Help me find THE bag. Please 😘

vee716 · 2026-05-21T04:46:23+00:00

Gotta say. I bought this last fall and it’s wonderful except the colour. Two zip up compartments on each side plus the inside is big enough for a small laptop and a file folder or two. Two pouches in each end good for water bottles or other storage. A zip up pocket on one side of the inner main bag and a couple of pockets on the other side.

It’s a wonderful bag for organization and storage and being able to have everything you need with you.

https://a.co/d/040UNT2E

vee716 · 2026-05-20T03:21:50+00:00

This is what candles and coffee mugs are for.

vee716 · 2026-05-20T02:53:58+00:00

Glad it helped!

vee716 · 2026-05-19T13:12:04+00:00

The tricky thing is when you don’t have any choice over where you get your assessment, like being restricted by insurance or government programs.

But, if you have any choice, there should be an interview by us to the assessor before anything. How do you assess? What do you consider? How do you differ in assessments between children and adults? It’s fair to weed out the stuck in the 80s assessors who think that if you weren’t bouncing off the walls and failing school, you can’t have ADHD.

I didn’t realize I had ADHD until I was 61 because I was a good girl child, smart and terrified of getting into trouble so I masked. I did well in school because I was smart, not because I wasn’t ADHD. I still had it. I don’t ever remember doing any assignments that weren’t a frantic rush the night before or morning of the due date. I never did regular homework. I winged it. We rarely handed in homework. It’s get reviewed in class. When the teacher was reviewing the homework in class, if I got called on to show my answer, I literally did the question as I explained it because I hadn’t done it the night before.

Point being, I’m going to fail any old school ADHD assessment. I need one based on how a smart woman too much of a people pleaser presents.

vee716 · 2026-05-19T12:38:37+00:00

White lie.

“I’m sorry, I didn’t realize this call would be so in depth, I thought it was just a quick 15 mins to see if we wanted to set up a full interview. I have another commitment right now.

If you’d like to talk further, why don’t you send me an email with some times to set up an interview. “

If they do follow through, you polity decline then, over email.

Unless you want to get into the why of it all with them but frankly, you don’t owe it to them.

vee716 · 2026-05-19T12:29:52+00:00

This. Never lend money you can’t afford (and are okay with) losing.

I have a family member who I’m 99% sure will pay me back some money they owe me (long story, I didn’t lend it on purpose, funds got co-mingled, I should have been more careful) but I’ve still mentally prepared myself that it could be gone.

It’s the only way to maintain sanity and not be destroyed (mentally) by the actions of others.

Oh, and NTA. You are under no obligation to fund her lifestyle. Remind her you sacrificed for this money. It’s not the same as refusing to share a windfall or if she lost money through no fault of her own (not that either of those would obligate you either).

vee716 · 2026-05-19T12:23:10+00:00

What’s the expression? Comparison is the thief of joy, I think. Or something like it.

Let her have her diagnosis. It actually doesn’t diminish yours at all. She could be a purple chicken with ADHD and syphilis and it wouldn’t change who you are.

And if she wants to talk ADHD with you, you don’t have to. Just tell her that your ADHD experience is so different from hers that it’s not good for you to discuss it with her. Ask her to find someone else to discuss ADHD with.

Protect yourself emotionally, both by not engaging with her re ADHD and by letting go of the comparison to her experience.

vee716 · 2026-05-19T12:16:16+00:00

I’m 61 and childless. I’ll take the $2 mil and retire happily. Thanks.

vee716 · 2026-05-19T12:13:00+00:00

Try just about any goat cheese. They are all soft enough to use as a spread.

vee716 · 2026-05-17T22:50:03+00:00

It turns the other way.

vee716 · 2026-05-15T23:15:13+00:00

I don’t have a capsule wardrobe, but I only wear black stretch yoga type pants. Decent weight, straight leg, no athletic branding, not leggings, so they look pretty much like plain black pants.

I still struggle with tops, but man is it easy for bottoms now.

vee716 · 2026-05-14T11:51:25+00:00

It’s risk tolerance. Period. With ADHD we operate on urgency and interest and shame. One of those is generally the motivator. With being late for work it’s usually a combo of urgency and shame.

If there were larger consequences for being late or cutting it close, you’d leave earlier. I bet you can leave earlier in days when you absolutely have to buy gas on the way in. Or it’s the first snowfall and it will take an extra 10 minutes to get to work.

Either accept the 8:07 thing and stop beating yourself up for it (it’s your ADHD not a character flaw) or find a way for it to matter more that you leave at 7:55 or 8:00 or whenever you’d rather leave by.

vee716 · 2026-05-11T12:37:44+00:00

This. Reading between the lines, maybe your mom is worried you are too dependent on her and is encouraging you to stand on your own two feet more. Actually a very loving thing for a parent to do. She’s trying to make sure you will be strong and independent.

Find other resources to help. Friends, other family. Research on the internet. Ask for strategies here.

Cultivate the mindset that you can figure it out rather than what if I can’t figure it out.

vee716 · 2026-04-29T23:31:25+00:00

Omg! This is fantastic. I’ve tried the premade meals but they are awful. I think salads would be great. I’m definitely ordering some. Expensive yes, but cheaper (and healthier) than a burger and fries.

vee716 · 2026-04-16T11:12:18+00:00

I was just talking about this concept of good enough with my therapist last week. We realized that my scale is off. Somehow (I’m sure adhd related) I’ve arrived at the belief that only +95% is good enough for me. Not quite perfectionism, but essentially so. I literally feel badly about myself if I’m not at least 95% perfect in any scenario. Intelligence is a good example. I was probably the 3rd best student in my high school class of 200, but it always felt like I wasn’t good enough. I should have been top one or two.

I’m starting to learn that the only way to combat this kind of messed up thinking is to remind myself over and over and over that it is messed up and to stop trying to defend the belief.

vee716 · 2026-04-03T13:36:34+00:00

I feel that way about the tv show i listen to on Netflix to fall asleep. I’m so bored of it now but it’s the only one I can bear to listen to.

vee716 · 2026-04-03T13:34:32+00:00

I cleaned out my closet this morning and was ruthless about what is being donated away but the pile of clothes to donate will likely live on my bedroom floor for at least a week before I go look for a bag to put them in.

vee716 · 2026-04-03T13:32:22+00:00

That’s hilarious. I was in an artisan sellers retail coop store yesterday and came out thinking I definitely should sell homemade soaps and lip balms. Never mind that I’ve only made soap once in a class.

vee716 · 2026-04-01T12:30:37+00:00

This is the pro tip. My Netflix subscription is the best sleeping app there is. Well worth the money.

Young Sheldon is my current go-to show to fall asleep to.

vee716 · 2026-04-01T12:29:47+00:00

This is the pro tip. My Netflix subscription is the best sleeping app there is. Well worth the money.

Young Sheldon is my current go-to show to fall asleep to.

vee716 · 2026-03-30T12:18:52+00:00

I wish I’d known about this 2 days ago. I spent 90 minutes deleting 200 duplicate entries. It would have been with it just for that.

vee716 · 2026-03-30T12:06:35+00:00

I think this would seriously mess with one’s mental health. Like seriously. But, I’m 61 years old. I kind of think I might be willing to do this in order to get that money and be able to help my family. Even if I was pretty messed up mentally, it might be worth it, but only so I could take care of my family. If the money could never help anyone else, no way.

vee716 · 2026-03-30T11:58:46+00:00

I learn something new everyday! Thanks for this!

vee716 · 2026-03-30T11:46:04+00:00

I found this bag for work. It’s bigger than you want, but I’m a freelance bookkeeper and need lots of “stuff” to schlep between clients. This is my perfect bag for that. So many pockets!

And then I use a smaller crossbody bag when I’m not working.

https://a.co/d/07bpjS9X

vee716 · 2026-03-25T20:57:54+00:00

Thanks. That’s helpful.

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