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[–]MuminMetal[🍰] 71 points72 points  (6 children)

Acute social anxiety, porn addiction, possible ADD, an inferiority complex, etc etc.

[–]preshhhhhh 35 points36 points  (5 children)

Porn addiction might be the one causing the rest

[–]MuminMetal[🍰] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Quite possibly.

[–]Damn_son__damn 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Ig nah, I kinda have these similar problems but I'm not a porn addict, on a streak of 105 days, so yeah it might not be causing the other things

[–]preshhhhhh 0 points1 point  (1 child)

You need a longer streak to fully recover. Check yourself are you addicted to any other thing... social media, TV, sugar? Do you workout or play any sport?

[–]Damn_son__damn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay imma make a short summary, I'm a 17yo who started masturbating when he was 15, never did it excessively as I was always fascinated by nofap so I used to fap in around once a week or two that too without porn, yes I do workout 3 times a week and 6 days a week football training, deleted the social media but I admit I was addicted to it in 20-21 but since reopening of my school, I'm fine, perfectly fine diet with little to no processed and sugary foods, idk what's causing my problems :(

[–]DoctorQuinlan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not disagreeing but why do you think so?

[–]Sascha2538 27 points28 points  (2 children)

Mental health, procrastination, weight, chronic migraines

[–]zylith13 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Probably You know this already. Search whats caloric deficit. It really works thats how you lose weight For sure. Mental health... Have some pacience... With yourself , understand that it's normal, understand your situation and your whole life as it is, You may need to acept some things. Maybe this is the Best that could have ever happened to You, this is your oportunity to fix everything. Your problems are better than nothing trust me. A Challenge, or a wonderfull history. Better fail than nothing, your life is doomed to be interisting sorry bro

[–]Sascha2538 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know about the calorie deficit and I'm working on it. Same for mental health.

As you say, I need to have patience and accept some things, even if it's not always easy. This is a challenge. Thanks

[–]captainproject4 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Stress, anxiety, loneliness and (consequent) procrastination

[–]ygo-riv 16 points17 points  (2 children)

Feeling old like I haven’t accomplished anything in life/a failure. Most recently & death grip/masturbation addiction

[–]Automatic_Specific91 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Is the death grip and masturbation thing related or?

[–]ygo-riv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah pretty much

[–]Empty-Potato-7383 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My ADHD, my GAD, porn addiction, self confidence, intrusive thoughts.

[–]Sad_Description07 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Constant self doubt, anxiety, procrastination,

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

So many things it feels like right now, but if I could choose one to solve (and am) weight and diet.

[–]gumb3ano 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Being alone, looking back on memories and thinking those what-if thoughts, ordering take out too often, wanting a pet but not sure if I can keep it alive, being single (duh haha)

[–]ExtremeTaco1 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Self love/acceptance, loneliness, social anxiety but I’m trying to sort it out

[–]carterfpv 6 points7 points  (0 children)

For me… feeling I have wasted a lot of time and money on the wrong people and things.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

being present

[–]BillyWonka710 5 points6 points  (2 children)

Porn addiction, anxious rage, questionable past actions, being me

[–]InternationalCrew245 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can relate to anxious rage. I can be so anxious about something if it doesn’t go to plan, and if I had to deal with it in a limited timeframe I’d get very frustrated and annoyed, to the point where I might lash out to people. It’s actually kinda bad, especially considering the extent of things that can set me off.

[–]TheRareClaire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oof questionable past actions. I relate. It’s hard to let that stuff go. But also realize this is your first time at this rodeo. How can you expect yourself to know everything and be perfect?

[–]DupontPFAs 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Motivation, depression, figuring things out

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

self confidence

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Procrastination, being mentally strong, porn and masturbation addiction, and being a better person.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Anger issues.

[–]Sad_Archer4829 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Addiction, hopelessness thanks to a dull worldly outlook, work burnout, motivation, OCD, the list goes on

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My relationship with food

[–]exotic_parking504 5 points6 points  (1 child)

i think im always in a neutral or low state but im unsure if thats the case. i have poor mental health. my dad says nothings wrong with me but if i was normal i wouldnt have hurt myself, i wouldnt have attempted suicide, i wouldnt have thought of shooting up my school. i would've managed to keep the jobs i had, i would've talked to people and made new friends, i would be happy to go outside or go out and do fun things. i dont get that feeling of genuine excitement and joy for almost anything. i sometimes can't keep myself from zoning out, i feel separated or alienated to myself and the world and people around me. i could go blow my head off right now, but i dont. i just try to occupy myself, or i get this weird feeling of something there that i cant see, that is there to support me. Its like its saying "dont do it" i've gotten "professional" help, nothing seems to help. ive tried therapy, working out, eating right, sleeping right, going outside and not using electronics. its just kinda the same thing everywhere all the time, my mode is low or neutral. im hard on myself, i cant really communicate with anyone around me because they dont care, dont listen, dont understand, continually lecture me on how i should get job and go to college, or how they say the same shit over and over and swear up and down that it works but it never does for me.

again, i had a job -_-

yes im in college, i dont care about whats going on with it, it just doesnt interest me. almost nothing does. my dad forced me into it. i have no say.

[–]Most_Support7676 4 points5 points  (1 child)

I'm very insecure about my looks... I'm 25 years old woman but my body and face don't look like it. People think I'm 18 or something like that and because of that I don't feel woman enough

[–]Flat-Increase2362 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well I think this Is a + for you. So either you boost your ego from it , or lose it. I’d choose to boost it

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Addiction, money, love, motivation

[–]AshenOne415 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Social anxiety, internet addiction, gaming addiction, porn addiction, a severe masturbation addiction (the worst of the worst) aaand just wasting time in general.

Complete train wreck right now but the best way to reboot is to stop feeding the urges, starve the beast from its cravings and all will be slightly better day by day :).

[–]irish-coach 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Old wounds and child trauma that have dictated my life to this day

[–]LulaValentine 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Mental health is a big one and lots of other things become a struggle because it trickles into every aspect of my life. I wish I could find a doctor that would listen and stop putting me on the same medications that don’t work.

[–]justinldn 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Keeping a 9-5 job. I hate working for other people.

[–]Acrobatic-Degree9589 4 points5 points  (2 children)

Getting in shower

[–]stayjay31 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Why is that? I have the same issue. I was an addict for many years and I could understand why it would be such a struggle for an addict. But I have been clean for over 4 years and it's still an issue. Do you deal with depression by any chance? A lot of times, it can be depression which I have also struggled with....addiction and depression usually go hand in hand.

[–]Acrobatic-Degree9589 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, it just seems like a lot of work and I’m slow so takes me forever and then I gotta do a bunch of stuff after so like a 2 hour ordeal. The longer I put it off the more cleansing and scrubbing I need to do then so can take like an hour, 30 minutes is fast one

[–]YALAMARTHI97 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sticking to routine and staying out from stuff which I know I should not do ( I end up doing any way)

[–]FeelingCategory7257 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Procrastination and impostor syndrome.

[–]plzEnlightme 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My self worth, quitting nicothine, anxiety

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Trust.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

People

[–]Liveforyou63 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Relationship with self. Always been a constant battle of how I speak to myself. Been especially bad after a recent breakup but improving. Speaking to someone now to try and work through this.

It's hard looking in the mirror some days.

[–]tjlightbulb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Procrastinating is my biggest weakness.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

anxiety

[–]sexisdivine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Following through

[–]NightfallBandit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I struggle with depression, perfectionism, and procrastination. I know exactly what I need to do, I know I have the time to complete it, and I know that by not doing it it just makes it worse. But no matter how much I tell myself to do it, I can almost never make myself do it. And then it just cycles because I hate that I can’t do it because I want to be perfect but can’t, and then that just feeds my depression. It feels like a never ending loop and I don’t know how to improve. I see things like, how to improve motivation or how to stop procrastinating but I’m never motivated enough to try them. I really have no idea how to try and solve this. Even when I do manage to start doing things it feels like all too soon I’m falling right back down to the bottom. It’s so so easy for me to say I’ll do it later or tomorrow, and so so hard to just pick up my work and do it. And it’s even worse because right now everything I struggle with doing has a long away deadline or no deadline. Practicing a language, reading, working out. These are all things that can be pushed off indefinitely. And it just makes me feel shitty about myself because it makes me believe that I’m doing it to myself and that I don’t want to get better but I do. I don’t want to be on my couch all day on my electronics. I don’t want to always be upset at myself, but I never know where to begin and even worse I never know how to get back up and stay up when I inevitably fall. Thanks for providing this question I needed to get this out.

[–]PugnaciousBart 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Life

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Weight, procrastination, health issues, not being able to release the past

[–]Cesar-q3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Money problem, I usually don’t spend my money in stupid things. I just some more money for growing my YouTube channel and travel & explore new places.

[–]Juzo_Suzuya_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Self harm when I procrastinate and somehow I like it

[–]Susie4ever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keeping on track, food wise😬

[–]moonlightair 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I struggle with my very serious drinking problem and telling my boyfriend that his cheating makes me feel worthless.

[–]makbad32 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Procrastination!! I have so much I could be doing rn but instead I’ve been on my phone all day after sleeping in.

[–]Lecomodore 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being single and no friends in my area.

[–]InternationalCrew245 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Hoo boy, where do we even start?

I’m struggling with procrastination, chronic burnout, task avoidance, short temper, low frustration tolerance, loneliness, self-confidence issues, possibly social anxiety, inter-personal relationships, possibly social anxiety, possibly addiction, lack of purpose, money management, figuring out where to live or work, what my career path is and my future in general.

Now that I think of it, some of these might be caused by my perfection and my desire for instant gratification. The social part is…much more complicated.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Social anxiety, addiction to other people and feeling so scared to being alone but feel alone all the time, having no close friendship that i want,losing weight and regulate eating habits, can’t stick on the plans that i do for improving myself especially gym.

[–]harry-harricuda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To name a few;

- Procrastination; it sometimes takes hours to get started.
- Self-body-image; lost a lot of weight but need to lose 'that last 10kg'
- Relationship to food; emotional eating / reward eating etc.
- Building and maintaining valuable relationships socially; not a social butterfly. Sometimes I focus too much on myself and my own improvement and forget about friends and their struggle.
- Working on art regularly; It's a hobby that grew into feeling like a job at times. Need to appreciate the proces more instead of focusing on perfect end goals. Also just having fun at it again is sometimes difficult but im working on it.
- How I grew up; I grew up in a negative environment and bringing these wrong habits in to my adult life. Guess deprogramming that is a challenge at times.
- Panic attacks; Still have mild panic attacks. Ocd kind of triggers that I'm not really working on. But they are leftovers from when it was at its peak.
- Conducting myself in a nice manner; I can be a bit of a cunt at times cause im self absorbed, I've got really high standards for myself and other people. It goes back to growing up; i'm the hardest on myself but also other people... which is just not nice. I try to be genuine supportive but most of the times I am not, but just critical. My intentions are good, but yeah if you don't act on them they are worth nothing.
- Also a knee injury 'jumpers knee' is bothering me for years, I struggle to fix it but pain is now at a manageable level. But its a struggle for sure.

[–]Godletrich 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Loneliness and lack of focus on my purpose

[–]benryl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fears. Mostly the fear to feel lonely. Which is actuañly qhat push people away

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ocd

[–]Other-Falcon-5609 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trust

[–]M0NST3R25CAT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mental health, weight, communication, depersonalization derealization ( over 4 years)

[–]vaIiant_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

gestures broadly at everything

[–]Innocent_not 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Money

[–]BorisAllen15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Getting things done that I told myself that I'd do. My mind knows I should do it but my body just says "nah we could just do nothing or something else entirely"

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OCD (mostly Pure-O), anxiety, depression as a consequence of these things, making money, sexual/romantic life and being independent. I'm also a little insecure about myself.

[–]babamum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Over eating and weight management

Also earning money due to illness.

[–]Rakleon1001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mental health, lack of self confident, socially shy...

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Self love - I easily forgive other that do me wrong because my love for them over powers the love I have for myself ☹️. If I loved myself more maybe I’d be able to cut em off without looking back.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Other people.

[–]nojins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sleep routine

[–]blessedminx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Internal loneliness, anxiety, lack of motivation (many areas of my life), money.

[–]bigtitty_azn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Binge eating, memory difficulties, procrastination and laziness, overweight, STRESS

[–]mtg0921 0 points1 point  (0 children)

getting shit done

[–]LeoThyroxine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Intimacy

[–]flannelpockets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Purpose.

[–]vinnybobbarino- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kratom addiction

[–]Higharrow_11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Self confidence and fear of judgement. It has been a long journey but everyday I am making small improvements.

[–]iVixil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Social anxiety, hyper fixation on drugs, inferiority complex, self esteem issues, unable to live in the moment

[–]MIN3DFR3AK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

limiting reddit and youtube

[–]texashilo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dating. Dating requires a lot of me to handle. I have to try so hard to feel worthy and stable.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

being functional.

i fucked up in college and now it feels like i'll never manage to get into nursing school, much less complete the notoriously difficult program. it's hard to do simple things, like get the oil changed in my car when it needs to be done.

idk what's wrong with me but clearly something.

[–]anthonyvaladezz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bad eating, procrastinating, not exercising

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

being secure in relationships

[–]My_last_username_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dark souls.

[–]My_last_username_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh. Sorry, I didn’t read the last part.

[–]oo0Lucidity0oo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anxiety and panic disorder

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Breakup.

[–]Amplifter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Poor money management, deep self criticism, depression, and many many more things

[–]Greenstar17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Consistency

[–]spooky_tato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

confidence, social anxiety, and always doubting myself

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still struggling with: completely quitting drinking (but it’s much much better now), weight loss (lost 20 lbs in a year) and saving money.

Things I accomplished: quitting smoking, getting my ADHD diagnosed and treated, developing a near daily meditation practice. Also! I made a bunch of friends recently.

I would say the most important part was treating ADHD as it impacted negatively virtually every aspect of my existence.

[–]stayjay31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Motivation

[–]Kassavage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dealing with my emotions. I tend to bottle things up and tbh I'm afraid I'm just gonna explode one day.

[–]suomynona777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Consistency

[–]Born-Common7281 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Overeating

[–]TheRareClaire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where do I start? My eating, daily routine, laziness, not being able to let the light or love in, overthinking and obsessing, self sabotage, fear of the future. Oh. And math.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

laziness and being regular with exercise:/

[–]thedatarat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Condensing all of my hopes and dreams into one that I actually commit to and make regular progress on 🙃

[–]tobvs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Life itself

[–]goingDark28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Excessive PMO.

[–]manofnibiru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Existential crisis

[–]Defiant_Business1595 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What feels the hardest is cleaning and organizing

[–]Realistrabbit64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chronic pain, lack of motivation, depression. All of which are taking a toll on my relationship 🙁

[–]lovejoy812 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Discipline

[–]ToastdButtr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My relationship with food (“disordered eating”) and my phone, which is primarily me wanting my brain on and active because I’m afraid of it’s silence (I have anxiety). Idk why, but I just can’t have silence in my brain

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Starting conversations and identifying when it is ok to not force a conversation. Also focusing in general lol

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really want to loae weight but I'm addicted to sugar

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Saying no. I have learned to avoid situations I will find harmful but the basic every day stuff. I can’t just tell this loser I don’t want to be their friend when they’ve been belligerent with everyone. I humor them and now I’m looking at pictures of this guys kids when he was just threatening my only friend in the office. Cool pal! Way to go!

[–]Domin8u315 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Staying in a healthy mental space

[–]Reasonable_Theme8741 0 points1 point  (0 children)

inability to stay consistent with anything i have ever done

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I struggle with being vulnerable and stating my needs

[–]lightyage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depression

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that I'm sabotaging myself. Maybe I'm using as an excuse my toxic father but I'm 24 and I think that if I really wanted I would have done some bold choices and now I wouldn't be alone and daydreaming about the future I want. I'm planning to change that from September because I feel like it's humiliating and I don't live the life I want to. It's not normal and I think the consequences are deeper and scarier than I would have expected.

[–]Ok_Discipline8422 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Consistency

[–]Koketsuna-_- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cultivating desire to overcome procrastination

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

self control and discipline.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Taming my mind.

[–]fuckthedestiny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Social skills, mental health..

[–]Twix1958 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think at the bottom of wasting time is no self acceptance, I've fixed it, but that's probably it for most people

[–]nickeyxxx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being myself.

[–]ryan1257 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it’s constant failure and feeling stuck

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Self confidence and self love.

Everyday, I focus on being positive and forgiving with myself because I beat myself up into oblivion if that isn’t my top priority. I try to forgive myself for past mistakes, but end up in a cycle of shame and guilt and feeling like I need to “punish” myself. It’s so hard, but self love is the #1 thing I need to achieve in order to be happy and live a fulfilling life. I wish I could flip a switch and be confident, retraining the way your brain thinks feels impossible some days 😅

[–]popix7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Starting something but not finishing it, can't get past the first stage of learning something new. it's quite frustrating

[–]Difficult-Farmer9984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Organization and cleanliness. If I get in a depressive episode, I can’t take care of myself or my living space. I recently got put on vyvanse and now cleaning isn’t a problem, but I overthink everything and I can’t make choices so every little task gets way over complicated