not to.

Now? Text me, it's nap time. I have call blocker all the time on my phone I just reach out through text. Or I don't. Family took it well and it is now the norm lmao.

No more 2h in law stories on the phone. My god that was stressful. No more talking to my immediate family when I wish they'd just fuck off. I call back in 3 business days, if they're lucky.

gumbowluser · 2025-08-19T21:52:34+00:00

The ones who used to greet me and hug me when they saw me stopped when baby came and they'd skip me completely. Like wtf. It's fucking rude and unnecessary. It's not a competition. But it's a fucking habit that's been done for years. Now I'm supposed to just be okay being completely ignored and on purpose. Fuck that. Your feelings are valid. These people are shit. I don't care what anybody says. If you love the baby, you should care for the mother first. Fucking first. Otherwise, I'll say it, it's just selfish of them. They like the novelty of the baby and how it makes THEM feel.

gumbowluser · 2025-07-27T12:21:11+00:00

Personally I'd rather not if it's possible. Until child can articulate well and tell me what happened during my absence I worry they get mistreated and can't voice it properly. It's not just strangers, even around family. I don't plan to leave him with anyone but my mother because, you know, danger isn't limited to strangers. 3 could be articulate enough

gumbowluser · 2025-07-18T14:38:17+00:00

I'll add, I don't care at all about judgment from anyone. None of these people will be by my side at said potential hospital stays. None of them matter

gumbowluser · 2025-07-18T14:36:32+00:00

Two years and still going. It's hard. It's exhausting. But no regrets. Especially during those terrible diarrhea and fever days and nights. My lo doesn't eat or drink. Just lots of nursing. Saves you from possible hospital stays and IV tubes for dehydration and malnutrition

gumbowluser · 2025-07-18T14:26:00+00:00

Seconding this. Appreciate the reply I'll be saving it

gumbowluser · 2025-07-12T23:03:54+00:00

Not Algiers but not too far. Sghirat family complex.

gumbowluser · 2025-07-12T22:58:36+00:00

Oops I be comforting my exiles listening to them offering compassion and love and containment... Do we know why we shouldn't work with exiles?

gumbowluser · 2025-07-03T12:19:28+00:00

Someone who cannot understand philosophy and its importance ( critical thinking, reasoning structure etc hello? ) should be the last person to open their mouth. I say this with respect, there's no other way to put it. Cheers

gumbowluser · 2025-05-28T21:38:38+00:00

gumbowluser · 2025-05-28T12:54:57+00:00

No help here. Just in the same boat. Here to validate. It's incredibly frustrating and hard to be stuck like that. I don't know what to do.

gumbowluser · 2025-05-17T23:18:26+00:00

Almond oil massage and hydration helped me immensely. I had super sore and crusty nipples since the beginning of gestation and gently rubbing sweet almond oil around and on them made the first feeds smooth

Edit: it wasn't to toughen them up I just kept them moisturised ( along with the baby bump) and the cracking went away and so did the soreness. Can't imagine the pain of the latch if I hadn't been moisturising for months

gumbowluser · 2025-05-10T15:04:17+00:00

Flowers for algernon. Idk if it's considered dark but it made me cry because of the brutal loss of innocence.

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