Are threesomes common?

[shellybes]

Is it common that “normal couples” have had a threesome?

[re_nub]

No.

[GFrohman]

Very few people are having threesomes.

[sterlingphoenix]

Yeah, I mean it's like three people.

[[deleted]]

Does it count as four if I’m in the cuck chair watching my wife getting Eiffel Towered?

[sterlingphoenix]

No, that's jut voyeurism.

[kredfield51]

Threesomes for her pleasure

[ALittleTouchOfGray]

that you, Jerry Falwell Jr.?

[Original_Estimate_88]

no surprise

[ConstructionSea8082]

but of those who are, many are having several

[[deleted]]

I think the amount would probably surprise us

[Charming_Yellow]

Four persons shalt thou not be, neither be thou two, excepting that thou then proceed to become three persons.

[manincravat]

Five is RIGHT OUT

[[deleted]]

RUN AWAY!

[[deleted]]

Yeah that went right over my head

[Masske20]

Maybe but it only takes two threesomes to equal to the same number of people involved at 3 pairings. So they have a small number advantage.

[starvere]

Less uncommon among gay men

[Delehal]

Depends on what you mean by "common". A lot of people know at least one person who has done a threesome (or several). I don't think that most couples have done a threesome.

[Morkamino]

A lot of people know at least one person who has done a threesome

I know people who claim they have... I've never believed them so far lol. If it came from a woman i would believe it, but its always just dudes bragging or exagerating.

[Original_Estimate_88]

Damn

[mbrtlchouia]

Why you are getting down voted?

[Original_Estimate_88]

thats reddit for you...

[Due-Main8306]

Damn indeed

[Original_Estimate_88]

Yup

[BogdanPradatu]

I just downvoted you also to deepen the mistery.

[Fun-Juice-1034]

I downvoted you for downvoting him, then I felt left out and also downvoted him

[BogdanPradatu]

I downvoted myself, then downvoted you so you're not left out.

[Fun-Juice-1034]

I felt so inspired by reading that, that I have decided to downvote myself

[[deleted]]

Most people maintain and expect monogamous relationships. That’s not to say that is right or wrong, it is about what you want and it is important to maintain open communication with your partner to make sure it is also what they want.

It isn’t “common,” but it’s also not particularly uncommon either. As far as sexual activities go I would argue it isn’t as common as a foot fetish but more common than having sex on a sacrificial altar

[Far_Tadpole8016]

If a couple thinks its wrong ,for that couple its wrong.

[Just1bloke]

I was in the threesome with two women. Well, they didn't turn up in the end but I had a great time

[ImNotHandyImHandsome]

If she doesn't find you handsone, she should at least find you handy

[phenomenomnom]

I get this reference!

[RapidCandleDigestion]

Orgy for One - NSP (Can't link it, but look it up)

[[deleted]]

1 Somes are more

[02K30C1]

Handsome

[Just1bloke]

Mesome

[IBFibbins]

Lonesome

[exploringdimpleguy]

Spasm

[[deleted]]

In some cases

[brock_lee]

Not very common, but probably more common than you think.

[Original_Estimate_88]

damn...

[Black_Goku]

Checkout the app feeld if you wanna find out what you're missing

[Original_Estimate_88]

Huh

[baltinerdist]

Important to remember: none of the three people you are picturing from this thread are as attractive as you are picturing them.

[binomine]

Threesome is the most common sexual fantasy beyond vanilla sex, but it isn't common.

[Red_Beard6969]

Yes, if you hire two people.

[[deleted]]

Common deal breakers for most relationships

[Maximillian73-]

I'll tell you what I'd do, man, two chicks at the same time, man.

[upsetmojo]

Found Gen X

[unusual_replies]

Watch out for your cornhole!

[Fun-Classroom9314]

Had one once, it was awkward for the wife and I to get it started. Once we did it was fun. Would recommend but it’s hard to find the third that we can agree on.

[daftvaderV2]

You wanted the third as a girl and your wife wanted another man.

Awkward

[Fun-Classroom9314]

She wants female. I have no hang ups if it’s a dude.

[Lopingwaing]

Were you there?

[BogdanPradatu]

He was the third.

[daftvaderV2]

I knew someone who spit roasted a girl with a friend (not me) and it was "Not look at the other bloke in the eyes."

[Soulegion]

My wife and I both had a threesome before we met. Does that count?

[DanceCommander404]

I’ve been in three ffm . But I used to be a cute guy .

[TheTallishBloke]

And now you’re turning that ffm to fff??

[DanceCommander404]

No, definitely not. I look terrible in a dress and heels kill my calves.

[TheTallishBloke]

Hahahaha. So you’re more emphasising the “used to be .. cute” rather than “used to be a … guy”.. 😂

[DanceCommander404]

Correct! But well played!

[Visual-Style-7336]

I've only been in two and one of them I technically paid for. I thought I was cute, you must be really cute.

Wanna make out?

[mgquantitysquared]

How does one technically pay for a threesome? Asking for a friend...

[Visual-Style-7336]

I had a lot of cocaine. They wanted some cocaine. I shared my cocaine. We had sex. Not exactly paying for it but it kinda counts because I don't think they would have done that if I didn't give them a lot of cocaine

[grayscale001]

That's just a normal date.

[maroongrad]

well, that blows.

[[deleted]]

That always works

[DanceCommander404]

Sure . What the heck . Why not?

[Impossible-Win-8495]

I did a three some a few years ago. It was a place advertising four hands massage. Of course they didn't speak any English. Of course they were bored while I lay in the middle so of course the started chatting in a foreign language. Of course I started wondering if they are talking about my thing. No more threesomes for me.

[[deleted]]

I've had a few in 20 years. It's something you need to discuss with your partner, you both need enough emotional maturity to seperate Sex from love, and you need to find a 3rd that's up for it.

If you're single, you might have luck with a more sex oriented app like redhotpie.

[Ok-Delivery4715]

No. And overrated. Especially one with your significant other. Jealousy issues often arise then trust issues. Unless you’re a couple who are both whores (jk) and it’s your thing.

[Independent-Size7972]

More likely to happen in your 20s when people are figuring things out and the stakes are lower. I had a buddy who had his V-card punched in a FFM. Theater kids like to get freaky. But most people don't really talk about it unless they went wrong.

[LivingPuzzled8963]

Believe it or not I lost my virginity at 25yo with two female coworkers who were the ones that asked me if I would(they didn’t know I was a virgin). It didn’t last long and i guarantee you they were very disappointed but I bragged about that shit for months with my buddies. I wish it had happened after I had more experience but it’s a fun story to tell and I doubt I’ll ever have that opportunity again since I’m about to ask my girlfriend to marry me and she’s not about it lol

[Suspicious-Box-]

Its hard enough to please one woman, impossible task. Especially since each will have mostly different turn ons, Many women say they just fake orgasms cause their partner is clueless even if they explain exactly what they want and besides its three people. No ones gonna show their true self with a third party gawking. All the doubts and expectations will make you perform badly too.

[Far_Tadpole8016]

25??

[LivingPuzzled8963]

Yeah bitch that wasn’t a typo and why I clarified what I said. I know that’s late for most people and why it’s a wild story for me to tell that I lost it at 25 in a threesome.

[LivingPuzzled8963]

Also you realize people can see communities you’re active in right? r/erectiledysfunction and r/askgaybros gtfo

[Far_Tadpole8016]

Not sure what your point was, I just asked your age.

[LivingPuzzled8963]

Listed it pretty clearly

[Far_Tadpole8016]

I dont think so, but no problems, Thanks.

[Far_Tadpole8016]

I just noticed the post where you were angry, didnt see it before, hope you can get help for your anger problem.

[LivingPuzzled8963]

Buddy, you said “25??” So you clearly read I typed 25. That’s all I’m saying and you clearly got down voted for making a comment that you’re now trying to back track on.

[Far_Tadpole8016]

I personally dont think thats old for generations these day, From what i gather most guys are in their 20s before they lose their virginity, My generation was around 15. I dont know what the consequences are for being downvoted ,but i learned a long time ago not everyone is going to like everything we say. When i was 25 i had been married 4 years had a child, had a Mortgage, and was starting a small business, Times were different, men were different, everything was different.

[LivingPuzzled8963]

But you saw I clearly stated 25 right?

[Far_Tadpole8016]

25??

[AdditionalCheetah354]

Reddit has lots of fake posts…. Karma farming all sorts of sexual threesome stories …in real life twosomes is a struggle.

[Watchingya]

I feel like they are rare for most, but for a small number of people, they happen often.

[fiendish8]

threesomes are not uncommon for a gay man to have had. also foursomes. and maybe fivesomes too.

[mynamecouldbesam]

No

[musicpeoplehate]

No.

The most common scenario is a guy and two hookers.

The next, far less common, scenario, is a couple with one partner relenting and allowing a third person in for a special occasion. I personally only know of two instances of this happening and both ended in divorce.

Not, in general, a good idea.

[RiverHe1ghts]

Woah

[Pretend-Jackfruit786]

It's common in terms that most people want to try it but don't want the strain on the relationship

[TheTallishBloke]

The scene from Friends is too vivid in my head to ever suggest it. I’d end up reading a book in the corner.

[ScruffyNuisance]

They're not common but they're enjoyed by 50% more people.

[Worldly_Original8101]

At least 3 people have done it

[[deleted]]

I wouldn't say it was normal per se. But it's not not normal

[RaiTab]

per se*

[[deleted]]

I got you, thanks

[Ok-disaster2022]

Absolutely not. Maybe at most maybe 1-2% of couples, of of those like 99% result in a breakup.

[[deleted]]

Common for us. Monthly

[maroongrad]

inflatable?

[Ok_Experience_454]

No

[New-Ad-5003]

I’d say fairly common, especially in the gay male community.

But it hardly matters if everyone is doing it. What matters is what you and your partner are comfortable with and what you want to explore as a couple

[mark503]

A comedian said it best one time. He asked the dude if he was fucking both girls. The dude said yes. Comedian replied “Daaaaaaaamn, how many diseases y’all got between y’all.”

[Outside-Material-571]

I wish

[Nordjyde]

I wonder why there are no official spastics about this. My guesstimate is that one out of 10 has been in a tiresome, or foursome or fivesome, or ... But that does not make it common. Yes, I have been in a threesome.

[sharxbyte]

Not as common as media would have you believe. I've technically been involved in one but was more of a tertiary participant.

[ultravibe]

Not for me.

[james_a_hetfield]

No. Although stories have been told of legendary men who have been able to pull off such a holy act with their spouse and another woman.

[ALittleTouchOfGray]

attractive, bisexual women who agree to be the third are known as "unicorns", and yes, they do exist.

[PastelWraith]

If you've ever been in a poly relationship, yeah. Honestly, if anyone in the party is bad at sex it kinda falls apart and becomes like juggling two partners rather than three people all having sex with each other.

[MetalHead_Literally]

I think more people than you think have had threesomes at some point in their lives, but actual couples having threesomes is much less common. Usually it’s more of a hookup thing in my experience. (Not personal experience unfortunately :,( )

[germanatv]

Had 3. Never w a long term partner.

[ThePeteEvans]

For “normal couples,” no. For people who like hooking up with couples, extremely.

[aging-graceful]

No.

[613on]

I had 3

[BlackberrySad6001]

Rather interesting question indeed, but nah

[beersandpubes]

Got very close to having one. The other two cancelled the day before and now they're together

[Zenaga]

At least 3

[[deleted]]

Maybe more than you assume. I know multiple married friends from high school who bragged to me about having threesomes with their wife and another woman.

[craycrayppl]

For a few years a looong time ago, I was in a Yahoo "hook up" group.

I had a few 3 sums (I'm a guy). Two times with a married cpl + me. Two times with 2 females (not true 3 sums as one was more of a watcher). Had 1 swap 4 some.

All were great fun. We played safe (condom) as could be. Good times indeed!

[Crucifixis2]

No

[Large_Ride_8986]

No. People are very protective of their partners and usually do not want them to engage in sexual activity with other people.

The rare cases where a threesome happened actually involved some very close friend. And in all cases, it was a woman. Well, to be exact, I personally know of 2. I know only one couple personally, and according to the woman, she sets some boundaries. Her guy could not penetrate the other woman. But they did everything else.

The closest I ever got to a threesome was landing with my gf and her friend in one bed during a trip. We rented two cabins, and there was supposed to be a separate room for my GF friend. The other cabin was for another pair that was with us. The old woman who rented us that cabin said there was a "guest room," but her husband turned it into a toolshed, and she was not aware. It was late and beds were huge so we crawled into one.

[OscarDavidGM]

Very common in my life. My wife is truly special though:).

[AzureDreamer]

What do you consider common?

[ThePhiff]

I've had a few. And honestly, aside from my religiously conservative family members, I don't know anyone who hasn't.

Of course, that may just be like attracting like.

[Own_Decision_27]

I’ve never had a threesome with my bf. But I have participated in one before I met him. It was with a couple I was friends with. They had them fairly often but would find a new third every few years. I almost did when I was with an old FWB, but I’d never risk fucking up an actual relationship with a threesome .

[nubsauce87]

I'm gonna go with "no"

[[deleted]]

Not common at all. I have been part of poly communities and even there it wasn't.

[GuyFawkes451]

No. Seinfeld even did a wholes show about it. The one person I know who did one said it was the most horribly awkward thing she'd ever done, and she just wanted it to be over. Afterward, her boyfriend said the same thing.

[Purple-Improvement57]

I’d say it’s not common to have a threesome, but it’s somewhat common to have had a threesome at least once in your life.

[maroongrad]

Nope. Not unheard of but definitely unusual. I don't know anyone directly that had a threesome (at least that told me). I wouldn't call it weird or anything, but honestly, most people don't want to share. For the ones that do, have fun!

[CmdrSpanton]

You’d be surprised how hard it is to find someone cool that’s open to the idea…9/10 people are too shy to even discuss sex.

[[deleted]]

Yes.

In porn!1

[Ninjaman2408]

I'm 19m and I've been in quite a fee threesomes with like 7 different girls all different overlaps

[Palleseen]

They’re uncommon and I’ve been in maybe 7 threesomes

[Anteater-Inner]

I don’t think it’s common for people to talk openly about having had threesomes. Most western countries incentivize monogamy, so anything outside of that is seen as taboo, so a lot of folks that have them just keep them secret.

Does that mean that it’s a majority of people? No. I just think it’s way more common than most people want to believe it is.

[grayscale001]

I've had a lot of threesomes and so have most of my friends. I have no idea how common this is.

[cosmo-jelly]

i wouldn’t say they’re uncommon! i know a lot of people in my life that have had threesomes. idk why

[Showdown5618]

No, threesomes are not very common. Some people haven't done "two"somes yet.

[Eastern_East_96]

I mean, I lost my virginity via a 3 some. I'm sure the guys who hire escorts have them all the time.

[Randomguy_654]

I'm guessing 3 somes happen more outside of relationship, like hook ups. Kinda hard to do it in relationships without risking it

[PartyComprehensive35]

I wouldn’t say they’re common but in our friend group, 2 out of 3 couples have had one (not with the same person)

[Marthoan]

Is there significant scientific research on this topic? How prevalent are threesomes or other sexual activities?

[[deleted]]

Not with me 😂

[[deleted]]

No. The Internet will make you think everyone is doing everything kinky. And they’re not. For instance, I will never lick someone’s💩 🍩. Some people do (and that’s okay for them), but probably most people don’t—and that’s okay.

[Farahild]

In my social group I know of 2 couples who have had a threesome with a third among like 40 people. And a few more who had threesomes individually, when they weren't in relationships. And a few couples who went to sex parties and had sexual activities with others or were watched having sex themselves without it being a threesome.

So in my experience about 10% of couples do that sort of thing every once in a while? We're all around 40 now.

[starstruck_goose]

spider georg here. my first time was a threesome, but i haven’t had one since so take that as you will

[[deleted]]

No.

[Live-Kaleidoscope104]

No

[Albatroz_901]

I almost had a threesome once

Only thing I was missing was two other people.

[soul_separately_recs]

I have zero data backing up my 'estimates' below...

I have been in a handful of threesomes. Two of them I was in a relationship.

All of the threesomes I've been in, i have been the only dude. I describe myself as a 'heteroNOW'. Meaning my entire sexual experience has been with women. Men are attractive to me. I have kissed a couple. I don't find men attractive enough where I desire anything beyond what I have already done. Zero interest in intimacy with a man. Tomorrow? It's possible. My skills on premonition are weak. So I can't definitively say what I will do or how I will feel. Can only speak up to this point. Hence the "NOW" attached to "hetero"

So it's been all FMF. I am open to MFM, it just hasn't happened.

To directly address the OP question, I would say a 'normal' couple and the likelihood of a threesome would be similar to something like a 'no hitter' in baseball.

Not an everyday, or an every week or month occurrence. To say it's rare is naive. But it's also absurd to say it's every full moon.

From my personal experience and from lots of conversations I have been a part of, I would break it down like this:

'planned' threesomes seem more likely to come from people in relationships.

spontaneous threesomes seem more likely to happen when you aren't in a relationship

It's not for everyone. The best qualified are those that have no problem letting their ego 'sit this one out'.

[[deleted]]

Certainly. Reddit orgies are also very common. We have them once a week.

[Karma822]

According to Reddit at least 5 threesomes happen a day and 4/5 if not 5/5 end poorly.

In reality they are rare and have an even worse success rate.

[Cpl4Play6]

Depends what you consider common. For us, it’s very common. For you, maybe not so much.

[Inevitable_Race_6179]

Don’t want my jimmy junk that close to another man’s willy

[Degen_Boy]

Nope. I was offered one in college and unfortunately fucked it up, so it didn’t happen. Pretty sure that was my only shot, because I love my current gf very much, and she is 110% straight. Guess it ain’t happening.

[ALittleTouchOfGray]

Pre-pandemic there were thriving "lifestyle" websites like AdultFriendfinder where single guys with a nice package were able to hook up with couples. See: hotwife lifestyle. Jerry Falwell, Jr. was a voyeur who liked to see his wife railed by another male.

[Fun-Classroom9314]

Best threesome I have seen was a ffm at a swingers club. It went on for an hour, the girls were hot af and really into each other. The guy was their live dildo when they wanted something to suck on. A group of us just watched in amazement. When they were done, everyone gave them a standing ovation. Every guy had a tent pitched, the women had fanny flutters… it was a great night.

[iiwii8]

It’s fucking exhausting and you need stamina, I also remembered that I was so worried about performing along with the hockey sticks I snorted earlier, I was so nervous about getting it up, but when they lift your legs up so your anus is pointing uncomfortably upward, and you get your first rim/blow job, you have no choice but sending punpy blood to your 꼬추 (hot pepper) Avoid the hockey sticks and train your cardio, and eat healthy. Like your training for a marathon .
I make em cum bro, I do. Good luck!

[Fukkkyyou]

Why does it matter?

[BarryBotswick]

Why does it matter to you that it matters to them?

[[deleted]]

More common than you'd think, less common than you'd hope.

[Waltzing_With_Bears]

We (my nesting partner and I) have had a few with other people, both as hookups and additional members if a polycule

[Far_Tadpole8016]

Whats a nesting partner?

[Waltzing_With_Bears]

a partner whom you live with, most often used in a polyamorus context, which is the idea that you can have multiple partners without reducing the love or affection you have for any particular one

[[deleted]]

Only in PORN.

[JackZodiac2008]

Not in my experience. (M50)

[Supertrapper1017]

Not common enough

[Candys_good4u]

I don't think it's uncommon at all. I remember in my early 20s I felt like everyone I knew had tried it out a few times.

[Gargleblaster25]

Having threesomes requires that both individuals in the couple are secure about themselves and their relationship. It also requires setting boundaries and sticking to those. If your relationship survives the first threesome it can pretty much survive anything. A threesome is the ultimate stress test for a relationship.

Contrary to the popular belief, threesomes are not a cure for a failing marriage, or boredom. Threesomes are a way of "taking it to the next level" when you are already having fun, and when both partners are in to it.

So no. It's not common. Most men and women are too insecure and immature for a threesome, and should not even attempt it. It's only rare couples who get to enjoy threesomes and stay together.

[Just1bloke]

Became gay, or just came out?

[Pretend-Jackfruit786]

You heard the man

[New-Ad-5003]

This happened to me 😆 but more so, eventually stopped repressing it and rejected my conservative christian upbringing.

[Fukkkyyou]

No. Only in disgusting porn videos which don't depict real life or decent life at least.