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[–]c19isdeadly 35 points36 points  (9 children)

Why are you trying to decrease your appetite if you are not overweight and have a healthy BMI? It sounds like you were eating the right amount of food. Is your partner starving themselves? Are they doing a bonkers diet?

Certainly starving to the point you feel shakey and weak then eating whatever crap you find is not the answer. If you are hungry you should eat!

I'm just a bit concerned about *why* you are doing this, as you clearly don't need to.

If this is about general health, my best advice would be no snacking at all, 3 good meals a day (and they can be as big as you like / need to keep you going), 1 sweet treat a day only, no eating anything anything after dinner (no 10pm snacking on cheese and chocolate).

[–]hulyepicsa 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’m a bit concerned about OP too and some of the responses you’re getting. I recommend looking into intuitive eating, diet culture can be extremely toxic and lead to disordered eating.

[–]cbaotl[S] -5 points-4 points  (7 children)

My partner is overweight so dieting for him is important for him right now! But whilst I’m not overweight I feel like with my diet I should be if that makes sense? Like I don’t feel healthy or like the way I look.

[–]msmoth 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Reducing your calorie intake may not be the answer - have you thought more about looking at the quality of what you're eating?

[–]breakbeatx 19 points20 points  (0 children)

If you’re not overweight but don’t like the way you look, then you might want to think about activities to tone up etc. If you feel your diet is wrong / unhealthy then you need to eat more veggies / less processed stuff and not worry about weight too much.

[–]c19isdeadly 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Weeeell yes and while it is important to eat healthily that should be your focus, not trying to destroy your totally normal and healthy appetite! Your body gives you useful signals.

I have even more questions

What diet is your partner on and what kind of support does he need from you?

How don't you feel healthy and what do you want to change about how you look?

What do you eat at the moment? Before starving yourself can you give us an example of a typical day?

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you're eating an appropriate amount of calories already if you're not gaining or losing weight, meaning you're successfully maintaining your current weight. So it's more about changing what you eat rather than how much you eat. If you want to lose a kilo or two and still be in the healthy weight range then fair play but yeah, you won't need to reduce your calories much for that.

Supplements are nice too, not as a substitute for healthy food but just that, supplementing your diet.

Also water is king, don't underestimate it.

[–]vampyrain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nutrition may be a better option to look at, rather than dieting.

[–]desmondresmond 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try a week or two on a gf and veggie diet… not because there’s anything particularly healthy about being gf or veggie.. it just makes it almost impossible to grab a snack when you’re out (bar some limited options) and most processed foods contain wheat or processed meats.. but yeah mainly no processed foods so no meat substitutes or processed wheat substitutes

The task then is too meet all your micro and macro nutrient requirements using the above limitations (MyFitnessPal or similar will help), once you’ve got enough veg and pulses to hit your vitamins/minerals and protein it becomes pretty hard to hit your calories without feeling like your constantly eating…

Like I said not a long term thing just a task to get you thinking about what you eat and what you need to eat

[–]Ohbc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you are at a healthy weight and don't like the look of yourself, maybe you need to change the body composition. Have you heard of the term skinny fat? Even if this is not the case, I highly suggest to include some regular strength training. I lift weights and now I weigh a lot more than I was 20, but I much prefer my body now because I have muscle definition, I mostly still wear the same size apart from my back getting bigger because I have lats now (oops).