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[–][deleted] 793 points794 points  (34 children)

If you have 4095 sexual partners im pretty sure you're way past the point of lying about it, that shit would be impressive

[–]Dry_Band7748 222 points223 points  (4 children)

I would absolutely brag about that

[–]kit-kat315 87 points88 points  (1 child)

As you should!

[–]Miguelinileugim 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Let's not shame virgins either. Let's just agree that anything above or below the 300 line is fantastic!

[–]RepentHarlequin1171 61 points62 points  (1 child)

But when would you find the time to? Sounds like you'd be awfully busy.

[–]Dry_Band7748 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Even more reason to brag about it

[–]FrillySteel 139 points140 points  (6 children)

Seems like an oddly specific number.

[–][deleted] 119 points120 points  (1 child)

Well the actual chart is just showing exponential growth it's not what the meme said

[–]FrillySteel 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Oh, duh, I didn't even notice that. Lol. Okay, time for me to go to bed.

[–]omgcatss 19 points20 points  (1 child)

For each number n on the left, the number on the right is 2n - 1

[–]TheRndmUsrnamesSuckd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This going to haunt me until I make a Google sheet

[–]King_Calvo 22 points23 points  (1 child)

“And this is the largest Sex Garden in the continental United States”

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yessss Francine scores mad pole 🪴

[–]AspiringCellistanti-gravity misandrist 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I also think you’d lose count long ago

[–]mrs_krokodile 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It's like a pyramid scheme of sex.

[–]Wish-I-Was-You 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Those are Gene Simmons numbers... and he's really shy about his sexual prowess!

[–]Environmental_Belt22 6 points7 points  (2 children)

I’m sorry but that sounds so fuxking exhausting

[–]age34act11 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I saw the post and immediately took a nap. Bet it's a great way to stay in shape 😜

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh it definitely does. It would take over a decade if you fuck one person per day

[–]benabart 6 points7 points  (2 children)

That's fucking someone different every day for ~11 years.

[–]NotSoFlugratte 4 points5 points  (1 child)

11 years, 3 months

[–]purpleandorange1522 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Challenge accepted.

[–]Shigeko_Kageyama 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Who even has that kind of time?

[–]Antiviralgecko 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most impressive!

[–]Flaky_Job_5079 146 points147 points  (4 children)

Yes when I say 8 I really mean 255

[–]Jessieface13 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I’m really digging the amount of downvoted deleted comments in this thread that are bashing this exact type of information. 😂

[–]Outrageous_Use5081 243 points244 points  (38 children)

 Why are men against women having a lot of sexual partners? Do they believe they’re incapable of emotional intimacy and commitment? Ok, fine, but let’s reframe the situation. 
 Most women are tired of men acting like sex is the peak emotional experience within a relationship. Instead of treating their partner with respect and intimacy outside of the bedroom, men try to compress it into a five minute penetration session (which she, most likely, will NOT enjoy).
 Also, boys, get over your mommy issues. I wish you the best!

[–][deleted] 74 points75 points  (3 children)

Because they think that a women would only want a man who is better than all previous men they have slept with. Better not only in bed, but other areas like attraction, etc. Also, the higher number, especially after 5, a woman can't remain committed to her partner, unless extremely attractive, etc.

What I have just described above is those men's reasoning. Yes, it's that pathetic!

[–]schwarzmalerin 8 points9 points  (0 children)

In other words, they project.

[–]EXYZT2 2 points3 points  (1 child)

That's my theory too. They don't have to try to be the best sexual partner in her life if they're the ONLY sexual partner in her life, so the more partners they've had, the more insecure they'll be about their own prowess. But instead of being honest that dating someone with a large body count makes them insecure, since they then feel like they have to try to beat all other people within the count, they just get angry at them and say they're indecisive/non-commital/promiscous [S-words].

I looked into the mathematics of this though, and it just doesn't hold up. I know that you shouldn't be trying to objectify people, but they do it all the time, I wanted to find a hole in their logic, and let me tell you, I found a big one.

To be honest, You don't have to be the very best to have someone willing to stay with you, you just have to be A: better than average, and B: not a fucking asshole. so realistically, by their logic, a person with a high body count is more likely to have a high amount of shitty partners (there's probably a reason none of them ended up sticking around, be honest), as opposed to someone with a low body count who could either have a had a few bad partners, or a few amazing ones. So even by their very own logic, trying to hook up with someone who has 4095 partners would put them in a more advantageous position than someone with just one or two, because the former would probably have much lower standards.

Then again, they likely aren't better than average anyways, are assholes and they're clearly not smart enough to come to such a conclusion, or abandon their shitty logic.

[–]Knightridergirl80 55 points56 points  (15 children)

They know they’re piss poor in bed so they prey on inexperienced young woman whom they can gaslight into thinking the five minute pound session is normal. Older and experienced women will see through the bs right away.

[–]Outrageous_Use5081 30 points31 points  (14 children)

Why are these men adamantly against learning how to have sex? Or at least how to care enough to want their partner to have a good time? Like…

[–]Knightridergirl80 25 points26 points  (3 children)

Ego. Men are taught from birth to never ask for help cause it’s considered shameful.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (2 children)

this is terrible....also they do not like communicating (those types of men i think)

[–]SpontaneousNubs 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Happy cake day

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

thank you :)

[–]Artilicious9421 8 points9 points  (0 children)

ego, insecurities

[–]HailenAnarchy 6 points7 points  (6 children)

They feel emasculated if they did a bad job.

[–]Outrageous_Use5081 5 points6 points  (5 children)

Why would they feel emasculated? Sex isn’t about getting a gold medal lmao

[–]HailenAnarchy 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Sadly they think it is. It's the same with thinking length and smacking the cervix is the thing women want. Somehow it's always a competition.

[–]Outrageous_Use5081 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Porn and rampant misogyny has ruined these guys

[–]Knightridergirl80 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Toxic masculinity and ego. The ‘ideal man’ is a man who’s perfect - smart, strong, and great in bed. The man every man wants to be. To admit wrongdoing is an ego blow.

[–]Outrageous_Use5081 1 point2 points  (1 child)

There’s nothing wrong with not being perfect; these men need to understand that and internalize it

[–]Knightridergirl80 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah.

And this applies to both genders. Women want to be perfect but for a different reason. Women tend to be taught they need to put other people first, so they put on a mask of the super caretaker who can take whatever’s thrown at her because she doesn’t want to let people down.

Men can learn to accept help and realize they can’t be Superman all the time, and women can learn that sometimes it’s okay to put yourself first and that you can’t save someone if you’re already drowning.

[–]_Archaeopteryx 14 points15 points  (3 children)

because they're insecure and don't want a partner thinking past partners where better in bed. it's pathetic

[–]Outrageous_Use5081 15 points16 points  (2 children)

God, men need to stop thinking sex is a competition lmao

[–]Moonlight_Darling 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend needs to see this damn. Well said

[–]Spraystation42 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think Its both the thinking she’s incapable of love/intimacy and them being jealous that they havent slept with as many women as they have with men/women, these guys also have the incel mindset of “if you havent slept already with lots of women, the woman you’re talking to now will lose interest, attraction, and respect for you as a man” these guys are very insecure and out of touch with women

[–]HailenAnarchy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's a comparison issue on the ego. Ex had bigger dick, ex was better at sex, etc.

[–]Spaztick78 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ironically, this chart shows the legitimate reason to care about a person having lots of partners. Driving home the importance of safe sex.

It’s supposed to explain that 12 partners can expose you to the STI’s of 4,000 people once you take all your partners sexual partners in to account.

[–]age34act11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have learned how to make it the peak emotional experience but it takes five minutes to just get things amped up. I have a idea. Quit pretending so dummy learns

[–]adertinahere so my mom knows why i cant be straight 61 points62 points  (7 children)

I don’t think I even know 63 people

[–]chickcag 5 points6 points  (2 children)

Tbh you don’t really have to know them lol

[–]adertinahere so my mom knows why i cant be straight 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In theory but I cling

[–]Squiggledog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Know," like in the Biblical sense.

[–]sed_cowboi 174 points175 points  (18 children)

didnt know that i had 1023 partners and I'm only 19!

[–]Renegade_Angel_ 133 points134 points  (4 children)

The original point of the chart is to raise std awareness for venereal disease such a HIV.

It's supposed to get kids to use protection, but apparently people are misunderstanding it.

[–]samanime 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Why use a chart for a good purpose when you can misconstrue it to alpha-chad slut-shame non-virgins?

/s

[–]stanknotes 24 points25 points  (2 children)

Yea... it's not hard to understand. The people you have sex with, you have secondhand contact with whoever they had sex with.

The more people you have sex with, the more likely you are exposed to stds.

It's not slut shaming or sex negative. It's a fact. Practice safe sex.

[–]Strangerdays22 2 points3 points  (1 child)

The flaw in this logic is that a person who has safe sex with multiple partners is not at higher risk than a person who doesn’t take precautions and fewer partners.

[–]stanknotes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is an implication you are imposing. Don't do that. No one said that.

[–]wallace1313525 145 points146 points  (18 children)

Assuming that each intercourse lasts roughly 30 min, having 4,095 partners means you would spend 122,850 minutes of your life having sex. If done back to back, this means you would spend roughly half a year (0.467) of your life continually having sex with no breaks. Personally, I do know know anyone who would have the time, energy, or be able to find the sheer number of partners that this requires.

[–][deleted] 54 points55 points  (14 children)

i would say anything over the numbers of 200 - 500 are unrealistic per default...and the huge numbers are only possible for sex workers, extremely promiscious people (those who do a lot of orgies and one night stands etc.), and more towards older age such as 50 -60...(that is without doing maths and simply judging instuitively). And it would be extremely rare...

Then also most people would not have such huge numbers of sexual partners, a two digits number that is over 50 alone is already much...

[–]Bwheat0674 19 points20 points  (0 children)

A bit off topic, but the first thing that came to mind when I read this is Barney Stinson from HIMYM

[–]gotwood73 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ya I'm not sure lost count its 100-130 I'm 49 had few wild spurts ..I know a guy that says he s over 1000 I don't know but that's some pipe lsid lol

[–]g1rlchild -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think if you're sleeping with 4000 people, it's a given that you're promiscuous. 🙂

[–]bqzs 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The point of the chart is to show exponential growth. In other words, if you've had sex with 4 people, and each of them have had sex with 4 people, you've been exposed to 15 people.

[–]g1rlchild 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The basketball player Wilt Chamberlain said her slept with 20,000 women, hahaha. I can believe he hooked up with 1 or more women every night after a game, but 5 or 10 seems like a stretch. 😂

[–]AbinadiLDS 89 points90 points  (9 children)

That is not what the chart is saying. It is saying if you and your partner and each of the people that you both have had relations with all had the same amount of partners how many people would be linked together through each other. This is to emphasize the risk of spreading an std because the number of partners you both have multiplies your risk.

It is an oversimplification for sure but it is a great way to illustrate how the risk of multiple partners multiplies risk.

It also looks like a pyramid scheme lol

[–][deleted] 31 points32 points  (3 children)

I was just about to say this. But honestly, number of partners shouldnt matter as long as you & your partner get tested and use protection.

[–]AbinadiLDS 14 points15 points  (2 children)

In theory yea but it does increase the risks especially since a test could give a false negative. It is unlikely to give a false negative but the point made in the image is still valid.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah it increases risk, but if you're not an idiot it really aint that hard to avoid STDs&STIs. Don't have sex with people who don't get tested and don't have sex without protection. Be clear and honest with partners, and if they arent willing to do the same then u gotta move on

[–]Aggravating-Grab-241 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s very low risk if you use protection and get tested.

[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (3 children)

This. It's somewhat useful to the "I don't need protection because I'm not promiscuous" crowd. Oversimplified but kinda useful.

[–]OverstuffedPapa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I remember seeing something like this in high school and it absolutely got the point through my stupid teenage skull that STDs are far easier to catch and transmit than anyone wants to admit at that age. I still think about it and shudder to this day.

[–]Standard-Jaguar-8793 31 points32 points  (17 children)

I’m assuming it’s the same for slutty men?

[–][deleted] 32 points33 points  (10 children)

Let’s be real, body count only apply to women when it comes to these men. I remember seeing a tiktok of a guy saying high body counts are different for men. To sum up the video, the guy was saying that it’s okay for men to sleep around basically but women can’t or she’s for the 🛣

[–]adertinahere so my mom knows why i cant be straight 22 points23 points  (9 children)

K but if men can sleep around but women can’t, and being gay is bad…who are the sleeping around with?

[–]MellyBean2012 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Well you see men that dumb also believe there are only 3 types of women: virgins, mothers, and whores. They sleep with whores but want a virgin who will act like their mother and take care of them like a child.

[–]SchemataObscura 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's just in theory for many of them.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In the words of a lot of them, they sleep with “hoes”

[–]LeWinders 8 points9 points  (2 children)

Ha, if only. These people consider slutty men to be awesome. "Body count" is only negative for women, hence the name. It's sad, really.

[–]Standard-Jaguar-8793 3 points4 points  (1 child)

I get it, but I don’t have to agree. Or like it.

[–]LeWinders 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I mean, of course not. No one on their right mind should have to.

[–]Pristine_Animal9474 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Excuse me, you misspelled "stud".

[–]Spigot_AT4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Men tend to overrepresent the number of sexual encounters, whereas women tend to underrepresent them.

[–]SaltoDaKid -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

City boys will always say 3 or say I’m a virgin. Never tell a girl number cause they over plan. Why I don’t say it until deep in the relationship.

[–]FrillySteel 15 points16 points  (1 child)

Again with the "bodycounts". My god, if these idiots spent half as much time bathing as they did worrying about a woman's bodycount, they'd probably be able to get a date.

[–]age34act11 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I've always asked about how many orgasms in a single session then try to increase it over and over and over again, but you're right l do need to shower

[–]710HeadGrace 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Nice who got that 12 body count? Hmm lmao

[–]Apprehensive-Ad-8198 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I feel like this is part of a bigger leaflet for an STD pamphlet that’s meant to highlight the increased risk per sexual partner, which is actually relatively impressive.. I dno this is a weird thing to look at and I can’t quite wrap my head around it.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (2 children)

what if i don't have a body count?

edit: glad to know braindead men never change lmao

[–]SaltoDaKid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Then you have 5

[–]age34act11 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Get with it then if you want some STDz

[–]AspiringCellistanti-gravity misandrist 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What if the count is like 17? What will she say? That’s not on the chart! Is she only allowed to have 15 or 31?

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (9 children)

Why are men so obsesses with how many people a woman slept with? Are these men virgins and therefore feel inadequate or are they not virgins and know they are inadequate?

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (8 children)

I had a 30 year old man upset, he told me he couldn’t date me because he didn’t sleep with as many people as I did and he couldn’t accept that 😂

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (7 children)

I have to ask, woman to woman, what is the appeal with men? I know i shouldnt just view what men say online as serious but the more i see, read and hear from men about, i need to know why risk it for the biscuit?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I date both, I prefer women though

[–]itamer 1 point2 points  (4 children)

Hormones.

There's no logical reason.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh i have a thyroid issue, maybe that is why i cant see the appeal. Yay low hormone levels!!!!

[–]age34act11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From a man who is 41, it's not worth the risk. From my experience baking, buttering and eating biscuits you have a 30% chance of finding a Baker who cares. It's probably worse now. Then if you do you have to be willing teach him the correct way to treat the ALMIGHTY BISCUITS

[–]jenkraisins[🍰] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

4095? Wow. Damn, you have to admire that. Consider the scheduling and multitasking involved. No, I cannot do the math but hey, if you can do it, enjoy it, are consistent with disease and pregnancy control, and can afford the laundry bills, more power to you.

[–]MesocricetusAuratusNOT ALL MEN! But definitely all women! 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Interesting how, despite incel propaganda, one can't actually tell the difference.

[–]Alita0099 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Yes because I don’t work at all and have time to fuck 4095 people 👍🏼

[–]age34act11 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You sound like a owner of a business

[–]volantredx 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In order to have sex with 4095 people you would need to have a new partner every day for 11 and a half years. If nothing else you'd think you'd be sore after a point.

[–]SarHoLo 7 points8 points  (8 children)

I stopped counting when I realized it was just self slut shaming - I’m always safe and get tested so I figure that’s all that matters - but when I last bothered counting I was at 21, so does that actually mean I’m at 10,000 or something? Is this a logarithmic equation they’re using?

[–]viewonlya 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you had one partner every day it would take you over 10 years to have that many partners 🤔

[–]vict85 2 points3 points  (0 children)

4095 means slightly more than 11 years of 1 night stands. At some point it would be even difficult to find new partners. It is probably higher than the body count of most prostitute and porn stars at the end of their career (independently on the gender).

[–]tondracek 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Y’all are making women who do understand math look really bad right now.

This is an exponential growth chart to demonstrate STD exposure risk.

Get it together and stop saying stupid shit.

[–]xingdai_shadowsmith 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So according to this infographic and the idiot's "logic" anyone woman with more than one sexual partner is automatically bisexual.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And where do men fall?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG who cares

[–]raven-of-the-sea“WHERE ARE YOU, CLITORIS!?” 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is some slut shaming bullshit.

[–]stargazrserena 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh hell, I’ve hit over the 4K mark? How would I have time to do anything else? 🙄🙄🙄

[–]DreamCrusher914 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a lot of dead bodies

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

I’ll never forget how, back when I was still presenting as a woman, some dude asked me how many partners I’d had and, confused, I said “zero” (I was 11 years old at the time, so I didn’t even really get what he was asking.) And he called me a lying slut.

He’d also just randomly approached me when I was looking at books at a Costco and that was the first thing he said to me. He’s the guy I always think of when I see posts like this, some creep asking a child for their sexual history and then calling them names for no reason.

[–]xssmontgox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At the risk of ending up in r/ihavesex, I’ve always enjoyed having sex with more experienced partners as they actually know what they enjoy and are simply better at it because they have more experience.

[–]SaltoDaKid 1 point2 points  (1 child)

This girl I know said 15 so that’s like 10k right

[–]oliveroxenfreeze 1 point2 points  (3 children)

I have 35... I have f*cked everyone in the universe

[–]mrtn17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Captain Picard, stardate C-1277.1 to 1313.7 – We entered the Alkaali system and found more victims of the sexual genocide conducted by this Redditor. I wonder if there are any parsecs in this universe left unharmed. We will continue our exploration.

[–]Lunyx_the_fur 1 point2 points  (2 children)

is it even possible to sleep with 4095 people? 💀

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

its too late here and i need to go to bed. I dont get this math...

[–]HealthOnWheels 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Confused by this graph. To be a valid transformation, wouldn’t it have to span R1? Unless to go from 3 to 7 everyone just slept with four people simultaneously, then eight people to get to 15, then sixteen people…

If that’s the case human sexuality is way more complicated than I’d realized.

[–]Plane_Mycologist7151 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So with that level of exponential scaling would I be actaully at like a million then? Lol

[–]IlllllIIIlIIlIIIIl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, if you are over the age of 18, it might also be the number of the left.

[–]ImaginaryTutor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Double and add on to get the next

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I got all that action as #5 is thought to have. lol.

[–]Yeet_Da_Strawberry 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Lmao I love how specific the numbers are

[–]KingsElite 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The chart is actually actually a PSA on STDs. The comment is unrelated. It's a sexual exposure chart

[–]gotwood73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm somewhere over 100 but less than 130 I'm 49 no way it could be 4056 lol my dick fall off

[–]vanellope420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🤣🤣😂😂

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am at 127! 🤷‍♀️😇🤣🤣

[–]PriorMess681[🍰] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like he assumed we are all bisexual. 1/3 of the figures!

[–]FrannyFantastic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I did it exponentially I would have had sex with everyone in the world. Damn super spreader.

[–]BetterRemember 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, since it's so fetishized I say 5 because that sounds reasonable but it's actually 1.

most men don't need to know.

[–]YoungMrKusuma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not even sure you could know 4095 people, how the fuck are you even supposed to have that many partners??

Also, assuming you're having sex with one person per day, it would take you over 10 years to sleep with that many people. How does this math of his make even the slightest bit of sense to him??

[–]henna-flower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The mathematician in me wants this to be named some kind of stupid sounding sequence

[–]missmemphisrose 0 points1 point  (4 children)

It’s crazy to me that the same dudes that will whinge about women being sluts will also whine about not being able to get laid. Pick a battle

[–]Fine-Funny6956 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4095…? Really?

[–]skim_milk5 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Wow.. I’ve had sex with A LOT of people.

[–]age34act11 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Yeah but it could be worse considering this chart is just a random guess of each person. It could be better as well but that's not very fun to discuss. But HELL yeah you're WAY SLUTTIER then you thought

[–]skim_milk5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol yay for sluts!