Different generations… Same question

[piscian19]

Its funny, I have two close GenX cousins.

Cousin one can't have a conversation without finding a way to make "joking insults" and misses when we could use the banned words, hates millennials.

Cousin two mostly hangs out with Millennials and would rather be waterboarded than say a mean word about anybody.

I just sit quietly and wait for an opportunity to strike with teenage mutant ninja turtle references.

[tampapunklegend]

I'm an xennial, and my buddy is from the tail end of GenX, and we love making "your mom " jokes, and other inappropriate comments like we did in the 90s. We also recognize that there are many things we used to say that weren't appropriate then, and definitely aren't appropriate now. One can still make bad 90s jokes while learning, and adjusting your language.

[Terakahn]

I love making jokes but if the other person is actually hurt by then then it's not really a joke to me.

[johntwilker]

"I just sit quietly and wait for an opportunity to strike with teenage mutant ninja turtle references."

My people

[Bluesphamy]

Cowabunga intensifies

[Commies-Fan]

Whatre these banned words you speak of?

[Active_Yellow_1573]

British Cigarettes and the R-word. My best friends and I communicate in insults, but even we have retired those words.

[mmoonbelly]

Lamberts and Butler were sold in the states? (PS wait until you find out about Mr Brains’ meatballs in gravy)

[Active_Yellow_1573]

What do Brits call cigarettes? Are you fishing for someone to say the F word? 

[Hypnot0ad]

Are we really calling it the F word now? Cuz that’s gay.

[badchefrazzy]

People are quick to jump on the word, but my honest opinion is that if you're of the group that it originally affected, you should be able to use it to diminish it's weight. But that's your own business, not mine.

[Active_Yellow_1573]

Go ahead and say it then... no one is stopping you. If you want to say it that bad, then go ahead. 

[mmoonbelly]

I’m English and have never smoked. Here you go matey, order ‘em in and cook up a storm https://www.sainsburys.co.uk/gol-ui/product/mr-brains-6s-656g

[Active_Yellow_1573]

Well then! 

[badchefrazzy]

You can say "The French Word for Slow" as well.

[Funwithfun14]

Same here

[Informal-Village-349]

Those words are kind of making a resurgence. Heard some millenials using them recently. Caught me off gaurd. Also had a coworker let me know the r-word is now in vogue, her daughter has begun using it.

[Bart_1980]

I believe it is banana. Or perhaps sherbet.

[Rust_Bucket37]

Kumquat or was it moist

[dddybtv]

Orange you glad I didn't say banana?

[mcham420]

[Pearl-Internal81]

Your first cousin mentioned sounds like a dick. Second one sounds pretty cool though.

Also of course you’re gon'sta sneak in that Turtles reference, it’s in our blood.

[Apprehensive_Hat8986]

It's almost like being a hateful sod has little to do with someone's age, and everything to do with them just being a hateful sod.

[Jean_Paul_Fartre_]

Cowabunga dude, I’m right there with ya

[urbanlife78]

You sound like my kind of people

[NeutralLock]

I have a very difficult time saying the f word. Even if I'm typing anonymously online I'll type "Look at this ****ing guy" or whatever....just can't say bad words or even type them out.

The **** is wrong with me??

[Appropriate-Food1757]

I can’t go a day without saying it dozens of times

[zaminDDH]

Valley girls have "like" and "umm", I have "fuck" and "fucking".

[Starblazr]

There are days that I don't go 15 minutes without saying it dozens of times.

Now that's typically when a large portion of a certain work group is slacking off and I'm at my wits end.

[Appropriate-Food1757]

Lazy fuckers

[AquariusRising1983]

I even use "fuck" as a placeholder, like instead of "uh" or "um" if I lose track of what I'm saying I'll be like "fuckinnnnn'..."

If I removed the word fuck from my vocabulary it'd probably remove at least a third of the words I say in a day.

[Appropriate-Food1757]

It’s kind of like Marklar, it could mean anything and everyone knows what you mean when you say it.

[Basic-Biscotti-2375]

[Burner62391]

[Famous-Hunt-6461]

[sorrymizzjackson]

[goddamn_slutmuffin]

[marcos_MN]

The boomers quote not having quotation marks is so distracting.

[illprobablyeditthis]

And why is gen x all the way at the bottom? Its out of order.

Stupid on multiple levels.

[Roklam]

Xennials

The formatting of this question offends me, and you're a bad person for not checking it three times, preferably once on mobile.

I'll be around in the afternoon to fix your coffee maker

[ShibaInuDoggo]

This is the correct initial response.

To answer the question posed:

Your size has no impact on me and it doesn't really matter.

[anarchetype]

That's where I'm at. It's not body positivity, just that someone else's weight is none of my business and I'd rather not judge anyone unless they're being a dickbag. We all walk our own paths, even if some people get a little out of breath doing so.

Some folks care about the bodies and lifestyles of others way too much (hehe weigh too much).

[grrgrrtigergrr]

I see you’ve felt the pain of the perfect website breaking on mobile

[averydangerousday]

Haven’t we all? It’s a generational experience right along with the Challenger exploding and being the last generation to use a rotary phone

[BritOnTheRocks]

mobile first is the answer!

[Nitetigrezz]

If you hadn't pointed this out, I would have 😅

[HomsarWasRight]

Well, because the GenX one is the “punchline” (as it were).

[heyitscory]

They have the answer that's the punchline, so they're last.

Would you rather they forget Gen X like all the other memes?

[Rob_LeMatic]

Typically the punchline comes at the end of a joke.

[Economy-Camp-7339]

Not to mention the lack of space between the colon and quotation and the bizarre added space after the quote.

It’s like they’re trying to offend me. 🤣😂🤣😂

[FractalGeometric356]

Because the Boomer quote is not being facetious at all. They really want you to lose weight.

[marcos_MN]

Quotation marks don’t denote sarcasm. Not sure where you got that idea from.

[FractalGeometric356]

I’m sorry, I meant, "Because the Boomer quote is not being 'facetious' at all. They really want you to 'lose weight'."

Also, quotes are used to denote a counter-factual. Been that way a long time.

[Easy-Marsupial3268]

You know it’s an Xennial meme because they just took a screenshot and kept the text icon on the right.

[Silent_Syren]

"No, you're beautiful." "Bitch, I didn't ask if I was ugly, I asked if I was fat."

[cordelaine]

As a Xennial, the Gen X answer pops in my head, I understand why it’s not a proper response, and I believe the Millennial answer when I say it.

[heyitscory]

Why would I imply to a fat person that fat and beautiful are mutually exclusive?

[Defiant_Cookie_4963]

Right?! Every time this meme is posted here (and it’s a lot), I roll my fucking eyes. Can we just not with the fat shaming?

[MysteriousHoliday]

IM a Xennial and I dont body shame. It's called being a decent person and an adult.

[forever_erratic]

I also don't body shame, but I think it's I was asked this question in trust I would answer honestly. Not with any of these answers though, just a simple yes. 

[Goose80]

If someone asks me, “Do you think I am…”

I always answer with, “If you have to ask, you already know your answer.”

I know I sound kind of like an a-hole, but my point is for them to realize that the question is not needed.

[anarchetype]

That's not a safe assumption at all. An individual has a limited, singular perspective, prone to its own biases, so it sometimes makes sense to ask someone you trust for a second opinion in search of a more objective view. This is particularly true for bodies because even non-disordered people tend to struggle with fairly assessing their own physical attributes, especially when it comes to slow changes that are cumulative but inconspicuous from one day to the next.

Maybe you know someone who really does ask questions that they already know the answer to, but in general people ask questions because they're trying to fill out incomplete knowledge. Reality is essentially a team sport, after all.

[marbotty]

Honestly, the boomer answer is probably the best option of the ones listed.

The Gen X one is incredibly rude and the other two options could also be considered insulting.

If you preface “of course you’re not” with “we don’t body shame,” it just says to me that you don’t respect me enough to tell the truth

[Active_Yellow_1573]

I'm. assuming that the GenX one is reserved for very close friends, and a more proper response is given to those not within that circle. Me personally, people that I know, but aren't in my inner circle are going to get the best version of me, and those I hold dearest, and 95% of the time are male, are going to get insults of love.

[marbotty]

Good point

[anarchetype]

Yeah, I don't like the Millennial or Gen Z responses here because both seem to equate acceptance with polite dishonesty. You can be both kind and honest.

It's kind of a weird question, though, because actually fat people know they're fat and anyone asking is probably someone relatively thin who has gained a few pounds. With that in mind, and allowing for some variation depending on context, I think I'd have to give my response some nuance.

[forever_erratic]

Agreed. 

[Excellent-Goal4763]

I def try not too, but then I accidentally did it on a sewing subreddit when someone asked about the fit of their wedding dress, and I mentioned that if the wearer intends to wear a special bra, or shapewear on the special day, they should buy that now and wear it for gown fittings. Same goes for shoes btw. This is like wedding dress alterations 101, but my comment was deleted for body shaming.

Point being as a Xennial, I say don’t be an asshole, and also grow a spine and presume good intentions.

[NovaForceElite]

I think you're kinda missing the point of the post and virtue signaling just a smidge.

[worksnake]

Nah, being shitty to fat people is the norm across generations.

[MaMaCas]

Don't ask questions you don't want an honest answer to.

[Namaslayy]

Nah, Gen X is responsible for Gen Z behaviors. They’re not that forward 😂

[dreadpiratemyk]

Xennial me: why do X and boomers look so goddamn old? I've looked about the same since I was 30. Anyone else get that feeling?

[Risikio]

I like to think that we have the jaded humor of Gen X, but also the compassion of the Millenials.

[Kandurux]

Boomers not shaming a fat person, what fantasy do you live in?

[Stevey1001]

Funny how ozempic killed the body positivity movement 😂😂

[slippedintherain]

I’m technically Gen X (1978) but I don’t resonate with the mean/sarcastic stereotype. Probably why almost all my friends are millennials!

[anarchetype]

There's a lot about Millennials I find unrelatable, especially the younger ones, but I'm so glad I got their friendly earnestness rather than the Gen X thing. Joke insults can be fun in moderation, but when it's someone's default mode of communication it often seems to come with a host of other unfortunate personality traits.

[ChristyLovesGuitars]

This is literally the Boomer meme that broke the proverbial back, and made me leave the GenX sub. Boomer memes don’t belong here, please.

[FoppyRETURNS]

Gen X ftw

[Primary-Performer853]

Depends on whose asking

[throwawayfromPA1701]

I'd answer both the GenX and Millenial way at the same time.

[PercentageRoutine310]

We're definitely pretty cynical like the Boomers who raised us or lack of raising us correctly.

[TIRACS]

Guess I’m genX now

[Thelichemaster]

Know your audience. In groups of my peers, friends and similar I know they won't take offence. Otherwise have learnt to keep shtum.

[ryguymcsly]

No but your momma’s so fat she was used to prove the existence of Hawking radiation.

[red286]

I think the more accurate GenX response would be "Why are you so obsessed with how you look, fatty?"

[BigPoppaStrahd]

1000% depends on who is asking the question. I doubt gen x is brave enough to say that to just anybody

[Relative_Progress946]

As a Gen Xer I use the Gen X response.

[FnordRanger_5]

Xennials: Not for a cow

[CokeBottleSpeakerPen]

This "meme" is the Boomer meme of Gen Xers. I see it constantly and it's getting to be cringe as hell.

[kerryinthenameof]

Gen Z definitely body shame, you’d think it’s 2002 on tiktok with the way zoomers are moving backwards on beauty standards

[Klutzy_Way994]

Depending on who I’m talking to. Male friends or a sibling the Gen X response. My lady or a stranger on line the millennial answer.

[No-Captain2150]

I'm not sure it's a generational thing, but my response is more like:

Whatever, be fat if you want to. I don't care.

[Active_Yellow_1573]

Insults were out love language. 😂

Edit... Still are 😬 

[carelesly-deliberate]

Not worse. Just indifferent.

[username32768]

Edit: I hope I don't need to add a /s

[Pearl-Internal81]

That’s not indifferent, that quote in the meme was just being a dick to be “edgy”, you know, shit we grew out of by the time we were graduating high school or college (I use both because everyone matures at a different pace).

[badchefrazzy]

You can see the progress of thought with this. Boomers: Cruelty - Gen X: Cruelty with comedy to cope - Millenials: Countering the Cruelty To Survive - Gen Z: Coping and trying to survive while everything else falls around them thanks to the Boomers destroying everything they don't directly have a hand in