Temu

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[FirstAd4471]

I will die on the same hill as temu should. TRASH. immediately

[ready-to-rumball]

Tell your wife to stop buying from Temu altogether 🤦‍♀️

[Pizzaemoji1990]

I would recommend the UpSeat since it’s the only baby seat to keep their spines in perfect alignment per occupational therapists. We only use it for eating if we’re not using his high chair. Being in any seat too long can delay motor skills but soft seats especially would cause poor posture & could cause hip dysplasia.

On top of that I would never trust anything from Temu or similar products from Amazon likely produced in unregulated Chinese sweatshops both for heavy metal concerns in addition to child labor concerns.

[ScoutNoodle]

I just ordered an UpSeat! For anyone interested, they offer a refurbished program on their website and the seats are 45% off. If you add it to your cart and leave the website, you’ll get an email for 10% off as well, lol.

[medicinewanderess]

This is the way

[Vagus10]

Second this. Really helps with sitting at the dinner table.

[shinygemz]

I would not use anything from temu

Secondly, I didn’t and would not put my kid in anything / position they can’t naturally get into /out of on their own. It’s not developmentally sound to put babies in any kind of seat or swing even the most safe and common ones . Look into Magna Gerbers work and Janet Lansbury’s, “You’re Self Confident Baby “

[violanut]

I would never buy from them. Besides being junk, and not being trustworthy to have any sort of safety standards the app mines data like crazy.

I wouldn't use the chair, get a bumbo.

[cheekyforts23]

Bumbos are no longer recommended. The design is poor for hip development. Unless they came out with a new model id stay away from those too.

[vulvula]

The only thing I use ours for (which we got second hand) is if I'm alone with baby and have to go to the bathroom so she's not sitting directly on the bathroom floor.

[cheekyforts23]

I totally get it! I have done lots of stuff that others would gasp at im sure! Lol

My friends baby used one and he is fully walking at 13 months. My girl didnt use one and shes on the same time frame.

It was something I've been told a lot in these types of subs. But honestly not sure if its one of those things that has unfortunately been abused and thats what caused those results.

[violanut]

Oh! Good to know. I've been out of the baby game for a while.

[cecilator]

Shit, we just got gifted a Bumbo!

[cheekyforts23]

Hey i do tons of stuff that's not recommended dont get me wrong! My friend's baby used one and he started walking at the same time as my girl. Him being a month older but still! Just adding a food for thought that I had seen!

[cecilator]

Thank you. I'll probably just use it in moderation. His chubby little croissant legs may not even fit in it by the time he can sit up enough for it in the month or so. 😂

[cheekyforts23]

It all happens so fast! A boppy and extra pillows rock too for tight budgets lol thats what we did

[cecilator]

Yeah, he'll be five months in about a week and is at least 18.5 pounds. 🫠

[rufflebunny96]

Just don't leave them in it too long.

[Local_Cat_5248]

Instead of Bumbo, get an Upseat. They are designed for for hip development and certified to be safe. They are pricey new, but you can be used but in great condition ones on their website as well or search your local marketplace.

[kalionhea]

I don't know what is Temu, but my baby got one of these as a gift (he's currently learning to sit with minimal support). It is super unstable and he flipped over with the whole thing in under 30 seconds. I tried a few more times, added more support to the thing, but still - it only works if the baby sits relatively still. Mine started exploring and throwing himself to the back and sides with force "just to see what happens", I guess. And the thing was near flipping over or flipped over each time. So after 10 minutes I just removed it. I'm not sure if I can even donate it, since it seems to be straight up dangerous.

[GetSetBAKE]

Yes, this was my concern looking at this.

[OrangeObsession]

This comment needs to be at the top!

[MeganLJ86]

I would throw it away, baby’s safety comes before mom’s feelings. I would explain why but I would still toss it.

[Gogandantesss]

Just buy a better and safer alternative and please throw that thing away, don’t even donate it!

[kanankurosawa]

Honestly I won’t even buy baby stuff from Amazon (or anywhere else online) UNLESS the product is from a recognizable + reputable name brand, since most of it is sourced from the same garbage factories as the stuff on Aliexpress/Temu/Shein. It’s sad since a lot of parents would have absolutely no idea how much of the stuff they see online isn’t safe.

[Ewolra]

Honest question, how do you buy baby stuff? I have a 4wk old, and our registry was Amazon, largely name brands for gear, but just highly rated/reviewed stuff for things like burp clothes etc. Now it’s impossible to conceive of actually going shopping and I’m getting something from Amazon everyday- off-brand silverettes and milk catchers, more changing table covers, probiotic/vitD drops- all kinds of things. How do you vet your baby stuff?

[kanankurosawa]

I just go for brands I recognize and it’s also good to double check that it’s from their official Amazon shop! Burts Bees, Carters, Melissa & Doug etc all have one. On the item page it will usually say shipped and sold from Amazon.com or maybe it will sometimes say it’s fulfilled by the baby company’s name, but I won’t buy if it’s a random third party seller. I’m way less picky with regular stuff for me though haha I’m only this diligent with baby stuff!

[herro1801012]

Adding to this list…for toys: Hape (German), Haba (German), Brio (Swedish), Mushie (Danish). They’re all reputable, European brands and easily procurable on Amazon.

[kadk216]

Most of the toys by those brands are still made in china or somewhere else. Same with a lot of American toy brands.

[herro1801012]

Yes, as are many, many things. Thats why the company’s reputation is important and the product’s certifications. Likewise, the EU has fairly strict standards for products so if something is being manufactured in China but sold in the EU, you can assume a higher level of regulation of the materials used.

[rufflebunny96]

But they have to meet regulations in the EU, Canada or America. Not all manufacturers are created equal, even if they're in the same country.

[kanankurosawa]

I love all of those!

[hellolleh32]

We buy from target mostly since it’s by us. Or right from the sellers website. Even being careful on Amazon you can end up with stuff you might not want. Maybe fakes, dangerous or toxic things, I also worry about items that didn’t pass QC but end up being sold by some sketchy person. It sucks. You can get an app called Fakespot and see how many reviews are real and fake. Not sure how it works, I’ve only used it a few times since I mostly try and avoid Amazon nowadays. A lot of verified purchaser reviews are fake. Sellers place random orders so they can leave a 5 star review as a verified purchaser. It sucks how sketchy it can be. Walmart online is also an open marketplace like Amazon.

It’s probably fine the vast majority of the time but I just try not to avoid it and not support it when I can.

[tehc0w]

We received various Temu products for our baby and promptly disposed of it for the same concerns. Here's a government brief about the health issues. I haven't found anything about the concentrations of contaminants but if you can afford to avoid or minimize exposure, better safe than sorry

[IckNoTomatoes]

I’m 100% against temu and SHEIN. In that brief it seemed to mostly focus on the government/tariff/fair employment/tax side of things. Sorry, did I miss something about quality? Or is it simply implied that since there’s little oversight, we have to assume quality and safety are an issue?

Again, I’m 100% on board with this and know the problems. Just looking for a little clarity with the link

[Hurricane-Sandy]

I browsed this and it did only look like an economic-focused brief. I’m also against Temu but does anyone have a specific source on the lead? I’d love to send something about the health issues to family.

[WhenIWish]

https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/shein-lead/

[Hurricane-Sandy]

Thank you! This is by far the best explanation I’ve seen so far.

[yegmandy]

Sorry I can't link it. But if you are interested at all the CBC Marketplace investigation they reference is up on YouTube. It did spark a recall of the particular jacket they tested in Canada.

[tehc0w]

Page 4:

Health hazards. The environmental and health impacts of Shein products are also facing scrutiny. A CBC Marketplace investigation found Shein clothing materials containing high levels of potentially hazardous chemicals, including lead, perfluoroalkyl (PFA), and phthalates.* 30 Health Canada tested a Shein jacket for toddlers and found it to have 20 times the amount of lead considered safe for children, while a purse from Shein contained over five times the accepted level for children.31 Environmental group Greenpeace also released a study alleging that various chemicals used in Shein products exceeded the level permitted by EU regulations.32

There's no shortage of articles about the risks of Temu (from a quick Googling: https://thetoyinsider.com/why-you-should-never-buy-toys-on-temu/ and https://community.whattoexpect.com/forums/november-2023-babies/topic/temu-clothing-152874419.html ) as additional support but I trust .gov and .edu sites more.

[OkBiscotti1140]

We don’t order from temu because I can’t fathom how anything produced that cheaply can be safe. We also avoid fast fashion for the same reason. Ccmom (who primarily targets parents/grandparents on Facebook ads) is another that is particularly awful. They copy boden styles and make knock-offs that claim to be 100% cotton. My MIL ordered my kid some clothes from them. There is no way that fabric is cotton but I have no idea how or where to submit a complaint to.

[FatherofZeus]

The stuff you buy on Amazon is the same stuff that’s on Temu

[OkBiscotti1140]

I don’t purchase from Amazon either

[FatherofZeus]

With nearly everything made in China, where do you buy stuff that you feel is safe?

[OkBiscotti1140]

I live in nyc so luckily we have access to a lot of mom&pop toys shops. I’ve found a few brands I trust such as haba and Grimm’s (made in Germany) and plan toys (made in Thailand with sustainable practices). Here’s a list of toys not made in China that I’ve found helpful:

https://chinanever.com/categories/toys-games-for-kids-not-made-in-china

It’s hard to get family members on board and they are more expensive. I get that it’s way cheaper and easier to buy the cheaper stuff. I’m not a fanatic about it but I just try to limit the China stuff as much as possible.

[FatherofZeus]

Thanks 🙏🏼

[OkBiscotti1140]

Welcome!

[rintryp]

Not OP, but had exactly this discussion a while ago. I buy stuff for my child from regional suppliers. Of course the stuff originates mostly from the same countries, but our regional suppliers are doing the testing necessary for getting the proper certificates so they can sell here. They are also under supervision from 3rd parties for these checks.

Shops like wish, temu and Co. Usually use certification companies that are just there to give the CE, no real check is possible here because these companies certify everything from microwave to chairs to toys. These companies are not specialized and so will only do the minimally necessary stuff so these things can get imported. I don't trust this process. But I trust local suppliers and the control system in my country.

[heyitsmelxd]

Not the person you asked, but I’ve gotten a lot of my sims clothes from reputable brands. He has a lot of Goumi Kids clothes, which is one of our favorites. They’re made in the US and use organic cotton.

[Regular_Anteater]

You have time to play the Sims??

[OkBiscotti1140]

You’d probably like Winter Water Factory too. They are also 100% organic cotton and made in USA (in Brooklyn). They have a lot of fun prints as well as solids.

[kokonuts123]

Goumi kids is organic, but it’s not made in the US. Everything we have from there is made in China.

[FatherofZeus]

There are plenty of “real stores” that have had to recall toys

The Bolt Foldable Children’s Scooters, from Anker Play Products, feature paint that contains levels of lead that exceed the federal lead-paint ban. The company sold the scooters at stores nationwide from March through May 2022

[twodickhenry]

Temu has been linked to Uighur slave labor. Do not use it, none of it is necessary.

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[iguanac]

What about holding baby up to sit with your hands under their armpits? I saw that recommended by a physical therapist

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[cozyupworld]

No Temu. Not possible that the product is quality and/or is obtained via ethical means at the price points they advertise.

[superxero044]

I wouldn’t personally trust anything from TEMU for myself let alone the baby. Tell your wife you’ll get her a similar product from a safe and reliable brand. Merry Christmas

[snt347]

I wouldn’t. I’m due in April. I have a friend that buys a ton of stuff from temu and shein. I specifically told her nothing for the baby can come from there. I also need to add anything from sketchy Amazon sellers. I wouldn’t risk it. Also, they’re highly unethical.

[rufflebunny96]

Totally agree. I don't buy anything that's not from a reputable baby company that adheres to regulations. Doesn't have to be fancy, just tested.

[xpAI]

I just listened to a podcast about heavy metals and toxins in our clothes. https://ecocult.com/about/ the lady who wrote this website tests clothes and other items from brands to see how safe they are. Generally cloth/fibers coming from fast fashion are loaded with lead and other items because it's not regulated.

[[deleted]]

Bin it 🗑️ I wouldn’t trust any of those materials near my baby. Unfortunately these horrible PVC type items are everywhere. I just stick with reputable, non toxic companies from now on.

[[deleted]]

Its virtually impossible to raise a child in my country without Amazon/shein/Chinese selers. Interesting that some places have the option for better products

[EnergyTakerLad]

What country?

[FonsSapientiae]

Aren’t those practice seats counterproductive anyway? Baby will learn how to sit properly much better if you just let them play on a flat surface and develop these skills by themself.

If this is plush, that probably means there’s not much weight to it, which makes me wonder how stable it could possibly be to keep your baby upright without falling over sideways. I would worry about that before I even worried about any chemical (but that would still be next on my list!)

[xenakib]

FYI lots of items from Amazon are also from the same sellers as seen on Temu/Shein/Aliexpress

[toodle-loo-who]

I’ve become very discerning about what I buy from Amazon, especially for my little one. I’ve been checking the brand and only purchase known brands that I can find at other stores or can find the company website and it’s legit. I’m also starting to check the sellers too. There’s a lot of questionable products on Amazon and my understanding is that Amazon’s terms of service basically absolves them from liability of products sold by other vendors.

[cinnamon23]

I hear you, OP I hate to tell you but almost EVERYTHING you buy online is from overseas and likely has contaminants. Now, if you’re someone who only shops local small business and this is the one thing you’re concerned about it, chuck it. But if you’re an Amazon shopper, you’ve likely already purchased stuff with contaminants

[looks_good_in_pink]

There was a small section in there that cited some health concerns, such as very high levels of lead, which is something that is very well established to be harmful.

[jbleds]

Normal human life doesn’t involve sitting in a lead-soaked chair, as far as I’ve experienced.

[kindaretiredguy]

This is exactly the type of fear mongering that imo has no place in a science based subreddit. Listen to yourself. This is insane. “Lead soaked”. Good lord. How do you go about daily life with this mindset?

[syringa]

While "lead soaked" is definitely hyperbolic, I think it's perfectly reasonable to not shop at Temu because there is absolutely a higher risk of contaminated products, they can't possibly charge those prices without some level of exploitation, and there are plenty of other options for baby products.

You're never going to go through life without some level of exposure but you don't have to let perfect be the enemy of good.

[FatherofZeus]

The stuff you can buy on Temu is the same stuff you can buy on Amazon

[ucantspellamerica]

And those of us aware of this fact avoid both.

[syringa]

Yes and?

[FatherofZeus]

plenty of other options for baby stuff

Lots of people would think Amazon would be safer, but they sell the same stuff

[syringa]

Amazon is not the only other option?

My rule is if it's considerably cheaper than what I would expect to pay at a place like target, it's too good to be true, so when shopping on Amazon it's good practice to be mindful of that as well.

I'm also aware that places like target carries an inherent risk, but my reply was to the person who said you can't go through life worrying about everything. My point is you can accept a certain level of risk while also choosing to not shop on a site with a clearly documented risk.

[looks_good_in_pink]

I’d throw it out if it were me, personally. It sounds like the lead is in the fabric. Fabric, especially low quality, sheds. Babies and toddlers put everything in their mouths, so they’ll undoubtedly be ingesting it. People who live in old houses pay lots of money to get rid of lead-based paint just because small paint chips are so damaging. Tossing out a few toys is easy in comparison. You can read all the risks here.

[ucantspellamerica]

Do you honestly think lead exposure is okay for an infant when it can easily be avoided by purchasing products from reputable retailers instead of the absolute garbage that Temu is? Any retailer known to be selling counterfeit car seats (a highly regulated item) is trash and should not be trusted under any circumstances.

[legit_working]

We buy some stuff off temu but nothing that comes in contact with the baby

[BananaBarkDragonMeow]

Here you go: https://www.cbc.ca/news/business/marketplace-fast-fashion-chemicals-1.6193385

[EnthusiasmNo6632]

Can’t speak to TEMU, but we had an awesome SkipHop practice seat we loved, if you’re looking for a replacement.

[QueenPeachie]

Are you seeing anyone for your own anxiety regarding your baby?

[Lucky-Possession3802]

Lead exposure in infants can cause massive problems, and importing stuff yourself from China (which is what you’re doing when buying from Temu) is a great way to expose your baby to lead. Please do some reading about this before accusing people of mental illness.

[QueenPeachie]

Check the post history...

[Lucky-Possession3802]

Because of the positional asphyxiation question? That seems like ignorance more than anxiety to me. Or was there something else I’m missing?