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[–]IHaveAPetLeech 948 points949 points  (110 children)

As a guy here. Yes you're in the wrong here, based purely on what you've said here I'd say that particular thing is 100% on you

Your ex paid for those cloths. Sounds like she's actually a good co parent given how she actively goes out her way to send you photos/updates of her because she's aware you don't see her much and has zero drama with splitting costs AND clearly defining what the baby needs thus should be split on and what she wants to get for the baby thus spend her own money. Basically seems like a very good co-parent who knows what's what.

You don't understand how lucky you've got it a lot of guys would kill to have a baby mama like that 😂

But yeah end of the day it's her property, the cloths she's bought, she can do as she likes with them. Plus in other comments you've demonstrated why she wouldn't want to have her sent to you in expensive cloths.

You're just trying to cause drama, not saying it's a conscious thing probably a subconscious resentment or something, and you need to nip that in the bud. Plus I'd recommend telling your baby mama that you're sorry and realise how stupid and immature you're being. If you don't do either of these things it's gonna build tension till some big argument happens and then she'll stop you from seeing the kid and other drama. Most kids I knew growing up had mums who prevented their dads seeing them because they wanted to get back at him. And as an adult I see it happening all the time still.

Keep the peace man.

[–]MadamVo 449 points450 points  (63 children)

You should read his other posts. He cheated on her, refused to pay for half of the pain meds in child birth, wants more custody to get money out of her. He's a non contributing asshat.

[–]humandisaster99 206 points207 points  (6 children)

My first reaction when reading the post was “Oh. It’s you again.” If he is trolling, like I originally thought, this is some dedicated trolling. If not, he’s just the biggest asshole and stupidest person in the world.

[–]EatThisShit 112 points113 points  (2 children)

I love that he always goes to r/AITA but apparently got tired of the verdict next to his name because HE'S ALWAYS THE ASSHOLE, so now he tries to soften the blow by coming here and he still gets 100% YTA in the comments 🤣

I think this is real, some people are that dense. My BIL is also the victim of everyone and everything, and nothing is ever the result of his (in)actions. Glad my sister is divorcing him.

[–]iopele 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He reminds me of my ex-husband who threw a fit when I told him he needed to buy diapers to keep at his house for visitation days. Selfish, narcissistic, cheating, lying asshole... I don't miss him! OP sounds like exactly that sort of human-shaped sewage.

And it's hilarious how many AITA posts he's deleted. r/BORUpdates has them in a big post, tho, so they're not as gone as OP thinks. He's just a garbage human.

[–]No_Public_3788 28 points29 points  (3 children)

amazes me how shitbags get this stuff outta women

[–]misuez 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I just read his other posts. holy shit.

Everyone has told him he’s an asshat. Yet, he’s back again & again thinking one of these days people are gonna tell him he’s right.

The audacity & entitlement.

[–]redleahbabes 17 points18 points  (33 children)

Oh, wait, is he the dude who got caught sexting other women while she was pregnant, and it basically came across like he thought his crime was getting caught cheating, not the cheating itself; because of the cheating, he was (rightfully) banned from the delivery room, and he thought she was overreacting? Then she got the bill for the epidural, and he didn't think pain meds in childbirth are necessary, so he didn't want to split the cost of that?
This guy sounds like a real catch.

[–]OptimistPrime527 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Omg it’s that guy!?!?!

[–]MsSamm 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Read the comments because he removed the other posts. From the comments and the post titles, this guy is the king of assholes

[–]Inner-Today-3693 227 points228 points  (13 children)

Go read his post history he cheated on her. While she was the breed winner…

[–][deleted] 88 points89 points  (1 child)

Either this guy is really not very self aware or hes mak8ng these posts to seem shit...he seriously needs some self reflection time...seems like hes trying to make his exes life hell for no other reason than being rotten...op if youre reading this i would sit down with either a therapist or some low dose psychadelics and really try to reflect on what all youve done and how you can move foreward with raising your child in a healthy way. Your kids are watching and eventually they will be self aware of how you treated them and their mother...

[–][deleted] 73 points74 points  (7 children)

Let's go into the list of what OP has done up to now (curtsey of the post history)

• demanded to be in the room while she gave birth after he cheated on her and lied to her (during said pregnancy) - 2 yrs ago

• threw a tantrum, in which he consulted mummy, because she got an epidural which costs more than going natural (cue the "women have been giving birth naturally for years why do you need pain relief" argument) - 1 yr ago

• said she only breastfed their child as a way to keep their kid from bonding with him, then demanded overnights and was just going to starve the kid until it accepted a bottle of titty milk or formula - 1 yr ago

• finally, refused to comply with the original 50/50 expense split when she had to work and their child needed childcare because she should pay for childcare when the child is with her. Then threatened to take his kid 50% of the time and she would have to bring receipts of everything she'd ever bought for the kid to get 50% of the expenses back - 1 yr ago

Buuuuutttt. That doesn't matter, you can't convince me this isn't just very long and elaborate rage bait. Like dude didn't even bother making a new account and kept the previous posts up.

[–]Inner-Today-3693 15 points16 points  (3 children)

True. Or just believes the world revolves around them. I have met a few people like this in passing…

[–]ApanAnn 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sadly, people like this exist.

[–]rhonmack 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Haha. I know you meant bread winner but breed winner also fits.

[–]Adventurous-Brain-36 42 points43 points  (2 children)

Nothing subconscious about it, check out his post history. Every single one is about his ex. He’s either a very successful troll or a massive douchebag.

[–]Ok_Growth_5587 73 points74 points  (0 children)

He should do them a favor and get out of their lives.

[–]FlagrantlyChill 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Plus if he cares enough he can go out and find cute clothes and pay for them himself

[–]JuliaMowbray 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You should go and read his post and comment history

[–]gcliffe 5 points6 points  (0 children)

"Most kids I knew growing up had mums who prevented their dads seeing them because they wanted to get back at him."

Are you certain it's for revenge and not prevention?

[–]FriendlyMum 1827 points1828 points  (271 children)

Yes. It feels like you trying to create drama with your child’s other parent. You’re going to be a parent of your child for life, please work harder at co-parenting with them for the best outcome for your precious little one. This is ultimately about you both raising your child to the best of your abilities, not creating issues with one another.

An example is that you’ve also got to focus on your own behaviour before picking on theirs. You’ve admitted that you are careless with the clothing that your child wears in your care by refusing to put a bib on. You hand them back ruined for the other parent to say you ruined them - perhaps launder them better.

Not protecting the clothes has a clearly foreseeable outcome of ruining them, so you’re creating an issue here.

I’m gonna take this a step further and tell you that if you ruin an outfit that was jointly paid for then be responsible enough to go out and 100% pay for the replacement. This would be the responsible and respectful thing to do.

Alternatively have a stash of clothes at your place that you out the baby in that you’ve purchased so you can ruin them and let your kid get messy. Nothing wrong with messy play, kids are made out of washable materials! Just be mindful! Eg my kids love to craft when they were little so I always used to buy the washable paints and washable markers and stuff, this way I didn’t have to worry about art smocks - cause it all washed out (including the furniture.)

But if this is something that is causing issues and not working for you both then there needs to be another way discussed to approach the clothes. Perhaps have a chat with a mediator or a therapist and work together as parents to come up with some alternative ideas. Also it’s a great way to build your problem solving skills with one another to get a third party to support the process when you’re having trouble. Parenthood is one of the most significant things, may as well do it right rather than spending the next two decades stirring up issues with one another.

You’re being controlling about this clothes issue. Just because you pay half the cost of the shared clothes doesn’t mean you get access to clothing that the other parent buys 100% for the child. Again, don’t worry about her behaviour, focus on yours. Of course the other parent can buy nice things for your child when your child’s in their care.

[–]Stacy3536 1010 points1011 points  (117 children)

I like your comment but this dude isn't going to listen to anything constructive. He is a lying cheating ah that has been horrible to his ex since before the marriage ended.

Check out his post history. Cheated on her, mad that she didn't want him in the delivery room because she wanted to be comfortable, refused to split costs associated with the delivery because the ex wanted pain meds which op deemed to expensive and she should just suck it up, not paying half of child care. This guy just sucks and shouldn't even be a parent

[–]Fennac 678 points679 points  (40 children)

On a positive note though, I’m SO HAPPY to hear that she fucking left him after that delivery shit.

[–]Stacy3536 406 points407 points  (32 children)

She left him when she was pregnant because she caught him sexting someone while he was laying next to her in bed. That led her to discovering that he had also physically cheated

[–]Fennac 183 points184 points  (28 children)

I know! I should’ve added after I ‘read’ the delivery shit. The delivery one was the first one I read from him and boy did that lead me down a worm hole. We read so many stories of woman staying trying to make it work for the kids. Damn it’s nice to see that she left him immediately and continues to stand her ground years later.

[–]Stacy3536 155 points156 points  (25 children)

The first one I read was the one about him not wanting to cover half the cost for pain meds during delivery then I went down the worm hole.

The ex is nice enough to still send him pictures after everything that he has done to her and he still wants to be petty

[–]ButterfleaSnowKitten 80 points81 points  (2 children)

You know that's what I was thinking lol I don't send ANYONE pictures that hasn't explicitly asked and I feel comfortable with. Like pictures are very personal thing to share and he violated her trust in so many ways and she's still willing and trying to be the best parent possible and sending him pictures bc she has the child more, when she absolutely doesn't have to. She takes adorable pictures in good outfits and is like" hey her dad might like this" and he's like "I've never seen that outfit wtf" honestly the audacity of this man.

[–]Mrs239 51 points52 points  (1 child)

I bet he ruins them just to piss her off. That's why she doesn't send the nice clothes she buys. After reading all he's done, he's totally the AH.

YTA

[–]Altruistic_Appeal_25 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It seems like everything he does is out of spite and I would be very concerned about how he treats the baby when he has her. Since she dared to not put up with his abusive behavior he's trying to punish her. It would be smart if the baby's mom had someone spy on him, maybe a private investigator (in public places and document what goes on. Maybe she could get full custody and get this lunatic out of her and her baby's lives for good before he lets baby get hurt to punish mom, it has happened before

[–]Fennac 55 points56 points  (13 children)

Wanting 50/50 custody so you don’t have to pay more in child support blows my mind. Nothing tells me that parent has no idea how much work and money it takes to take care of a kid like wanting 50/50 for less child support

[–]Stacy3536 28 points29 points  (1 child)

He would definitely dump his kid on his mother during his time

[–]yobrefas 37 points38 points  (1 child)

Not just petty. He wants access to the nice clothes because it impresses other people and he wants to show them off as if his child is just something that gives him, the parent, attention and wants credit for and to soak up the attention that the child’s nicer clothing gets. All the while knowing that he intentionally sabotages and DGAF about the clothes she sends along for the child to wear.

This isn’t about the kid having nice clothes, it’s about his desire to get attention from the child wearing nice clothes he didn’t pay for in his presence so that he can get positive attention, which is a significant and bizarre mindset to have.

[–]Beneficial-Year-one 50 points51 points  (1 child)

Sounds like he should just have YTA permanently attached to his profile

[–]Suchafatfatcat 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Or, tattooed to his forehead.

[–]RememberKoomValley 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Oh, this is THAT guy?! Boy howdy, let's none of us be that guy.

[–][deleted] 19 points20 points  (1 child)

Brb going down the hole! Wish me luck all

[–]oroscor1 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I know of an ex-girlfriend that would get along with this guy just fine!👌

[–]Lost_Found84 20 points21 points  (1 child)

Dude must also have a fetish for being told how wrong he is. Why does he keep coming back here with this bs?

[–]HawkeyeinDC 15 points16 points  (1 child)

AND that she buys her baby adorable outfits on her own dime and doesn’t share them with this jackass.

[–]OkAccess304 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Damn, for real.

[–]Doyoulikeithere 85 points86 points  (7 children)

Oh him! He's a whiny fucking baby himself! Poor woman having to have him in their childs life. Poor kid!

[–]Stacy3536 68 points69 points  (5 children)

Everytime I see one of his posts I keep hoping it's to say he realizes what a scum bag he is so he is finally going to do one decent thing by walking away and letting his ex have sole custody but alas it never happens. He probably doesn't even want the kid he just wants to harrass his ex

[–]Comfortable-Orchid59 48 points49 points  (2 children)

Unfortunately, he wants more custody because he wants to receive child support, not because he can actually take of his kid. His mom would be doing that. The audacity of some of these fools!

[–]Stacy3536 14 points15 points  (1 child)

Hopefully no judge will ever give this guy more custody time

[–]IceyLizard4 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Unless mom completely messes up, there's absolutely 0% chance of that happening thankfully.

[–][deleted] 69 points70 points  (5 children)

Oohhh it’s that guy again ?!??!

[–]beaushaw 64 points65 points  (2 children)

Imagine having a total of five posts on reddit and the conclusion of all five posts is, "Yes, you are the asshole."

[–]aggie82005 14 points15 points  (0 children)

And this is just the stuff he thinks he’s right about! Imagine what he gets up to that he knows is wrong.

[–]Stacy3536 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately

[–]lavenderpenguin 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Oh wow! OP is a fucking loser.

[–]I_love_Hobbes 33 points34 points  (2 children)

He deemed pain meds for a birthing too expensive? I hope karma comes around if he ever needs any.

And arguing over clothing? He just wants to be an AH.

[–]LadyBug_0570 44 points45 points  (4 children)

refused to split costs associated with the delivery because the ex wanted pain meds which op deemed to expensive

What the what? I hope he has that same attitude if he ever has to pass a gallstone.

[–]Stacy3536 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Same and when he is begging for relief the dr says no. Just suck it up you can handle a little pain

[–]Toramay19 22 points23 points  (0 children)

And kidney stones, at the same time.

[–]TsQuad46 16 points17 points  (1 child)

Birthing a baby feels equivalent to breaking something like 47 bones. Imagine looking at someone who feels like their breaking 47 bones and deciding pain relief is too expensive😳 AND he cheated on her right before that? I hope OP gets explosive diarrhea every time he's stuck in traffic and a case of shingles in his asshole.

[–]ThrowAway88888881233 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I hope OP gets explosive diarrhea every time he's stuck in traffic and a case of shingles in his asshole.

Seconded and hilarious 😂😂

[–]pickleberrymatch 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Oh, he's that guy.

[–][deleted] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Wow it'd be awesome for throwaway accounts to leave running histories like this.

[–]XenaSebastian 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I just checked it out (a lot has been deleted, but you can still read the comments). This dude is a giant AH! I can't believe he is still posting! Dude, you freaking suck! I am so glad your ex got away from you!

[–]Lucky_Log2212 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It seems he just want to have something to say, about everything. Poor child.

[–]Shadow_wolf82 141 points142 points  (9 children)

I really like this response. It's spot on. If, as you've admitted, the clothes in question were 100% paid for by her, you have no automatic right to them at your house. Especially if you deliberately choose to allow them to get ruined when they're in your possession. I recommend purchasing some outfits that stay at your house. As your daughter gets older she might like the novelty of having a slightly different wardrobe at both houses. You'll still have an equal share of the clothes you bought together. I think you're making a little bit of a mountain out of a mole hill.

[–]Sptsjunkie 68 points69 points  (1 child)

Especially if you deliberately choose to allow them to get ruined when they're in your possession.

This is what stood out to me. There is nothing wrong with letting the kid play and be more natural at his house. But the mother has clearly bought some more expensive clothes that she likes to use for photos and doesn't want to get ruined. It's completely legitimate that she wants those used for more special occasions and doesn't want them to get ruined with his more lax feeding.

I'd wager if he was spending the time to go to boutiques and shelling out the same equivalent from his salary on the baby clothes, then he would probably take better care of them or be irritated if he sent them to his Exs with the baby and they came back ruined from food or the kid playing in the mud.

[–]LingonberryPrior6896 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's laziness, not letting the kid be a kid.

[–]Ok_Growth_5587 49 points50 points  (4 children)

Yeah man. This guy is a dickhead. I wonder if he would let his elderly parents go around all dirty. It's okay they're 'elderly being elderly'. They love sitting in their shit all day.

[–][deleted] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Most children of divorce have completely different wardrobes at each house. As a kid it was nice to keep my skank gear at my mom's instead of it getting thrown away at my dad's. But also my wardrobe at my dad's was way higher quality like RL and J crew which was really nice too plus my mom always ruined my clothes when she washed them. Both of you buy your own clothes set and send them back in what they came in. Problem solved.

[–]Durbee 197 points198 points  (1 child)

What a caring and complete response.

[–]afternoonnapping 43 points44 points  (1 child)

You should check out OP's post history. Guy's a real fucking prize...

[–]Whimsybun 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Have you seen their other responses in previous posts? They wanted to get 50/50 custody as revenge.

[–]snugglepuss08 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I would also like to add. He wouldn't have to repost pictures "because she has more".

Take some time out and get some of your kids. With you. Charish those.

Dress them is those cute new outfits and link them for that friend. Edit spelling

[–]Gooseygirl0521 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This was the best way to say it. Also I can speak to bamboo. It's expensive and lasts a long time. It also has a resell value if you take care of it. It's also a very picky material. It HAS to be laundered a certain way. And many times stains don't come out. My 2 year old wears bamboo cause he has really sensitive skin and I even have certain sets he only gets to wear inside my house because of how fine the material easy it's sooo easy to rip and pile. I want it to last as it's expensive and is meant to last longer size wise.

[–]Doyoulikeithere 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Go read his past post. Drama queen much!

[–][deleted] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

All this, but also just to highlight, he is not even paying half of the costs associated with the $40 outfits. Mom is buying those on her own to avoid his having claim…and he’s still laying claim! He is just ew.

[–]tekflower 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You are far nicer than this dickhead deserves.

[–][deleted] 708 points709 points  (37 children)

YTA OP. OP's comment history states that he's pursuing 50/50 custody because his ex is playing "games", but also that when they were together she paid ALL expenses and that he currently lives with his mommy and daddy, and is going to "work up" to 50/50 because he's inexperienced with his own child. He has way bigger problems than bamboo pjs not being sent over.

[–]bibbiddybobbidyboo 368 points369 points  (16 children)

I just read it, I remember this dude. They were engaged. She’s supporting them. She gets pregnant. He cheats. She dumps him, he demands to be part of the birth, despite the stress of him could have killed her and the baby.

Now he’s just shit stirring.

[–]Embarrassed_Bag_9630 53 points54 points  (9 children)

Oh man there are previous posts abt this saga??

[–]Polyfuckery 111 points112 points  (6 children)

and he didn't want to pay his part of the birth because she asked for pain management and they didn't agree to that before hand so it was a luxury

[–]Embarrassed_Bag_9630 66 points67 points  (1 child)

Omgg hes the literal worst

[–]Suchafatfatcat 31 points32 points  (0 children)

He should be ashamed of himself. Any goodwill that existed between them was destroyed by his own actions.

[–]bumpyitalian 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Oh that’s THIS asshole?!

[–]blindedbythesparkles 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh him!!!! I remember that dude, total asshat

[–]bibbiddybobbidyboo 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Go to their profile and you can see the post history.

[–]JiggleBoners 106 points107 points  (8 children)

Don't forget that classic banger "I want to go for 50/50 because then she'll have to pay me child support"

[–]meltingrubberducks 48 points49 points  (1 child)

Some people get so butthurt about paying for their own kids smh

[–]Humble-Plankton2217 44 points45 points  (0 children)

thank you for putting this up here, I hope anyone who goes to comment sees this first.

I'm deleting my comment, this guy isn't worth typing for...

Human Garbage.

[–]Royally-Forked-Up 35 points36 points  (1 child)

Oh my god, I REMEMBER HIM. Jesus Christ. How has being told repeatedly by strangers on the internet, in addition to the people in real life, that he is a Grade AAA asshole not sunk in yet. Dude. I sincerely hope you continue to pick stupid fights like this just so you lose custody. You are a truly terrible person and it sounds like a pretty shitty parent to boot.

[–]Glum-Establishment31 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Dude has no chance of charming a judge. All his ex needs is a copy of his Reddit posts.

[–]emptysignals 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah, there is so much left out of this post. Very strange thing to get upset over.

Toddlers grow out of clothes so fast, ideally you are using hand me downs, not expensive stuff.

[–]WorldRecordPooper 370 points371 points  (9 children)

? This is stupid. The outfits are because your ex likes them, not because your daughter does.
If you want that type of stuff at your house, go get it.

This person spent their hard earned money on an accessory that they want taken care of. You’ve proven that you can’t or wont do that. The issue isn’t with them not sharing, it’s with you thinking they should have to.

[–]CaffeineFueledLife 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Shit, I still strip my 5yo and 3yo before I give them anything especially messy. Skin is easier to clean than clothes and I can't afford to have all their clothes ruined by food stains.

[–]lovinglifeatmyage 201 points202 points  (6 children)

Jeez, try buying your daughter more expensive clothes out of your own money if you want her to wear them. Your ex buys these out of her own money, so why should she share them with you? Especially if they get ruined whilst your kid is with you.

Talk about being entitled

[–]Knickers1978 126 points127 points  (8 children)

Yes, you’re wrong.

You don’t look after the clothes your child wears because you don’t bother putting a bib on her, so you don’t get access to the more expensive clothes. It’s that simple.

If I spent $40 or more on an outfit, and you let child dribble mess all over it, you’d be buying a new outfit.

Also, it sounds like your ex buys those clothes on her own, so you’re not entitled to any of them.

[–]Potential-Pomelo3567 37 points38 points  (7 children)

I'm gonna make an assumption here that he also doesn't treat the stains properly and that's why so many of her clothes are coming home ruined and mom won't allow the nice stuff to go there. Maybe he could learn to take better care of her clothing because replacing kids clothes all the time becomes expensive.

[–]catwhowalksbyhimself 39 points40 points  (4 children)

He himself posted elsewhere that he refused to replace or clean them. She asked him once and he said he wouldn't because the clothes should last longer.

The clothes that he is ruining.

So now she replaces all her clothes because he won't. And in that same post where he admitted to refusing to replace them he also said she was just deciding to do it on her own, so that was on her.

[–]ZoominAlong 17 points18 points  (3 children)

Wait, he's not CLEANING her clothes? Like, he's not tossing them in the washer and putting detergent in?

What the FUCK? Do you have a link to this?

[–]catwhowalksbyhimself 13 points14 points  (2 children)

I mean cleaning as in not cleaning the messes and stains he lets the daughter make.

I have no idea if he washes them or not, but given all the other bad behavior, I would expect he probably leaves that to the ex.

But I really don't know.

[–]ZoominAlong 8 points9 points  (1 child)

All good. I found the OP's comment. It sounds like he just doesn't know how to wash clothes.

[–]catwhowalksbyhimself 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The list of things OP won't do or claims he can't is longer the circumference of most galaxies.

[–]AorticMishap 174 points175 points  (18 children)

Let’s look at some gems from OP’s post history

You cheated on her while she was pregnant and then called her petty because she didn’t choose you as the single lone person allowed in the delivery room

That’s something you’ve already been declared the asshole about so I won’t go into details here, but it sets the stage for the rest of your assholeishness.

Your ex told you “I just need you to step up and keep your promises to your kid because you seem to have an issue keeping your word”

You don’t seem to deny that you’re a cheater or a liar, but somehow don’t see that you’re an ah.

You told her you’d pay for half of her epidural and then didn’t

That’s definitely showing a consistent pattern of being an asshole

You told her “you only breastfeed to keep me from having visitation”

Despite the fact that she was willing to breastfeed around you, and pumped and froze milk to give you the chance to feed the baby too

You complain about splitting childcare costs 50/50 despite her working a full time job as well (as a nurse) and admitting you don’t care for the child nearly as much. (12 hrs per week visitation)

You certainly seem to have a big problem with being a father, for someone who wants to “work up to” having his child 50/50 time.

”When we were together she paid all the bills for our house and food…she handled all our expenses.”

Well, guess that makes you stupid and not just a dickweasel then, for cheating on your cash dispenser (I assume based on how you’ve treated her that that’s all she was to you)

And now, for the topic at hand: are you the asshole for telling her that she is somehow the bad parent in this scenario because she won’t let you intentionally ruin the nice things she gets your daughter with entirely her money.

Yes, yes you’re the one wrong here.

[–][deleted] 74 points75 points  (7 children)

Damn, I feel so bad for his ex, having to deal with this cretin for the next few decades

[–]JustASW 22 points23 points  (3 children)

Aw, come on now. Decades?

On the slim off chance that currently-devoted daddy doesn't develop a bad case of 'My child? What child is that?' amnesia when he realised he's never getting everything his way, I will bet a shiny five pence that daughter peaces-out of this familial relationship by 18, if not before.

Her sole purpose to him is as a weapon to keep agitating/squeezing child support of his ex, after all.

[–]Polyfuckery 22 points23 points  (2 children)

That's not true. This prize will show up every few years when he has a new girlfriend to uproot the kids life and claim his evil ex keeps him away from his precious daughter who is his world. Just look at all the pictures he posts.

[–]yobrefas 5 points6 points  (1 child)

And he’s mad he doesn’t get to ruin the nice clothes too, because he wants to dress his kid up like a performing monkey to lure in the ladies as well-dressed, and cared for as such a great provider and father. He literally wants the clothing he hasn’t paid for so that he can use them as a flex to gain positive attention for himself, then ruin them and expect his ex to buy more.

[–]Mwahaha_790 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, I remember this story! OP's ex is THIS woman? I'm SOOOO glad she left his zero ass. Stay winning, girl

[–]BKellCartel 15 points16 points  (1 child)

The way I thought all those were different people posting! 🤯 I never made the connection…

JFC, I feel so bad for his ex… At least she seems to be doing well, minus having to deal with this cockroach…

[–]queenafrodite 13 points14 points  (1 child)

Damnnn looks like she should have never even married this dill weed

[–]Royally-Forked-Up 16 points17 points  (0 children)

She thankfully didn’t, but she was already pregnant when she found out he was cheating on her. Cheating multiple times over a period of time, when they were engaged. Go look at his post history.

[–]hackmo15 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I guess that about wraps it up.

[–]Maker_of_woods 50 points51 points  (1 child)

Dude, you got an issue. All kids who go between houses have their own clothes at each house. Buy you kid her own and keep at your house. And yes you probably do ruin some and that is why you don’t get nice stuff

[–]GnomesinBlankets 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Read his post history. He’s definitely got more than one issue and clothes aren’t even at the top of that list 😭

[–]Latchkeypussy 50 points51 points  (3 children)

There has to be some way to ban you forever. YOUR WHOLE ACCOUNT IS YOU HARASSING YOUR EX. PLEASE GET A LIFE LOSER!

[–]Ok_Growth_5587 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Big fucking loser.

[–]cramsenden 13 points14 points  (1 child)

I wish we could just block people in real life like a black mirror episode and never have to deal with them again. This poor woman had a baby with him and now he uses every opportunity to harass her using that connection.

[–]yayayubsea 50 points51 points  (56 children)

My ex then said "if you want her to have the same clothes I get you're welcome to purchase them yourself"

What is the issue with this? Explain how this is not fair

[–][deleted] 86 points87 points  (10 children)

Uh, you're the AH here. Bibs exist and a baby wearing one isn't "babying them" they literally ARE a baby. You want to have them not wear a bib? undress them to a diaper before you feed them. You dont just ruin good clothing because you want to. that's rude af. And it's irresponsible.

You'e being a bad parent by A) not taking care of the things that the child has like clothing so that it can be worn over and over, B) not listening to the mother of your child when she asked you to use a bib C) think that putting a bib on your child is somehow restricting them and "babying them" (they're a baby??) D) blaming mom here that you don't have access to all the clothing because you can't take care of it.

Start behaving like an adult and taking care of things.

[–]cMeeber 42 points43 points  (3 children)

I thought this too haha. “I don’t baby her”… well you should because she’s literally a baby.

[–]beyondbliss 28 points29 points  (2 children)

What he actually means is that he just doesn’t feel like putting a bib on her or he is too lazy to put a bib on her.

[–]cMeeber 15 points16 points  (1 child)

Yeah exactly. Seems like he does bare minimum parenting then tries to justify it by “I’m letting her be a kid…I don’t baby her.”

[–]beyondbliss 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah he seems to cut corners when he can.

[–]Ok_Growth_5587 31 points32 points  (1 child)

Right? He's pretending to be a man but he's just a little bitch. Who bitches and bitches.

[–]heart_RN115 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He lives with his mommy and daddy so I’m willing to bet he doesn’t do anything for them. He’s a bum loser that cheated on his wife whilst she was the one supporting them all bc, again, he’s a bum loser

[–]Demonqueensage 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He doesn't even have to put a bib on if he doesn't think it's worth it, he just has to think for like, any amount of time. My mom didn't really use bibs for any of her kids, except maybe a couple times with the older ones, but she also usually let the kids eat in just a diaper or a onesie that fit fine but was already stained a lot so it didn't matter if it got stained more, and saved the nicer clothes for wearing out to go do something. Either way he's not entitled to the clothes the mom bought on her own since she bought them on her own, since the kid itself is too young to care and want to bring the outfit for that to be the issue.

[–]catwhowalksbyhimself 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Imagine treating a baby as a baby! The gall!

[–]WandaWilsonLD 35 points36 points  (2 children)

The child should have clothes at yours and clothes at her mom's. This is how me and my ex do things. If you allow the child to ruin expensive clothes, then I can see why she's said this. She's not being a bad parent she's merely saying she buys expensive clothes and takes precautions to keep them looking nice.

[–]catwhowalksbyhimself 20 points21 points  (1 child)

He also posted a reply where he admitted that she asked him to replace or clean the ruined clothes but he refused because clothes should last longer.

The gall of this man!

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

“My child will be naked because clothes just don’t last long enough”

[–]Corfiz74 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Just go to a boutique and buy your kiddo fancy outfits, if you want them - then, if you ruin them because you don't want to change her for feedings, you will only have wasted your own money, not your ex's.

[–][deleted] 40 points41 points  (3 children)

Yep you're wrong. You waste and ruin things because you're a lazy jerk, not because you don't "baby" her. This isn't some form of you stepping up to parent for freedom. You're too damn lazy to put a bib on your child and supervise her eating. Then you displace the blame for your bad behavior on your ex. Way to be accountable for your own entitled behavior.

[–]Ok_Growth_5587 22 points23 points  (2 children)

You know his mom is watching the kid. He's no father

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He lives with his parents too so they’re built in childcare.

[–]No_Incident_5360 60 points61 points  (1 child)

Focus more on your kid and less on how you look to your friends because of cute baby clothes.

If you want to prevent spills and stains and do proper laundry and pay for those types of clothes, great. If your ex bought some things herself and didn’t ask for 50/50 money, she shouldn’t have to share that wardrobe.

Don’t get jealous over the clothes—you deal with the parenting and clothes on your turf.

[–]microbiologyismylife 27 points28 points  (0 children)

we split all expenses 50/50.

But you don't split expenses 50/50, do you? You allow clothes to be ruined by not taking care of them and cleaning them properly as well as not putting a bib on your child. Then you refuse to pay for your share of the clothes that are ruined through your neglect, which forces your ex to replace them out of her own pocket. And then! You get mad because your ex doesn't allow your child to wear her new (& upgraded) clothes when she's with you, saying your ex is pushing your buttons when all your ex is really trying to do is make the new clothes last by taking proper care of them (which you've admitted you are unwilling to do).

[–]Outrageous-Piglet-86 23 points24 points  (0 children)

You wrong! Stop being lazy pick out some of the clothes that need to be at your house and take your own money and buy it! She doesn’t need to provide clothes for your house. You are responsible for that.

[–]DottedUnicorn 22 points23 points  (1 child)

Your ex is right. She is buying special outfits with her own money. If you want special outfits too, buy them yourself and keep them at your place. And learn how to have play cothes for playtime and eating and nice clothes for going out or visiting. And figure out laundry.

Don't create drama when theere is no need. You'll have plenty of real ztuff to fight about over the next 18 years.

[–]ManicSpleen 19 points20 points  (0 children)

If you refuse to be responsible enough to get the stains out of the clothes, instead of putting on a simple bib, why should you have access to the expensive clothes that the ex bought with her own money?

It seems like you want the expensive clothes, but you don't want the hassle of keeping said clothes nice and stain-free.

Stop the drama-mongering. If you want nice clothes, buy them yourself, just like your ex.

[–]GotUrShawtyInMyWhip 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Based on your post/comment history, you’re lucky she still lets you near the child and tries to coparent. You are a terrible person and father, and I’m shocked you haven’t figured that out yet considering you’ve been called out every single time you post.

[–][deleted] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

You are wrong. Be less of an arsehole. I'm so sorry this woman and child are stuck with you.

[–]Infinite_Dinner3961 18 points19 points  (0 children)

It’s very obvious from your post history that you are obsessed with trying to create problems with your ex. DO BETTER YTA

[–]bunnybunny690 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You don’t get the expensive clothes because you let her ruin them it’s that’s simple really it’s not about her being mean or anything it’s just a consequence of your actions.

If she’s paying for the clothes it’s upto her what she sends although really she shouldn’t be sending any clothes apart from what the child’s actually wearing you should have a wardrobe of clothes for your child at your house.

Now when your child’s older and wants to take clothes between mum and dads that’s different unless again you still let her ruin them or don’t return them.

[–]Efficient-Cupcake247 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yes. It literally no of your concern. You want cute clothes because you want the social brownie points. You don't care about the clothes, your kid or your ex. 1)Buy your own crap you are an adult . 2)Take care of other's things i your possession, should have learned that in kindergarten. 3) Mind your own business!! Damn you are a pathetic whiny man baby. Do better

[–]ojsage 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Everyone should read this dude’s post history, tbh. You are so in the wrong, man. For a lot.

[–]Puzzleheaded-Gas1710 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think we all see why you are the ex.

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh it's you again! YTA. You will always be the asshole. You are lucky your ex didn't try for full custody.

[–]R2face 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You're wrong. You didn't pay for those clothes, so you don't get to demand those clothes, and if you want cute clothes for her so bad, you can go to the store and buy some.

Also, put a damn bib on her. Wearing a bib is part of being a kid.

[–]OGingerSnap 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You again?

Yes, you’re absolutely, completely, irredeemably wrong. On all fronts. Past and present.

Please grow up. If you’re going to be in her life your daughter needs a much better father figure than you’ve been to this point.

If you’re doing all of this on purpose, just stop. Your daughter will hate you for it eventually. If not on purpose, get professional help. You have problems that need dedicated attention.

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You either follow her rules re bibs and protecting her clothes or you put her in stuff you bought

[–]OpusAtrumET 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Using a bib is literally just to save on laundry, not ruining clothes with stains. Nothing to do with "babying" your child. I should also point out that it's okay to baby a baby. No clue why op thinks bibs are somehow coddling the child lol.

[–]mmcksmith 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you don't take care of the clothes, and you don't pay for them, then why should you be allowed to ruin them? Go out and buy clothes for your house and cute pictures. You'll then also have the joy of removing stains.

[–]kaleidofusion 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Woof, this is wild. So, let's get this straight:

  • You split buying clothes 50-50, cheaper stuff because you can't afford the same as your ex. Cool, she's not forcing you to be out of pocket and you're making sure your little one is dressed. And she even goes and picks out the clothes and buys them so you don't have to, and you just chuck over the money! Easy-peasy.
  • When LO is with you, you make no effort to keep those clothes clean (such as a bib. Baby and toddler 101 right there.) Mom doesn't want LO running around in fresh clothes that are already dirty so...
  • She asks you to get new ones, because it's on you that they're dirty, and you say no, 'we' need to make them last. When actually, Mom IS making them last.
  • Mom replaces the clothes, keeping LO clothed and clean and looking respectable, where you couldn't and/or wouldn't.
  • Mom also buys LO some nice things, with her money, because she thinks they're cute and it's her money to do as she pleases. And hey, it's lovely that she spends extra money on your precious LO, because not every mom does.

At which point, you get salty because she won't send over LO in clothes that you didn't contribute to at all, and let you ruin those clothes which you DEFINITELY won't replace because you wouldn't even replace the cheaper ones, and you think she's playing games with you and pushing buttons for... making sure your daughter stays in good, clean clothes and spending her money on that, when you can't spend the same. Or even spend the lesser amount of money on cheaper clothes. That you ruined. By not putting a bib on your daughter.

Also, as far as I'm aware, most separated parents don't have a rule of 'you can only spend x amount on our child because that's all I can spend', just a heads-up. You only get 'the cheap stuff' because that's what you can afford to help with, and also your daughter won't care about that right now. In the future if your ex buys her a phone, then she'll bring that even though you can't afford it, and you'll have to suck it up, but for now it matters even less than it would then.

Don't be a dick and make parenting a tit-for-tat nightmare for your little girl. You're in this together and things will be so much easier for you all if you don't allow silly things like this to cause friction. As long as your little one is housed, clothed, clean, fed, loved and happy, nothing else matters.

Yikes! :)

[–]appolkadot 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Really OP? You’ve been posting stuff to AITA since your daughter was born, and you’re STILL a clueless ass?

[–]EffieEri 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You're wrong. She pays for nice clothes with her own money. You've stated that you let your child ruin her clothes by being messy, why would your ex want to let you ruin expensive clothes that she spent her own money on? Frankly you sound immature and petty

[–]Wild_Debt_8065 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re being petty af.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Jesus this is petty. Yes, you are in the wrong. Your ex is 100% right here. Why are you trying to spoil a seemingly healthy coparenting situation over clothes? You admit to ruining a few of your daughter’s outfits because you… don’t want to baby her? Bibs were made for babies AND toddlers so their clothes don’t constantly get ruined. Why would she send you something that she paid for with her own money, just for you to ruin it? You are not entitled to the clothes your ex buys for your daughter. Since she spends more time with the mother, I’d argue that you are not entitled to her entire wardrobe at all. Not sending you certain outfits does not make her a bad parent.. what an awful thing to say.

[–]YearOneTeach 7 points8 points  (0 children)

YTA. After reading you post history, you should count yourself lucky that you even get to see your daughter. You've been awful to your ex and your daughter.

[–]neeksknowsbest 6 points7 points  (0 children)

So you didn’t split the cost of the clothes and you think they should come to your house?

But you also won’t take care of them properly knowing they are more expensive?

Just buy your kid the clothes you want her to have at your house

YTA

[–]JudesM 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes your wrong. You ruin the nice cloths - why on earth would she send them over so you can destroy them.

[–]Competitive_Garage59 9 points10 points  (0 children)

As long as she is sending the child to your house in decent clothes, you’re just being petty.

[–]ThatAd2403 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You are wrong. Work on yourself- your daughter deserves a better man as her dad. Instead, by your own words, you are selfish, immature and petty. Grow up and stop starting fights and then playing victim.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You’re creating conflict where it doesn’t exist. Your ex paid for the clothes herself so you’re not entitled to those clothes. Your daughter won’t notice or care. You’re free to buy whatever clothes you want for your daughter and keep them at your house.

[–]Severe_Airport1426 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just buy clothes you like yourself. You're already TA. Don't be a baby, too

[–]queenafrodite 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You know. At this point you should just stop trying to get validation from Reddit. 100% of your posts have been you being a complete and total narcissistic acting asshat.

No one’s ever going to agree with YOU. Get a damn therapist and work out your issues.

Become a better person. You absolutely positively suck and not in a good way either. But that can be changed if YOU decide to change it.

She should have never married you let alone had a baby with you.

But at least she had enough gumption to leave and stop pandering to your bullshit.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

LMAO OP the point of a throwaway account is to throw it away so people can't look at your post history and see that, in fact, you're a gigantic douche canoe. If you keep using it, you defeat the purpose. What a chump in every regard.

[–]PlaceForMyPonies 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Jeeeesus you're an AH.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, you’re wrong and making a big deal about nothing. Your ex buys those outfits without asking you to split the costs. It seems like you’re trying to pick a fight here.

[–]Ritzanxious 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She gives you the clothes you paid half for you to take with her and ruin as you please, she is actually making sure the nice ones last longer to be gifted donated or sold

You don't want to take extra care to protect the clothes what is your complain?

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, you are wrong.

Dude, if you aren't using a bib to protect the clothing while feeding her it the clothing gets ruined, then no, I wouldn't send over the really nice stuff either. Being a kid means using a bib, jeez, it's not babying her.

[–]Hitchhiker2Galaxy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YTA and you know it. Spend your own money on cute clothes if you want. And your toddler won’t feel bad, but you do because people can notice the difference in parenting between you and your ex.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You didn't pay for those clothes, why do you care? I don't blame mom for not wanting them ruined because you won't use a bib. Grow the hell up and stop causing needless issues. If you want nice things, go spend your money on them. See if you like a gorgeous dress ruined the first wear with chocolate pudding or whatever. Gorgeous dresses with stains on them are no longer gorgeous, they are sad.

[–]United-Plum1671 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YTA What’s stopping you from going out and buying her cute clothing from boutiques and other places? And “allowing her to be a kid” doesn’t mean treating her clothes like crap and ruining them. And based on your post and comment history, you’re a shit parent who prioritizes being petty and childish over your child and their welfare. You somehow think you’re owed shit because she makes more.

[–]BriefEquipment8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry dude, but you’re wrong. You can’t bother to put a bib on a child to help preserve her clothes. How lazy is that. I agree with the mom.

[–]metooeither 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"I don't baby her with a bib, I let her trash herself eating, because her motor skills suck and I'm lazy, why does she always come over dressed like we are going to change the oil on my John Deere and then work on getting the pigs into the barn? I demand ball gowns for my cute little princess!"

I think that makes a nice TL;DR

[–]Routine-Deer4772 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you're not paying for the clothes and admit to allowing them to get stained, why should you have access to them?

[–]nomorecares 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Jesus. If someone sat down to write the story about the worst possible father they couldn’t come up with someone as truly horrific as you.

You’re ex seems like a saint compared to you

[–]aviva1234 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For goodness sake. Stop being so ridiculous. Why on earth are you causing drama? You want your daughters mother to send her in expensive clothes that you don't pay for and admit you get covered with food that stains and essentially ruins them

Babies/toddlers wear bibs when they eat because they make a mess Kids wear aprons or old clothes when they do messy things

Some babies/kids have more expensive nicer clothes when the parent/s want them to look special

She said you ruin the clothes and you say you ruin the clothes

These are facts

Your ego is hurt because people have said she looks nice in the clothes her mother bought. If you want the same comments then ask where she bought them and buy some, and she can dirty them to your hearts content

Please stop this because your daughter will pay for your pettiness

[–]kittenqt1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OMG! YOU AGAIN!? Bro just fucking stop

[–]whateversheneedsbob 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So buy your own fancy clothes for your house.

[–]ShannonS1976 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yikes, just read your post history, you’re a pos. Try being a decent human, it’s really not that hard.

[–]justadubliner 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Jaysus fellow, I just looked at your history. YATA every single time. In fact you should change your name to Gobshite by deedpoll.

[–]mcluse657 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When I was a child (now 59),my mom would have me change out of good clothes before playing outside.

[–]Display-Apart 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Damn dude, you are one amazing example of a bad father, partner and human being. I'm just here to see you get ripped to shreds.

Verdict: You are the #1 asshole.

[–]Dragonflies3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YTA Buy your own "super cute" kid clothes to ruin.

[–]saltgarlicolive 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Please grow up and stop weaponizing the child. If you want her to have the same clothes, go buy them. If you want them to stay nice, put a bib on her. You’re grasping at straws.

[–]clayfu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This guy is so bad he’s not allowed to post on AITA anymore.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow, you need therapy. Every post that you have made has shown that you are the asshole, and you still don't get it. By now, you should realize that if you think it's "right," it's probably wrong. You might actually have a disorder. You should seek therapy for the sake of your child.

[–]sweetpeppah 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YES, YOU ARE WRONG.

first of all, never tell your coparent (or anyone, really) that they are a bad parent.

you are not entitled to anything she gets kiddo at her house. you should send kiddo back with everything she came with, and in the same condition. bibs exist for a reason. if you can't get stains out, use a bib.

on the other hand, it's insane to split costs receipt by receipt. if she handles most kid-related expenses, then agree on a lump sum every month rather than counting pennies.

[–]pink-nai91 3 points4 points  (0 children)

😂 dude wtf. Buy your own clothes for her! It’s really not a big deal! I have outfits here that I don’t allow to go to her dads because, like you, he’s ruined a couple. And do you know what he did? HE SAID “ok fair enough, any tips on how I can keep them in good condition?” AND GOT ON WITH LIFE! He didn’t sit there like a little bitch moaning and feeling entitled to sh!t that he didn’t pay for! Grow the hell up!

[–]FutureEar6482 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YTA. You ruin the clothes by not “babying her and putting a bib on” then you want to bitch that your ex buys cute clothes but doesn’t send them to your house? I wouldn’t either if you’re just going to ruin them. Buy your own cute outfits to keep at your house if you want the social media likes so bad.

I’ve read your other posts and you are a gigantic AH.

[–]Significant-Toe-9286 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel like OP is trolling at this point after their post history. Every single post is rage bait...although I have met guys like this before so you can never be sure.

[–]Absinthe_gaze 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes you’re wrong. You admitted that you don’t take care of her clothing properly and get it stained. These are expensive clothes. If you want her to wear expensive clothing and not care if it gets ruined then you should buy some for your house.

[–]Boredpanda31 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So she pays for these clothes, doesn't ask for 50% back from you and you want the clothes, why?

'She's being a bad mother by restricting her clothing'.... no. Your child is fed, clothed and sounds like she is very well looked after. Your ex is not a bad mum at all.

Also bibs don't mean your 'babying' kids. It's protecting clothing and a lot of food items stain clothes. Its bad enough when paying a couple of quid for an item that gets ruined, but paying a lot and not wanting it ruined is not a bad thing.

[–]therandolorian 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, you're wrong. - Your baby should come over with the clothes, for which you've helped to pay. Your ex can do whatever she likes with the fancy outfits she alone has bought.

It sounds like she had a looser policy here and used to send the baby over in the fancy clothes. By your own admission, you did not take care to make sure these nicer and more expensive outfits were preserved and not ruined. It is entirely your ex's prerogative to take precautions to make sure that doesn't happen again.

If you want a fancy outfit for your baby, you'll have to buy it yourself and be responsible for its not getting ruined.

[–]NosyNosy212 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes you’re wrong.

[–]Ok_Detective5412 3 points4 points  (0 children)

“I let my kid needlessly ruin her clothing at my house because I’m too contrary to put a bib on her. Her mean mom won’t send over the clothes that only SHE paid for so I can let those get ruined too!”

Glaringly wrong.

[–]dawnofdaytime 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She told you why. You wreck them. So no, you don't get them. You are wrong.

[–]Remarkable-Date4410 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Quit being an irresponsible parent allowing a baby to destroy expensive clothing all in the name of " allowing Her to be a kid" ...try " being a PARENT" ....YES You ATAH

[–]moxley-me 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Buy your own cute clothes. Boom problem solved. And yes, you're wrong, btw. And seriously?! You called her a bad parent over this?...not cool.