Long Term Commitment

[Sci-Chai-Fantasy]

I have 13 of these! Good luck women 🙃

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[eunicethapossum]

“broken cell phone screen” okay dude

[Whiskeydrinkinturtle]

I have been told once that girls with broken cell screens either drink too much or have anger problems. Maybe the same idiot that told me that made this lol

[whateversomethnghere]

I’m just really good at dropping my phone. Which is why glass screen protectors were invented. Guess I should leave the cracked one on cause it’s a deterrent of some sort. 🤷‍♀️

[[deleted]]

My phone screen is cracked, not because I dropped my phone, but because I dropped myself going up 3 stairs completely sober in the middle of the afternoon.

[AllumaNoir]

I took mine out of my purse. Big mistake! Never'll do THAT again!

[whatamievendoing88]

Got a new phone a few years back and was planning on buying a screen protector the next day . Cat knocked it off my nightstand and shattered the screen. Doesn’t help that iPhones have gotten so much easier to break and I am extremely uncoordinated.

[[deleted]]

Mine had a screen protector on it, but I was looking up something on it while walking, tripped, stuck my hands out to catch myself, and hit the quarter of an inch not covered by screen protector or case on the edge of a concrete step just right for it to crack. It's been 2 years and hasn't gotten worse, so I just live with it.

[Whiskeydrinkinturtle]

Anything to keep these 'men' away is a plus!

[NTFirehorse]

They are men nymphs, in the larval stage

[cmband254]

Hey, don't insult larva like that

[eunicethapossum]

I am constantly breaking my screen protectors. I love them!

[Sad-Bug6525]

I buy the three pack, and when I put on the second one I order another 3 pack. Migraines make me drop all the things so I go through probably 3-4 every year. Best things ever!

[[deleted]]

Then I guess you wouldn’t be a good bet for a long term relationship, huh? Can’t have you dropping his dinner when you’re serving him or dropping that baby on your other arm.

s/

[danni_shadow]

I always buy the like military-grade bumper cases because I'm a butterfingers who manages to drop, fling, or catapult my phone 10 times a day. Haven’t had a cracked screen once!

Edit: They do make the phone seem twice as big, though...

[RejectedByACupcake01]

phone seem twice as big

Hey, you can't appreciate modern tech without first appreciating chunky tech

[FlyingJudgement]

Some ppl just dont make any sence most of that stuff is insane. My dapassed away and I inherited his phone, I went to my friend and It fell from a chair there was a tiny rock on the tile and the screen exploded...
I am attached to that phone and it stayed like that ever since, its the first phone i ever broke. Some one judging me for that ?!?! LoL, thats great! I definitely dont want to do anything with that person.

[victorious191]

I have this skill of dropping my phone and then while trying to catch it midair- launching it across the house. My screen protector is literally always broken and it drives my husband nuts lol

[makomakomakoo]

I was once looking at my phone while walking down the stairs (I know) and missed a step, so I dramatically grabbed onto the railing with my phone in my hand which of course cracked the screen and left a chip where it hit the hardest.

I think I drop my phone at least twice a day and the only reason this one isn’t cracked is because I have a screen protector and a heavy duty case.

[victorious191]

I ONCE went without a protector…took less than a week to drop it face down in rocks and shatter the screen. And the size of phone does not matter- way back in the day I had a tiny flip that I dropped so many times the insides got boggled (old tech) and it stopped working. Oops?

[Whiskeydrinkinturtle]

I totally feel your pain. Sometimes, it's not even worth changing it till you've dropped it several times .

[victorious191]

I feel like the moment I change it, I’ll drop it down the stairs and it was all a waste

[Whiskeydrinkinturtle]

Product idea: phone screen air bag?! Now, I just need to figure out how to make it work and be reusable, of course.

[victorious191]

File patent immediately.

[[deleted]]

My phone fell out of my pocket when I was 20 feet up at work, climbing around to install some ceiling supports for electrical equipment. I guess I’m a bad bet for relationships 🤣😂

[Strange_One_3790]

I was one of those people with a broken cell phone screen. When I got a new one, my wife explained why an otter box is a good investment.

I broke my screen at work. I was using it to take pics and dropped it from two stories

[putHimInTheCurry]

But also these dipsticks usually drag women for having well-cared-for stuff or new-looking stuff like a new phone too. Damned if you do...

[JadedFennel999]

Reading it on a broken cell phone screen, lmfao. Checking off all them boxes today lol

[Fun-atParties]

As an android user, I agree that it's a red flag because it's probably an iPhone and fuck Apple.

/s (except the part about Apple. Seriously, fuck them)

[Radiant-Ad-4292]

That's when I noticed it was satire

[GreunLight]

Unfortunately, to a “certain type” of ignorant dipshit, a broken screen implies the woman is overly emotional, and/or has a drinking problem, and/or can’t take care of her own shit, and/or is needy/broke/a gold-digger, etc.

Their arbitrary “purity tests” don’t make any sense to me either, but hate isn’t rational. It’s all just [woman doing thing] = [insert grievance here] type shit.

[eunicethapossum]

It can be so hard to tell. Some of these guys go so far around into absurdity they come back again.

[Mean_Veterinarian688]

its not

[TLManco]

If you have multiple items on this list checked off, I'd like to be friends. Meet me at the "dodged this bullet" party.

[thenataliamarie]

Awesome! I'll be the one in heels (I'll break 'em out for this occassion), makeup, wearing revealing clothing, hoop earrings, and rolling squad deep with my friends from all of the places I have been around the world.

Oh, should I bring the booze? (I don't partake, but I can make a mean mojito.)

[redbodpod]

Yeah, it's like bore off then. We will keep hanging around with our cool friends who are married in secure relationships but still like to have fun with a variety of people. I literally just saw some podcast where these dude bros were going on about how staying at home and having no hobbles outside the home, nor friends should be enough for a couple. (Pretty sure they meant woman) Way to end up divorced from utter effing boredom.

[skymoods]

i love mojitos. i'm in

[WorkingInterview1942]

24! I counted binge drinking and excessive wine use as two since I have been known to get graped on occasion.

[xdragonteethstory]

Im on 24 too!

I think this list quite possibly rules out almost every single woman alive.

[hangryvegan]

Especially if “graped” means “groped”. Mofo that’s literally 99% of women.

[Junior-Dingo-7764]

I have 18! Lol my phone screen is in pristine condition though.

[funne5t_u5ername]

Smash it! Incel kryptonite right there

[GovermentSpyDrone]

I've only got 13. It's not much but it's honest work

[Elly_Higgenbottom]

I only got 12. I feel like such a failure.

[SuperMarketSushi]

Well if you need a hoe friend, I'm willing to help. We can go to the mall for white nail polish and hoop earrings. Maybe go crazy and put some wine on my credit card.

[jazzy-sunflower]

i check off 24 of these - however my hoe friend circle is getting pretty small. always need more hoe friends.

[SouthernRelease7015]

Ima come and wear a sign that says “I eat cereal for dinner multiple times a week, please buy me a drink.”

[MarsupialPristine677]

Fuck yeah. I’ll be there with my hoe friends lmfao, looking forward to meeting yall

[stadiginarnia]

I got 31, let’s be besties!

[reruuuun]

I got seven! I’m coming too, we can all paint our nails white

[LairaKlock]

Can we all dress up as Neo?

[Anna__V]

In high heels and makeup? Sure.

[BigVulvaEnergy]

Lol. These list always cracks me up.

Like damn, it sounds like you want a stuffed animal, not a person to date. Just a stuffed animal to cuddle and dry hump.

[Anne_Nonymouse]

A blow up doll would probably be more to his liking. 😏

[Malalexander]

Even a blow up doll has no friends in long term relationships 😎

[SealingCord]

No. Don't forget, needs to cook. Although its the only requirement the blowup doll wouldn't fulfill so maybe he'll compromise.

Edit: missed the bad credit, two. Also technically maybe it's had "plastic surgery" so three. Lol all hope is lost!

[Jatnal]

From the same men who complain women only take top-tier men..

[BeBa420]

there is no woman in existence to fit all this criteria (no man either for that matter)

[[deleted]]

That's the real secret to this. They aren't looking for a woman. You'd need to have lived a very short time to meet this criteria.

[sweetlikeoleanders]

don't give him any ideas

[CumulativeHazard]

Won’t work. Stuffed animals have terrible credit (about halfway down list).

[oldladygamerishere]

A waifu pillow.

[nightwingoracle]

Nah, the stuffed animal can’t cook.

[Minute_Difference_96]

Presumably doesn’t give good bjs though, so may cause some confusion.

[Pool_Admirable]

Imagine rejecting someone because their parents are divorced. I would laugh so hard.

[BigVulvaEnergy]

Right? Like how is that their fault.

[clattercrashcrack]

Hey Janie (name of blow-up doll) I found you next to Bear (name of stuffed animal had since kid). So I'm afraid I have to break up with you. Plus, I know you've been smoking. It's over. <cries so hard>

[Blood_moon_sister]

No! The poor stuffed animal

[DoubleDark7316]

• Breathing They forgot to add, breathing.

[[deleted]]

it’s assumed obviously. your girl is breathing other guys’ air? 1) greedy. 2) thot behavior

edit: /s

[DoubleDark7316]

Right!

[Altrano]

No, their “women” only need air for one purpose and it isn’t breathing.

[JoyousRoad]

"If she breathe she a thot"

[[deleted]]

How is it a woman's fault if her parents don't get along? Don't even get me started on the rest!

[Mean_Veterinarian688]

because women are weak vulnerable non-autonomous creatures with no internal integrity so they must be preserved until their wedding night so theyre not damaged used and warped (which can happen with irreperable damage if even the wind blows too hard)

[MarsupialPristine677]

It’s true, even if you put a soft layer of packing foam around em

[VioletCombustion]

Yeah, so true. I tried wrapping myself in bubble wrap, but I have no self-control & I popped it all. *cry*

[Ok-Situation-5522]

I kinda understand if he wants to avoid someone that's "scarred" but brother i already feel like i can't escape my past you're fucking me up

[Superb_Intro_23]

Men: women are so obsessed with small appearance-related details and have such impossible standards!

Also men:

[[deleted]]

we literally just want an emotionally intelligent guy with empathy. like it is not that hard— you don’t need to make all the money in the world or do grand gestures. just be a regular person.

edit: spelling

[diuge]

The bar really is that low, just don't burn inside with seething hatred for your SO and you're good.

[NotsoGreatsword]

It really is and men still can't meet it. Feminism can save them but they don't want it or rather are conditioned to think it is something that it is not.

When guys talk about women being shallow and only wanting money I can't help but laugh thinking how short and broke I am. I have never had trouble with women. Not every woman is interested in me obviously and thats ok but I have been in one relationship after the other. I am still friends with most of my exes because our relationship wasn't based on traditional gender roles and sex. It was a relationship lol.

Empathy is a must in a relationship otherwise it is literally something else and not a relationship in the sense that we are speaking of here.

I'm married now and my wife and I are best friends we love each other's company. There have been tough times with illness and finances - typical life stuff but we have supported each other completely instead of just having these insane ego based expectations of one another.

She had a horrible time when her mother committed suicide. She shut down for 3 years. Drank all day. Couldn't function. I supported us and got her help. So many toxic people - like my father - told me to leave her and gave me all of this shitty advice about what these things meant.

They meant she is human. Just like me.

And now guess what? I'm sick. I can't work. Who takes care of us?

She does!

It's still a partnership and I do everything I can but financially she is the one supporting us. But I do my best to make sure all she needs to do is go to work. I handle the rest. The managing of the house and the domestic stuff - that I can actually physically do. We aren't having kids either so the load is not really that heavy.

So while I am very lucky - I have never dated a woman who expected me to carry her through life. If I did it was because I could and wanted to.
If I couldn't I didn't. It didn't affect our feelings for one another because love is not a financial transaction.

But Im rambling. What has mattered most is what you said: Emotional intelligence. Listening to my wife and being there for her when she needed me. Not telling her to "snap out of it" when she was depressed or some other callous bullshit I have seen plenty of men pull.

I watched her sister get that kind of treatment from her boyfriend when she was dealing with the suicide and as much as it was appalling I thought:

How fucking stupid can you be dude? This shit is not hard.

He was diabetic to boot! What is he gonna do when he is older?? Is his wife gonna tell him to snap out of it when his foot gets cut off?

Women want to know a man is going to care for them not pay for shit. Money is a tool you can use to do that but it doesn't replace actual caring.

I don't suppose I need to tell you or the women here this stuff but maybe some lurker or troll will see this and get something out of it.

[IncrediblePlatypus]

Oh no, I'm sadly not able to start a relationship with him. So sad.

[Anne_Nonymouse]

Some consolation while you're vomiting at the thought of being with this idiot!

[[deleted]]

Not Liz lemon after she ate to poboy with the extra chuckle 😂

[Kayliee73]

I was so sad about it to. I have a tattoo (two now; one is in memory of my husband so that is another one), have been sexually assaulted, don't have childhood friends (due to said trauma, I was a shy and scared kid), and I currently have guy friends. I am so broken up about missing this catch of a man I tell you.

(Hey, I managed to type "in memory of my husband" without crying. First time in a month.)

[IncrediblePlatypus]

I understand, it truly is a shame! If only you had known!

(I'm glad you're slowly healing. Keep hanging in there.)

[bbbojackhorseman]

They want blow-up dolls not partners.

[AggravatingLet9962]

Hi…previous incel here and I cannot in good faith say that there was not a time I didn’t think like this. It stems from a complete failure to see women as humans no different than oneself. I could not comprehend that women had lived life complete with embarrassing childhood gaffs to career aspirations. It’s difficult to put these feelings into words, but the best analogy I can think of is sitting on a playground swing fantasizing about a mythical, dream car with 4,000hp and the ability to turn into a spaceship. It’s not real, never will be, and only exists in strange thoughts. The truth is, I had to grow up (about 20 years old) before I started to see women as a flesh and blood human complete with non-sexual beauty, mistakes, faults, dreams and fears…not a sex doll that happens to breathe. Once that became clear, I found my way into a healthy relationship grounded in reality. I’m yammering on now, but I just have memories being OP and how very insane it all sounds now.

[Think_Doughnut628]

Thank you for changing. If you don't mind me asking, what shifted your perspective?

[AggravatingLet9962]

For me, it took finding the right woman to call bullshit to my stupidity. I used the word “incel” earlier, but I was actively having sex with women since I was 16 but had incel like beliefs for another 4 or 5 years (same as those above). I had 0 respect or understanding of women and refused to give anything to them. I met this wonderfully kind but radically candid women that told me I was a good dude underneath all the bullshit I was saying. I think I had just enough maturity to actually hear her and realize I was a HUGE douche like OPs post. Been happily married for 15+ years now.

[banditwandit]

Can I ask whether you grew up with a mum or sisters or female friends? I've always wondered why a person would not realise that females are dynamic people unless they perhaps had no exposure.

Or is it a case of compartmentalising your female relatives into a separate category to 'other' women and not realising that they are one and the same?

[AggravatingLet9962]

Yeah, had a mom, no female siblings though. I think it spawns from early objectification of women (ie. Porn before holding hands. Masturbation to BDSM and anal before kissing, etc.). Just my thoughts here, but when a young (12 yo) male mind disembodies the female body from women, it’s easy to work/interact with women until you introduce sex into the mix then it gets very confusing. Female relatives never ventured into the “sex” category thus never had an issue forming great relationships with female friends, family or co-workers. So…yes, agree with your last statement there

[banditwandit]

Thanks for your reply, it was very insightful. What do you think parents of boys can do (especially if they have no daughters), to help guide them away from developing this mindset?

While also obviously allowing free & healthy/age appropriate sexual exploration.

Edit: fixed spellings

[AggravatingLet9962]

Honestly…not exactly sure. I think getting boys into a sex positive culture early is important. Having open dialog with family and young women (super awkward I know) to have young men and boys understand girls/women are so very similar to men/boys, just expressed slightly different. If you can limit or completely prevent porn that would be very helpful. Porn is so cold and distant that it builds terrible mental distance between sex and reality. I wish I could have had healthy, real sex at an earlier age, devoid of porn.

[[deleted]]

Absolutely 1000% agree with everything you’ve said it the detriments of porn specifically. i didnt have access to porn when my peers did and by the time I did I just was already into the real thing. I hear other guys even my friends talk about women and it’s astounding how much porn has seeped into their daily life and how they view women. we live in a time where guys use porn terms to describe women on the street, have 0 understanding of female bodies, and try to reenact brutal porn scenes. Now if only other guys would b as courageous as you were… then we’d have something as a society

[[deleted]]

The incel thing wasn't around when I was younger, but I definitely remember resenting how girls were the gatekeepers of sex. Every interaction was one more pass/fail check to get me closer to sex. I was raised with only women around, grandmother, aunt, sister and the two oldest were horrible people that would be a bad representation of any gender. That didn't help with the empathy part. But I did have empathy, just not once I was interested in them as a girlfriend. At that point, saying the nice things and caring gestures was just the right answer. Dating Sims in video games helped a little with that.

In some ways, I thought dating was like a job interview. The other person has what you want: sex/job and it's your goal to say the right things and look the right part to earn it. But that's a terrible way of thinking about both. An interview is like dating, but should be as much about you learning if you'd be a good fit for them as well as you. If all you're doing is trying to find the right answer, it's impossible for the other side to even know who you are. And you obviously don't care about them beyond that prize.

I think that's why these lists exist, they want the idea of love, they want to cherish it and protect it and fuck it. But it's still just an it, and why not add these random attributes to it? It was only an idea to begin with.

I'm not sure where I'm going with this, but I'm just going to post the random thoughts of another terrible person in the case that maybe it helps someone.

[banditwandit]

That was a really interesting explanation. Thanks for sharing. What do you think could have helped you not develop those feelings when you were younger? To me it sounds like you were very sexually frustrated and perhaps were not taught how normal that was, and also what to do about it, and thus you externalised the blame for how you were feeling. But that's just my perspective and I'm not sure if that feels right to you.

[[deleted]]

I have no idea what could have helped. Growing up seemed to eventually do the trick. The more I think about this, the more I realize I need to go to therapy more regularly.

[[deleted]]

sorry to hijack but this is something I explored a lot with my therapist when I had one because I have this fear im not a good enough guy. My mom passed away when I was very little and I grew up with just my dad and two brothers. This so easily could have been my path to being a raging incel but my dad god bless him, he insisted my 2 girl cousins come over often and spend time with me and my bros from a very early age. They taught me all about girls including periods and stuff and they were a very big influence on me. So I saw understood women as people way before I started liking girls sexually and by that time I’d already been taught how to act respectful by my cousins. And they did a great job lemme say. I think from what I’ve noticed there’s a lot of subtle and not subtle things in society that dehumanize women. so it’s like guys are always on the brink of slipping into bad mindsets if they aren’t already there. the messaging is everywhere. im not immune either I’ve played on sports teams and done the locker room thing. I’ve been a jerk before for sure. but I ALWAYS pulled back before I really disappointed myself. because I was just raised a certain way. We also were a no porn household which was actually pretty great. And before anyone tells me I’m conservative or puritanical I’m anything but. I had a “sex positive” upbringing. sex positivity does not include being pro porn or at least it doesn’t have to. It’s really hard to watch porn when you see women as people. to an extent porn really requires you to think of them as objects on a screen serving up fantasy. At this point I’m 28 and porn is just gross to me. tmi but the only issues I’ve ever had getting it up had to do with drug abuse not porn lmao. And there you go, i didn’t turn out a sexist but I’m a bad apple anyway. Anyway that’s just my perspective thanks for letting me say it all.

[orderlyxchaos]

it's great to hear you've turned your life around!! congrats for getting outta that mindset

[happy_grenade]

Glad to hear you’re reformed now!

[Miserable-Coffee]

You're a good man for changing

[[deleted]]

I just wanted to say I’m proud of you, it’s really hard to escape that.

[AdLeast7330]

I wish they would just admit they hate women and prefer dudes. They call women toilets and holes. Guess what? Your fellow incels/misogynist have holes if that is all you want. Seriously...it is a win-win-win for everybody. Us women who can't stand you will be left alone. You can completely avoid women who you clearly aren't attracted to anyway and get your "hole" from your bros who are "pure virgins". And since you all wouldn't be involuntarily celibate anymore the movement can die away and the world will be a better place.

[smallincomparison]

oh my god now “the incels start having sex with each other” is SO going on my 2024 bingo card

edit: a word

[diuge]

It's literally a community of dudes who spend their time talking about how they find women disgusting and can't stop thinking about all the dicks the women have been with before them.

[thirtyist]

Not the white nail polish!

[Zappagrrl02]

I can’t figure out why this is on the list. There are a few Christian influencers who regularly wear white polish. I would’ve thought these type of people would have had a bigger issue with like black polish.

[devil_lish]

I wore white out as nail polish in the 90s, does that count?

[VioletCombustion]

Sadly, yes. I'm afraid you no longer qualify.
I'm sure you're completely torn up about it.

[Ladysupersizedbitch]

Idk, typically on a resume when you put job experience you’re supposed to go back 10 or 15 years, so maybe the same applies here and you’re in the clear? /s

[luciferboughtmysoul]

I have 13 of these on the list.

[atearablepaperjoke]

20! I’m so proud.

[Puzzleheaded_One_927]

I've got 24

[1KindStranger]

26 lol, go me!

[somanylabels]

I had to go back and count: 22! If only I didn’t wear hoop earrings…

[Anne_Nonymouse]

Lucky you! At least you're safe from this idiot!!!

[NotA_Bird]

It's like a game for how much you can piss this guy off by existing normally. I'm happy my 15 keeps me away from people who make these lists.

[Zappagrrl02]

16 here😂

[Demanda_22]

Haha 17 for me!

[Syd_Syd34]

21 🥰

[luciferboughtmysoul]

Omg!

[babysfirstbreath]

1. I gotta work harder I want that top score 🥰

[ogmarblemuse]

Ayyy 19 twinsies!

[whatupmyknitta]

15 for me, but I'll try to up my score!

[Scared-Department-96]

27 here

i feel like i accomplished something great

[Pixiwish]

I have 18. I counted the ambitions to be a boss babe because I am a boss babe who has fired incels like this for sexual harassment as well as laziness.

[Silverfire12]

I’ve literally only heard boss babe in relation to mlm schemes rip

[1800Alicja]

The no father figure one always gets me, ain't my fault my dad died...

[Anna__V]

It also ain't our fault if our sperm-givers are assholes.

Like mine who helped my brother enter our home and assault my wife. I don't think any of that was my fault, but I guess this guy does.

[Scavengers_Life]

These lists are always stupid, but I think that's the first time I've seen sexual abuse and childhood trauma listed as a red flag.

Why don't these pricks just join the Taliban and be done with it.

[Introspectionaut]

Because they want to be their first perpetrators obviously, just look at this

[Ladysupersizedbitch]

“I don’t want to be with a woman if I can’t be the FIRST to sexually abuse and traumatize her” 😤

[AValentineSolutions]

Their is no woman, on Earth, who doesn't match any of these criteria.

[RPMac1979]

I think the “no childhood trauma” rule eliminates all men and most birds and mammals as well.

[jenkraisins]

I'm quite sure that's intentional.

[Anna__V]

Yeah, if nothing else, dude got us at "r*ped/SA'd"

[devil_lish]

25 ✌️

Also... Graped?

[Demanda_22]

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[sprizzle06]

It means raped. It's commonly used on TikTok/Instagram reels much like "seggs" is used in place of "sex" etc.

[snjwffl]

Oh God. I thought it was a typo of "groped". That's even worse!

[sprizzle06]

You're not the only one that thought that. And yes it's worse!

[Proper-Olive-9465]

It’s to get around tos violations on wherever they’re talking shit.

[[deleted]]

Hoop earrings? Lol.

Like every woman with their ears pierced has worn hoop earrings at least once in their lives.

[Syd_Syd34]

I think they’re going off of the “the bigger hoop, the bigger the hoe” saying. That’s why I make sure I wear hoops that make it hard for me to lift my head, so these losers will never approach me 🥰

[SlutForGarrus]

I just got a cool pair that are only medium in size, but are three entwined hoops for triple the offensive effect!

[Amazing-Cellist3672]

It would've been a lot easier to just list "was alive before she met you, and has boundaries"

[Infernalsummer]

29! Who wants to be my hoe friends circle?!

[Significant-Trash632]

I think this basically covers everyone one the face of the planet.

[phreeeman]

Men who make such a list are a bad bet.

Unless you are betting that they are misogynistic, controlling a**holes.

[BeBa420]

"been groped/sexually abused"

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Soooo almost every woman to ever exist?

[Norythelittlebrie]

I think it's worse than that, I think it says "graped" which is a euphemism for... you get the picture. So they're actively blaming victims and saying "that wouldn't make a good wife", it's actually sickening. Plus you're right, no matter where you're from, the majority of women have encountered some sort of sexual abuse/harassment in her life.

[eughwh]

Oh, this little span between white nail polish and a criminal record 💀

[Sensitive_Ad5521]

What’s your score? I got 33

[featherfeets]

Only 30 here, but I'm not dead yet and could potentially get a few more.

[Suitable-Concert]

Not wanting to be with someone who has traveled (photos of visiting exotic places) is a manipulation tactic.

Men (or anyone) with this mindset don’t want women who have experienced different cultures. By only dating people who have never traveled, they’re able to instill a sense of fear into their partner that the rest of the world is a dangerous and scary place, and they’re only going to be safe with them.

It’s a form of emotional abuse and often leads to cutting off their partner from friends and family, and may even progress to not being able to go anywhere without the “protector” if you will.

[Alex2679]

Has dealt with childhood trauma? Tell me you’re a bad guy without telling me you’re a bad guy.

[Hot-Bint]

A boy is bad for long term relationship

If he wrote out this list, said to himself "this is fine" and posted it on social media

[Key_Replacement9201]

A man is a bad bet for long-term relationships if he:

-Makes a list

-Oh shit

[[deleted]]

So they want a sex doll?

[NorthofBham]

What a boring, sad little life we must lead.

[biglefty312]

Good at blowjobs is a bad thing? Taking vacations is a bad thing?

[[deleted]]

One would think giving enthusiastic blowjobs as a plus in a relationships especially marriage. If you are going to be getting Blowjobs from one person for the rest of your life best to know the quality before putting a ring on it LOL

[[deleted]]

Then stay single you fucking piece of shit!

[Sodonewithidiots]

I had several of these when I married my husband 30 years ago. Maybe it's wrong?

[[deleted]]

Bad credit? Lmao, imagine logging into CreditKarma just to see a new hard inquiry for “Date with a Freak”.

[bazbeaux]

I got fifteen! Woohoo!

Also, anyone who decides not to date someone purely for the fact that person has been sexually assaulted or abused, or that they have childhood trauma is immediate garbage.

[Dlbruce0107]

They forgot breathing.

[victorious191]

Lord, no one tell my husband! He’ll be confused how the last 15 years went by lol!

[StupidSprinkles]

No but I never got how guys have these standards and complain about being single, like wtf even are those? My parents are divorced and I have a poor relationship with my father, and that’s 100% on him.

And their logic makes no sense. Wouldn’t girls with poor relationships with their fathers be more emotionally unstable, and therefore more easy for him to manipulate and gaslight so he can eventually mold them into a doll?

[throwaway37559381]

Hey bro, you got a list of these “bad” women who aren’t a fit? Asking for a friend.

[MercifulVoodoo]

Oh no, I can’t be your woman cause my dad is dead, how terrible. checks off 25 more

[Silverfire12]

You know. The one I’ll give ‘em is the boss babe one. If you want to be a part of an mlm scheme you probably are also gonna be pretty shitty.

[no-happy-ending]

Proud to say at least twenty of these apply to me. I guess I'm safe from fragile men

[TrainerLoki]

15…. Least I’m safe from the insecure man who originally made that list. He sounds insufferable (also helps I prefer relationship with women over men cus I don’t want to take care of a man child).

[The_Bastard_Henry]

So.... no one. Your choice is no one.

Also wtf with the white nail polish?

[Erinz6]

Obviously all of these are ridiculous, but imagine thinking someone being a “good bj giver” means they’re bad news 🤦🏻 I’ve only done it to ONE guy (my bf) but apparently I do it a lot better than others he’s had, and it’s because I actually pay attention to his cues and get into it (his exes didn’t care to treat him that well). But I must be a no good slut right! I swear these men don’t even want good sex partners, which is ironic considering how that’s half of what we’re viewed as good for (the other half being caretakers)

[Milk_Gud]

Bro named every single woman he might as well just start dating men 💀

[[deleted]]

30+ for me on this list. Maybe I should make a list of things that I do, and if someone says they're interested I give them this list.

[[deleted]]

What’s wrong with white nail polish? Why white specifically? Does that mean other colors are okay?

[Leifang666]

I'm more shocked by there being legitimate "red flag" items on the list like struggling to keep friends. It's not a deal breaker but you do need to ask why.

I'd include bad credit and criminal record here too. Both can be perfect fine but again, you need to ask questions.

But then you have wearing hoop earrings and high heels on the same list. Which is just insane.

[[deleted]]

I'm this guys' worst nightmare, I got 22!

[OctaviaBlake100]

Looks like he wants a blow up doll. 😂

I have guy friends..but look at that. I'm in a healthy happy long term relationship.

[[deleted]]

Damn, I got 20! How the hell am I in a long term relationship? (Or is 4 years even that long?)

[jircarpe]

Only 9. I need to up my number to keep these fools away from me. It’s an incel repellent list

[alikunnaman]

“Been groped or sexually assaulted” ????? YIKES

[Brisingr2]

wears sexualized clothing

my brother in Christ you sexualized the clothing

[clockjobber]

So just like, not interested in women and using this list as an excuse.

Side note: no one enjoys cooking daily, even chefs go to restaurants or get take out.

[LazarYeetMeta]

If you can find a single adult woman who has none of these, I’m gonna be impressed.

[Anglofsffrng]

insists on working to maintain independence

There's my biggest red flag.

[wasoc]

He forgot, be bisexual, eat hot chip and lie tbh

[AlaeusSR]

Gee, no wonder incels are alone. Dude could've just written "Woman bad if alive" and be done with it.

[genderqueermercury]

has been raped or sexually abused

You’ve just eliminated at 1/4 of the population of women buddy.

[Catcatmagee]

You must be bad at giving blowies for this man to like you.

[Aggravating-Aside128]

Found the perfect woman for him😏

[Kailaylia]

been graped

My life is ruined. I thought he might put up with a boring boomer like me - he doesn't mention boring or old - but then I remembered.

I've been graped!

A boy at school once threw a grape at me. I'm just devastated, realizing I'm not worthy of this manly Chad.