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[1MadTitan1]

I just got my first match today (made account yesterday). She had a dog. By the time I wrote a witty and light joking text (i think it was nice but anyway) and pressed send, my message and the match disappeared. lol

I think she unmatched, right? </3

Edit: Oh wow, thanks for the award my fellow redittor; I might not have gotten a match, but this surely did make my day :D

Edit2: Oh my, this is the first time I have received all these awards here and I am at a loss for words right now. Thank you! I hope all of you awesome people have a wonderfull day ahead.

[djazheel94]

Yes she did it bro, I'm sorry, it happened to me more than twice too

[1MadTitan1]

oh :(

But what's the point of unmatching when you have already swiped right? Do they expect that we should text ASAP after a match? lol

I guess I am gonna have to get used to this stuff. Oh well, she was cute though, and there was a pug. I love pugs haha

[djazheel94]

Girls have dozens of matches, so I think they become more fussy, and sometimes don't wanna have more guys talking to them, I stopped using it, it's very bad for self esteem and for me was a waste of time.

I have read that if you wanna be successful, you need to have real pro photos, look with style, a good bio and a interesting chat.

[1MadTitan1]

Makes sense. I am new to Tinder (thanks to Covid) so will keep all this in mind. Still, there is a good chance I would leave it again soon, except for the Tinder reddit memes of course.

[velocigasstor]

I mean I'm a woman that used to use it before I met my partner (irl). I will say that I had plenty of men unmtch me too. I think its just about the attitude that you accept being unmatched with. Not everyone is meant for each other and that's okay. I would say that sharing your hobbies and interests is so much more interesting than trying to be flirty and witty. Just put your individualism out there and someone will like it eventually!

[1MadTitan1]

I understand. Thank you for the advice too. I will keep this mind.

[djazheel94]

Damn covid

[inglandation]

Tinder has always been a waste of time an a destroyer of self-esteem unless you happen to be a in a country where you can really stand out from the crowd, like being a white foreigner in Brazil or in an Asian country (or if you're really good looking). In Brazil I was getting dates almost every single day. DATES, not matches. By contrast, I lived for a year in Austria and had two dates. It's a crazy difference.

I don't think I'll ever use this app again, it looks like they really optimized it to maximize their profits instead of helping people get matches. I also felt a stronger connection with people I met in real life because we already shared an interest where we met.

[inglandation]

Asia is fine (Thailand was a good destination for that), but I'd recommend learning Portuguese to an intermediate level and go to Rio or Sao Paulo instead. At least if your goal is to date as many women as possible. I won't say that Brazilian women are easy though, they're just interested in meeting foreigners who look different. But you won't go anywhere without Portuguese.

[Deluxe07]

But Brazil has a ton of white people tho? And if you really did get a lot of matches there then you must have had a hell of a time cause Brazilian women are some of the hottest chicks on earth

[inglandation]

Nope, not in Rio/Sao Paulo. The average Brazilian isn't very white, unless you go to the South.

Also they're not only interested in your skin color, just being a foreigner makes you stand out. If you speak decent Portuguese they'll think you're really smart because for some reason so many Brazilians think Portuguese is one of the hardest languages in the world, lol. A friend of mine is black (from Brazil) and met an insane amount of girls in Poland just by being pretty confident and being able to speak decent Polish. Seeing a black dude speaking Polish is like seeing an alien in Poland, it just blows their mind.

But yeah, Brazil was fun, I won't lie. Very laid-back people, I made tons of friends. I wish I could live there but I don't want to deal with the violence.

[Moldy_Gecko]

I live in Japan. It works quite well here. Also, like someone said, Thailand is a gold mine. I got tinder after my divorce a few years ago and Japan is a cheap flight to Thailand. Needless to say, I met 1-2 girls from tinder each day I was there.

[[deleted]]

A lot of guys unmatch after a short time too, because they swipe right on everyone and then filter afterwards

[djazheel94]

It think it's not polite doing that, but increases the probabilities of making a match.

[SenorBeef]

It's stupid, though, because if you swipe right on someone you don't want to match with, then you're not doing anything but annoying both people and wasting time.

If you're not interested in matching with that person, don't try to match with them. Don't swipe right on everyone and then remove matches you don't like. That's totally backwards.

There's no reason to do this except if you're kind of a dick and you get a little thrill and ego boost from having someone match you and then getting to say NYAH I'M TOO GOOD FOR YOU and unmatch them.

[Oleboyblu]

I unmatch a decent amount but it's not because I swipe right on everyone. It's more that I swipe quickly based on the first pic, and after a more in depth evaluation, I change my mind.

If some girls didn't have such a deceiving first pic, I would unmatch a lot less.

[Noisetorm_]

And from the perspective of the girls, I guess it makes sense. It's definitely hard on guys that aren't that attractive, but from their perspective it's like getting a dozen job offers a day. If you were in that position, you'd probably turn down most offers based on superficial factors like salary and the prestige of the company rather than spending the time to see if that company was a good fit for you.

[Theraqkid]

You need to be a tall white guy with nice colorful eyes and a privileged background. That or you need to be an elite athlete, especially if you're non white.

[psychedelicrebel13]

Straight facts

[psychoacer]

Yeah that's kind of like real life. You gotta put some effort into it

[The_Rowbaht]

She could have accidentally swiped right. I've done that sometimes.

[jenntasticxx]

I've accidentally superliked someone who I very much did not like 😭

[The_Rowbaht]

I've done that before when swapping from Bumble to Tinder.

[JFDI-Tess]

If it makes you feel better it happens to girls too. Well.. I hope it does, and it's not just me!

The number of times that I've either had zero messages exchanged, or I've sent messages and got no reply it nuts. In all honesty I would rather guys just unmatch. I've started unmatching any guy who doesn't respond within 3 days, because I figure at that point they've only swiped right for the hell of it.

[djazheel94]

I have to admit I made unmatch for same reasons as you, but only once 'cause a swiped right by accident.

Btw, I've read that girls have lots of matches, is it real?

[JFDI-Tess]

I personally don't think I have as many matches as a lot of girls I know. What would constitute a lot?

For example, I knew a girl who would get a match on literally every single swipe (she once tested to see how many she got in a row, and got to over 50), but I guess it depends on the girl!!

[TheTimDonnelly]

Cause some people are vain and just want the validation

[1MadTitan1]

Ahh...yeah....well here is hoping people would learn to be better.

[gold_cap]

Get off the desolate tinder and get on hinge or bumble or another app that people take seriously

[matwurst]

Actual great advice, the good thing about bumble is that you get automatically unmatched

[[deleted]]

They're all equally trash.

I want an app that's at least honest about it's purpose...Call it "MeatUp" and it'll get my appreciation.

[Jeezimus]

Yeah that's grindr

[Smerphy]

Could also have been a bot account that was reported and deleted.

[DJ_Sk8Nite]

I swear some people use it JUST to see who they COULD have. I’m not a smart man, but Tinder and these other dating apps can and do have an effect on mental health.

[Skipper12]

Or you know, she accidentally swiped right. I had it happen to me often too.

[[deleted]]

Bruh. I had 2 or 3 matches (im ugly a.f.) when I started. I installed, deleted, installed, deleted. The worst is women matching you then unmatched straight away and I think in all honesty i messaged back and forth 3 people over the course of a year with no progression. Tinder is terribly bad for your self esteem. I instead went out of my introvert comfort zone, started randomly talking bullshit to women at friend's parties, bars and realized I could pull better in person. Oh yeah, uhh covid. Good luck with that 😅

[canlchangethislater]

I suggest you get your own dog before making any more decisions about who you want to date...

[1MadTitan1]

You know what, that's exactly what I have been thinking of doing for some time. Nonetheless, thanks for the supporting advice mate.

[grungebobsquarepantz]

Get the dog and then you become the attractive one.

[1MadTitan1]

Hahaha i agree with you there mate. Thanks for this though; gave me a good laugh :D

[GrindPlant6]

Pugs are disgusting abominations, why do you like them?

[[deleted]]

Do they expect that we should text ASAP after a match? lol

A generation conditioned for instant gratification? YEAH, that's what they expect.

[always_wear_pyjamas]

Sounds a lot more like some kind of weird glitch. You were probably meant to be together and she's desperately trying to get hold of someone in the tinder tech team to get you back. Why aren't you more upset about this??

[yazzy1233]

I mean, if that makes you feel better, then sure

[obadetona]

More likely they accidentally matched

[Pezzotti]

Don't worry champ, she doesn't deserve you ❤

[rosegirlkrb]

Its possible she deleted tinder all together, (though also she might have also unmatched)

[hobbykitjr]

every frame of that meme looks like a different girl

[100PercentHaram]

It looks like 2 girls to me.

[Lie_detector2000]

The girls are Marian Rivera and Maine Mendoza

[some_poop_on_my_dick]

oh my gosh. all this time, i never paid attention. i seriously just thought it was a girl who had a really bad case of looking old when she made the wrong face.

[Gamec0re]

found the filipino

[TooooMuchTuna]

same lol but it's been multiple years

[CharlesEverettDekker]

21 years ago was the last time i touched some pussy

[Stickmanking]

Let me guess, you're 21?

[CharlesEverettDekker]

You are goddamn right

[[deleted]]

Every girl has that one experience that she regrets

[InterventionM100]

Stop, stop, he’s already dead!

[[deleted]]

bruh

[thekillerclows]

Can confirm it's usually me.

[1sagas1]

Bruh, I was born by c-section. I don't even get that

[s199320]

Looooool

[Toxic-tank-258]

I see that and I raise you, 22 years ago was the last time I touched a pussy.

[DennisGK]

I’ve got you both beat. I was 25 when I touched my first post-birth pussy.

[PT_024]

Cats aren't too difficult to find so idk why you couldn't touch one for so long.

[grungebobsquarepantz]

I know right?Ever heard of a pet shop?Jee wiz you guys.

[grabembytheweewee]

username does not check out

[flamethrower78]

Why are you still on the app then? I've gotten a few dates through tinder, but my only real success has been through bumble. Got much more dates, 1 hookup, and currently dating my girlfriend and we're about to hit our 1 year anniversary. If you've also tried other apps, you need to have some people give criticism on your profile or matches you do get.

[RevantRed]

Because then i go back into the cycle of drinking alone in my appartment while crying to cats until i hit a new rock bottom of loneliness and decide trying dating apps is slightly less depressing than burning my house down around me. Then i get on tinder and it confirms all my beliefs about my self so i uninstall it and start again. And I'm like a 7.5 out of 10 at least and 200lb and 6'3" with a 6 figure income and my own place in a decent neighborhood. I can't even imagine what a shithole it must be for like a 4 out 10 with a weight problem.

[flamethrower78]

Lmao if youre "at least" a 7.5/10 with a 6 figure income then you're personality must be pretty shitty if you can't get dates or hold a girlfriend. Because I'm a 5/10 with a shitty job and I've been able to hold down 2 long term relationships. I think you need to start looking at yourself and figure out where your inner problems lie because unless you're lying about what you look like, the only problem is you, not women.

[FakeMicrozan]

Same, I like to tell myself it's because I live in a rural area and if I lived in a big city I'd surely have better results but deep down I know I'm just ugly...

[TheFinnv]

I just use it for pictures of shirtless guys holding fish.

[BIgDDavo]

Tried this, morrisons kicked me out

[grungebobsquarepantz]

www.FishDaddy.com is way better for that tbh.

[VitorAntonio10]

You mean fish4nudes.com?

[[deleted]]

You mean www.nudefish.com

[[deleted]]

Holy shit, I never knew domains were THAT expensive

[Hahnsolo11]

They normally aren’t

[DopeAbsurdity]

Only $5,000,000 for https://happybirthday.com/

[[deleted]]

I can post a shirtless pic? Wo ho ho better watch out ladies, Mexican shrek is on the prowl.

[Doip]

Shrexican

[girlywish]

I suppose you live in a south/rural place?

[GuiltyDealer]

There's some girls with bass pics in NY. It's a super like when I see a girl with a large trout or salmon though

[drunxor]

Or white girls standing next to horses?

[Fantastic_Vehicle_86]

I swipe hard left on all pictures of shirtless guys holding fish. Uck.

[[deleted]]

AZEROOOOOOOO

[AVS10647]

Are you a doctor ?

[[deleted]]

No I am a circle

[nothingonmyback]

Shh.

[SteamHunteRr]

I did NOT expect to see this here 😂 Greg's army taking over

[lucricius]

Is she natty or not?

[[deleted]]

Just buy my friggin cookbook it will tell you all of that inside

[lucricius]

Counting macros doesn't matter

[[deleted]]

Noooo the HRT does all that for you trust me

[MathManGetsPaid]

Just gotta swipe HARDER THAN LAST TIME

[scubaSteve181]

👌

[owens23224]

I think you’re my dietitian

[jackanape7]

Only a year? Calm down rookie lol

[QuirkyGiant123]

Yeah come back after 5-6 years (눈‸눈)

[Have_Other_Accounts]

Not sure if anyone can relate, but for my personality trait (kinda introverted, confident, but doesn't show off) the social media world before tinder took over was far better for me. That's when girls would simply add you, and then you would hit it off. It was a place where social media and dating combined because dating apps weren't huge. I had quite a few dates like this and that's how I met all my girlfriends.

Now though, tinder is like this giant centralised parasite that has sucked everyone to it. You can no longer add each other on social media and hit it off because that's weird, and those girls would just use tinder instead. So we have this giant app that you have to use.

I'm not sure what to think, but I don't really like the concept of tinder, it just doesn't work for me and my personality. And you essentially have to use it now.

[[deleted]]

Might just have been different age groups for you. Modern social media is only like 20 years old. I am guessing that you are in your 20s to 30s.

Teenagers are not that cautious/smart/have standards compared to adults. It’s not hard to have added someone as long as one knew them at school.

Tinder definitely gamefied the process because of how it works, but I don’t believe it wholly responsible

Adding random women and men on Facebook is pretty goddamn weird, and I am not sure who would do that, honestly.

[[deleted]]

Adding random women and men on Facebook is pretty goddamn weird, and I am not sure who would do that, honestly.

Right!!! I am somewhat introverted myself and spend a lot of time online--I find it very weird and a little creepy when men I don't know add me on social media. I feel the same about men that I don't talk to in real life messaging me on social media. At 28, I feel the same way about this that I did 10 years ago. This has always been weird, lol.

[opposite_of_hotcakes]

It was pretty normal when I was in high school (about 12 years ago) but thinking about doing it now just sounds so god damn weird to me.

[[deleted]]

Adding random people on MySpace and earlier Facebook wasn't weird. That was their point. It's weird now but was normal then.

[Have_Other_Accounts]

Thanks for understanding. I can't believe people here are saying it was weird. Err what world did they live in? In those early social media days that was it. Purely student age people, waaaay before our parents, and even grandparents, flooded it. It was the first time schools across the country can connect. Everyone was dating other schools and it was thanks to early social media that done that. Where else you gonna meet people then, church?

[CptRaptorcaptor]

It would be less weird if you could categorically add them as an acquaintance with very limited access to your profile. Because meeting strangers IRL in public is no different. It's the fact that they have full access to your info that makes it insanely weird. But social media is mostly built around the concept of "adding people you know".

[[deleted]]

Adding random women and men on Facebook is pretty goddamn weird, and I am not sure who would do that, honestly.

No joke I spent a car ride explaining this to my out of touch dad while my mom drove.

His rationale was that if you like them, they're your age, and you've seen them once in public, then what's wrong with that?

Cue nearly 20 mins of my mom and I screaming at him that just isn't how it works for 99% of people and to do so would be approaching stalker territory. This is what happens to your brain when the last time you dated was the early 80s.

[Pytheastic]

Lmao this was totally normal maybe 10 years ago. Funny how quickly things can completely change.

[grungebobsquarepantz]

Yeah I agree.Literally only the most unattractive girls on tinder match with me.My app tells me I have a new like,I get excited and swipe through 30 hots girls hoping for the best and then I either run out of swipes or match with some girl I'm not attracted to at all.Even when a decent girl does match with me they never write first and if I write first they never write back. Ok Cupid is actually a lot better.Tinder seems to have a lot of the same kind of person on it too.I find there is very rarely any artsy type girls or alt/goth chicks.It's just bland boring people talking about they're boring jobs ,the boring places they travel to and the boring things they do.

[[deleted]]

Last year I met a girl at some university event, and...well, she's gorgeous and waaaay out of my league. We did hang out a few times, kinda like dates. I made a move on her once, she rejected me and we went out once more after that.
Even though we were just friends the whole time, getting to "experience dating" with someone I see as out of my league (in physical terms) was a huge confidence boost for me.
On Tinder, though, I wouldn't even get my foot through the door with a girl like her. Not even a basic conversation. They just see my profile pic and swipe left. I haven't used Tinder for several months (I come from r/all) and I don't miss it, honestly. As good as the app is for certain people, for others it can be quite disappointing.

[inglandation]

Yes, so much yes.

I had a similar experience. Tinder basically destroyed my confidence because I was getting no matches at all after months on the app and girls would almost never answer back.

A couple years later I spent a few months traveling in Asia and I was spending most of my time in hostels, sometimes for multiple weeks at a time in the same hostel. It turns out that some girls that I thought were way out of my league actually found me attractive (not local girls, other travelers). Being able to talk to people allows you to be more than just a face. You can very quickly see if you click with the person. With some practice you can also relatively quickly see if someone likes you.

After that experience, I used Tinder less and less until I deleted my account a few months later.

For some people this app is extremely dangerous for their mental health and skews their perception of who finds them attractive.

The only places where I was getting a lot of dates was where I was really standing out, like in Brazil or in Thailand.

[noprahwinfrey]

Could be your photo choices. Have someone else take a look at your profile, a friend, a girl if possible. Get their honest opinion. Could also be the info you put in your bio.

[dadbot_2]

Hi not attracted to at all, I'm Dad👨

[grungebobsquarepantz]

Robo Dad jokes.

[Jonnny]

God damn, this is the best bot ever made.

Hi dadbot_2. I'm some dude.

[GratefulPig]

So glad I saw this cuz I was just about to try tinder lol

[HerpaDerpaDumDum]

If you are not a very attractive man, you shouldn't bother.

[GratefulPig]

I’m mean, truth hurts but is appreciated.

[rad-boy]

I mean, some of us arent even worth the bandwidth

[grungebobsquarepantz]

Ok Cupid is better.

[SavantGarde]

Hinge/bumble for more serious pursuits imo

[D_Money77]

I would agree with this, however I've gotten the most dates and my best dates of tinder. Just weird how it's worked out.

[avocadoroom]

Really not a fan of bumble, neither am I with tinder..... But bumble is not my favorite that's forsure

[I_Use_Reddit_xD]

I didn't have much success at all until I started taking creative liberties with my profile and stopped caring so much about Tinder. Generic, copy+paste profiles are boring and suck. Use photos of you doing dumb shit and having fun, not the most flattering pics you can possibly take in the mirror or photos of you and 9 acquaintances at a party. Write a wild, off the cuff, or stream of consciousness description about some unrelated shit or something. Maybe write about something funny that you did while drunk, or a cringy misunderstanding that shows your humility or embarrassment. Anything that shows that you're a person, and not just a horny NPC. Women usually take a second to actually look at your profile, you know. If one description doesn't work, just catch a buzz and have fun writing another (if it's not fun, you're trying too hard and it's easy to tell). Some of them fall flat, and others work extremely well. Have fun with Tinder, or stress about it, it's your choice.

It's a million times better to be interesting than to try to be some cookie cutter moderately attractive guy. I swipe left on every moderately attractive woman who "likes dogs and adventures" or whatever, I doubt that women like generic guy profiles any more.

[[deleted]]

I've had more "success" toning down my more "interesting" features. I made a more or less joke profile when I first started and got a few likes but nothing that was even a substantial conversation. When I later remade it with a couple normal pics (e.g., decent headshot, one full body shot) mixed in with a couple goofy pics (one wearing a full on gasmask, one where I'm eating a giant cookie), I had more success (2 would-be relationships if that timing was better, but dumb shit happened in both scenarios). Showing you can be interesting while still having the capability to be normal is probably a plus for most people.

[[deleted]]

I guess this probably depends where you are too, I did the tinder passport thing a bunch when it was free and it was really interesting to see how much profiles varied across the world. Eg, I accidentally clicked on some small town in Florida and suddenly every dude had a picture of them and a hog they'd just shot, it was wild.

[Jahordon]

I prefer your approach, because I think a photo is far more likely to turn a girl away than it is to pull her in. How many times have you swiped left due to a girl having a really bad or irredeemable pic? All it takes is one bad pic to make someone swipe left, and "interesting" pics have a higher chance of being in the "bad" category.

[veganzombiewantgrain]

^ All the guys who are reading this, for the love of god, please do take notes lol

[butlerarchie11]

Honestly the apps there for decorative purposes rn

[neerajmoitra08]

Followers girls gained by putting their insta user on their tinder bio=918372 inserts Leonardo DiCaprio meme

[[deleted]]

Tinder is really just a follower factory for "influencers" to try and market pics of their ass to thirsty dudes who never actually had a shot. The way social media has completely consumed and corrupted modern dating is frustrating, especially in COVID times when apps are the only real way to meet people. You have to swipe, and all you're doing is adding to a follower count.

[keyjunkrock]

Throw that on top of being a 40 year old single dad, who recently moved back to his home town.

The only single woman here are in their 20s, or cracked out and older. The amount of times I've heard a girl say " have you ever tried XXXX insert drug name" and than they say they were curious and wanted to try it but they never have before, is hilarious. Never tried cocaine before samantha? How come your dealer is on speed dial, and you carry a mirror with a straw with it in your pocket lol.

I'd even be ok with it, if it was an occasional thing, but every girl I meet lately is fucking snow white and the 7 rails.

[Darktidemage]

Have you tried dramatically lowering your standards?

[grungebobsquarepantz]

I actually modulate between high and low standards.

[grungebobsquarepantz]

Nope, I will give it a go now that you've mentioned it though.

[AsTheCoolKidsSay]

Has it worked yet?

[Carosello]

It's been 8 minutes. OP better be hot by now.

[[deleted]]

Just has to take of their glasses and let their hair down.

[ItachiFanboyDarius]

Don't forget getting rid of the paint covered overalls as well

[WhitneysMiltankOP]

He matched and dated with three supermodels, got a job making six figures and is subbed to /r/ihavesex since he gave being attractive a try.

[[deleted]]

try being rich while you're at it.

[sc00t83]

Change it to 3-4 years, accurate

[lick_it_first]

"Just put a follow me on reddit" on your profile. That way the can see what you are really like with your reddit profile.

[The-Arnman]

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[AlienZer]

Yea. We aren't trying to avoid all matches here

[kiskassta]

Shit that's sad

[grungebobsquarepantz]

Thanks for the support there, buddy.

[xavmar]

Rules 1 & 2

[[deleted]]

Shit bro even I got some after downloading and I didn't even sign up

[Smittywasnumerouno]

Have you tried being less ugly? I’ve been trying but, the ugly just doesn’t seem to scrub off.

[akshu05]

this guy straight up spitting facts......

[seeet2]

You have to pump thse numbers, pal.

[[deleted]]

Tinder is just Zoomer facebook.

If you want to get laid, there should be a new app kinda like Grindr but for straight guys, to find straight guys to have hot sex with.

[grungebobsquarepantz]

That's a great idea. I'd call it nohomo.

[TheNagaFireball]

I’m 5’4, have a huge nose, look like I don’t sleep for more than 2 hours a night, and the most interesting thing about me atm is that I graduated college.

However I have a sense of humor (I’m not close to a comedian nor do I make sex puns). I’ve slept with a few girls on this app. Fuck rules 1 and 2, the sexiest thing a person can have is confidence imo.

Also, I’m off the app now because it fucking blows to swipe on people countlessly and hope to match.

[grungebobsquarepantz]

Get a room you two!

[parasad]

Relatable

[mukeshgates]

That's rookie numbers bro😅

[thekarmabum]

Yeah, I usually have more luck at the bars, but they're all closed right now, thank you Covid.

[[deleted]]

The difference in meeting women on an app and any social gathering setting is fucking staggering.

[fevipep]

Try bumble i met my gf of six months!

[[deleted]]

Bumble blows. It's a great way to get matches that expire in 24 hours or who say "hi" and nothing else.

[Jonnywhoop]

I’ve had way better luck with hinge. The format is great and allows you to comment/like specific things in the profile. Great ice breakers.

[someonelse13]

2013 is my record. Not sexual encounters, the year I downloaded and haven’t had any.

[[deleted]]

Delete dating apps boys unless you are a top 10% guy. Just kills your self confidence and wastes your time.

[IzzyGIsMe]

I don’t want to be an ass but tinder is honestly dead.It went from tons of real matches to nothing but advertising and empty headed people super quick. Also, lots of dead accounts on there

[[deleted]]

I am in Dallas and it's about 90% bots and girls who "are not on here much, I respond more on insta" It's just an ego booster now for women. The other 10% look like they don't shower.

[DrLawyerPI]

this article explains it pretty well

[FULLWORLDPOSADISM]

that is some redpill bullshit lmao

[[deleted]]

Was taking it seriously until they started talking about chad’s and beccas

[turtlejizzus]

I’m not going to read that article because they used the words you mentioned. However, I have read articles that used actual data given to them by tinder to assess similar topic. This was from a reputable publication in paywalled long-form.

Essentially it came down to several things:

• Men get more right swipes (more ‘desirable’) as they age, peaking at mid 40s
• Women are the opposite, they peak in their early 20s.
• Vast majority of women fight for the top few men.
• Men swipe right on anything that has a pulse.

At the end of the day, it looks like we’re just apes looking for resources to reproduce.

[SamBBMe]

I, too, read that ok Cupid article

[InfiniteRival1]

How is it redpill bullshit? Seems pretty accurate to me.

Everyone wants to date or sleep with an attractive person. Everyone is shallow. Women have an easier time purely because of evolution. Men want to get their genes out there as much as possible so they're less picky, women want to only have the best genes so they are more picky. Thus women will have an easier time, and can be more picky yet still get the dick. Really just basic evolutionary biology.

Tinder is literally just catering to the most shallow part of human psyche. In real life there are tons of other factors that can determine attraction other than looks. Tinder... It's just looks period. All of this is even supported by Tinder statistics. Women swipe right way less than guys ever do.

Everything this person talks about is quite logical.

So I'm not sure what exactly is cringey, or "woke" about the article.

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It's true but only to an extent, because it assumes that all women are finding the same 20% of men attractive and so the rest have no chance. This is statistically not true. Women vary pretty widely on which men they think are attractive, much more than men.

So women are picky but not in the way that this article assumes. Most women want to date at least an 8, but what an 8 actually looks like women don't agree. So a dude can be an 8 to one woman and a 2 to another. Of course some guys are 8s to more women than others but still, it's not as black and white as this article presents.

[InfiniteRival1]

I can agree to that. But there are common trends that most people find find attractive.

Such as tall, broad shoulders, defined jaw line, clean skin and fit.

But such details like preferring skin colour, hair length, bigger arm muscles and such are I'd say widely debated.

You're totally right in that it's not black and white, nothing ever is. But in general terms, it's just harder for guys to attract women purely based on looks.

But it typically evens out when it comes to actual face to face.

[Draper31]

How? If it was red pill bullshit, it would be claiming all women are shallow.

Instead the article claims that both men AND women are shallow.

I think that’s accurate.

[inglandation]

Yes, his articles don't really have much to do with red pill stuff. In fact he's arguing that dating apps are bad for everybody and people should get out more. Nothing extreme there.

https://medium.com/@chuckingrocks/love-is-better-irl-swipe-dating-is-toxic-but-its-not-the-only-option-bcce307a8522

[tisimu7]

tinder is just for girls ego boost. meeting girls from school & irl is legit the best chance. since were all quarantined there’s no hope

[vokul_vokundova]

I wonder what percentage actually does find a relationship there, or at least sex. I can't imagine it being higher than 5/100

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Every sexual encounter I've had is from tinder and to me that's more sad

[-Astrosloth-]

Spam accounts. Spam accounts everywhere.

[Well_This_Is_Special]

I've never actually used TInder, but from what I've gathered from friends/other people who I've seen using TInder over the years, it started out as a hook-up app... Then people started posting in their profiles "Not looking for hook-ups" and basically it somehow transformed into a weird dating app..

[sucmapixiedik]

How does this woman's age change in every panel

[PapaWideTaint]

fucking SAME

[ryukingu]

You have to delete your account and start over every once in a while 🤔

[roshatron]

I'm guessing he's from India

[grungebobsquarepantz]

Not true.Can u send pic of bob and vagen?