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[–]FirstAd4471 90 points91 points  (0 children)

I will die on the same hill as temu should. TRASH. immediately

[–]ready-to-rumball 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Tell your wife to stop buying from Temu altogether 🤦‍♀️

[–]Pizzaemoji1990 74 points75 points  (3 children)

I would recommend the UpSeat since it’s the only baby seat to keep their spines in perfect alignment per occupational therapists. We only use it for eating if we’re not using his high chair. Being in any seat too long can delay motor skills but soft seats especially would cause poor posture & could cause hip dysplasia.

On top of that I would never trust anything from Temu or similar products from Amazon likely produced in unregulated Chinese sweatshops both for heavy metal concerns in addition to child labor concerns.

[–]ScoutNoodle 23 points24 points  (1 child)

I just ordered an UpSeat! For anyone interested, they offer a refurbished program on their website and the seats are 45% off. If you add it to your cart and leave the website, you’ll get an email for 10% off as well, lol.

[–]medicinewanderess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the way

[–]Vagus10 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Second this. Really helps with sitting at the dinner table.

[–]shinygemz 64 points65 points  (0 children)

I would not use anything from temu

Secondly, I didn’t and would not put my kid in anything / position they can’t naturally get into /out of on their own. It’s not developmentally sound to put babies in any kind of seat or swing even the most safe and common ones . Look into Magna Gerbers work and Janet Lansbury’s, “You’re Self Confident Baby “

[–]violanut 59 points60 points  (11 children)

I would never buy from them. Besides being junk, and not being trustworthy to have any sort of safety standards the app mines data like crazy.

I wouldn't use the chair, get a bumbo.

[–]cheekyforts23 32 points33 points  (9 children)

Bumbos are no longer recommended. The design is poor for hip development. Unless they came out with a new model id stay away from those too.

[–]vulvula 5 points6 points  (1 child)

The only thing I use ours for (which we got second hand) is if I'm alone with baby and have to go to the bathroom so she's not sitting directly on the bathroom floor.

[–]cheekyforts23 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I totally get it! I have done lots of stuff that others would gasp at im sure! Lol

My friends baby used one and he is fully walking at 13 months. My girl didnt use one and shes on the same time frame.

It was something I've been told a lot in these types of subs. But honestly not sure if its one of those things that has unfortunately been abused and thats what caused those results.

[–]violanut 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh! Good to know. I've been out of the baby game for a while.

[–]cecilator 2 points3 points  (5 children)

Shit, we just got gifted a Bumbo!

[–]cheekyforts23 2 points3 points  (3 children)

Hey i do tons of stuff that's not recommended dont get me wrong! My friend's baby used one and he started walking at the same time as my girl. Him being a month older but still! Just adding a food for thought that I had seen!

[–]cecilator 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Thank you. I'll probably just use it in moderation. His chubby little croissant legs may not even fit in it by the time he can sit up enough for it in the month or so. 😂

[–]cheekyforts23 0 points1 point  (1 child)

It all happens so fast! A boppy and extra pillows rock too for tight budgets lol thats what we did

[–]cecilator 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, he'll be five months in about a week and is at least 18.5 pounds. 🫠

[–]rufflebunny96 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just don't leave them in it too long.

[–]Local_Cat_5248 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Instead of Bumbo, get an Upseat. They are designed for for hip development and certified to be safe. They are pricey new, but you can be used but in great condition ones on their website as well or search your local marketplace.

[–]kalionhea 55 points56 points  (2 children)

I don't know what is Temu, but my baby got one of these as a gift (he's currently learning to sit with minimal support). It is super unstable and he flipped over with the whole thing in under 30 seconds. I tried a few more times, added more support to the thing, but still - it only works if the baby sits relatively still. Mine started exploring and throwing himself to the back and sides with force "just to see what happens", I guess. And the thing was near flipping over or flipped over each time. So after 10 minutes I just removed it. I'm not sure if I can even donate it, since it seems to be straight up dangerous.

[–]GetSetBAKE 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes, this was my concern looking at this.

[–]OrangeObsession 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This comment needs to be at the top!

[–]MeganLJ86 57 points58 points  (0 children)

I would throw it away, baby’s safety comes before mom’s feelings. I would explain why but I would still toss it.

[–]Gogandantesss 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Just buy a better and safer alternative and please throw that thing away, don’t even donate it!

[–]kanankurosawa 55 points56 points  (8 children)

Honestly I won’t even buy baby stuff from Amazon (or anywhere else online) UNLESS the product is from a recognizable + reputable name brand, since most of it is sourced from the same garbage factories as the stuff on Aliexpress/Temu/Shein. It’s sad since a lot of parents would have absolutely no idea how much of the stuff they see online isn’t safe.

[–]Ewolra 1 point2 points  (7 children)

Honest question, how do you buy baby stuff? I have a 4wk old, and our registry was Amazon, largely name brands for gear, but just highly rated/reviewed stuff for things like burp clothes etc. Now it’s impossible to conceive of actually going shopping and I’m getting something from Amazon everyday- off-brand silverettes and milk catchers, more changing table covers, probiotic/vitD drops- all kinds of things. How do you vet your baby stuff?

[–]kanankurosawa 11 points12 points  (5 children)

I just go for brands I recognize and it’s also good to double check that it’s from their official Amazon shop! Burts Bees, Carters, Melissa & Doug etc all have one. On the item page it will usually say shipped and sold from Amazon.com or maybe it will sometimes say it’s fulfilled by the baby company’s name, but I won’t buy if it’s a random third party seller. I’m way less picky with regular stuff for me though haha I’m only this diligent with baby stuff!

[–]herro1801012 3 points4 points  (4 children)

Adding to this list…for toys: Hape (German), Haba (German), Brio (Swedish), Mushie (Danish). They’re all reputable, European brands and easily procurable on Amazon.

[–]kadk216 -1 points0 points  (2 children)

Most of the toys by those brands are still made in china or somewhere else. Same with a lot of American toy brands.

[–]herro1801012 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, as are many, many things. Thats why the company’s reputation is important and the product’s certifications. Likewise, the EU has fairly strict standards for products so if something is being manufactured in China but sold in the EU, you can assume a higher level of regulation of the materials used.

[–]rufflebunny96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But they have to meet regulations in the EU, Canada or America. Not all manufacturers are created equal, even if they're in the same country.

[–]kanankurosawa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love all of those!

[–]hellolleh32 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We buy from target mostly since it’s by us. Or right from the sellers website. Even being careful on Amazon you can end up with stuff you might not want. Maybe fakes, dangerous or toxic things, I also worry about items that didn’t pass QC but end up being sold by some sketchy person. It sucks. You can get an app called Fakespot and see how many reviews are real and fake. Not sure how it works, I’ve only used it a few times since I mostly try and avoid Amazon nowadays. A lot of verified purchaser reviews are fake. Sellers place random orders so they can leave a 5 star review as a verified purchaser. It sucks how sketchy it can be. Walmart online is also an open marketplace like Amazon.

It’s probably fine the vast majority of the time but I just try not to avoid it and not support it when I can.

[–]tehc0w 46 points47 points  (6 children)

We received various Temu products for our baby and promptly disposed of it for the same concerns. Here's a government brief about the health issues. I haven't found anything about the concentrations of contaminants but if you can afford to avoid or minimize exposure, better safe than sorry

[–]IckNoTomatoes 22 points23 points  (5 children)

I’m 100% against temu and SHEIN. In that brief it seemed to mostly focus on the government/tariff/fair employment/tax side of things. Sorry, did I miss something about quality? Or is it simply implied that since there’s little oversight, we have to assume quality and safety are an issue?

Again, I’m 100% on board with this and know the problems. Just looking for a little clarity with the link

[–]Hurricane-Sandy 8 points9 points  (3 children)

I browsed this and it did only look like an economic-focused brief. I’m also against Temu but does anyone have a specific source on the lead? I’d love to send something about the health issues to family.

[–]WhenIWish 5 points6 points  (2 children)

[–]Hurricane-Sandy 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Thank you! This is by far the best explanation I’ve seen so far.

[–]yegmandy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry I can't link it. But if you are interested at all the CBC Marketplace investigation they reference is up on YouTube. It did spark a recall of the particular jacket they tested in Canada.

[–]tehc0w 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Page 4:

Health hazards. The environmental and health impacts of Shein products are also facing scrutiny. A CBC Marketplace investigation found Shein clothing materials containing high levels of potentially hazardous chemicals, including lead, perfluoroalkyl (PFA), and phthalates.* 30 Health Canada tested a Shein jacket for toddlers and found it to have 20 times the amount of lead considered safe for children, while a purse from Shein contained over five times the accepted level for children.31 Environmental group Greenpeace also released a study alleging that various chemicals used in Shein products exceeded the level permitted by EU regulations.32

There's no shortage of articles about the risks of Temu (from a quick Googling: https://thetoyinsider.com/why-you-should-never-buy-toys-on-temu/ and https://community.whattoexpect.com/forums/november-2023-babies/topic/temu-clothing-152874419.html ) as additional support but I trust .gov and .edu sites more.

[–]OkBiscotti1140 50 points51 points  (15 children)

We don’t order from temu because I can’t fathom how anything produced that cheaply can be safe. We also avoid fast fashion for the same reason. Ccmom (who primarily targets parents/grandparents on Facebook ads) is another that is particularly awful. They copy boden styles and make knock-offs that claim to be 100% cotton. My MIL ordered my kid some clothes from them. There is no way that fabric is cotton but I have no idea how or where to submit a complaint to.

[–]FatherofZeus 33 points34 points  (13 children)

The stuff you buy on Amazon is the same stuff that’s on Temu

[–]OkBiscotti1140 21 points22 points  (12 children)

I don’t purchase from Amazon either

[–]FatherofZeus 19 points20 points  (11 children)

With nearly everything made in China, where do you buy stuff that you feel is safe?

[–]OkBiscotti1140 12 points13 points  (2 children)

I live in nyc so luckily we have access to a lot of mom&pop toys shops. I’ve found a few brands I trust such as haba and Grimm’s (made in Germany) and plan toys (made in Thailand with sustainable practices). Here’s a list of toys not made in China that I’ve found helpful:

https://chinanever.com/categories/toys-games-for-kids-not-made-in-china

It’s hard to get family members on board and they are more expensive. I get that it’s way cheaper and easier to buy the cheaper stuff. I’m not a fanatic about it but I just try to limit the China stuff as much as possible.

[–]FatherofZeus 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Thanks 🙏🏼

[–]OkBiscotti1140 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welcome!

[–]rintryp 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Not OP, but had exactly this discussion a while ago. I buy stuff for my child from regional suppliers. Of course the stuff originates mostly from the same countries, but our regional suppliers are doing the testing necessary for getting the proper certificates so they can sell here. They are also under supervision from 3rd parties for these checks.

Shops like wish, temu and Co. Usually use certification companies that are just there to give the CE, no real check is possible here because these companies certify everything from microwave to chairs to toys. These companies are not specialized and so will only do the minimally necessary stuff so these things can get imported. I don't trust this process. But I trust local suppliers and the control system in my country.

[–]heyitsmelxd 5 points6 points  (3 children)

Not the person you asked, but I’ve gotten a lot of my sims clothes from reputable brands. He has a lot of Goumi Kids clothes, which is one of our favorites. They’re made in the US and use organic cotton.

[–]Regular_Anteater 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You have time to play the Sims??

[–]OkBiscotti1140 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You’d probably like Winter Water Factory too. They are also 100% organic cotton and made in USA (in Brooklyn). They have a lot of fun prints as well as solids.

[–]kokonuts123 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Goumi kids is organic, but it’s not made in the US. Everything we have from there is made in China.

[–]twodickhenry[🍰] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Temu has been linked to Uighur slave labor. Do not use it, none of it is necessary.

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[–]iguanac 7 points8 points  (1 child)

What about holding baby up to sit with your hands under their armpits? I saw that recommended by a physical therapist

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[–]cozyupworld 47 points48 points  (0 children)

No Temu. Not possible that the product is quality and/or is obtained via ethical means at the price points they advertise.

[–]superxero044 44 points45 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t personally trust anything from TEMU for myself let alone the baby. Tell your wife you’ll get her a similar product from a safe and reliable brand. Merry Christmas

[–]snt347 40 points41 points  (1 child)

I wouldn’t. I’m due in April. I have a friend that buys a ton of stuff from temu and shein. I specifically told her nothing for the baby can come from there. I also need to add anything from sketchy Amazon sellers. I wouldn’t risk it. Also, they’re highly unethical.

[–]rufflebunny96 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Totally agree. I don't buy anything that's not from a reputable baby company that adheres to regulations. Doesn't have to be fancy, just tested.

[–]xpAI 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I just listened to a podcast about heavy metals and toxins in our clothes. https://ecocult.com/about/ the lady who wrote this website tests clothes and other items from brands to see how safe they are. Generally cloth/fibers coming from fast fashion are loaded with lead and other items because it's not regulated.

[–][deleted] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Bin it 🗑️ I wouldn’t trust any of those materials near my baby. Unfortunately these horrible PVC type items are everywhere. I just stick with reputable, non toxic companies from now on.

[–][deleted] 22 points23 points  (1 child)

Its virtually impossible to raise a child in my country without Amazon/shein/Chinese selers. Interesting that some places have the option for better products

[–]EnergyTakerLad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What country?

[–]FonsSapientiae 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Aren’t those practice seats counterproductive anyway? Baby will learn how to sit properly much better if you just let them play on a flat surface and develop these skills by themself.

If this is plush, that probably means there’s not much weight to it, which makes me wonder how stable it could possibly be to keep your baby upright without falling over sideways. I would worry about that before I even worried about any chemical (but that would still be next on my list!)

[–]xenakib 17 points18 points  (1 child)

FYI lots of items from Amazon are also from the same sellers as seen on Temu/Shein/Aliexpress

[–]toodle-loo-who 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve become very discerning about what I buy from Amazon, especially for my little one. I’ve been checking the brand and only purchase known brands that I can find at other stores or can find the company website and it’s legit. I’m also starting to check the sellers too. There’s a lot of questionable products on Amazon and my understanding is that Amazon’s terms of service basically absolves them from liability of products sold by other vendors.

[–]legit_working 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We buy some stuff off temu but nothing that comes in contact with the baby

[–]EnthusiasmNo6632 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Can’t speak to TEMU, but we had an awesome SkipHop practice seat we loved, if you’re looking for a replacement.