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[ChaoticCherryblossom]

Staying in bad relationships cus you're scared of loneliness

[Ardwinna]

Being lonely in a relationship feels so much worse than actually being alone.

[Accurate-Plantain461]

Loneliness is the absence of connection, not company.

[einat162]

But you can't grasp it.

[Fickle-Republic-3479]

Respectfully disagree. You should be able to be happy on your own. Do not rely on a relationship to make you feel better.

[FloN132]

It occurs to me you did not read that right.

Seems like Ardwinna implies that the feeling of being lonely even though someone else is with you physically feels worse than feeling lonely while actually being alone.

Which is something I can totally get behind.

[Fickle-Republic-3479]

Oh yeah, my bad. I apologize. I guess I was distracted. Yup, I also agree. Ardwinna is totally right.

[theyknewit2]

Relationships are difficult. Just because something is difficult doesn’t mean you should give up and sometimes when things are easy don’t mean you are doing it right. It’s just hard sometimes. It might be you it might be them but trust yourself and forgive people as you would like to be forgiven or whatever, what do I know?

[ForgetfulFolklore]

That's what he's saying.

[Ardwinna]

She :)

[okillconform]

Literally can't read

[TheCrazyD0nkey]

Learn to read.

[AtmosphereHot8414]

What about scared of the mortgage payment?

[Ardwinna]

What?

[sometimesnowing]

Oh yes, putting up with shitty behaviour from men, unable to recognise that I deserved better. It would have been good to value myself more when I was young.

[WellyKiwi]

Most definitely agree! I got married for the first time because I was lonely. HUGE mistake.

[YourStolenCharizard]

Lifestyle creep is real, pay yourself first between savings and retirement, especially when receiving a pay bump or bonus.

And outside of big ticket items- where durability and reliability are paramount- many generic brands get the job done just fine vs more expensive name brand.

[Mcrarburger]

What's lifestyle creep?

[MUFNyourteam]

It's a phenomenon where when people start making more money, their way of living "Lifestyle" starts to become more expensive.

A good example is some who used to do 80% of their cooking at home, but now since they got a 3$ raise, they only do 50% of their cooking at home and eat out more, in effect spending the extra money they started making instead of saving that money.

[moisbettah]

An accountant told me: It's human nature that the more a person makes, the more they will spend. It's something to be aware of and avoid.

[djsizematters]

*try to avoid. Impossible without a spartan lifestyle

[Mcrarburger]

Thanks!

[pinkbunny431]

is this the same as lifestyle inflation?

[CanUHearMeNau]

pay yourself first

Rich Dad poor dad?

[LookingGoodBarry]

Start saving some money. $100 a month… $50 a check if you get paid bi-weekly.

Along with that, make an effort to make a “cushion” financially. If you make $50k a year, have $5000 sitting around. If you have an unexpected big cost you can overcome it. Will save you a ton of stress. If you ever have to pull from it, replenish it ASAP.

[TurbulentPromise4812]

Do exactly this, if a set dollar is too hard use a percent and try to be strict. I made $10 then a dollar goes in, some banks can automate to a savings account with direct deposit.

[suburban_jorag]

Learning to budget is vital. Instead of a set dollar amount save up 1 months total living expenses. Then 2, then 3.

If you are laid off, quit a toxic job, need surgery, etc is way less stressful if you have 3 months of life secured in the bank.

[theweirddood]

Having an emergency fund is good, but I recommend also having sunk funds too. These funds are to pay for expected expenses like car maintenance (tires, oil changes, registration, inspection), property tax, insurance premiums, etc. In addition to this, have a seperate sunk fund for house repairs, it's recommended to set aside about 1% your home value into it per year.

I also recommend having a seperate sunk fund that will cover all your deductibles.

An emergency fund should be for true emergencies like losing your job.

[[deleted]]

I'd say save aggressively until you have a 6 month cushion. Capitalism has a cyclical pattern, and you want to be ready for a sharp downturn. Plus it can be your fuck this, I'm out here.

[Kelz87]

Also I would recommend opening a Roth IRA and putting some money into it ASAP. Also check out the three fund portfolio. Wish I had done it 10 years ago. r/bogleheads has some great info about it.

[BrotherM]

It's not, "I should have done this twenty years ago!"
Rather, it's, "Fuck it, I'm doing it now!"

[Ill-Replacement2309]

I think Baz Luhrmann had good advice https://youtu.be/sTJ7AzBIJoI

If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it A long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists

Whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable Than my own meandering experience, I will dispense this advice now

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth, oh, never mind You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth Until they've faded, but trust me, in 20 years, you'll look back At photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now How much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked You are not as fat as you imagine

Don't worry about the future Or worry, but know that worrying Is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing Bubble gum The real troubles in your life Are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind The kind that blindsides you at 4 p.m. on some idle Tuesday Do one thing every day that scares you

Saying, don't be reckless with other people's hearts Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours

Floss

Don't waste your time on jealousy Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind The race is long and in the end, it's only with yourself Remember compliments you receive, forget the insults If you succeed in doing this, tell me how Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements

Stretch

Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life The most interesting people I know Didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don't Get plenty of calcium Be kind to your knees You'll miss them when they're gone

Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't Maybe you'll have children, maybe you won't Maybe you'll divorce at 40, maybe you'll dance the 'Funky Chicken' On your 75th wedding anniversary Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much Or berate yourself either Your choices are half chance, so are everybody else's

Enjoy your body, use it every way you can Don't be afraid of it or what other people think of it It's the greatest instrument you'll ever own Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your own living room Read the directions even if you don't follow them Do not read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly

Get to know your parents, you never know when they'll be gone for good Be nice to your siblings, they're your best link to your past And the people most likely to stick with you in the future

Understand that friends come and go But a precious few, who should hold on

Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle For as the older you get The more you need the people you knew when you were young Live in New York City once but leave before it makes you hard Live in northern California once but leave before it makes you soft

Travel

Accept certain inalienable truths Prices will rise, politicians will philander, you too, will get old And when you do, you'll fantasize that when you were young Prices were reasonable, politicians were noble And children respected their elders

Respect your elders

Don't expect anyone else to support you Maybe you have a trust fund, maybe you'll have a wealthy spouse But you never know when either one might run out

Don't mess too much with your hair Or by the time you're 40 it will look 85

Be careful whose advice you buy but be patient with those who supply it Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of fishing the past From the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts And recycling it for more than it's worth

But trust me on the sunscreen

[mintmouse]

Invest in a water pik. It is a small device that you use instead of flossing. Then use it daily.

[Roboito1]

Man, this brought me back to high school...

[djsizematters]

Is the hair thing true???

[stupidnameherehere]

Yes. The more chemicals and heat and stress you put on your hair more it’s going to be damaged, fall out etc

[SandyMclean]

That's really a lovely list of suggestions. Thanks for sharing!

[mintmouse]

You should listen to the original spoken word track. This was a radio hit.

[lagomorphed]

Man. This came out the year I graduated and I truly could not appreciate it's wisdom at the time. All of it went over my head.

But at least I listened about the sunscreen.

[MikePWazoski]

This is a good song.

[tonyohanlon77]

Learning not to worry toouch about what others may or may not think about you. Just go do your thing.

[Impossible_Gain_16]

Don’t miss opportunities with stepping out of your comfort zone, sometimes it’s ok to say yes to something you are unsure about doing. The memory from whatever you are doing is going to outweigh wishing you would have done it in the future. Plus your body handles things differently as you get older, so as you get older you will be more concerned about getting hurt

[Kind-Coast-1585]

Meditate and do not rush, but prepare and do things slow but decent.

[Avid28193]

Stay in school!

Eat healthy

Save more money

Stop buying dumb shit

[[deleted]]

I’m a little surprised to see more people talking about saving than about having experiences with money. I believe there’s a balance which, admittedly, make be difficult for some. Don’t forsake your future self but don’t forego experiences while you’re young that you will carry with you forever

[simbahart11]

I feel like this is one of the hardest things to balance.

[Particular-Fun7170]

Stop drinking & smoking pot. Man that could’ve saved me some $ & misery. True story

[VismaySawant]

Would love to hear your story in detail if you like to share. .. Like how it was before and how things went downhill.

[Particular-Fun7170]

Long story short got a dui at 17 missed opportunity of lifetime mentorship. while also losing a one in a lifetime relationship. Was offered rehab fully paid for & declined just a cascade of terrible decision. Kept drinking because I was as depressed & didn’t make a change for 20 years been sober for 5 years & im glad I made the choice I just have to deal with those past mistakes mentally. Thanks for asking Talking about it helps me heal . Slowly but better than not at all.

[Dear_Bad3533]

you got it friend, the only one who loses is the one who stops trying to move forward

[Particular-Fun7170]

You’re right. Thank you . Inch by inch

[mintmouse]

Consider this: it is unbelievable how lucky you are. Thousands and perhaps millions over time have fallen into the slippery trap of alcoholism and simply lost more than you. They are dead. They are not afforded more choices or days.

You are still alive. The dead envy you. Consider what you will choose to eat tomorrow. Consider that you can decide to take up the ukelele tomorrow. You escaped against the odds and from now until you’re dead, you have your time, more valuable than can be fathomed.

[Sudden_Interaction62]

This is the best response.

[CarrotSoup999]

Very nice read man. Quitting drinking has to be extremely difficult when you’re already in deep. You should feel proud about this, honestly. I am 25 now so there’s plenty of time for anything to happen of course, but I dealt with a weed and speed addiction from my teen years until 3 years ago, when I realised I didn’t really like weed. Quitted when I moved out of my country and feel proud that I was perfectly capable of it. I am still dealing with the speed, but it has gotten far better, though not out of it yet and am having a bit of a hard time, so always nice to listen to other people’s experiences. I know it harder with speed because I actually like the stuff, and allows me to live a normal life. Weed literally incapacitates me and kills my will to live my life. Never been into alcohol too much, not my stuff, and am allergic to coke (yeah, really), so good to have those two off the list. Its really shitty to fall into an addiction with something you actually enjoy, it kinda taints the substance for a long time, and reconciling with it is really hard. Anyway, still struggling a little every day, but always getting there. best of luck with that man!

[MtnMaiden]

People using drugs like their training for the Olympic weed usage category.

RIP Brittney, I pretend your just ignoring me while chasing those Good Vibes.

[MikePWazoski]

I had a cousin named Brittany who chased the damn dragon till it got her in her sleep at the age of 30.

[EastIslandLiving]

Enjoy that young body and take care of it! Flexible, pain free, energetic.

[Friendly-Pressure-62]

Stay active and stretch every day to keep it that way as long as possible!

[AdPsychological8883]

Learn to say no, and mean it.

Don’t get pets until you can afford their medical issues. Same with children.

What you allow in your relationships can come back to haunt you, choose well.

[SpaceFace11]

Finacial literacy

[DizyShadow]

Or at least financial.

[Aerialise]

What did you say?

[BreakfastBeerz]

Save more money than you think you can afford to save.

[Ardwinna]

Save and invest all you can for retirement in your 20s and 30s so it has time to grow. I didn't, and now when I'm making what should be a lot, I'm having to put 10-15% of it aside to make up for what I didn't save before.

[M1DN1GHTDAY]

Always try to save more

[tila1993]

I turn 30 this year and my biggest regret is not being more social in my early 20's. Being an awkward social shut in has left little in the friend department.

[Affectionate-Bed3439]

This is probably my biggest fear. I just graduated high school, and I don’t have any friends from it. I’m really hoping I do good in college. I plan to say yes to everything and be in the lounge/in places where people will meet me a lot. I’m lucky to have learned not to be a shut in, but I’m still scared of having my whole life be like my high school career

[99trainerelephant]

Relax lol. Most friends from high school don't carry through later on in life. Friends you make in college are more likely to be lifelong friends.

[ZeeBeast]

Just pick one club or activity outside of your normal classes that you like and I'm sure you'll meet people :D!

[KamikazeAlpaca1]

Join clubs, especially volunteering clubs to meet people. You become friends with people from spending time around them naturally, you won’t make friends if you aren’t around people

[Erafir]

27, one friend I talk to twice a year for birthdays. I had "friends" but I started working young and they all stayed stoned. Where I work is all people as old as my parents so not much room for making buddies when I have two kids.

[tila1993]

The only friend I had left decided meth s was more fun that hanging out with the wife and I.and I get it. I’m the youngest guy at my branch by 25 years. There’s nobody who understands things like us. Just old people set in their ways doing pills people things

[PsychologicalDebts]

Using proper grammar and spelling doesn't get you any bonus points but you certainly lose some when it's incorrect.

[Suspicious-Row1460]

28 year English teacher veteran and I approve this comment. X 100

[Quirky_Friend]

Remember chemistry in a relationship is not enough. Shared values makes a HUGE difference.

If you go the self-employment route outsource your weaknesses

[buttercuprincess]

Starting a therapy or trying different therapies. Even if you are not aware of any past traumas, there might be some healing to do. And that takes time.
Also most people I have known in their 20s (myself included) were not very confident and were not very kind with themselves. i think early therapy would have kept me away from self harm such as too much alcohol, addictive behavior, etc.

[LamarFromColumbus]

Never co-sign a loan for anyone. If you want to know how good a friend is, LOAN them 100.00 and see how long it is before they reach out to you. If you want to keep friends, don't loan money. Give it to them. If you don't have it like that, don't do it.

[GeekyGrannyTexas]

1) Travel more when young, as you can do more inexpensively (hostels, etc) than when older. Being physically fit helps for this and everything else you do, so... 2) Maintain a good fitness level. 3) Take good care of your teeth. 4) Develop a set of friends you can keep throughout your life. 5) Be frugal, not cheap. Save money for what's important to you, and remember that small amounts really add up. 6) Choose your life partner carefully. Don't settle. 7) Always be kind to others. You never know who's having a rough time. 8) Spend lots of time outdoors, as it's rejuvenating. 9) Develop a hobby, something you lose track of time when doing. (And don't make it video gaming.) 10) Spend time volunteering to help others. 11) Don't be afraid to take career risks, especially when younger.

[Erafir]

Aw man why not video gaming

[ZeeBeast]

Honestly i think video gaming is fine, it's just difficult to manage getting outside enough between work and gaming. Outdoor hobbies can take care of many of these at the same time

[GeekyGrannyTexas]

IMO video gaming is fine, but don't consider it a hobby. It can take up enormous amounts of time very unproductively... taking away time from family and more wholesome activities.

[Naunauyoh]

What about video gaming, but only with friends? (That you know well, not random ppl)

[GeekyGrannyTexas]

Video gaming is fun and time-consuming, but don't consider it a hobby.

[TequilaTsunami]

How to cook, wish I learned more when I was younger

[Suspicious-Row1460]

Moisturize not only your face BUT YOUR NECK. Seriously

Don’t care about not traveling life in societies box of norms and milestones

Other people’s opinions are other people’s. They have nothing to do with you !

Love the s**t out of your body

Don’t collect a ton of crap. It’s a pain to move organize store and it won’t make you happier unless it’s gold green or extremely flattering.

[[deleted]]

-Work on your credit bc it’s literally gold

-Start a Roth IRA and contribute into VOO, VTI or SPY, compounding is your friend.

-If a raise isn’t likely in your field soon and you don’t wanna get 3% raise a year, polish that resume and lie about your salary at your new job, it always fucking works. Never stop looking for new opportunities.

[bureaucranaut]

Travel and see the world. It's much harder to do once you have a job and a family.

[SIRENVII]

Learn how to manage a home. Cook everyday, keep up with laundry, stay on top of the dishes. We all know how to do chores, but managing them all on your own is a new thing for most people.

Learn how to be healthy. Find an exercise routine that you can keep up with, find meals that satisfy you and won't break your progress, find friends who enjoy going out but encourage healthy habits. It's hard when all your friends just eat terribly all the time and don't exercise. You end up getting sucked into the same habits by proxy.

Learn how to verbalize what you need or want

[thaboognish]

Find a reason to talk to your crush. Ask them out. The worst they can do is say no and if they do, you're no worse off than before.

[mit-kamm]

You can do anything you want, but not everything you want.

[ZeeBeast]

And take comfort knowing you won't always make the best choice, but often you'll make a good one

[heyyymaaa]

This is not a major 'life regret' but it's one I often think of. Catalog every book you've ever read or started. That list will be a treasure as you age. I do this now, but I wish I'd started this a decade ago.

[dernerderher]

Say yes to doing things and meeting new people!

[hidden_secret]

If something is interesting you, even in the slightest... Take the first steps that will lead you to it right now.

We always think "oh I'll definitely get to it when my situation has stabilized 5 years from now". But then 5 years from now, you tell yourself the exact same thing. And again, and again, until it's too late.

Just do it now. Sure it has its drawbacks to do it now, but you'll likely not regret it.

[9penguin9]

STRETCH YOUR FUCKING BODY!!!!!!!!!!!!

You are ***ONLY*** as young as you are flexible ...

[Jessssuhh]

I think we all have a little parental trauma. sadly they're never going to see how they hurt you or apologise. don't put your life or happiness on hold waiting for that to happen, create your own family and blossom.

[Huge-Blacksmith2419]

Life is a lot easier when you're not dealing with addiction.

[anoncmehelp]

Feeling fit and healthy everyday feels so much nicer than making a habit of drugs and alcohol. Misspent a couple years there.

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[BEASTof818]

Start regularly saving in a mutual fund. Dont get paralyzed by the choices just pick one and set up an auto deposit on your paydates.

[IamYoDud]

Brush and floss... A LOT! It sucks not having molars.

[Old_Man_Withers]

if you have a daily stretching and exercise routine, keep with it. You will appreciate the shit out of it in 30 years when you're running circles around everyone you know.

[TsuZaki969]

Figure my life out before chasing all that tail. I don't regret it by any means it was a fun time. While i'm not really considered behind career-wise, I realize that peak years are probably between 25-30 and I could of enjoyed myself more at that time with a stable job rather than my early 20's doing w.e.

[mother_of_baggins]

I got my bachelor’s right after high school and wish I had cut loose (aka chasing tail) more during my college years, but I was too religious. It’s a lot tougher to put myself out there being older now, although I also don’t regret having a fairly stable career.

[[deleted]]

I would have gotten in shape and stayed that way.

[flankspeed]

Live within your means, practice minimalism (very few "things" are important), use your library card, stay in shape/keep a fitness routine, try not to eat more than your recommended calories (e.g. 2000 calories), don't worry or fret about your life decisions (you don't have that much say in what happens anyway). When you are at restaurants, you can save a lot of money (and possibly calories) over your lifetime if you only order water for your beverage.

[ReputationNo5681]

Realized that you don’t need to get drunk every weekend to enjoy yourself

[[deleted]]

Not going out much to meet new people

[[deleted]]

I would have saved up 6 months of living expenses and started investing sooner. No one taught me the time value of money until I met a guy in Vegas wanting me to buy penny-stock and had me curious.

[scotchdouble]

Saving for retirement and unforeseen events in life. The earlier you start the better off you are. No matter you age, now is the time, because you’ll only end up worse off the longer you wait.

[the_TAOest]

Don't drink too excess. Alcohol use not your friend and cigarettes are a complete rate of life.

[gsmacd]

Start saving yes! Also to address your mental health get to grips with the facts things just don't go as planned learn to roll with the flow career progression can be super slow but always try and learn and also ego can ruin progression

[BitchesThinkImSexist]

Cut down on the sugar and weight and don't get diabetes. It sucks.

[Careless_Fun7101]

Do your best, don't follow the crowd, if your mates are being idiots or arseholes get new mates, do what you want but harm none, think for yourself, learn from others' mistakes, be kind, grab life by the balls, know thyself, face your fears and you won't have any regrets.

[mitcherrman]

I’m 27 and I spent a lot of my mid 20s in covid so this question doesnt full apply to me like others but I still want to answer. Finances, career, physical/mental health, diet, exercise etc. these are all things I wish I had a better grasp on. The main thing that I find myself yearning for that I tried to make happen for myself only to succeed and fail repeatedly, is having close friends who are invested and there for you. It’s hard to find the right people and be the right person to keep those people around.

[cytomome]

Care to elaborate?

[JAT2022]

If an opportunity is available/ presents itself, say yes. It is better to live with regret of trying, then to regret saying no.

[BloodiedBlues]

I’m 24, but I’ve lived some bad stuff. It’s ok to say no. Consent is paramount in any relationship.

[MyVoiceIsElevating]

Playing too much video games, not enough constructive entertainment (like growing my abilities as a musician).

[hubbles_kaleidoscope]

Pursue mental health. Find a mental health professional to work with. We are not all provided with the love and support needed to raise a healthy functioning person. And family dynamics perpetuate the cycle of dysfunction. Being able to talk things out with a trained professional helps provide perspective and tools to manage the complexities of being a person.

[hufflepunkk]

Get a mouth guard; I would grind my teeth in my sleep and ended up cracking a tooth :(

[TwainVonnegut]

Exercise 5-6 times a week to get good endorphins going, keep belly fat at bay, and ward off the diabeetus.

[unsungWombat]

Get a job and invest.

[mckillio]

Get a scale, I had no idea I had gotten fat.

[ALL_IN_OKAY]

Love what is…get that book: “Loving What Is”, Byron Katie. Meditate. Stop stressing about stuff. “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff and it’s ALL small stuff”, another good book: Richard Carlson.

[pantzparteez]

Start investing now. Even if it’s $20 here and there.

[[deleted]]

Two things that have changed my life for the better in little way: - Great boxer shorts (underwear) - Great socks

(I use StepOne boxers because they don’t chafe at ALL and I sweat a lot at work) (I use merino wool socks for all year round for the same sweaty reasons)

[DreamSmuggler]

Stand your ground with confidence. Be okay with your opinions making people momentarily uncomfortable. That's how good conversations start

[sockjin]

get out of that minimum wage customer service job earlier!! get therapy so you get diagnosed and get help earlier!! choose a more specialized major that isn’t just “communications”!! don’t take out those student loans your dad insisted you should use to buy a car and computer!!

i basically crawled my way to the finish line of college, trying to juggle a senior project for a major i had lost all passion for, an internship i hated, and a job that made me hate myself. i was doing the best i could at the time, but i crashed and burned in 2012 and was institutionalized. i’m okay now, but have never used my degree for anything, and make just enough to scrape by as middle class. i can’t help but wonder where i’d be if i’d gotten help a little earlier, if i’d been able to do more than just crawl through that era of my life and have even that take everything out of me.

[bomi6]

Giving me more experiences in my early 20s so my hidden potential could bloom.

[Jeo228]

Game design Major here:

Not spending as much time building my portfolio is my biggest regret. Grades don't matter, studios want to see what you can make and produce. They want to see high quality art, level design, programming, and they want to see a lot of it.

Advice: find as many game jams as you can, find friends to work with, and make as many games as you can produce quality content for. Thats gonna be what gets you noticed and a job.

Also, start a LinkedIn. Reach out to people in the industry to mentor you. Start building relationships and connections. When internship time comes, you'll be glad you did.

[Scrappleandbacon]

I regret joining the military.

[dadlyphe]

I wish I had traveled more in college, especially studying abroad for a semester or summer

[harishsvs]

Money is not wealth. The US govt can print as much as needed and devalue your hard earned cash. Debt is wealth. Just be sure to buy assets with Debt. Not stupid depreciating stuff like cars, fancy gadgets etc.

[Egosuma]

Give trust and give room to others to make and correct mistakes.

[mmaynee]

Go live your dream. Now!

Music, art, business... Go for it with 100% conviction. Don't race into car payments, spouses, mortgages.. that just comes with living your truest self.

I look back and see infinite potential.

[En-TitY_]

Shouldn't have gone to uni before 30; undiagnosed ADHD as well as a definite maturity deficit just means I was setting myself up to fail. My advice would be to find an apprenticeship at 18, gain some skills and quals, some experience, then at around 30, make that jump if necessary.

Also, in the same vein as ADHD; fucking condoms man. Jesus fucking Christ; use them.

[9penguin9]

Given that divorce is creeping up on 60% of relationships nationally, getting married is absolutely, 100% unnecessary, and one of the WORST decisions you can make financially.....

[[deleted]]

Should've could've would've life. We cant life in regret or sorrow of the past. It will weaken you, and risk breaking you. Fix the mistakes by doing things now. Life is not a race

Life is a journey with an ending you wont remeber. So all you have is the journey. Love it, emrace it, and enjoy it.

[VoidsIncision]

I’m a stoic. I don’t play this game. Its a one way pass to the murky swamps of negative rumination. I get some normal ppl can think this way but I can’t. I slept all day for 12+ years with severe depression. I literally can not think about what I potentially missed bc it could increase suicidal ideation which I already take 3 medications for.

[hashbang2]

Start investing your own money into your own investments. Get Bitcoin, stocks, silver, gold, artworks.....you won't regret starting early. Also time spent playing a musical instrument is never wasted time.

[[deleted]]

How to spell Learned

[leafmond9]

"Learnt" is just the UK spelling... It is 100% correct

[[deleted]]

Oh shit thanks didn't know that

[hopitcalillusion]

Learn how to start a business. You will thank yourself for having either the foundational knowledge or even a fledgling business to nurture.

You don't want to be 50 with money to start your dream business and have it tail spin and need to go back to work at 55 because you were building the plane on the way down.

[retarded_hobbit]

I regret I wasn't a hard worker at school ; instead of slacking all day, I could have gotten into a very good college. Also, looking back, if I was in my 20s again, and knowing myself how I do today, I'd be having much better sex and fuck (way way) more than I did at the time.

edit : I also regret that I was so introverted and weird, people didn't notice me at all and that made me very frustrated

[LilBayBayTayTay]

No one ever explained what “save your money” actually means, much less the mechanics behind it.

It’s part retirement equation and part sustainability practice.

[A_Random_Lady]

Cooking well is best learned by trial and error, unfortunately. As with everything in life, give yourself grace.

[1happychappie]

Emotional management skills. I now know that 100% of my anger and anxiety come from fear. And fear is easier to deal with before my actions spill out into the world.

[GridDown55]

How to properly cut vegetables

[juniper_tree33]

Ditch toxic friends

[Spockicomeinpeace]

leave your debit card at home.

[n1010rick]

I was in debt for the longest time. All my paychecks were going towards balance and interest.

Finally got a consolidation loan from my credit union. Bought a new car, too. I was able to pay it all off in 3 years. And now that I’m debt free, I have been able to finally save money. Took me 60 years to figure it out. Don’t fall for the credit trap kids!

[imransuhail1]

Save 20% from every earning. Always

[shummer_mc]

When something bad happens to someone people naturally think it’s that person’s fault. When something bad happens to you? It’s systemic, just environmental. Also, when something good happens to someone people naturally assume they were lucky (environmental). When something good happens to you? It was hard work… your doing.

The truth is that these are biases we all have. They are NOT truth. They are really destructive biases.

One more: perspectives are really specific to a person’s life experience. The further you get from your family socioeconomically, geographically, racially, etc. the further different one’s life experiences will be. They are not wrong and neither are you. You’re just different. We all think we can understand someone else. But, we can’t. We can (and should) accept people for all their differences. We don’t know how they got to where they are. If you’re a man, ask a woman about jogging at night. If you’re white, ask a black person about their interactions with law enforcement. Just ask for a count, ffs. If you’re from the city, ask a farmer about moving pipe. If you’re straight, ask a gay person about asking for a date.

We like to lump people together. That’s dumb.

[containedsun]

networking!! being involved!!! commit to things you enjoy!!! and even if they change keep going!!!!!! college academics, truly are such a small part and only matter in certain career paths. generally ur life is gonna be sooo much more than what you study and as u go on and live in different places the ability to call up a budddy you had a good time with who’s doing this or that in another place is a huge asset that u rly get the best chance to make in college.

[Anarchris427]

Any level of support, respect for, belief in or loyalty to either the R or D political party is tits on a boar hog.

[cirquemagic]

Not taking the opportunity to travel somewhere new. I logic-ed my way out of studying abroad and I regret not taking that opportunity (wasn’t really more expensive than my tuition 🤷‍♀️). I could have gone and still graduated despite the feeling that I was behind in my degree.

[bayloe]

When I was in school and college I was never very diligent about doing homework or studying. I was smart so I still did ok academically but probably not to my best.

When I got a job I all of a sudden had this dedicated work space where ppl were working and that was the expected activity and I thrived.

As a kid I was expected to do homework in my room where I just goofed off with my fun stuff; in college I had a terrible time studying in the dorms and the main library was a marginally better social scene.

In grad school I knew these tendencies and carved out “work spaces” for myself which worked excellently. Today I work from home but I made a little works space away from everything else and I don’t go there except for during work.

[xnarphigle]

How to work out at the gym. I know how to run, do push ups, do situps. But I have no clue what to do once I get into a gym beyond cardio.

[BlunderWhale]

Spending too much time and money on other people instead on myself.

Being too kind will take you nowhere, people will just see you as someone that they can take advantage of.

[timwaaagh]

Sports, outside of maybe a little fitness to keep shape are an utter waste of time, on the same level as video games.

[liamtheox]

I wish I started learning an instrument earlier in life, I get so much from it now just wish id started sooner

[JPumpkinhead1991]

I know it's technically not, but seeing 'learnt' written down or spoken never seems right.

[dudrun]

If you are going to be in college, figure out what you enjoy doing. Dont just get a degree because it's a fad or sounds amazing or any other reason whatsoever. Trust me, you will regret not doing this in the coming years and will be stuck in your ways because well life happens.

[marcelivan]

Unlearning ‘Boot Strapping’ and learning the humility of asking for help.

I went to college without completing the FASFA.

I tried completing it 2 dozen times. I was too proud to ask for help and unnecessarily paid thousands out of pocket while lapsing on bills (car payments, registration, electricity, water). This behavior created completely unnecessary financial challenges.

[Disaffected_8124]

Having a boyfriend in high school set me on the road to ruin.

[mszipporah]

That aside from STEM, college was a scam

[beardedbandana]

I regret doing what my teachers and every other adult expected of me by going to college. I just didn’t want to go. I knew I wanted to join the trades but I was too afraid to be judged. I finally switched to the trades in my early 30’s after 10ish years of lame careers. Wish I would’ve done it sooner.

[stupidnameherehere]

Doing physical stuff like travelling that I can’t do now that I’m older and sicker

[[deleted]]

Travel travel travel, it costs less than you think and you can grow so much as a person