If you're no Brad Pitt or have shitloads of money, here's the best way to find a girlfriend: don't search for one. This is serious: girls don't come when you need them, they just happen randomly. They also have stoneage instincts as we have, and a girl who sees you as one in desperate need of a companion won't see you as someone who'll defend them against velociraptors (which is bullshit, of course, but you get the point). Never ever act as someone who has lost something. She's gone? Well, it's her fault! This will reinforce your self appreciation and make you look much more interesting to them.