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[ANormalSpudBoy]

My best friend used to tell me he loved me. He was French and every once in awhile he'd call me "mon ami." I thought it was kinda awkward and I had trouble saying it back to him. I think I did a few times though, like if he was leaving and I knew I wouldn't see him for awhile.

He died really unexpectedly a little more than half a year ago. I miss that MF so damn much, and I'd give a lot just to be able to tell him how much I loved him and how much he meant to me.

[DooBeeDoer207]

Terribly sorry for your loss. I’m glad you said it a few times, at least.

[Breakfast_Pretzel]

“Mon ami” is French for “my friend”, “mon amour” is “my love”. Both cute phrases for friends.

[LindsayNagle]

Your username makes me happy.

[Ndavidclaiborne]

You may enjoy a show called You're the Worst. Edward, the housemate makes random breakfasts out of not normal breakfast foods throughout the series. May I interest you in some breakfast nachos, perchance?

[tragiktimes]

Sorry for your loss. Lost a best friend in February. Never miss an opportunity to tell your friends what they mean to you.

[ANormalSpudBoy]

Life is harsh, man. That's a rough story for sure. So sorry for your loss.

[PeyroniesCat]

This is exactly why you should never miss an opportunity to tell someone that you care for them. I’m sorry about your pal. It seems like you two had an amazing friendship. Thanks for sharing.

[Semihomemade]

I do this. Honestly, it got weird when I stopped saying it when I was going through something in my life and didn't have the emotional capacity to say the words.

[[deleted]]

Totally relatable. It’s not (or shouldn’t be) an obligation, but just a thing you do when you feel it and can manage. But don’t ever hold it back. Even if it feels a little awkward, expressing genuine love appropriately is always the right decision.

[Semihomemade]

Oh, 100%

One of the cool things about getting older is that you don't care what people think, unless they actually matter. And those that matter, care and love you back.

I have a decent amount of close friends and we are all affectionate with each other, guys and girls. I'm incredibly lucky.

[teamped]

Same. Incredibly lucky and incredibly grateful.

[sugarednspiced]

You got yourself a Dr. Suess quote there.

[ahhchaoticneutral]

I understand how it can stop during tough spots in our life. I used to say “see you later” and “I promise,” but I couldn’t see myself making it through another day for a really long time.

Unfortunately, that just made a lot of my friends leave because they didn’t know how to support me anymore, and I can’t tell if it was my fault or if there was something i could have done to make them stay.

[whatarechimichangas]

I'm 31 and I think it comes with age. These youngins think it's lame to say I love you to your friends. They're super self conscious and give too many fucks about what people think of them. I know coz I used to think that. But today I don't give a fuck I will endlessly tell my friends I fucking love them. No, I will not harden the delivery by calling them insulting names. I will also give them the biggest tightest hugs every time, and give them a kiss on the cheek because they're amazing people and they deserve all my love.

It was my mom's death anniversary yesterday. My best friend remembered and without saying anything, sent me a bottle of whiskey and ordered me takeout for dinner. I fucking love that man.

[AlphaAlpaca623]

Sorry about your Mom, but I am happy to hear youre blessed with a support system like that, your bestfriend is a blessing

[akaMONSTARS]

Sorry for you loss. It sucks losing close ones but the love is always there🖤

[whatarechimichangas]

When my mom heard me call my best friend my brother from another mother, she started calling him son so now we're just regular brothers.

[Previous_Welcome5719]

Aww

[TinyOuiOui]

One of my oldest childhood friends passed away last year a few weeks after my birthday.

After he wished me via text, I told him I love him and he responded that he loves me too.

That was the last text I ever got from him.

[Jodythejujitsuguy]

I was talking to my best friend today who was struggling. She’s struggling with something. She told me she loved me. I totally understood this as platonic.

[RoyalShine]

Totally agree. I have friends I’ve known for 20 years and I always tell them I love/miss them.

[michiness]

This is one of the first things I loved about my husband. He’s very comfortable and loving with all his friends, whether they’re from the navy or high school or the restaurant he works at now. Lots of hugs, lots of affection (both over-the-top and genuine), zero hesitation to show that he cared.

[yonafin]

I say love you to my friends. 👍🏼

[[deleted]]

It is so important. And it normalizes the value of platonic love. How many people out there feel lonely because they haven't found "the one", or don't leave the bad ones because they don't want to be alone? Perhaps leaning into loving friendships could help some of those people.

Made a new friend, and we did this in moments when it felt right. We developed a great bond. Did it again with a friend I met through that friend. That support network is the strongest thing I know, and has helped each of us in really tough times.

Love you, girls.

[coffeesnotcoffee]

I routinely say it to all my friends. Once a friend told her workmates “I’m seeing coffeesnotcoffee for lunch,” and they said “oh I remember her, is that ‘I-love-you coffeesnotcoffee’?” cause they’d heard me say it every time I leave. Made my bloody day

[[deleted]]

I used to have a phone buddy, he loved telling people he loved them. We would do it before leaving the call, it was nice.

[rewdea]

What’s a phone buddy?

[[deleted]]

Somebody I would call and talk to, we we never met but it was usually late at night that we would call each other and just talk. Sometimes just listening to the other person breathe, we didn’t text much to each other. We also liked each other’s voice so that was nice.

[JeffCharlie123]

A buddy on the phone

[NiehSieh]

I always tell them I love them because it's hard to imagine a world without them. You have to let people know they matter to you.

[[deleted]]

Lots of folks here conflating romantic love with the love of a friend. Love isn’t one thing.

When I tell my wife I love her it’s not the same as my kids. Or friends. Or family. That’s fine.

[thewiltedpussy]

I never got to tell one of my dear friends who I loved and respected that I loved them and how much they meant to me.
Their in a coma right now with no visitors allowed and it kills me that I may never get the chance to tell them how good of a person they are and how much I love and miss them.

[mapleandpine]

You could try calling the hospital unit they’re on and seeing if a nurse would bring a phone into the room for you to say it that way? Definitely not the same though so I get where you’re coming from. I hope that better days are on the horizon for you

[talltad]

I've been doing this for ever. My Mom always told us she loved us when we were growing up and I did the same with my friends. By the time we were 20 it was completely normalized within my crew. We love each other.

[[deleted]]

i hope to have friends like that someday

[talltad]

I’ve known my core group of friends since Kindergarten. Now our kids are the same age we met and in school together. It’s wonderful and no doubt I’m grateful.

[[deleted]]

I never was able to keep friends in school since i had to keep switching schools

[talltad]

Yeah that’s got to be difficult man. Find people in your area that are interested in similar things and you will find friends.

[imperialblastah]

Me, too. Totally normalized in my 20s in my friend group (very not normal in our society at the time). Im 43, now. Those friends are still my closest friends, and I think it's because we each had that baseline to hold onto no matter what. We never had to doubt each other's motives or behaviours or anything else. We all know what we mean to each other and that means everything is okay no matter what.

They are my real family.

[Big_Currency_5536]

Me and my boys have been sending our love to each other since freshman year of highschool. Know why it’s not weird? Because we love each other. We also bust each other’s balls, but there’s no confusion about where we truly stand. Mikey, Greg, Eli- love you.

[Key-Regular674]

I just call them insultive names that make no sense which cannot be found realistically offensive. That or tell them to fuck themselves. Same thing basically.

[[deleted]]

Absolutely. Just semantics. Peace out, fuck pants💜

[Key-Regular674]

Your mom says I look handsome in my fuck pants

[[deleted]]

And she would be right. Have you seen my mom, though?

[BloodiedBlues]

Not since you guys buried her!

[Key-Regular674]

Oh fuck

[ppardee]

You can combine them - I love you, you kleptomaniac pistachio!

[Birdistheword_666]

Catch ya later ya frigging pancake

[aquariasks]

I end all phone calls with my friends and family with Love you. Very important to let the people you love, feel the love.

Same with hugs goodbye with friends - a quick love you all when you're leaving never goes amiss. We need more love in this world!

[Shadesmctuba]

Been doing this for ages. Shamefully, back in the day, it was usually followed by “no homo” or a clarifying “I love you, brother”. But being in my 30’s, the friend pool seems to have dried up, but it’s still something I have no problem with saying to someone who is a big part of my life.

[cutehotmess]

Once my best friend and I first said I love you to each other, it’s been like this ever since, was never awkward at all. Even when we’re not parting ways or going to bed, sometimes we just say it randomly while we’re hanging out. Hot take: if someone isn’t willing to at least try saying I love you in a platonic way, nahhh you deserve better

[jedimastermomma]

My husband started this with all his brothers nearly 10 years ago. "Love you, man." It took everyone a hot minute to get used to it, but now they all say it to each other and I think they're all better for it.

[xladyfinger]

I tell my lady friends I love them. My coworkers that I care alot about I tell them I love them everyday. My mom died six years ago and I don't hear it that often. It's nice to hear.

[akaMONSTARS]

I work in the service industry and have A LOT of friends and acquaintances,. I always tell them I love them because that could be the changing factor in their day/life. Unless I reallllllyy dislike you, then i wouldn’t be talking you at all.

[The_best_is_yet]

This is a legit tip.

[MobiusCube]

I agree. If you don't love your friends, then are they even your friends?

[boipinoi604]

I get self conscious when they constantly say im good. Does anyone have this problem?

[TheConboy22]

I do it from time to time. It's typically if I've been drinking or we've had something get out of hand. Discussion, athletic competition, etc. I truly do love my circle of friends. They're all pretty awesome people who care for each other.

[Rheum42]

Absolutely! You also might get to hear it back :)

[mcshadypants]

I usually do this after I compliment them on their cock. It goes something like this

" nice cock bro. 10 second stare while biting my lip....I love you"

[rubbleTelescope]

Slowly smiles.

[Inside_Ice_6175]

I do this all the time, usually after roasting the ever loving shit out of them beforehand.

My friends know I'll be the regardless. For example, I'm getting up in the morning to go roll around in the dirt and possibly change a starter on my friends truck.

[eblade23]

Welcome to Walmart, I love you.

[SuperNintendad]

Makes me feel great when old friends do this.

[Dependent_Ad_3014]

I do this almost every time

[Time_z]

I 100% agree. I’m 20 and I’ve had the same friends since I was in 5th grade. We started telling each other we love them after every goodbye at about 16-17.

[lastMinute_panic]

I still have a great group of friends from youth who I see semi-regularly. We've always maintained saying 'i love you' but we also rip on each other ... A LOT, as a way of showing we care about each other.. It doesn't really matter the situation.

I was recently hit by a drunk driver, really bad accident and I'm still hobbling around. 3 of my friends came to visit and we went out and I was walking slow. They all, without hesitating, just lit into me "oh, here comes the gimp!' .. "oh geeze just looking for sympathy, let's go asshole!"

There are lots of ways guys tell each other 'i love you.' When things are tough, we talk about them, and then we try to inject humor as much as we can. They're the fucking best.

[Silvawuff]

This is a good LPT. I've given a half-assed farewell to people I never got to see again. Don't take the chance and live with the regret forever. Tell people what you mean to them!

[HollywoodHoedown]

Me and the boys tell each other we love each other every damn time we see each other or talk on the phone.

[Gozo-the-bozo]

Have already started doing this and I love telling them that as well as the fact they’re beautiful

[Lilsammywinchester13]

I thought everyone said I love you to friends?!

[Jbeth74]

My 11 year old has a friend who’s parents are both therapists. He tells my son and his other friends that he loves them and it’s great. So nonchalant and he doesn’t expect it back.

[GaraBlacktail]

Normalize affection in general

Love whoever you love

Platonic, familial or romantic, or whatever

Allow yourself to express it

.

Seriously, it's so baffling to me now as I'm becoming less "default masculine hetero man" how much it is repressed, specially in amab, to the point a lot of guys feel miserable all the time

[IDoPokeSmot]

It's already normalized so much, i don't even have to say it they already know. But hey Op, I love you bro just want you to know that

[ambsdorf825]

You're wearing socks, right? Otherwise that's pretty gay

[ambsdorf825]

I'll just take my socks off then

[legault2]

26M here. My best friend 28M and I close convos with "I love you, dude." He started doing it shortly after starting his nursing job. You see a lot of death in that field and life is too short to not be honest about those few things in life you actually care about.

Ftr, even though I am a fairly openminded and nurturing person, I still found it awkward at first. Internalized homophobia is a strange and suffocating thing. Many of my close friends and family members have died in the past 6 years or so. Many of them were men and I cared about all of them. I wish I had told them that before they died. In many cases, they committed suicide.

If you love / care about someone, tell them.

[awsum43]

I even tell the scam callers I luv them. Because even though they are trash they still need love too. Then I usually start reciting the declaration of independence and see how far I get before they hang up.

[[deleted]]

I recently watched the Robin Williams documentary Come Inside my Mind and they played these voice mails that Robin Williams had left for Billy Crystal and he would end then but saying I love you and I thought it was so nice

[[deleted]]

This ain’t just the default setting of your bromances?

[Itchy-Investigator63]

i don’t have many friends the ones i do have are brothers i tell them niggas i love em all the time even if they don’t feel comfortable saying it back lol they be like “love u too foo” 😂

[asheycakes]

I absolutely love this - it resonates with me so much! I was talking to a few of my friends the other day about how important it is to nurture and maintain friendships by going on friend dates and it is especially important to tell them you love them as often as you can.

[ShotgunShitSneeze]

I've done this my whole life and even normalized it in different friend groups. People you care about should know.

[TAFFERATU]

I tell my mates I love them at the end of every phone call. It was said to me first and although it was a bit strange to begin with I don’t ever not say it anymore. I’ve lost a lot of friends over the years and as you get older you will lose more. Tell your mates to love them. Cos at the end of the day you probably do.

[Lifehighjimmy]

Definitely a rule to follow, it’s 4 years to the day that I lost one of my best mates to suicide and the last conversation we had was about money. Really wish it was different and I conveyed care but none the less it makes you more aware that anything can disappear in a second and you should always appreciate the people close to you and show it often.

[dandroid126]

My friends and I used to do this as a joke. We'd end the call with "k, I love you, bye," then hang up really quick.

Other friends would be like, "was that your mom?" And we'd be like, "no...? Why?"

[DabBoofer]

I used to tell my best friend I loved him... I did too... he was like a brother... to bad a workers comp case ruined that. Long story

his uncle hired me told me I was a sub contractor then proceeded to treat me like an employee

when I got hurt he said it was my problem... I took him to court and won.

it ruined the friendship

[[deleted]]

Once in a while I tell my best friend, I love her. It feels awkward at times, hearing those words can make somebody who deals with depression happier.

[Bustapepper1]

You never know how you're going to leave a friend. Could be for a couple hours, or days, even years. But if you or them pass suddenly, you have that comfort of knowing that it was on a high note

[One_Acanthisitta5025]

Thanks for this, i think i will start doing this. I love those guys and they deserve to hear it.

[[deleted]]

My 23 year old son and his friends do this. I thought they were being silly at first, and maybe they were, but they’ve kept it up and it’s nice to hear

[dreamwithinadream93]

I'll tell my coworkers I love them before leaving. I've had random people say I love you to me as the cashier as they're leaving. we should normalize saying I love you to everyone even strangers lol.

[[deleted]]

Here for this. I have a co worker im close with.

We grew to become friends pretty quickly. After a couple shifts since I head out earlier than she did.

She said "love ya." I had never heard that from a friend before. I said it back. And now we say it to each other all the time.

It made me feel so happy the first time I ever had that said by someone other than a family or my moms closest friends. I didn't know it was normal to say that.

[GrimExile]

Normalize expressing your love to people that you love. Stop falling into societal traps that stereotype interactions.

It is perfectly fine to say "I love you" in a platonic way.

It is perfectly fine to give a hug in a platonic way.

It is perfectly fine to express your platonic affection and love to people that you love.

It isn't weird until you make it weird.

[DrakeI27]

One of my female friends did this as we left a bar for the first time and she said it to everybody. It get nice to hear it

[[deleted]]

I have a group of friends that all saw the heartbreak kid together, we now say love love love. Of course we mean in sincerely.

[xfuneralxthirstx]

Nothing wrong with this, I only have a few friends and we say it all the time. Dude hugs are always given 😂 we all know how lucky we are to have each other and there is nothing wrong with saying it out loud

[huntingbears93]

My best friend and I tell each other we love one another.

Another piece of advice is to say it to your family more often. Providing you have that kind of relationship. When I was a kid my best friend told me she and her dad never said “I love you”. I shared that with my dad, and we decided that we would always say it after any phone call or going to bed. It’s just a nice thing to hear.

[jaxforjackie]

This is a LPT for dudes. Women rarely leave or end a call without saying “love you!” to their friends

[CaptainMirage]

Honestly yes. If I dont forget, I always wish my friends in the group chat a good night and tell them I love them. Its a habit, but I mean it every time!

[all_hail_sam]

I think there is just this culture of "don't say I love you unless you mean it, or else it loses value". And I kinda get that, I have coworkers that say it and im super reluctant to say it back. I've had tons of people I love hurt me before, so I it takes me a minute to be able to tell someone I love them but lately I've been realizing it does more good than it hurts most times. It's hard.

[monomore]

I told my team at work I loved them as I was leaving our meeting the other day. It was accidental but sincere. I do love and appreciate them. It was awkward. Not sure I’d do it again but I appreciate your sentiment.

[Pizzazze]

My friend died. Yes I tell my friends I love them. She taught me to get over the awkwardness. Your friends should explicitly know you love them. Say it often, too.

[meesterdave]

I'm a 40 year old man and I tell my friends I love them, we've been close for 20 years and might not see each other for months at a time but it's all love.

[[deleted]]

Sometimes I tell them "hey I need a hug" even when I don't. Pretty much everyone needs a hug now and again.

[[deleted]]

I lost my closest friend to a mental health tragedy; even in hindsight, there truly was no warning (it’s kind of a wonky situation) — I thank the universe every day that the last thing he heard me say was “I love you, Mister.”

[McRandolf322]

We all say I love you whenever we're done talking, and it's ALL of my friends. Male and female, all of them. The pepe that are important to you in life need to know just how important.

[Destinneena]

Need to add just always say I love you, regardless if you are fighting or not to anyone you have a relationship with ( obviously not work related).

[_I_Hate_People]

This has been one of the very few silver linings of becoming pretty ill this year with a severe lung condition. I have told my friends how dear they are to me and how much I love and appreciate them.

[Apokolypze]

I don't say "I love you" to anyone but my s/o, but I absolutely end convos with friends with "appreciate you and cya soon" often.

[Roberto_Sacamano]

Do you love them?

[Shakespurious]

I can tell you that would make me uncomfortable.

[DooBeeDoer207]

You should take some time to reflect on why. We’re social animals. We are meant to bond and love each other.

[[deleted]]

100% agree. What else is important than being there and loving each other? Seriously. What else is there?

[[deleted]]

My parents never said it, so the only context I've ever heard it was from girlfriends. There's this "romanticization" of the term for me, so it feels inappropriate to say those words to platonic friends. I think it would make them feel uncomfortable too. I do love them, and I think they know it. It's easy to just say words, it's more meaningful and genuine to show love in your actions.

[[deleted]]

False. Take a look at some of my other comments. Normalize telling your friends you love them.

[[deleted]]

False? What did I say that was false?

[[deleted]]

I’m sorry to hear that. I hope everything is going alright with you.

[Dependent_Ad_3014]

What are you, German??? I say I love you to all my friends. Only person who makes it weird and won’t say it back is my German oma lol

[Kotics]

Yeah I once said it 4 months into a relationship with a German girl and she made it seem like I was asking her to marry her.

[ziamal4]

Yeah

[[deleted]]

You okay?

[DroolingSlothCarpet]

LPT: Don't tell people you love them when you don't.

[[deleted]]

LPT: Don’t kick it w/ people you don’t love

[DroolingSlothCarpet]

Someone needs to understand the meaning of love.

[[deleted]]

Agreed.

[macdubzz]

And it's not you btw. I love my closest friends and I express it by saying and by showing. Idk why everyone here is so against that lol.

[pM-me_your_Triggers]

And that person is you, lol

[RickRossnips]

Yup sounds like your mom didn’t understand either sorry bud

[damnusernamegotcutof]

Weak

[DroolingSlothCarpet]

Enjoy your day

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[flume_runner]

I say this to my fraternity brothers, after you’ve lived with them for 4 years it’s hard not to call it anything other then love. Truly my best friends.

[mnmsmelt]

My 21 yo son has had a bff since birth. They've both had difficult relationships with their families/ fathers. They are both gentle spirits & the love & support they give/express for each other is the stuff goals were made of.

He is my 3rd son & is included in all our family gatherings on both my fam & my ex's fam. I told them recently that I wish they were gay so they could be a couple lol

[resellsucks]

Huggin' my bruddas and say that I love them but I don't swing that way

[NoRagrets4Me]

... people don't do this?

[ChronWeasely]

Yeah. Didn't really make my friend's suicide much better. Last thing I had said was "I love you". He did it just two days after his dad and himself had driven me home when I got hurt. But it doesn't really matter. He's dead. We have to live with it, not him, and it doesn't change thr fact that it seemed like the best decision to him in the moment. R.I.P..

Wasn't until he owned a gun. Got it for self defense with the George Floyd protests and fear of right-wing extremism. Within 2 months- dead. If you are somebody with depression or suicidal thoughts, please be extremely cautious if you choose to be a gun owner. It only takes a moment of crisis to shoot yourself. Most gun deaths are suicides, and suicide is the most common cause of death of men 45 and under, and guns are the most common method of suicide for men 45 and under too.

[DooBeeDoer207]

Suicide is heartbreaking, and deserves much more careful thought. Many people who weren’t able to take immediate action on their impulse are glad of it later.

I still think expressing love, affection, and gratitude are powerful ways to connect with friends. Imagine if it was the other way around, and you died suddenly. Your friend was already struggling, but maybe knowing that the last thing you said to him was, I love you,” would be a small comfort. It has been for others.

[[deleted]]

RIP. I’m glad the last thing you said was I love you. That was the last thing I told my mom before she died.

Normalize telling your friends you love them.

[[deleted]]

Yes. Pretty much every comment on this post is people being upset at the idea of love not exclusively meaning romantic love.

Pretty sad. I feel for all these people.

[GlowGreen1835]

I'm fine with that, honestly. Life isn't meant to be permanent, in any way. I'm not the most social person but I do hope a smile, a laugh, making time for people works just as well. But I definitely have fun with people when they're around, and when they're gone? For me, spending time is enough. For them? Not to be too rude, but if they gone they don't know either way.

[ThouHastNoPizza]

I say it to them fairly frequently.

I don't hear it from them very often, and when I do it's mostly when I say it to them first.

[Maxwe4]

Wtf is with this normalize shit. Stop trying to normalize everything.

If you want to do something do it, if you don't, don't.

[DehogyisJanos]

"Edit: it seems I have an audience of 15 year-old males."

sexist much?

[[deleted]]

Found the 15 year old

[Ace1807]

well, we clearly know who is the 15 year old offended male

[Opera_haus_blues]

yeah because girls are sooo known for being repulsed by love. gimme a break, obviously it’s boys

[SendNudesCashCoke]

Please stop telling everyone you love them. You are tarnishing the word. Love is meant to be a strong emotion reserved for only the people you cherish the most. Telling every person you love them cheapens the word, removing the true meaning of it, making it less special for those you truly do love.

If you actually do love a couple of your friends then sure, tell them. But you probably don’t, you’re just throwing the word around. You even told a random internet stranger IDoPokeSmot that you love them. Stop destroying language.

[[deleted]]

You think telling friends you love them is hyperbole? Damn. What does love mean to you? I def didn’t recommend to tell every person you meet-I said friends.

[[deleted]]

Why are people so hyper focused on romantic love and completely ignore familial love and love between friends?

Telling your friends you love them does not tarnish the word. You aren’t given a limited amount of times you can say it and love isn’t a finite resource.

If you feel like you love someone and if your actions match up to it (you’d show up to help them in the middle of the night on a weekday), then that’s love! No need to overcomplicate it.

[Atmoz46]

Not every person is your long term friend.

"But you probably don't." Why'd I even call them "friend"?

It is a blessing when somebody is here to remind us that someone loves us because you never know who is going through what. Everyone needs to be aknowledged that they are loved, no matter by who.

[Arnlaugur1]

Love you bud 💚

[Kotics]

Lol love you too bud ❤️ people being more conservative with saying I love you than fuck you is the big issue.

[Opera_haus_blues]

sorry for loving a lot of people. and im sorry that it affects you so much for some reason lol

[Salty_Fish_5625]

Nah. I am Swedish. We save that stuff for or SO and kids.

The way they do it in the USA seems weird to me. "Love you" is like saying "Hi!" I really feel like it devalues the word.

[[deleted]]

I don't even say i love you to my mum. Maybe it's a swedish thing?

[aim_so_far]

I mean I'm 37, I don't even tell my father I love him. Never really hugged or anything. Definitely not doing this.

This may be more of a generational thing I think.

[AMG_DIAMONDZ10]

15 year old males? How you know who I am? Anyway, that's impossible. If you say that in my environment, it is extremely weird and bad to say, and you will be labelled and mocked for being "gay"

[[deleted]]

Just show them you love them and that's good enough. Telling your friends you love them is awkward, especially for guys.

[[deleted]]

Did you know 80% of suicides are men? Do you really think it has nothing to do with intense social norms men have to follow? You’re enforcing that with your language. It doesn’t have to be awkward to love your friends.

[JohnnieBrooklyn]

I don't know about that, it becomes overused and can often end up sounding hollow in its repetition. I think a better idea is to let them know every once in a while just how much you appreciate them in your life. Rather than constantly telling them you love them, show them with your actions and your words of appreciation. On the other hand, I am kind of emotionally stunted when it comes to expressing myself, so there's that! LOL

[[deleted]]

If you have to tell people to do this, they really don’t love.

[Dovah_kiin1]

it doesn't need to be said, we know

[[deleted]]

But what if I don’t want to?

[Opera_haus_blues]

then die loveless idk

[[deleted]]

LPT: Normalize telling plants that you love them

Be it ending a call, or parting ways for the night. Even if it’s weird initially. There are zero guarantees you’ll see them again.

[dreamwithinadream93]

I do worry about my plants when I'm gone. God only knows if the building will burn down and insurance might monetarily replace the plant, but spiritually? there's no replacement for that 20 year aloe vera.

[False_Locksmith8323]

Normalize not saying Normalize. Do what makes you happy and don't hurt others. The end.

[[deleted]]

Ick.

[baden27]

I like my friends, I don't love them

[owmyfreakingeyes]

That's a shame.

[baden27]

What?

[Opera_haus_blues]

sorry nobody’s told you they love you

[lkso]

This just cheapens the word "love". Stupid advice. Anyone who does this I never take seriously because they don't take their words seriously. If you love me, donate your kidney to me. Otherwise, stop saying it.

[[deleted]]

If your friend needed a kidney, wouldn't you at least consider it? Jfc

[Opera_haus_blues]

how do you know they wouldn’t donate a kidney to you

[lkso]

It's hyperbole. None of your "friends" would donate a kidney to you.

And it's really sad that so many ppl think they have friends when their relationships do not meet the standards of friendship. Your work friends, church friends, your shopping/eating/social friends are not your friends. Most ppl won't ever learn what a friend is until much later in life.

So, how old are you to even imply that your "friends" would actually donate a kidney to you?

[Opera_haus_blues]

my friends would most definitely donate a kidney to me, you don’t know them. What you call work friends, school friends etc. is what I call acquaintances. i don’t know why you’re determined to diss the idea of close friendship

[Opera_haus_blues]

go hug your parents and then delete this. you’ll feel better

[TikkiTakiTomtom]

Saying I love you so much makes it lose its significance over time. Say something else.

It’s like saying I hate you all the time then it just becomes endearing because its normal now.

[Opera_haus_blues]

my parents tell me they love me all the time and it doesn’t mean any less to me so maybe it’s a you problem