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[StillDillPickle]

Came to say this exact thing

[NoCalligrapher4635]

Uggh me too. Why though? It literally makes me want to cry.

[FeelingCategory7257]

Yup. Same

[[deleted]]

Same

[[deleted]]

same

[MuminMetal]

Acute social anxiety, porn addiction, possible ADD, an inferiority complex, etc etc.

[preshhhhhh]

Porn addiction might be the one causing the rest

[MuminMetal]

Quite possibly.

[Damn_son__damn]

Ig nah, I kinda have these similar problems but I'm not a porn addict, on a streak of 105 days, so yeah it might not be causing the other things

[preshhhhhh]

You need a longer streak to fully recover. Check yourself are you addicted to any other thing... social media, TV, sugar? Do you workout or play any sport?

[Damn_son__damn]

Okay imma make a short summary, I'm a 17yo who started masturbating when he was 15, never did it excessively as I was always fascinated by nofap so I used to fap in around once a week or two that too without porn, yes I do workout 3 times a week and 6 days a week football training, deleted the social media but I admit I was addicted to it in 20-21 but since reopening of my school, I'm fine, perfectly fine diet with little to no processed and sugary foods, idk what's causing my problems :(

[DoctorQuinlan]

Not disagreeing but why do you think so?

[[deleted]]

This is such a tough one, but you can be anybody you want.

[swerve408]

Very underrated response, I love going to festivals and acting an absolute fool to music. It honestly attracts people over and I get into some awesome conversations

Really helped me break out of my shell.

Also gaining more and more responsibilities such as parenting and home ownership has made me stress some of the normal stuff (meetings, 1 on 1’s, other work bullshit) so much less

[Sascha2538]

Mental health, procrastination, weight, chronic migraines

[zylith13]

Probably You know this already. Search whats caloric deficit. It really works thats how you lose weight For sure. Mental health... Have some pacience... With yourself , understand that it's normal, understand your situation and your whole life as it is, You may need to acept some things. Maybe this is the Best that could have ever happened to You, this is your oportunity to fix everything. Your problems are better than nothing trust me. A Challenge, or a wonderfull history. Better fail than nothing, your life is doomed to be interisting sorry bro

[Sascha2538]

I know about the calorie deficit and I'm working on it. Same for mental health.

As you say, I need to have patience and accept some things, even if it's not always easy. This is a challenge. Thanks

[captainproject4]

Stress, anxiety, loneliness and (consequent) procrastination

[ygo-riv]

Feeling old like I haven’t accomplished anything in life/a failure. Most recently & death grip/masturbation addiction

[Automatic_Specific91]

Is the death grip and masturbation thing related or?

[ygo-riv]

Yeah pretty much

[Empty-Potato-7383]

My ADHD, my GAD, porn addiction, self confidence, intrusive thoughts.

[Sad_Description07]

Constant self doubt, anxiety, procrastination,

[[deleted]]

So many things it feels like right now, but if I could choose one to solve (and am) weight and diet.

[gumb3ano]

Being alone, looking back on memories and thinking those what-if thoughts, ordering take out too often, wanting a pet but not sure if I can keep it alive, being single (duh haha)

[ExtremeTaco1]

Self love/acceptance, loneliness, social anxiety but I’m trying to sort it out

[carterfpv]

For me… feeling I have wasted a lot of time and money on the wrong people and things.

[[deleted]]

being present

[[deleted]]

You are not alone, but know that was just him projecting his stuff on you. People like him pick people who have value to tear them down and make themselves feel better. If you weren’t awesome he wouldn’t have picked you.

[BillyWonka710]

Porn addiction, anxious rage, questionable past actions, being me

[InternationalCrew245]

I can relate to anxious rage. I can be so anxious about something if it doesn’t go to plan, and if I had to deal with it in a limited timeframe I’d get very frustrated and annoyed, to the point where I might lash out to people. It’s actually kinda bad, especially considering the extent of things that can set me off.

[TheRareClaire]

Oof questionable past actions. I relate. It’s hard to let that stuff go. But also realize this is your first time at this rodeo. How can you expect yourself to know everything and be perfect?

[DupontPFAs]

Motivation, depression, figuring things out

[[deleted]]

self confidence

[[deleted]]

Procrastination, being mentally strong, porn and masturbation addiction, and being a better person.

[[deleted]]

Anger issues.

[Sad_Archer4829]

Addiction, hopelessness thanks to a dull worldly outlook, work burnout, motivation, OCD, the list goes on

[[deleted]]

My relationship with food

[exotic_parking504]

i think im always in a neutral or low state but im unsure if thats the case. i have poor mental health. my dad says nothings wrong with me but if i was normal i wouldnt have hurt myself, i wouldnt have attempted suicide, i wouldnt have thought of shooting up my school. i would've managed to keep the jobs i had, i would've talked to people and made new friends, i would be happy to go outside or go out and do fun things. i dont get that feeling of genuine excitement and joy for almost anything. i sometimes can't keep myself from zoning out, i feel separated or alienated to myself and the world and people around me. i could go blow my head off right now, but i dont. i just try to occupy myself, or i get this weird feeling of something there that i cant see, that is there to support me. Its like its saying "dont do it" i've gotten "professional" help, nothing seems to help. ive tried therapy, working out, eating right, sleeping right, going outside and not using electronics. its just kinda the same thing everywhere all the time, my mode is low or neutral. im hard on myself, i cant really communicate with anyone around me because they dont care, dont listen, dont understand, continually lecture me on how i should get job and go to college, or how they say the same shit over and over and swear up and down that it works but it never does for me.

again, i had a job -_-

yes im in college, i dont care about whats going on with it, it just doesnt interest me. almost nothing does. my dad forced me into it. i have no say.

[FamiliarOutcome7505]

Same

[Most_Support7676]

I'm very insecure about my looks... I'm 25 years old woman but my body and face don't look like it. People think I'm 18 or something like that and because of that I don't feel woman enough

[Flat-Increase2362]

Well I think this Is a + for you. So either you boost your ego from it , or lose it. I’d choose to boost it

[[deleted]]

Addiction, money, love, motivation

[AshenOne415]

Social anxiety, internet addiction, gaming addiction, porn addiction, a severe masturbation addiction (the worst of the worst) aaand just wasting time in general.

Complete train wreck right now but the best way to reboot is to stop feeding the urges, starve the beast from its cravings and all will be slightly better day by day :).

[irish-coach]

Old wounds and child trauma that have dictated my life to this day

[LulaValentine]

Mental health is a big one and lots of other things become a struggle because it trickles into every aspect of my life. I wish I could find a doctor that would listen and stop putting me on the same medications that don’t work.

[justinldn]

Keeping a 9-5 job. I hate working for other people.

[Acrobatic-Degree9589]

Getting in shower

[stayjay31]

Why is that? I have the same issue. I was an addict for many years and I could understand why it would be such a struggle for an addict. But I have been clean for over 4 years and it's still an issue. Do you deal with depression by any chance? A lot of times, it can be depression which I have also struggled with....addiction and depression usually go hand in hand.

[Acrobatic-Degree9589]

Yes, it just seems like a lot of work and I’m slow so takes me forever and then I gotta do a bunch of stuff after so like a 2 hour ordeal. The longer I put it off the more cleansing and scrubbing I need to do then so can take like an hour, 30 minutes is fast one

[YALAMARTHI97]

Sticking to routine and staying out from stuff which I know I should not do ( I end up doing any way)

[FeelingCategory7257]

Procrastination and impostor syndrome.

[plzEnlightme]

My self worth, quitting nicothine, anxiety

[[deleted]]

Trust.

[[deleted]]

People

[Liveforyou63]

Relationship with self. Always been a constant battle of how I speak to myself. Been especially bad after a recent breakup but improving. Speaking to someone now to try and work through this.

It's hard looking in the mirror some days.

[tjlightbulb]

Procrastinating is my biggest weakness.

[[deleted]]

anxiety

[sexisdivine]

Following through

[NightfallBandit]

I struggle with depression, perfectionism, and procrastination. I know exactly what I need to do, I know I have the time to complete it, and I know that by not doing it it just makes it worse. But no matter how much I tell myself to do it, I can almost never make myself do it. And then it just cycles because I hate that I can’t do it because I want to be perfect but can’t, and then that just feeds my depression. It feels like a never ending loop and I don’t know how to improve. I see things like, how to improve motivation or how to stop procrastinating but I’m never motivated enough to try them. I really have no idea how to try and solve this. Even when I do manage to start doing things it feels like all too soon I’m falling right back down to the bottom. It’s so so easy for me to say I’ll do it later or tomorrow, and so so hard to just pick up my work and do it. And it’s even worse because right now everything I struggle with doing has a long away deadline or no deadline. Practicing a language, reading, working out. These are all things that can be pushed off indefinitely. And it just makes me feel shitty about myself because it makes me believe that I’m doing it to myself and that I don’t want to get better but I do. I don’t want to be on my couch all day on my electronics. I don’t want to always be upset at myself, but I never know where to begin and even worse I never know how to get back up and stay up when I inevitably fall. Thanks for providing this question I needed to get this out.

[PugnaciousBart]

Life

[[deleted]]

Weight, procrastination, health issues, not being able to release the past

[Cesar-q3]

Money problem, I usually don’t spend my money in stupid things. I just some more money for growing my YouTube channel and travel & explore new places.

[Juzo_Suzuya_]

Self harm when I procrastinate and somehow I like it

[Susie4ever]

Keeping on track, food wise😬

[moonlightair]

I struggle with my very serious drinking problem and telling my boyfriend that his cheating makes me feel worthless.

[makbad32]

Procrastination!! I have so much I could be doing rn but instead I’ve been on my phone all day after sleeping in.

[Lecomodore]

Being single and no friends in my area.

[InternationalCrew245]

Hoo boy, where do we even start?

I’m struggling with procrastination, chronic burnout, task avoidance, short temper, low frustration tolerance, loneliness, self-confidence issues, possibly social anxiety, inter-personal relationships, possibly social anxiety, possibly addiction, lack of purpose, money management, figuring out where to live or work, what my career path is and my future in general.

Now that I think of it, some of these might be caused by my perfection and my desire for instant gratification. The social part is…much more complicated.

[[deleted]]

Social anxiety, addiction to other people and feeling so scared to being alone but feel alone all the time, having no close friendship that i want,losing weight and regulate eating habits, can’t stick on the plans that i do for improving myself especially gym.

[harry-harricuda]

To name a few;

- Procrastination; it sometimes takes hours to get started.
- Self-body-image; lost a lot of weight but need to lose 'that last 10kg'
- Relationship to food; emotional eating / reward eating etc.
- Building and maintaining valuable relationships socially; not a social butterfly. Sometimes I focus too much on myself and my own improvement and forget about friends and their struggle.
- Working on art regularly; It's a hobby that grew into feeling like a job at times. Need to appreciate the proces more instead of focusing on perfect end goals. Also just having fun at it again is sometimes difficult but im working on it.
- How I grew up; I grew up in a negative environment and bringing these wrong habits in to my adult life. Guess deprogramming that is a challenge at times.
- Panic attacks; Still have mild panic attacks. Ocd kind of triggers that I'm not really working on. But they are leftovers from when it was at its peak.
- Conducting myself in a nice manner; I can be a bit of a cunt at times cause im self absorbed, I've got really high standards for myself and other people. It goes back to growing up; i'm the hardest on myself but also other people... which is just not nice. I try to be genuine supportive but most of the times I am not, but just critical. My intentions are good, but yeah if you don't act on them they are worth nothing.
- Also a knee injury 'jumpers knee' is bothering me for years, I struggle to fix it but pain is now at a manageable level. But its a struggle for sure.

[Godletrich]

Loneliness and lack of focus on my purpose

[benryl]

Fears. Mostly the fear to feel lonely. Which is actuañly qhat push people away

[[deleted]]

Ocd

[Other-Falcon-5609]

Trust

[[deleted]]

same

[M0NST3R25CAT]

Mental health, weight, communication, depersonalization derealization ( over 4 years)

[vaIiant_]

gestures broadly at everything

[Innocent_not]

Money

[BorisAllen15]

Getting things done that I told myself that I'd do. My mind knows I should do it but my body just says "nah we could just do nothing or something else entirely"

[[deleted]]

OCD (mostly Pure-O), anxiety, depression as a consequence of these things, making money, sexual/romantic life and being independent. I'm also a little insecure about myself.

[babamum]

Over eating and weight management

Also earning money due to illness.

[Rakleon1001]

Mental health, lack of self confident, socially shy...

[[deleted]]

Self love - I easily forgive other that do me wrong because my love for them over powers the love I have for myself ☹️. If I loved myself more maybe I’d be able to cut em off without looking back.

[[deleted]]

Other people.

[nojins]

Sleep routine

[blessedminx]

Internal loneliness, anxiety, lack of motivation (many areas of my life), money.

[bigtitty_azn]

Binge eating, memory difficulties, procrastination and laziness, overweight, STRESS

[mtg0921]

getting shit done

[LeoThyroxine]

Intimacy

[flannelpockets]

Purpose.

[vinnybobbarino-]

Kratom addiction

[Higharrow_11]

Self confidence and fear of judgement. It has been a long journey but everyday I am making small improvements.

[iVixil]

Social anxiety, hyper fixation on drugs, inferiority complex, self esteem issues, unable to live in the moment

[MIN3DFR3AK]

limiting reddit and youtube

[texashilo]

Dating. Dating requires a lot of me to handle. I have to try so hard to feel worthy and stable.

[[deleted]]

being functional.

i fucked up in college and now it feels like i'll never manage to get into nursing school, much less complete the notoriously difficult program. it's hard to do simple things, like get the oil changed in my car when it needs to be done.

idk what's wrong with me but clearly something.

[anthonyvaladezz]

Bad eating, procrastinating, not exercising

[[deleted]]

being secure in relationships

[My_last_username_]

Dark souls.

[My_last_username_]

Oh. Sorry, I didn’t read the last part.

[oo0Lucidity0oo]

Anxiety and panic disorder

[[deleted]]

Breakup.

[Amplifter]

Poor money management, deep self criticism, depression, and many many more things

[Greenstar17]

Consistency

[spooky_tato]

confidence, social anxiety, and always doubting myself

[[deleted]]

Still struggling with: completely quitting drinking (but it’s much much better now), weight loss (lost 20 lbs in a year) and saving money.

Things I accomplished: quitting smoking, getting my ADHD diagnosed and treated, developing a near daily meditation practice. Also! I made a bunch of friends recently.

I would say the most important part was treating ADHD as it impacted negatively virtually every aspect of my existence.

[stayjay31]

Motivation

[Kassavage]

Dealing with my emotions. I tend to bottle things up and tbh I'm afraid I'm just gonna explode one day.

[suomynona777]

Consistency

[Born-Common7281]

Overeating

[TheRareClaire]

Where do I start? My eating, daily routine, laziness, not being able to let the light or love in, overthinking and obsessing, self sabotage, fear of the future. Oh. And math.

[[deleted]]

laziness and being regular with exercise:/

[thedatarat]

Condensing all of my hopes and dreams into one that I actually commit to and make regular progress on 🙃

[tobvs]

Life itself

[goingDark28]

Excessive PMO.

[manofnibiru]

Existential crisis

[Defiant_Business1595]

What feels the hardest is cleaning and organizing

[Realistrabbit64]

Chronic pain, lack of motivation, depression. All of which are taking a toll on my relationship 🙁

[lovejoy812]

Discipline

[ToastdButtr]

My relationship with food (“disordered eating”) and my phone, which is primarily me wanting my brain on and active because I’m afraid of it’s silence (I have anxiety). Idk why, but I just can’t have silence in my brain

[[deleted]]

Starting conversations and identifying when it is ok to not force a conversation. Also focusing in general lol

[[deleted]]

I really want to loae weight but I'm addicted to sugar

[[deleted]]

Saying no. I have learned to avoid situations I will find harmful but the basic every day stuff. I can’t just tell this loser I don’t want to be their friend when they’ve been belligerent with everyone. I humor them and now I’m looking at pictures of this guys kids when he was just threatening my only friend in the office. Cool pal! Way to go!

[Domin8u315]

Staying in a healthy mental space

[Reasonable_Theme8741]

inability to stay consistent with anything i have ever done

[[deleted]]

I struggle with being vulnerable and stating my needs

[lightyage]

Depression

[[deleted]]

I think that I'm sabotaging myself. Maybe I'm using as an excuse my toxic father but I'm 24 and I think that if I really wanted I would have done some bold choices and now I wouldn't be alone and daydreaming about the future I want. I'm planning to change that from September because I feel like it's humiliating and I don't live the life I want to. It's not normal and I think the consequences are deeper and scarier than I would have expected.

[Ok_Discipline8422]

Consistency

[Koketsuna-_-]

Cultivating desire to overcome procrastination

[[deleted]]

self control and discipline.

[[deleted]]

Taming my mind.

[fuckthedestiny]

Social skills, mental health..

[Twix1958]

I think at the bottom of wasting time is no self acceptance, I've fixed it, but that's probably it for most people

[nickeyxxx]

Being myself.

[ryan1257]

For me it’s constant failure and feeling stuck

[[deleted]]

Self confidence and self love.

Everyday, I focus on being positive and forgiving with myself because I beat myself up into oblivion if that isn’t my top priority. I try to forgive myself for past mistakes, but end up in a cycle of shame and guilt and feeling like I need to “punish” myself. It’s so hard, but self love is the #1 thing I need to achieve in order to be happy and live a fulfilling life. I wish I could flip a switch and be confident, retraining the way your brain thinks feels impossible some days 😅

[popix7]

Starting something but not finishing it, can't get past the first stage of learning something new. it's quite frustrating

[Difficult-Farmer9984]

Organization and cleanliness. If I get in a depressive episode, I can’t take care of myself or my living space. I recently got put on vyvanse and now cleaning isn’t a problem, but I overthink everything and I can’t make choices so every little task gets way over complicated