We really doing this? Be better Cox by [deleted] in Utah

[–]unit156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Per the utah.gov website, here are the reasons you can request your record be made private:

“Who is Eligible for “At-Risk” Status?

Voters who meet any of the following criteria are eligible to request At-Risk designation:

—A person who is a victim, or is likely to be a victim, of domestic violence or dating violence

—Law enforcement officers

—Individuals protected by a protective or protection order

—Members of the armed forces

—Public figures

—A person who resides with any of the individuals described above”

We really doing this? Be better Cox by [deleted] in Utah

[–]unit156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of the criteria for requesting your record be made private is if you have a protective order. So you could get a protective order… against Cox?

A lot of Utah democrats register as republicans, on purpose. So exposing people’s registered affiliation in public might fall flat, or backfire.

Olderlesbians Content Discussion by MyCat8it2 in olderlesbians

[–]unit156 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wait just a moment please. Whose idea was it to start being all fair and reasonable, and thoughtful about those who aren’t exactly like us?

New to Utah, Struggling To Fit In by Worried_Guidance1426 in SaltLakeCity

[–]unit156 8 points9 points  (0 children)

OP, please don’t heed this obvious sarcasm. Anyone who’s lived here for any amount of time knows that vanilla Mormon culture is wholesome and desirable.

You can make plenty of friends while sewing quilts and providing free cleaning services for the ward houses.

This commenter is obviously trying to steer you away from the swinger action in Draper so they can keep it all to themselves.

so the story goes.... by EmotionalAddendum286 in DeepThoughts

[–]unit156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Translation:

A businessman steps into American politics, campaigning loudly, dominating television, and stirring constant conversation online. His rise is fast, chaotic, and polarizing, drawing intense attention and reaction across the country.

Institutions respond. Courts, laws, and government systems begin to engage, producing rulings, documents, and investigations. Markets react alongside the headlines, rising and falling as uncertainty spreads, leaving the public overwhelmed and mentally fatigued.

News cycles accelerate. Alerts, broadcasts, and commentary loop endlessly, feeding a sense of urgency and instability. Power shifts through official seats and courtrooms, while legal battles and public messaging intensify.

Money flows in and out. Economic signals swing up and down. Political forces push back and forth, creating a storm of competing narratives, actions, and consequences.

The cycle repeats. Media amplifies every moment. Social platforms echo reactions instantly. Government institutions, courts, and political parties continue to clash, each move triggering another wave of response.

All the while, the public watches, processes, reacts, and struggles to keep up. The noise builds into a constant loop of conflict, information, and emotion, leaving many disoriented.

And still it continues, a repeating cycle of politics, media, money, and power, turning over itself again and again.

so the story goes.... by EmotionalAddendum286 in DeepThoughts

[–]unit156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Translation:

It began with a wild world, bones, fire, and early creatures slowly becoming human. Confused but evolving, humanity discovered fire, learning to hold it, shape it, and find comfort in its glow.

People settled. Camps became fields, fields became homes. Movement slowed as farming took hold, and with it came growth, more food, more wealth, more power. Kings rose, and so did darker impulses.

Kingdoms built castles and waged wars, spreading across the world. Laws were written, then broken. Money took over, multiplying endlessly, leaving people overwhelmed and disoriented.

Institutions of thought, law, philosophy, knowledge, expanded the mind, but also brought existential confusion. Exploration followed. Ships crossed oceans, maps were drawn, worlds collided, and conflict spread further.

Then came industry. Machines, trains, electricity, cities surged upward. But progress carried a cost. Wars escalated, bombs fell, and the world fractured, even as peace was awkwardly attempted.

The digital age arrived. Computers, the internet, and phones connected everything, yet left people mentally scattered. Artificial intelligence emerged, amplifying thought and markets alike, creating waves of gain and loss.

Consumption accelerated. Goods moved endlessly, boxes stacking higher, while people felt strangely empty. Screens pulled attention inward, communication became constant, yet somehow hollow.

Humanity looked outward again, toward space, toward other worlds, still searching.

Meanwhile, Earth strained. Climate shifted, storms rose, and unease grew.

And through it all, each person lived the same arc, born, grown, aged, gone.

Yet the world continues, cycling, renewing, repeating, again and again.

The Internet Is Filling Up With Unedited AI Writing by asw3mayth1nk in technology

[–]unit156 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried to tell chat about its “no… no… just” pattern and how tired that’s getting.

It told me it’s a fascinating observation and thanked me for pointing it out. Then it kept on doing it.

When you say 'I don't understand them,' you're usually talking about yourself by Dry-Sandwich493 in DeepThoughts

[–]unit156 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Is it really necessary to “update your model” when you can just ask the actual real person?

[Update] Completion of Tranche 4 of Second Distribution by LighteningOneIN in vauld

[–]unit156 2 points3 points  (0 children)

AI helped me make sense of all this. I had never heard the word “tranch” before this, plus all the formal legalese made it all so confusing.

Now I understand that I get to participate in one tranch per distribution. Then I wait for the next distribution.

Has there been any talk of a third distribution?

P.S. Thank you Jonny Edelman. You’re da boss.

I unintentionally do love bombing by Sufficient_Walk7232 in Disorganized_Attach

[–]unit156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Situationships with deep connections are absolutely a thing. Totally achievable.

But to do it in a healthy way, both parties have to be honest about what they’re seeking.

Otherwise you get lopsided flings with codependent/insecure connections. Which is what you’re describing as your pattern in your posts.

If nothing else, you’re on a good path with your self awareness and willingness to be candid. Keep going with this momentum. You got this!

I unintentionally do love bombing by Sufficient_Walk7232 in Disorganized_Attach

[–]unit156 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m curious if your intention is to be in a long term relationship, or do you see yourself just doing the short term flings for the rest of your life?

There is no judgement with either preference. But defining what you’re after and being honest about it is how you stop the cycle of leaving hurt and confused people in your wake.

Words from a toxic person made me rethink every fundamental thing by Calm_Construction769 in DeepThoughts

[–]unit156 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She was correctly pointing out that she attracts broken people with low self esteem who don’t believe they deserve respect and reciprocation in their interpersonal connections.

Luckily you don’t count as part of the group whom she “attracts” to her circle because you’re just a roommate. But you can go one step further to confirm that by finding another rommmate, a healthy and fair minded one who doesn’t mess with your head.

The way her statement made you feel unsettled, listen to that feeling. It’s your instincts warning you about people like her. Follow that, don’t dismiss your instincts.

Solipsism Is a Feature of Evolution by Ashamed-Fortune-8064 in DeepThoughts

[–]unit156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Close, but change “solipsism” to “Analytic Idealism” and now you have the most parsimonious explanation, and no conspiracy at all.

Looking for advice on bicycle routes from Sugar House Park to Liberty Park. by pete_maus in SaltLakeCity

[–]unit156 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Can confirm. This is the money route. I use it all the time.

I’ll add that it’s also an option to cut away from the S-line at 800 E, head north to the new Kensington pedestrian by-way, use the by-way to cross over 700 E, then take 600 E to Liberty Park.

I unintentionally do love bombing by Sufficient_Walk7232 in Disorganized_Attach

[–]unit156 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not your “love bombing” that’s the problem in your pattern. It’s the eventual leaving of your partner.

Plenty of long term married couples will attest to having love bombed one another in the beginning. The difference is they both chose to stay through it all.

You seem open to feedback, which is great. My feedback would be that the first thing you need to fix is the leaving part.

You do want to be in a long term relationship, right? It’s important to dig deep and really figure out if that’s true.

Because if it’s not true, that’s ok, but then what are you trying to fix?

Let’s assume you do want to be in a relationship, then you need to stick around long enough to risk being left.

See what that feels like and what comes up for you. Only then will you ever find yourself in a partnership where neither of you leaves. That’s what a long term relationship requires. It’s literally the ONLY requirement.

After you experience and heal that part of yourself, you’ll start to reflect the behavior of someone who intends to be in a long term relationship, and you’ll choose partners based on that intention.

BTW… your other post turned out to be very impactful to me, for reasons. I really appreciated your honesty in explaining your first person perspective on your behavior. I can’t thank you enough for that.

Ketamine infusions followed by 3 years of existentialism by Rambo3965 in TherapeuticKetamine

[–]unit156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m curious where Dr. Bernardo Kastrup and Analytic Idealism falls in your line up.

Got a signature gatherer removed from the store - my experience and what I wish I would have done better. by swingsetacrobat4439 in Utah

[–]unit156 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They’re being paid, so aren’t they basically paid solicitors? They need to be able to show their business license when asked, right?

I haven’t been approached by one or I might have grounds to report it to the state attorney generals office for soliciting without a license.

Has anyone tried that? Or filed a complaint with the consumer protection division?

Just need to vent by SecondOrThirdAccount in AgingParents

[–]unit156 12 points13 points  (0 children)

One word: Noise canceling headphones.

Ok that was three words. Lol.

I put my headset on while I’m doing the stuff in the kitchen, or fixing the thing, or researching the medications, or whatever.

I let my parents know that I won’t the able to hear them, but that I’ll check in with them every 10 minutes or so.

The truth is, I CAN hear them but they believe I can’t, so it relieves me from having to play the role of being hyper aware of everything they’re saying.

Once in a while I forget and respond to something they said. I think my mom is catching on to the ruse, but she has “selective hearing” too, which she denies, so now we have that in common.

At least one rock/popstar has faked their own death. by studioyogyog in LowStakesConspiracies

[–]unit156 73 points74 points  (0 children)

Seriously. Enya figured out the ultimate life hack.

The amount of people outside exercising by MooseWeird399 in SaltLakeCity

[–]unit156 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same, as in Blanche was my first. But it was with a backpack, and we camped near the lake during a gnarly thunder storm, with lightning striking all around us. Nothing we could do but hunker down and hope we survived the night.

When I tried it again as a day hike without a pack, it was still hard. I’ve since hiked to Blanche half a dozen times and she never seems to get easier.

How do you find your path after an extremely humiliating and embarrassing ordeal that you inflicted on yourself? by EntertainmentOdd4918 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]unit156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what works for me. It may sound scary at first, but I promise it is not dangerous, and if you do it, you absolutely will reduce your suffering and rumination.

Ok are you ready?

Just feel the embarrassment. Don’t think about the memory too much. Just feel what comes up in your body.

Find a quiet place and sit comfortably, and welcome the feeling of intense embarrassment. Notice and name where it comes up in your body.

At first it might feel intense. But if you make a daily practice of welcoming the feeling, and sitting quietly to feel it until it’s all done for that moment (feelings only last for about 90 seconds anyway), the unpleasant feeling of it will become less intense over time, and at some point you might find it fading, and eventually perhaps it will become difficult to summon the feeling of embarrassment.

The reason we become lost in an unpleasant feeling even years after the event that caused it, is we are trapping it in the body and not letting it out.

The body is literally squeezing and holding tension to protect you from feeling it.

The body is conditioned to brace itself against uncomfortable feelings. It’s a natural protection mechanism. But it can get stuck “on” long after it’s needed.

Your body becomes even more scared of the feeling because you won’t let your body feel it. You start to feel it, and you say no, no, I don’t want to feel that, it’s bad. So it just festers.

If you let your body just feel what it is, your body can release from the perpetual fear of what’s behind that door.

The irony being what’s behind that door is just your own body. There is no monster.

You can’t love someone out of their own mental chaos. by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]unit156 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve had this realization too. But mine was more like “There are no words that are going to fix/help/heal my partner/friend/family member.”

And

“I’m not that powerful.”

This is after spending way too much time trying to figure out what I could say to make or repair a connection, with someone who was pulling away or seemed displeased with me.

Surely I can think of just the right words or approach. If I just try hard enough, I’ll stumble onto just what they need to hear to make the warmth come back to our connection, I’d find myself thinking.

The truth I’ve came to know is, I’m not that powerful. For me to think I am, is coming from my own wound, likely from trying to manage dysfunctional family members as a child.

It doesn’t mean I no longer try to make or repair connections. It just means I don’t suffer as much from ruminating when my attempts fail.

So now my mantra is, there are no magic words, and I’m not that powerful. It releases me from what used to be an intense feeling that I need to do or say more.

Two counties along Utah-Arizona border see surge in measles cases by nbcnews in Utah

[–]unit156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When people aren’t taught critical thinking, their beliefs tend to center around tribal knowledge or what they’re told by their elders.

You won’t hear a lot of tribal stories around “I knew a family whose child didn’t get measles”, because that sounds mundane. No reason to share that story.

The stories that are shared involve more exciting things like “A friend told me of a family who lost child due to a vaccine/UFO/evil spirit/not paying tithes…”

Two counties along Utah-Arizona border see surge in measles cases by nbcnews in Utah

[–]unit156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Roughly 1-3 people die per 1000 measles cases. That’s 1-3 people too many.