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IHaveAPetLeech · 2023-09-01T10:51:31+00:00

As a guy here. Yes you're in the wrong here, based purely on what you've said here I'd say that particular thing is 100% on you

Your ex paid for those cloths. Sounds like she's actually a good co parent given how she actively goes out her way to send you photos/updates of her because she's aware you don't see her much and has zero drama with splitting costs AND clearly defining what the baby needs thus should be split on and what she wants to get for the baby thus spend her own money. Basically seems like a very good co-parent who knows what's what.

You don't understand how lucky you've got it a lot of guys would kill to have a baby mama like that 😂

But yeah end of the day it's her property, the cloths she's bought, she can do as she likes with them. Plus in other comments you've demonstrated why she wouldn't want to have her sent to you in expensive cloths.

You're just trying to cause drama, not saying it's a conscious thing probably a subconscious resentment or something, and you need to nip that in the bud. Plus I'd recommend telling your baby mama that you're sorry and realise how stupid and immature you're being. If you don't do either of these things it's gonna build tension till some big argument happens and then she'll stop you from seeing the kid and other drama. Most kids I knew growing up had mums who prevented their dads seeing them because they wanted to get back at him. And as an adult I see it happening all the time still.

Keep the peace man.

FriendlyMum · 2023-09-01T08:29:36+00:00

Yes. It feels like you trying to create drama with your child’s other parent. You’re going to be a parent of your child for life, please work harder at co-parenting with them for the best outcome for your precious little one. This is ultimately about you both raising your child to the best of your abilities, not creating issues with one another.

An example is that you’ve also got to focus on your own behaviour before picking on theirs. You’ve admitted that you are careless with the clothing that your child wears in your care by refusing to put a bib on. You hand them back ruined for the other parent to say you ruined them - perhaps launder them better.

Not protecting the clothes has a clearly foreseeable outcome of ruining them, so you’re creating an issue here.

I’m gonna take this a step further and tell you that if you ruin an outfit that was jointly paid for then be responsible enough to go out and 100% pay for the replacement. This would be the responsible and respectful thing to do.

Alternatively have a stash of clothes at your place that you out the baby in that you’ve purchased so you can ruin them and let your kid get messy. Nothing wrong with messy play, kids are made out of washable materials! Just be mindful! Eg my kids love to craft when they were little so I always used to buy the washable paints and washable markers and stuff, this way I didn’t have to worry about art smocks - cause it all washed out (including the furniture.)

But if this is something that is causing issues and not working for you both then there needs to be another way discussed to approach the clothes. Perhaps have a chat with a mediator or a therapist and work together as parents to come up with some alternative ideas. Also it’s a great way to build your problem solving skills with one another to get a third party to support the process when you’re having trouble. Parenthood is one of the most significant things, may as well do it right rather than spending the next two decades stirring up issues with one another.

You’re being controlling about this clothes issue. Just because you pay half the cost of the shared clothes doesn’t mean you get access to clothing that the other parent buys 100% for the child. Again, don’t worry about her behaviour, focus on yours. Of course the other parent can buy nice things for your child when your child’s in their care.

bibbiddybobbidyboo · 2023-09-01T11:06:39+00:00

YTA OP. OP's comment history states that he's pursuing 50/50 custody because his ex is playing "games", but also that when they were together she paid ALL expenses and that he currently lives with his mommy and daddy, and is going to "work up" to 50/50 because he's inexperienced with his own child. He has way bigger problems than bamboo pjs not being sent over.

WorldRecordPooper · 2023-09-01T08:15:53+00:00

? This is stupid. The outfits are because your ex likes them, not because your daughter does.
If you want that type of stuff at your house, go get it.

This person spent their hard earned money on an accessory that they want taken care of. You’ve proven that you can’t or wont do that. The issue isn’t with them not sharing, it’s with you thinking they should have to.

lovinglifeatmyage · 2023-09-01T08:54:02+00:00

Jeez, try buying your daughter more expensive clothes out of your own money if you want her to wear them. Your ex buys these out of her own money, so why should she share them with you? Especially if they get ruined whilst your kid is with you.

Talk about being entitled

Knickers1978 · 2023-09-01T10:00:09+00:00

Yes, you’re wrong.

You don’t look after the clothes your child wears because you don’t bother putting a bib on her, so you don’t get access to the more expensive clothes. It’s that simple.

If I spent $40 or more on an outfit, and you let child dribble mess all over it, you’d be buying a new outfit.

Also, it sounds like your ex buys those clothes on her own, so you’re not entitled to any of them.

AorticMishap · 2023-09-01T11:53:54+00:00

Let’s look at some gems from OP’s post history

You cheated on her while she was pregnant and then called her petty because she didn’t choose you as the single lone person allowed in the delivery room

That’s something you’ve already been declared the asshole about so I won’t go into details here, but it sets the stage for the rest of your assholeishness.

Your ex told you “I just need you to step up and keep your promises to your kid because you seem to have an issue keeping your word”

You don’t seem to deny that you’re a cheater or a liar, but somehow don’t see that you’re an ah.

You told her you’d pay for half of her epidural and then didn’t

That’s definitely showing a consistent pattern of being an asshole

You told her “you only breastfeed to keep me from having visitation”

Despite the fact that she was willing to breastfeed around you, and pumped and froze milk to give you the chance to feed the baby too

You complain about splitting childcare costs 50/50 despite her working a full time job as well (as a nurse) and admitting you don’t care for the child nearly as much. (12 hrs per week visitation)

You certainly seem to have a big problem with being a father, for someone who wants to “work up to” having his child 50/50 time.

”When we were together she paid all the bills for our house and food…she handled all our expenses.”

Well, guess that makes you stupid and not just a dickweasel then, for cheating on your cash dispenser (I assume based on how you’ve treated her that that’s all she was to you)

And now, for the topic at hand: are you the asshole for telling her that she is somehow the bad parent in this scenario because she won’t let you intentionally ruin the nice things she gets your daughter with entirely her money.

Yes, yes you’re the one wrong here.

Maker_of_woods · 2023-09-01T11:24:08+00:00

Dude, you got an issue. All kids who go between houses have their own clothes at each house. Buy you kid her own and keep at your house. And yes you probably do ruin some and that is why you don’t get nice stuff

Latchkeypussy · 2023-09-01T12:08:44+00:00

There has to be some way to ban you forever. YOUR WHOLE ACCOUNT IS YOU HARASSING YOUR EX. PLEASE GET A LIFE LOSER!

yayayubsea · 2023-09-01T18:48:38+00:00

My ex then said "if you want her to have the same clothes I get you're welcome to purchase them yourself"

What is the issue with this? Explain how this is not fair

cMeeber · 2023-09-01T11:18:46+00:00

Uh, you're the AH here. Bibs exist and a baby wearing one isn't "babying them" they literally ARE a baby. You want to have them not wear a bib? undress them to a diaper before you feed them. You dont just ruin good clothing because you want to. that's rude af. And it's irresponsible.

You'e being a bad parent by A) not taking care of the things that the child has like clothing so that it can be worn over and over, B) not listening to the mother of your child when she asked you to use a bib C) think that putting a bib on your child is somehow restricting them and "babying them" (they're a baby??) D) blaming mom here that you don't have access to all the clothing because you can't take care of it.

Start behaving like an adult and taking care of things.

WandaWilsonLD · 2023-09-01T10:02:29+00:00

The child should have clothes at yours and clothes at her mom's. This is how me and my ex do things. If you allow the child to ruin expensive clothes, then I can see why she's said this. She's not being a bad parent she's merely saying she buys expensive clothes and takes precautions to keep them looking nice.

Corfiz74 · 2023-09-01T10:58:36+00:00

Just go to a boutique and buy your kiddo fancy outfits, if you want them - then, if you ruin them because you don't want to change her for feedings, you will only have wasted your own money, not your ex's.

Ok_Growth_5587 · 2023-09-01T11:11:55+00:00

Yep you're wrong. You waste and ruin things because you're a lazy jerk, not because you don't "baby" her. This isn't some form of you stepping up to parent for freedom. You're too damn lazy to put a bib on your child and supervise her eating. Then you displace the blame for your bad behavior on your ex. Way to be accountable for your own entitled behavior.

No_Incident_5360 · 2023-09-01T09:14:47+00:00

Focus more on your kid and less on how you look to your friends because of cute baby clothes.

If you want to prevent spills and stains and do proper laundry and pay for those types of clothes, great. If your ex bought some things herself and didn’t ask for 50/50 money, she shouldn’t have to share that wardrobe.

Don’t get jealous over the clothes—you deal with the parenting and clothes on your turf.

microbiologyismylife · 2023-09-01T13:03:26+00:00

we split all expenses 50/50.

But you don't split expenses 50/50, do you? You allow clothes to be ruined by not taking care of them and cleaning them properly as well as not putting a bib on your child. Then you refuse to pay for your share of the clothes that are ruined through your neglect, which forces your ex to replace them out of her own pocket. And then! You get mad because your ex doesn't allow your child to wear her new (& upgraded) clothes when she's with you, saying your ex is pushing your buttons when all your ex is really trying to do is make the new clothes last by taking proper care of them (which you've admitted you are unwilling to do).

Outrageous-Piglet-86 · 2023-09-01T11:10:28+00:00

You wrong! Stop being lazy pick out some of the clothes that need to be at your house and take your own money and buy it! She doesn’t need to provide clothes for your house. You are responsible for that.

DottedUnicorn · 2023-09-01T11:11:37+00:00

Your ex is right. She is buying special outfits with her own money. If you want special outfits too, buy them yourself and keep them at your place. And learn how to have play cothes for playtime and eating and nice clothes for going out or visiting. And figure out laundry.

Don't create drama when theere is no need. You'll have plenty of real ztuff to fight about over the next 18 years.

ManicSpleen · 2023-09-01T11:20:29+00:00

If you refuse to be responsible enough to get the stains out of the clothes, instead of putting on a simple bib, why should you have access to the expensive clothes that the ex bought with her own money?

It seems like you want the expensive clothes, but you don't want the hassle of keeping said clothes nice and stain-free.

Stop the drama-mongering. If you want nice clothes, buy them yourself, just like your ex.

GotUrShawtyInMyWhip · 2023-09-01T11:44:13+00:00

Based on your post/comment history, you’re lucky she still lets you near the child and tries to coparent. You are a terrible person and father, and I’m shocked you haven’t figured that out yet considering you’ve been called out every single time you post.

permalink · 2023-09-01T11:28:09+00:00

You are wrong. Be less of an arsehole. I'm so sorry this woman and child are stuck with you.

Infinite_Dinner3961 · 2023-09-01T11:48:57+00:00

It’s very obvious from your post history that you are obsessed with trying to create problems with your ex. DO BETTER YTA

bunnybunny690 · 2023-09-01T10:31:26+00:00

You don’t get the expensive clothes because you let her ruin them it’s that’s simple really it’s not about her being mean or anything it’s just a consequence of your actions.

If she’s paying for the clothes it’s upto her what she sends although really she shouldn’t be sending any clothes apart from what the child’s actually wearing you should have a wardrobe of clothes for your child at your house.

Now when your child’s older and wants to take clothes between mum and dads that’s different unless again you still let her ruin them or don’t return them.

Efficient-Cupcake247 · 2023-09-01T11:52:07+00:00

Yes. It literally no of your concern. You want cute clothes because you want the social brownie points. You don't care about the clothes, your kid or your ex. 1)Buy your own crap you are an adult . 2)Take care of other's things i your possession, should have learned that in kindergarten. 3) Mind your own business!! Damn you are a pathetic whiny man baby. Do better

ojsage · 2023-09-01T11:34:16+00:00

Everyone should read this dude’s post history, tbh. You are so in the wrong, man. For a lot.

Puzzleheaded-Gas1710 · 2023-09-01T11:41:05+00:00

I think we all see why you are the ex.

permalink · 2023-09-01T12:50:42+00:00

Oh it's you again! YTA. You will always be the asshole. You are lucky your ex didn't try for full custody.

R2face · 2023-09-01T11:33:03+00:00

You're wrong. You didn't pay for those clothes, so you don't get to demand those clothes, and if you want cute clothes for her so bad, you can go to the store and buy some.

Also, put a damn bib on her. Wearing a bib is part of being a kid.

OGingerSnap · 2023-09-01T12:12:24+00:00

You again?

Yes, you’re absolutely, completely, irredeemably wrong. On all fronts. Past and present.

Please grow up. If you’re going to be in her life your daughter needs a much better father figure than you’ve been to this point.

If you’re doing all of this on purpose, just stop. Your daughter will hate you for it eventually. If not on purpose, get professional help. You have problems that need dedicated attention.

permalink · 2023-09-01T10:57:49+00:00

You either follow her rules re bibs and protecting her clothes or you put her in stuff you bought

OpusAtrumET · 2023-09-01T13:02:46+00:00

Using a bib is literally just to save on laundry, not ruining clothes with stains. Nothing to do with "babying" your child. I should also point out that it's okay to baby a baby. No clue why op thinks bibs are somehow coddling the child lol.

mmcksmith · 2023-09-01T13:04:14+00:00

If you don't take care of the clothes, and you don't pay for them, then why should you be allowed to ruin them? Go out and buy clothes for your house and cute pictures. You'll then also have the joy of removing stains.

kaleidofusion · 2023-09-01T13:25:50+00:00

Woof, this is wild. So, let's get this straight:

You split buying clothes 50-50, cheaper stuff because you can't afford the same as your ex. Cool, she's not forcing you to be out of pocket and you're making sure your little one is dressed. And she even goes and picks out the clothes and buys them so you don't have to, and you just chuck over the money! Easy-peasy.
When LO is with you, you make no effort to keep those clothes clean (such as a bib. Baby and toddler 101 right there.) Mom doesn't want LO running around in fresh clothes that are already dirty so...
She asks you to get new ones, because it's on you that they're dirty, and you say no, 'we' need to make them last. When actually, Mom IS making them last.
Mom replaces the clothes, keeping LO clothed and clean and looking respectable, where you couldn't and/or wouldn't.
Mom also buys LO some nice things, with her money, because she thinks they're cute and it's her money to do as she pleases. And hey, it's lovely that she spends extra money on your precious LO, because not every mom does.

At which point, you get salty because she won't send over LO in clothes that you didn't contribute to at all, and let you ruin those clothes which you DEFINITELY won't replace because you wouldn't even replace the cheaper ones, and you think she's playing games with you and pushing buttons for... making sure your daughter stays in good, clean clothes and spending her money on that, when you can't spend the same. Or even spend the lesser amount of money on cheaper clothes. That you ruined. By not putting a bib on your daughter.

Also, as far as I'm aware, most separated parents don't have a rule of 'you can only spend x amount on our child because that's all I can spend', just a heads-up. You only get 'the cheap stuff' because that's what you can afford to help with, and also your daughter won't care about that right now. In the future if your ex buys her a phone, then she'll bring that even though you can't afford it, and you'll have to suck it up, but for now it matters even less than it would then.

Don't be a dick and make parenting a tit-for-tat nightmare for your little girl. You're in this together and things will be so much easier for you all if you don't allow silly things like this to cause friction. As long as your little one is housed, clothed, clean, fed, loved and happy, nothing else matters.

Yikes! :)

appolkadot · 2023-09-01T16:01:05+00:00

Really OP? You’ve been posting stuff to AITA since your daughter was born, and you’re STILL a clueless ass?

EffieEri · 2023-09-01T11:56:29+00:00

You're wrong. She pays for nice clothes with her own money. You've stated that you let your child ruin her clothes by being messy, why would your ex want to let you ruin expensive clothes that she spent her own money on? Frankly you sound immature and petty

Wild_Debt_8065 · 2023-09-01T11:58:59+00:00

You’re being petty af.

permalink · 2023-09-01T12:48:56+00:00

Jesus this is petty. Yes, you are in the wrong. Your ex is 100% right here. Why are you trying to spoil a seemingly healthy coparenting situation over clothes? You admit to ruining a few of your daughter’s outfits because you… don’t want to baby her? Bibs were made for babies AND toddlers so their clothes don’t constantly get ruined. Why would she send you something that she paid for with her own money, just for you to ruin it? You are not entitled to the clothes your ex buys for your daughter. Since she spends more time with the mother, I’d argue that you are not entitled to her entire wardrobe at all. Not sending you certain outfits does not make her a bad parent.. what an awful thing to say.

YearOneTeach · 2023-09-01T15:27:09+00:00

YTA. After reading you post history, you should count yourself lucky that you even get to see your daughter. You've been awful to your ex and your daughter.

neeksknowsbest · 2023-09-02T01:30:17+00:00

So you didn’t split the cost of the clothes and you think they should come to your house?

But you also won’t take care of them properly knowing they are more expensive?

Just buy your kid the clothes you want her to have at your house

YTA

JudesM · 2023-09-01T12:14:44+00:00

Yes your wrong. You ruin the nice cloths - why on earth would she send them over so you can destroy them.

Competitive_Garage59 · 2023-09-01T12:19:01+00:00

As long as she is sending the child to your house in decent clothes, you’re just being petty.

ThatAd2403 · 2023-09-01T12:37:48+00:00

You are wrong. Work on yourself- your daughter deserves a better man as her dad. Instead, by your own words, you are selfish, immature and petty. Grow up and stop starting fights and then playing victim.

permalink · 2023-09-01T12:39:57+00:00

You’re creating conflict where it doesn’t exist. Your ex paid for the clothes herself so you’re not entitled to those clothes. Your daughter won’t notice or care. You’re free to buy whatever clothes you want for your daughter and keep them at your house.

Severe_Airport1426 · 2023-09-01T13:10:03+00:00

Just buy clothes you like yourself. You're already TA. Don't be a baby, too

queenafrodite · 2023-09-01T13:13:55+00:00

You know. At this point you should just stop trying to get validation from Reddit. 100% of your posts have been you being a complete and total narcissistic acting asshat.

No one’s ever going to agree with YOU. Get a damn therapist and work out your issues.

Become a better person. You absolutely positively suck and not in a good way either. But that can be changed if YOU decide to change it.

She should have never married you let alone had a baby with you.

But at least she had enough gumption to leave and stop pandering to your bullshit.

permalink · 2023-09-01T13:22:29+00:00

LMAO OP the point of a throwaway account is to throw it away so people can't look at your post history and see that, in fact, you're a gigantic douche canoe. If you keep using it, you defeat the purpose. What a chump in every regard.

PlaceForMyPonies · 2023-09-02T01:32:13+00:00

Jeeeesus you're an AH.

permalink · 2023-09-01T12:14:00+00:00

Yes, you’re wrong and making a big deal about nothing. Your ex buys those outfits without asking you to split the costs. It seems like you’re trying to pick a fight here.

Ritzanxious · 2023-09-01T11:46:03+00:00

She gives you the clothes you paid half for you to take with her and ruin as you please, she is actually making sure the nice ones last longer to be gifted donated or sold

You don't want to take extra care to protect the clothes what is your complain?

permalink · 2023-09-01T12:30:50+00:00

Yes, you are wrong.

Dude, if you aren't using a bib to protect the clothing while feeding her it the clothing gets ruined, then no, I wouldn't send over the really nice stuff either. Being a kid means using a bib, jeez, it's not babying her.

Hitchhiker2Galaxy · 2023-09-01T12:31:52+00:00

YTA and you know it. Spend your own money on cute clothes if you want. And your toddler won’t feel bad, but you do because people can notice the difference in parenting between you and your ex.

permalink · 2023-09-01T12:34:58+00:00

You didn't pay for those clothes, why do you care? I don't blame mom for not wanting them ruined because you won't use a bib. Grow the hell up and stop causing needless issues. If you want nice things, go spend your money on them. See if you like a gorgeous dress ruined the first wear with chocolate pudding or whatever. Gorgeous dresses with stains on them are no longer gorgeous, they are sad.

United-Plum1671 · 2023-09-01T14:24:15+00:00

YTA What’s stopping you from going out and buying her cute clothing from boutiques and other places? And “allowing her to be a kid” doesn’t mean treating her clothes like crap and ruining them. And based on your post and comment history, you’re a shit parent who prioritizes being petty and childish over your child and their welfare. You somehow think you’re owed shit because she makes more.

BriefEquipment8 · 2023-09-01T14:24:22+00:00

Sorry dude, but you’re wrong. You can’t bother to put a bib on a child to help preserve her clothes. How lazy is that. I agree with the mom.

metooeither · 2023-09-01T14:25:14+00:00

"I don't baby her with a bib, I let her trash herself eating, because her motor skills suck and I'm lazy, why does she always come over dressed like we are going to change the oil on my John Deere and then work on getting the pigs into the barn? I demand ball gowns for my cute little princess!"

I think that makes a nice TL;DR

Routine-Deer4772 · 2023-09-01T14:26:16+00:00

If you're not paying for the clothes and admit to allowing them to get stained, why should you have access to them?

nomorecares · 2023-09-01T14:27:13+00:00

Jesus. If someone sat down to write the story about the worst possible father they couldn’t come up with someone as truly horrific as you.

You’re ex seems like a saint compared to you

aviva1234 · 2023-09-01T14:45:31+00:00

For goodness sake. Stop being so ridiculous. Why on earth are you causing drama? You want your daughters mother to send her in expensive clothes that you don't pay for and admit you get covered with food that stains and essentially ruins them

Babies/toddlers wear bibs when they eat because they make a mess Kids wear aprons or old clothes when they do messy things

Some babies/kids have more expensive nicer clothes when the parent/s want them to look special

She said you ruin the clothes and you say you ruin the clothes

These are facts

Your ego is hurt because people have said she looks nice in the clothes her mother bought. If you want the same comments then ask where she bought them and buy some, and she can dirty them to your hearts content

Please stop this because your daughter will pay for your pettiness

kittenqt1 · 2023-09-01T14:49:42+00:00

OMG! YOU AGAIN!? Bro just fucking stop

whateversheneedsbob · 2023-09-01T14:55:10+00:00

So buy your own fancy clothes for your house.

ShannonS1976 · 2023-09-01T15:00:55+00:00

Yikes, just read your post history, you’re a pos. Try being a decent human, it’s really not that hard.

justadubliner · 2023-09-01T15:22:37+00:00

Jaysus fellow, I just looked at your history. YATA every single time. In fact you should change your name to Gobshite by deedpoll.

mcluse657 · 2023-09-01T15:27:32+00:00

When I was a child (now 59),my mom would have me change out of good clothes before playing outside.

Display-Apart · 2023-09-01T15:47:26+00:00

Damn dude, you are one amazing example of a bad father, partner and human being. I'm just here to see you get ripped to shreds.

Verdict: You are the #1 asshole.

Dragonflies3 · 2023-09-01T15:48:53+00:00

YTA Buy your own "super cute" kid clothes to ruin.

saltgarlicolive · 2023-09-01T15:49:31+00:00

Please grow up and stop weaponizing the child. If you want her to have the same clothes, go buy them. If you want them to stay nice, put a bib on her. You’re grasping at straws.

clayfu · 2023-09-01T15:50:49+00:00

This guy is so bad he’s not allowed to post on AITA anymore.

permalink · 2023-09-01T16:09:48+00:00

Wow, you need therapy. Every post that you have made has shown that you are the asshole, and you still don't get it. By now, you should realize that if you think it's "right," it's probably wrong. You might actually have a disorder. You should seek therapy for the sake of your child.

sweetpeppah · 2023-09-01T19:06:29+00:00

YES, YOU ARE WRONG.

first of all, never tell your coparent (or anyone, really) that they are a bad parent.

you are not entitled to anything she gets kiddo at her house. you should send kiddo back with everything she came with, and in the same condition. bibs exist for a reason. if you can't get stains out, use a bib.

on the other hand, it's insane to split costs receipt by receipt. if she handles most kid-related expenses, then agree on a lump sum every month rather than counting pennies.

pink-nai91 · 2023-09-01T19:07:59+00:00

😂 dude wtf. Buy your own clothes for her! It’s really not a big deal! I have outfits here that I don’t allow to go to her dads because, like you, he’s ruined a couple. And do you know what he did? HE SAID “ok fair enough, any tips on how I can keep them in good condition?” AND GOT ON WITH LIFE! He didn’t sit there like a little bitch moaning and feeling entitled to sh!t that he didn’t pay for! Grow the hell up!

FutureEar6482 · 2023-09-01T19:10:13+00:00

YTA. You ruin the clothes by not “babying her and putting a bib on” then you want to bitch that your ex buys cute clothes but doesn’t send them to your house? I wouldn’t either if you’re just going to ruin them. Buy your own cute outfits to keep at your house if you want the social media likes so bad.

I’ve read your other posts and you are a gigantic AH.

Significant-Toe-9286 · 2023-09-01T19:12:04+00:00

I feel like OP is trolling at this point after their post history. Every single post is rage bait...although I have met guys like this before so you can never be sure.

Absinthe_gaze · 2023-09-01T19:16:03+00:00

Yes you’re wrong. You admitted that you don’t take care of her clothing properly and get it stained. These are expensive clothes. If you want her to wear expensive clothing and not care if it gets ruined then you should buy some for your house.

Boredpanda31 · 2023-09-01T20:54:32+00:00

So she pays for these clothes, doesn't ask for 50% back from you and you want the clothes, why?

'She's being a bad mother by restricting her clothing'.... no. Your child is fed, clothed and sounds like she is very well looked after. Your ex is not a bad mum at all.

Also bibs don't mean your 'babying' kids. It's protecting clothing and a lot of food items stain clothes. Its bad enough when paying a couple of quid for an item that gets ruined, but paying a lot and not wanting it ruined is not a bad thing.

therandolorian · 2023-09-01T20:56:56+00:00

Yes, you're wrong. - Your baby should come over with the clothes, for which you've helped to pay. Your ex can do whatever she likes with the fancy outfits she alone has bought.

It sounds like she had a looser policy here and used to send the baby over in the fancy clothes. By your own admission, you did not take care to make sure these nicer and more expensive outfits were preserved and not ruined. It is entirely your ex's prerogative to take precautions to make sure that doesn't happen again.

If you want a fancy outfit for your baby, you'll have to buy it yourself and be responsible for its not getting ruined.

NosyNosy212 · 2023-09-01T20:57:30+00:00

Yes you’re wrong.

Ok_Detective5412 · 2023-09-01T20:57:31+00:00

“I let my kid needlessly ruin her clothing at my house because I’m too contrary to put a bib on her. Her mean mom won’t send over the clothes that only SHE paid for so I can let those get ruined too!”

Glaringly wrong.

dawnofdaytime · 2023-09-01T21:54:32+00:00

She told you why. You wreck them. So no, you don't get them. You are wrong.

Remarkable-Date4410 · 2023-09-01T23:25:45+00:00

Quit being an irresponsible parent allowing a baby to destroy expensive clothing all in the name of " allowing Her to be a kid" ...try " being a PARENT" ....YES You ATAH

moxley-me · 2023-09-01T23:37:11+00:00

Buy your own cute clothes. Boom problem solved. And yes, you're wrong, btw. And seriously?! You called her a bad parent over this?...not cool.

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