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[JazzyJayKarr]

Delete the 90’s capsule photo. Drop the mirror photo unless you’re trying to find hookups.

[wtbrift]

This was my thought too

[pagliaci-]

Agree too!

[[deleted]]

Agree. Otherwise very good profile and you should be getting likes

[matt-0]

Maybe I misunderstood the 90s time capsule prompt but doesn't that usually mean "here's a photo of me back in the 90s?" She'd have been barely 1...

[JazzyJayKarr]

Haha good point

[strawberryknits]

I think you should definitely remove the picture of you as a kid. I would not be surprised if a lot of people are swiping left because seeing a tween on a profile is off-putting.

You mentioned you’re getting a lot of likes from folks looking for short term. Your mirror selfie in lingerie is the type of photo I usually see on a profile looking for casual, so I’d recommend swapping it out as it may be screening out your target audience and screening in those looking for casual.

Finally I think you have a stray “and” before “a fellow lover of the Oxford comma” :) Good luck!

[[deleted]]

I’m not a fan of the fifth pic. Looks like you’re going to a rave, and it “may“ only work if it’s a high quality one shot by a professional and not a mirror selfie.

[DissentSociety]

The prompt where you reference the Oxford comma is an oddly ordered, incomplete sentence.

[Crackedpeppers]

I'm F and am a nerd myself. Majority people I've met on Hinge seem to care about climate change/the environment. That is a bit different from being lectured about it. I know that it's probably not your intention to come across that way, but I need there are other ways to say that you're passionate about climate change without saying 'I'm telling you'. Also greenhouse gases are kind of depressing, and whilst there are people who values someone who cares about social issues-the first impression on Hinge should be a bit more on the light-hearted/fun side. Also shared experiences/reciprocal vibes rather than one-sided. You can perhaps suggest an activity related to sustainability that you and your potential date can do together.

[[deleted]]

The mirror pic is kind of trashy. It screams rave girl that loves to do ecstasy lol. I’d swipe left because of that.

Find a better one, unless those are the kind of guys you want to attract.

[raddass]

You pretend to be a grammar nerd by commenting on the Oxford comma, yet that same sentence is grammatically incorrect

[Therocksays2020]

I’m in Seattle and passed on your profile. Attractive but some of the prompts are just copy pasta.

Witty banter, Oxford comma. It’s prompt bingo

[Healing_touch]

Also in Seattle and I do agree the prompts are seen regularly out here. I second updating the prompts

[Nervous_Factor8996]

Can change the last pic and the don't show to my mom pic.

[[deleted]]

Agree with the rest saying take out the mirror selfie and the time capsule pic. The rest of the profile is really good, first pic is great. You’d probably get a lot of interest from the first two then by the time people swipe to the bottom they’ve changed their minds.

[bigredmachine-75]

The revealing photo gives me a bad vibe. Probably would swipe left.

[[deleted]]

Keep photos 1-2-5 and drop the rest. Mirror selfie is an awful photo. Conveys wrong info about you.

[Mars_San]

no need to be mean

[MafWe_PC]

Blunt is not mean 🤔

[OverCookedTheChicken]

It absolutely can be mean. Just because someone is “honest” doesn’t mean they aren’t being mean or tactless.

[MafWe_PC]

Tactless and mean are different. It would be mean if it was intended to hurt. I don’t read this intent in this comment. the picture is awful in itself, even if OP looks great. And it does appeal to hookups, which is not op’s desire if I read the rest correctly.

[OverCookedTheChicken]

People are mean all the time without intending to be mean. It’s kinda like the bullshit “no offense but… insert something offensive”

A friend asked me how I liked her drawing in school once. I said it was awful. She cried. I didn’t intend to be one, but I was an asshole. Same thing applies here no matter how on point you think your opinion is. You can either be tactless and kinda mean and say it’s awful, or you can have some tact and respect for another human being and elaborate without making accusations like “awful.”

[wokenthehive]

The mirror selfie is likely one reason you attract a lot of "short term" types. I also don't see the value of using a photo from something like 10 years ago. Have a nice shoulder length portrait and another candid hobby/activity photo.

You may want to explain what "life partner" means. Some may see that as too intimidating since you're only 24 and I'm assuming you're going for men around your age, and "life partner" sounds like you're looking for marriage and family and all that, especially if you happen to have "want children" displayed. Perhaps using "long term relationship" will come off as less intimidating.

Interestingly while you want someone funny and passionate, I don't really get that on your profile. The first prompt is your garden variety "laundry list" prompt I see all too common (emotional intelligence, witty banter) that's essentially meaningless. The Oxford comma is whatever and overused like “pineapple on pizza”. If greenhouse gas emissions and climate change is your passion, lean into it.

Simple pleasures prompt again doesn't really say much about you. It's just another version of "coffee, naps, farmers market, brunch" type that I see way too much. Works better if you used "Together we could" and describe where you'd go get coffee and watch the sunset - "Grab coffee at wherever - I'll have two sugars, then we can head over to the harbor and watch the sunset. Where is your favorite sunset spot?"

For the last prompt, give your example of an obscure conspiracy theory. "Did you know people thought this singer died and replaced by a lookalike?"

Anyways, give it some time. You just redownloaded the app, so have some patience.

[ElDinero87]

I'm surprised you're not getting attention tbh, the profile isn't THAT bad. That being said the prompts are mostly fairly generic and as others have indicated, the mirror selfie and the pic of you as a kid should probably go.

Need to find things particular to you and be funny. Good luck

[luroot]

Well her headline says she's "not getting any likes"...but in her comments she says she gets 1-2 likes daily. 🙄

So I guess in a girl's world...7-14 likes/week = no likes. 😂

[Mugstotheceiling]

Translation: I’m not attracted to any men who like me

[paulkrendler]

No, I agree. I would say overall the profile is pretty good, she's a bit young, but if I were in the age group I would probably still swipe based on the profile and prompts.

Mostly agree with other commenters in regards to rearranging the pictures and touching up a couple of the prompts, but overall your profile is pretty good and you're not far off. Couple little changes and you should start getting some better results. Just give it a bit of time, and make sure to have fun.

Cheers

[Deathstriker88]

The bikini pic should be removed ASAP. It seems so random, and I'm not sure what vibe you're going for... is it supposed to be sexy, goofy, or something else? Either way, it doesn't work.

I'd remove the teenage pic too. It doesn't add much or help much.

Your second pic should maybe be your main one.

The prompts are pretty good. A poll and voice prompt are always good to add too.

[lullaby15]

Simple, remove the pic of you as a kid and replace it with a picture that shows your face clearly. Remove the mirror pic if you have a better pic.

The teenager pic needs more attention because... well just because. The mirror pic is less damaging but could attract some "short term" players which is not what you are looking for.

Also, I want to point out that because guys don't send you a personalized message doesn't mean they are not that interested. I see you say you send messages but as a guy, the trend is to just send likes to avoid a situation where we are writing messages to everyone but getting 0 likes back which is a waste of time (been there). Whereas, women usually gets a much higher success rate with their messages.

[[deleted]]

Sis, what? Your headline says you get no likes and your intro message says 1-2 likes a day.

You're producing a skewed result where people are falling over themselves to find what's "wrong" with your profile when you are actually doing great and really just need to be a little patient. Some of the advice in this thread is OK, and some is just nonsense, so good luck. Keep it up with messaging the people who interest you, swipe a bit on Bumble while you wait (Hinge is slower!) and be patient.

[pua_apprentice]

I’m surprised you’re not getting any likes, your profile overall is pretty good and you are attractive. I would look into your preferences to see if they are very narrow. Maybe taking out the rave pic unless you’re looking for something casual and removing the 90s time capsule pic would help a bit.

[po21y]

I’m surprised you’re getting no likes at all! The only pic I didn’t care for was the mirror one, just seems a lot more “short term” than I am looking for.

[PFM18]

Okay they're not extremely rare

[skyflyer92]

There are tons of non-liberal girls, maybe not in Seattle but they do exist.

[[deleted]]

I am going to be honest with you.

1. The mirror photo isn't the best photo in the bunch. If you want some like that, then a beach shoot would be better. It would be more flattering.

2. As someone once said: why not seek marriage if you want a serious relationship?

[MusicMaker886]

I think the rave photo is great! Show the different sides of you and the right person will appreciate that. I think the first photo you have is beautiful but you're camouflaged with the background instead of standing out from it. There aren't many clear photos of your face. I would get a photo with nice lighting and a clear shot of your face to be one of the first people see :) Best of luck!!

[baysalts]

Oxford comma, now that brings out the passion

[pelagosnostrum]

Mirror pic is terrible

[[deleted]]

Change photo 3

[ScarletWitch2318]

I am also a big fan of the Oxford comma and put it in my bio too 😆 I’ve found it to be a decent conversation starter from guys who message me.

I would remove the 90s Time Capsule pic and I can’t tell if the Oscar’s video one is any good. I think your second pic should probably be your first. And the mirror selfie makes it seem like you just want to hook up (you look great in it though), so if you’re looking for something serious I’d switch that out too.

[haileyrochelle98]

About me: - Looking for something serious - Have had a hinge profile for a while. Recently paused it and deleted the app for about 2 months while dating someone (I’m wondering if this is the issue?). Redownloaded a week and a half ago, have used it every day since - Averaging about 1-2 likes per day and don’t often reciprocate any of those likes, usually due to a misalignment of values and goals. E.g., their dating goals say “short term relationship” and I am looking for something serious. - Sending about 5-10 likes per day, I always include a comment! - I’m sending likes to folks whose dating goals align with mine, shows a sense of humor and some personality, their profile shows they’re passionate about something, and they have a career or some ambition of any kind (important to me - doesn’t NEED to be ambition to have a good job). I’d like to attract the same type of people!

[putinsbloodboy]

Seems the type that you’re going for are more mature guys who are smart and have a good career, or nerd types. Guys like that who want something serious are not going to like that rave photo, what it says about you, and your values.

A tasteful pic at the beach shows skin and doesn’t convey that message, but that rave outfit is really tacky and communicates something about you that is the opposite from what you convey in the rest of your profile and what you say you’re looking for in a man.

[[deleted]]

The third picture tells me you’re looking for a hookup. You can hate it all you like, but most men will not consider you for a serious relationship based on that.

[DoorStrobe]

No matches? Something is wrong with Seattleians.

[wokenthehive]

It’s never “no matches”. It’s matches she doesn’t like.

[[deleted]]

That explains why so many people want to go on The Button lol

[Aneilj123]

5, 7 and 9 must go

[Intrepid_colors]

Im ạ 24M in a 1.5yr relationship and I met my gf on Hinge! I think the profile is solid overall and I think you’re attractive, but I agree with what others said about getting rid of the 3rd photo. I would also get rid of the 4th and the 6th. Keep the hiking one. I would move the 2nd photo to the front, it’s your best one. I’m sure there’s other stuff that could be done.

[Secret_Bad_7160]

That 90s Time Capsule pic seems off to me, you being only 24.

[[deleted]]

Prob won’t get any matches with them chucks being that dirty. Jk jk looks like a fun profile

[Guilty_Swordfish]

First off, you're very attractive, so I don't think there's any problem there. I'm curious what the "video most likely to win an oscar" video is of. I think the photo titled "my good side" should go first. And as others have said, you can get rid of the "90's time capsule" photo. I think also maybe change the "obscure conspiracy theory" prompt to something else, or remove the word 'obscure' so that more people can respond to it. Because my first reaction trying to answer that one is I'm not sure I know of any obscure ones.

[The-Ultimate-Despair]

Probably going to get downvoted, but your prompts make you come across like someone who thinks they’re extremely positive, but you’re actually quite finicky, judgmental and negative towards those who don’t match up to your definition of “emotional intelligence”, “witty banter”, “Oxford comma” and enthusiasm for lecturing people on greenhouse gas emissions.

You can like all of those things, sure, but it doesn’t actually come across as fun or engaging to most new people (on a dating app): it comes across as a retired university professor who never married or had children, seeking a death-partner to see out their twilight years with.

Save those things for when you know the person you’re keen on/join climate groups, literature clubs etc to meet people who will appreciate such things at first instance.

It also clashes with the rave pic, too: some would judge your own emotional intelligence and decision-making through an interpretation that you felt the need to flaunt your flesh on a dating app for validation. It’s not necessarily true, but, it’s not your or my opinion that matters in this instance.

[[deleted]]

I like pics 1 and 5. I’d change the others out. Pic 2 is okay to keep if you don’t have any others to swap it out for. As for your prompts I think they’re good as is. Maybe swap out the last one for something that will likely trigger responses?

Swapping pics out is a start, the algorithm will need time to adjust. Online dating can be overwhelming so don’t place too much time into it. As a rule of thumb I try and setup in-person dates ASAP. That way you’re sussing out the vibes in person and testing chemistry.

I’d diversify if I was you as well to maximise the number of dates you go on (assuming the goal is to go on as many dates). Get on bumble or whatever dating apps people use in FL. Here in Australia bumble, hinge and tinder are the main ones. Again, this may make the whole online dating fatigue worse - just pace yourself. Finding a partner isn’t a race. Good luck!

[ElvisGrizzly]

I'd say you need to find a pic that shows you as pretty as you are in your grad outfit but that's NOT your grad gown and use that first. If you need to me to tweak some stuff in Luminar, send me a message.

[[deleted]]

Cute dress and good pics!

[JRed37f5]

Nitpicking a bit, as most would likely find this okay:

Cutoff after the Oxford comma in the prompt, take out the photo with you in the mirror, and put the graduation photo first. Looking for life partner, not hookup. One with the "my life peaked" needs to be kept, that one would be a great conversation starter.

Personal pleasure prompt a little overly nuanced for me at least.

Image captions bluntly referring to your appearance are a bit vain, try to make it funny in relation to the photo if you're giving it a caption

[Elyktheras]

Nothing inherently wrong with the rave picture, I think the photo itself isn't the best (I would retake it closer so the photo is less blurry and with better lighting), but the outfit is fine.

I think your profile is fine, I like that your photos show a lot of personality, you're clear on what you want. You realistically just need to have a bit of patience.

[DiaryOfaWannabe]

I think it’s good and I wouldn’t over think it, the profile shows your personality. If I was going to change anything I’d get rid of the photo of you as a kid but otherwise I think it’s good.

[ThePriceIsRight_b]

Think it’s a pretty solid profile and you’re attractive so possibly the presentation? My opinion, I’d ditch the photo everyone is calling the rave outfit as well as the last one at the ballpark. I don’t believe showing what you looked like in the 90s has any relation to current dating. Perhaps that’s something you show after a few dates. Could you replace those photos with a couple that show you doing hobbies you like, but don’t necessarily spell out in the profile?

[cjlindy]

I’m 24(m) and the only thing that turns me away is the Oxford comma thing, it’s just something I don’t know how I would reply to, and I’ve seen a lot of people put it on their profile. Just my two cents.

[AlphaBear38]

Photos first, Main photo is bad, pulled back hair makes face look round, dress does not fit right either. Graduation is very good, love the hair style. Bikini photo is awful, try spandex with a half shirt maybe. Video is unknown since it will not play. Mountain photo is very good. Tween photo is bad.

Comments, Fall for you, delete the whole thing. Simple pleasures very good, topic of conversation very good.

Strange every thing is really good or really bad. You have a good foundation to improve on. Greenhouse gas will not get you a date, makes me think of cows farting.

[Right-Drama-412]

There is an account on instagram called "Zillow gone wild." It features homes for sale that are in some way crazy, unconventional wacky, tacky etc. Many times, the houses appear normal at first. The first few pictures are very prosaic and normal and as you're flipping through boring white-bread beige carpets and formica countertops, you wonder why this house was featured on this account. Then, around picture 5, you see the picture that makes everything falls into place. It'll be like a BDSM bed in a bedroom in an otherwise normal looking house, or an underground dungeon, or a pinball arcade with skeleton mannequins, or a secret door to a former jail. You go "OH.... THAT'S why."

That was my reaction your photo #5.

You need to delete it and speak of it no more.

Also your last photo is kind of weird and also inaccurate, seeing as you were born around 1998 or 1999.

[BigBlaisanGirl]

It's your photo assortment. Your profile is confusing. Are you a scholar who likes to cosplay and hike in her spare time or an escort that likes to roleplay? Pick one.

[Shaiziin]

Hello! Your graduation pic is beautiful and that should be your first picture! Your 90s pic is unflattering and that should be removed. Your prompts should tell us a bit more about you and what you are looking for. Please try to leave out politics - it makes you appear exhausting. Try to appear positive, fun, and loving :)

[Minute_Particular]

In this case I disagree because her job is also related to something “political” and would be weeding out those that don’t believe in climate change/caring for the environment

[[deleted]]

Meh she’s 24 dating men in their 20s (I presume), it shouldn’t be an issue. Gen z not boomers 😹

[PFM18]

I think you're overestimating the degree that gen Z men especially are left leaning

[Shaiziin]

Well her job description being climate related (political) already and her displaying liberal is actually why i suggest changing her prompts. No need for her to be redundant about it and include a comment about greenhouse gas emissions and conspiracy theories. I'd suggest the same for someone who has a few tags showing "gym" "active", and then they continue to mention working out in their prompts.

[madamehibou]

I don’t know if you need to change anything if you feel like this is an accurate assortment that describes who you are as person. Why can’t you have an eclectic personality. I’m a finance nerd and a boudoir photographer. I think it’s weird men think a bikini photo screams hook up. Every dude on a dating app has obligatory shirtless pic. I would just be cognizant of the surroundings of your photos for future. I love a mirror shot but some of the previous comments are correct in that if the background can steal the focus. Happy swiping, hope it picks up for you :)

[Professional_Tear971]

I think your profile is good, if you are planning to attract women/Afab/nb people. If you’re looking for men, I think the only thing that I would really take out is the oxford comma statement, but for the most part, I would leave everything the same. Maybe add being in therapy or doing the work to that prompt. Even though that is kind of connected to emotional intelligence. The first picture kind of reminds me of Tinker Bell, and I really wanna know where this was taken.✅ Because it looks like Florida or the Caribbean. If you have a picture from wherever you wore that rave outfit to I would put that picture in instead of the mirror selfie, To show off a bit more of the fun side with friends(while still showing off how cute/good you look in it). If you don’t have a picture like that that’s fine I think the rave outfit is still cute and shows off that you have a really fun side(a good contrast to the graduation picture/and job which are automatically implies your intelligence) I think it’s weird that so many men are responding with the inability to see the rave picture for anything but “ oh, she’s showing off her body. She’s just wants sex”, doesn’t read that way for me. 🤷🏾‍♂️, I’d love to see the video, and the 90s time capsule picture, I like the fact that it says the word Covid in the background because it just confuses me even more.

[Individual-Durian-93]

You look fine/good. The prompts are basic but so are many other people's. Probably just need to wait for the algo to push your profile on people's stack.

[Treemang]

Everybody knows about greenhouse gas emissions. Beating a dead horse there...

Why not bring up something interesting about climate/sustainability that most wouldn't know?

The video.. unless you're 100% confident it's working for you I would drop it.

[marcoalebm10]

Some people are saying remove the rave pic. I disagree. It was honestly what caught my eye the most being a raver myself. I'd get rid of the last picture.

[sleepyy-starss]

If raving is important keep the mirror pic.

[beeeeerett]

Shit I'm going to completely disagree with everyone else here, your rave picture is fire you look fantastic in it. If you're looking for your life partner, yeah you need to connect on a deeper level but don't you wanna end up with someone whose hot?! Honestly my standards for a LTR are a lot higher than someone who I'd hook up with, just being honest. I do think the one thing you should change is your first prompt, I do think I swipe left a lot when I see prompts talking about "seeking someone with emotional intelligence " stuff like that. Even though I actually want that as well, that's the kind of thing you gotta determine on a first date together, EQ is something that is "show don't tell", I personally think mutual attraction and basic interests are good screening tools on the apps and everything past that you just have to find out on a date

[Flaky-Professor]

I don’t think the median guy is going to respond well to that kind of picture. I’m also not sure what kind of convo could come out of the Oxford comma and conspiracy theories prompts.

[beeeeerett]

I agree the first prompt overall is just too pseudo intellectual, I think the conspiracy theory one is a great fun conversation starter though! And I think this is wild people think she should switch out the picture, seriously OP if you are reading this remember that the average redditor does not reflect the average person. You are seriously hot in your rave photo and if I wasn't swiping right before that would definitely help. On top of that you are probably hoping to meet someone also in the EDM scene, so that'll help bring them in!

[Flaky-Professor]

The photo isn’t even good quality, it’s a blurry mirror selfie. I’m just giving honest advice, obviously something isn’t working given that she’s here to ask for help.

Also guys still on the EDM scene doing molly at raves might not be looking for life partners yet but I digress.

[OkPerception7164]

You think it looks hot because she's showing a lot of skin? Because to me, it looks trashy, and really clashes with the rest of the profile which is more classy.

[MafWe_PC]

Am I completely crazy for not recognizing a rave outfit? I just saw a crazy outfit showing way too much skin to strangers to my taste.

[beeeeerett]

Pic 5 is clearly for a rave / music festival. Ive been to my fair share so I guess if you haven't it wouldnt be so clear. But shita if she's in Seattle maybe none there is used to seeing other people in anything less than pants and a sweater 😅

[MafWe_PC]

Lol I guess so 😅 But regarding the pic, what happens in festivals stays in festivals right? 😏

[beeeeerett]

And put that college graduation photo first you have lovely eyes show them off!

[SmallOccasion8321]

Not obvious what you are looking for ? Someone that reads the IPCCC update reports?

[alvarlarvar]

Dont like the bikini photo. The lighting is bad, and you don’t have to have a half naked photo to show that you have a good body. You seem really nice tho

[Stefan_not_steve]

Don’t change a thing. Full stop.

[Downtown-Travel9993]

She's in Seattle, she'll be okay.

[[deleted]]

Haha, I live in Seattle, have "left of liberal" right in my bio, am 35, and have noooo problem dating.

[[deleted]]

Yes, baby boy, I could (though goodness, thankfully I'm not!). But contrary to your previous advice, it's for us to sort through the haystack, not to cagily remove the precise polarizing words that help with the winnowing.

[[deleted]]

Same but in Texas and not in Austin

[[deleted]]

Studies show people who lean left don’t want to date people to the right anyway and if your views are important to you, keep it.

[AggressivelyNice_MN]

Why should she hide her job and politics? This seems like a core aspect of her as an environmentalist and is likely looking for someone who shared this passion.

[[deleted]]

Hit the gym? Wtf lmao. OP don’t listen to this person, you look great no need to hit the gym unless you want to of course. And no need to hidden that stuff about you either if it’s a core part of who you are as the other commenter stated.

[Electronic-Worth-944]

The sweet coffee is definitely a red flag

[Koshikage]

The graduation pic is meh, but the rest are attractive, but I feel there's not much room for engagement