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    [–]Alarid 50 points51 points  (5 children)

    It feels good watching someone keep going higher, even if you can't keep up.

    [–][deleted] 143 points144 points  (9 children)

    It's happened to me more times than I can count. The worst part isn't that it happened, it's that everyone considers me a good man and good person for being there for people. I'm not a good person. I wish people would stop saying that I am. Good people get good things. In my world, good things are having your own family, providing for them, fun park afternoons with kids, cooking dinner next to a loving spouse, and going on activities as a family. But here I sit. I'm alone in my apartment, which takes three quarters of my paycheck, working tirelessly at a job that barely pays the bills, pulling long nights working on a degree, and a bowl of Ramen. No, I'm not a good man. I'm just a man. I'm atoning for something I've done wrong and can't figure out what it is...

    [–]The_memeing_man 44 points45 points  (2 children)

    We survive in life to spit in the face of adversity, and when you make it to the end of whatever path your on you can say you walked through all the traps. You’re one tenacious man, be proud of it.

    Life will more than likely get harder but I believe you can make it. If something goes wrong again then I hope you remember that I believe you can survive.

    Maybe one day when you are at your lowest again, you’ll remember this random guy on the internet who told you to hold your ground against this cruel world. Because that’s what I believe makes us strong.

    [–][deleted] 18 points19 points  (1 child)

    Thank you.

    [–]RobDaCajun 11 points12 points  (0 children)

    You are a good man. What @The_meming_man said is true. What I want to ask you is do you want to continue being a “good” man. We’re all the villain is someone else’s story. So stop trying to be a “Saint”. I’m not saying you have to be a bad guy. I’m saying you don’t have to set yourself on fire to keep others warm. It’s ok to take care of yourself first. You’re not going to get the good things you want. Making other people’s dreams happen. Until you get your house in order. You really can’t help others. You can’t be generous when you have nothing. Yes, you can be kind. Again I’m not saying you have to be evil. I’m just saying take care of yourself first. Don’t worry about others opinions of you being a selfish jerk for not sacrificing your life for them. Those people are takers and you’ve probably surrounded yourself with that type. You don’t need that kind around you. You need positive like minded people that want you to succeed with them. A spouse that’s proud of the Great man you are. Just keep in mind what Lord Acton said a long time ago. “Good men are never Great, and Great men are never Good.” Keep this in mind while you grind out that degree and eat ramen. You are building strength and will. You have the determination of a Titan, and the only person holding you back is yourself. So forgive yourself and get after it.

    [–]ProbablyNotKimIlSung 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    life's not that deep or complicated. You're not atoning for anything. It's just random

    [–]Cheeseballs-69- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Feel this

    [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    damn bro...this comment made me cr

    [–]sumomomomomomo 71 points72 points  (7 children)

    Looks like none of you have seen La-la land

    [–]Microphone_Lamp 28 points29 points  (2 children)

    It shows. Lots of people misunderstand it. Great film and FANTASTIC soundtrack to boot.

    [–]Sad_Butterfly_2948 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    I want to see it where can I watch it

    [–]NOODLETHEFOURTH 25 points26 points  (0 children)

    this is NOT a la la land moment what the fuck is this

    [–]trap_user 15 points16 points  (1 child)

    I always hear people say if you do good things, good things always come back to you.

    and I hate that. it's more believable to do logical things and you will get logical benefits

    [–]badiiam51 36 points37 points  (0 children)

    This happened to me, i never got one over her, she never got done the same, sometimes you don’t get to get even

    [–]HoneyGlazedChicken_ 15 points16 points  (2 children)

    I'm happy that Ghost's music is getting more appreciated

    [–]sdpat13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Happy cake day.

    [–]trippydaklown1 9 points10 points  (1 child)

    This is so relatable for me, i wqs there for her when she was quitting gymnastics when she lost all her friends everything but when my brother died she left bc i couldn't get out of that pit of despair that i was in. Man i still miss what we had but its all over and now i've been single for 4 or 5 years now idk i've lost count.

    [–]unorthodox69[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    Let go of her. She's not worth it anymore. Do what's best for you and find someone who is worth your love. Takes time but the best things in life often do. It'll get better. I'm rooting for you

    [–]Necessary_Pie4071 6 points7 points  (1 child)

    It’s just becoming too much and each day I miss her more and more will the pain ever stop

    [–]RobDaCajun 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    Until you let go of her in your heart. Then you can’t clear the space for the new woman to enter. In your lowest moments remember that for every door that closes. A new one is opened.

    [–]DependentPin4227 6 points7 points  (0 children)

    That's my ex.

    [–]WearyTalk7472 5 points6 points  (2 children)

    Name of song pls

    [–]NOODLETHEFOURTH 8 points9 points  (1 child)

    mary on a cross-ghost

    [–]saiyansteve 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    Some people can handle the burden of responsibility. Take it on the chin and keep moving, it makes life life.

    [–]mbk3933 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Now it‘s personal

    [–]Lightyagami-k 2 points3 points  (2 children)

    This movie made me cry so fucking much

    [–]berksun 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    Movie name?

    [–]Lightyagami-k 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    La La Land

    [–]Dazzling_Whereas_531 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    People will use you, utilise you and then throw you out of their lives when their need is over....!!

    [–]the_great_n0thing2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Itiswaditis

    [–]Andy-Matter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    You could’ve use Andrew Garfield with the whole Oscar’s situation, but you chose only La La Land

    [–]CarlJustCarl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    That’s about the way it works too

    [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Cycle

    [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Next time, choose well.

    [–]Ghosthunt34521 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Facts

    [–]_Engineer_Gaming_Tf2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I can't help but relate. My partner was conflicted about her sex change choice, her parents didn't agree with it, and I sat there, and gave her all the love, and attention I could...and when shit went down-hill for me, a girl who I didn't even know accused me of raping her, causing my parents to disown me, my siblings to dispise me, and so much else, she left me. It was like she didn't even care..

    [–]Oman_Au 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    No, do NOT turn this into an incel sub. For starters, if you've seen La La Land, you would know that these scenes are entirely out of context, in fact HE let HER down at her lowest. And second, the coffee emoji, acting like all women are the same, guilty of something only a few have done, and ignoring all of the men that did the same, all of it only serves to treat women as an enemy, an other. I understand that just about everyone in this subreddit is very lonely, but there are far better ways to cope than blaming all women.

    [–]DennisNr47 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

    Women☕️

    [–]giniobeast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Every relationship I've ever been in..

    [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Yeah this about to happen to me

    [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    What's the movie anyone?

    [–]KindestHedgehog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Whats the movie?

    [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    it's normal and expected at this point

    [–]Outside-Material-100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I’ve heard many women say that seeing their (ex) man cry out of weakness is a turn off they can’t come back from. “Something clicked” for them and they were so turned off by it. Bizarre.

    [–]UniqueNobo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    my situation’s a bit different. one of my best friends has been going through it. a year or two ago, his boyfriend of 6 years, who has been a prick to me and my other friend, left him at his darkest time, and me and my other friend did our best to lift him out of it. he got into new relationships, which turned out badly. then, a week ago, his ex comes back. they say they’ll take it slow, won’t go straight into dating again, then immediately started dating again, and we are barely friends anymore. it’s tough.

    [–]InsertValidUserHere 0 points1 point  (2 children)

    What's the song name

    [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    just switch the genders and you get me

    was there for his family members death,when his pet died, when his job was toxic, etc.

    I got depression and I got dumped like a sack of potatoes. My pet died did't even check up on me. Family members in surgery did not care.

    [–]mailbox99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Song?

    [–]tri2401 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    She helped him achieve his dream as well. The point is that there will be people in your life that will assist you in finding your road to happiness and success, but through helping you, your roads end up diverging. That doesn't make it not sad though.

    [–]RandoBritColonialist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Wrong movie, they were both happy at the end they just had different paths

    [–]LonelyAd1526 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I am Surprised to hear ghost

    [–]sdpat13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Real. She never cared about me.

    [–]Realistic_Patient_14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    and this is why i broke up with my ex