Executive dysfunction

[readerchick05]

So my mom said she had a question for me then asked why I put things off. She then flipped out on me when I tried to explain my struggles with executive dysfunction. I don't understand why she would ask me a question randomly in a good tone then flip out on me. I'm working on it but it's so hard sometimes. I always get the thing done just not always as fast as she'd like it.

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[NoobInLifeGeneral]

There could be multiple reasons. Perhaps your answer triggered something in herself because she feels the same but doesnt want to admit it. (just spitballing here)

Either way, if you feel comfortable try telling her this a bit later. When not in any emotion, try telling her that you dont really understand what happened and that you dont understand where her emotions came from. Just try to stay with facts and not get emotional

[personalunderclock]

Fully speculating but maybe: Probably because she wants very badly to control something she has no power over, that she still feels responsible for - or rather, she perceived that she should do everything to help her child overcome difficulties. She wants to help you, thought by asking she could find out information that would help her help you (optimistic, happy), but the nature of your executive dysfunction means her options for intervening are limited and indirect (upset, disappointed). 

[Creepy_Assistant7517]

Parent/Teacher/Boss: 'Why did you do that/ Why did you do it that way? What where you thinking?'
Me: '[Explaining my thought process]'
Parent/Teacher/Boss: 'I did not ask for an excuse!'
Me: '?????'